New Moon in Cancer - July 14, 2007
Family is where our lives begin, and many of us derive joy from starting our own. Yet families are also severely screwed-up. I just finished watching the last season of Alias on DVD. This show, starring Jennifer Garner as Sydney Bristow, was about a CIA operative whose parents were also spies. However, her mother was a "bad guy," and Sydney was constantly deceived (or had information hidden from her) by both her parents. The theme of this show is appropriate for this Cancer New Moon, because the Moon and Sun are exactly inconjunct (150-degree angle) Neptune in Aquarius. The misinformation and lies (Neptune) perpetrated along various networks (Aquarius) was intimately tied to Sydney Bristow's sense of family -- her very past (Cancer), in fact, as she was the progeny of a Russian spy who pretended she was someone else, to get close to Sydney's father, a CIA operative. (I know, it's complicated!)What forms of deception were part of your family? Many of us grew up with a gut sense -- way below conscious awareness -- that our parents were hiding something from us. Family secrets -- a gay uncle, an alcoholic father, a sexually abused step-sister, a pedophilic great-grandfather, take your pick! -- were hidden supposedly to "protect" us, but the withdrawal of this vital information ("intelligence") left us feeling incomplete, that there was something missing, if we could only identify what that was. Once we learn about our family's past, the missing pieces come together, and we finally understand why we felt off-center.
Even though the secret was about something that didn't directly impact you, it affected you anyway. You are a part of your family, and a family is an organism, a unit by itself, of which you are a part. You cannot separate yourself from what your great-grandfather did to your grand-aunt, because these patterns are inherited. Mistakes are often passed along the generations, and it takes both consciousness and will to not repeat the "sins of the fathers." Thus, it is imperative that the veils of our family's past are pulled aside, so that, with awareness, we can choose to stop the dysfunction.
The Fine Print: This New Moon occurs at 21 degrees Cancer. This lunation will mostly impact those natives with personal planets or angles around 21 degrees of the cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn).
posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 7/10/2007
13 Comments:
All of my siblings were raised in different homes, my old sis and I in one for several years. I do not regret it because I had a better life than most, being raised in an upscale family with all the glory. My biological Mom refused to allow me to feel sorry for myself because I had it better than the rest. Still I longed to be with my dysfunctional family....except when I was with them I was repulsed, and couldn't wait to be back things were "normal". Most of my life was a tug of war with love and everything I desired. I still desire the closeness of what remains of my biological family but just recently I realized I doubt this will never happen:(
"You can't always get what you want but you get what you need". Rolling Stones
P.S. Merc is direct and I NOW get computer problems, jeesh!!
My parents were both drug addicts and were never together in a relationship, I was an accident between two people who didnt even really know eachother. My mother was 27 and my father was seventeen. It was intense because my mom was very agressive, scary, yet still loving...I was very attached to her. My father was very sweet and funny but totally messed up. I knew they were both addicts although they always lied about it. I used to snoop around and tune my entire body into what they were doing to find proof and try and convince myself that i wasnt crazy or imagining things.(this is what they would tell me when I would gather the courage to confront them) My entire childhood was spent alternatly being totally attached to and in love with my parents (i was sent away alot)missing them, yet always being in a state of total distrust and hyper vigilance. I was always feeling as though I had to try and keep them from betraying me. Whats interesting is that I have developed similar dynamics in my relationships. At first I thought it was something I was attracting, and now I am realizing its something I am imagining that is not even there. This dynamic is not valid any more...although I have created enough problems through it's fantasy to keep me busy for a while.
My father is dead, and my mom is recovered, and we get along splendidly on the phone, but we cant stand eachother in person...I completely shut down and get very critical, i always feel like I have to protect myself from her, even though logically I know that I dont.
Families are so complicated. I feel so connected to yet repulsed by mine.
BTW. Noviles, septiles, octiles, undeciles...? what do you look for to find these aspects in a chart?
You know what Flasina, we may not have had a "normal" family but we made it...stronger and able to survive in the crazy world as it is today. And what a hefty dose of understanding and compassion we have for others!
Flashina, I only pay attention to aspects that are divisible by 30 or 45. I'm simple that way.
Jeffrey, I thought Flashina was joking!! Are we going in the vibe we're supposed to be for this new moon in Cancer? I'm just happy with my life with the exceptions of a few immature men who just can't accept that I'm not interested in them. Whats strange is I don't even know who they are! I suppose I used to chat with them years ago on the net, but never met them. Its possible that it finally dawned on them that I prefer to be single than be in a relationship that doesn't work for me, now they want to hurt me thru my son. I wish you could tell me when Saturn finalyl gets off my tail and this time of my life is a bitter memory. I'm really burnt out from it all:(
All I really want to do is to figure out how to post my chart here.
Incognito, I'm not sure what the joke was (?)
I've posted your chart in the gallery. Saturn's left your Pluto in Leo, if that's what you're asking.
Hmmm Jeffery so this will affect a Libra (myself) who is starting to care about a very quiet brooding Scorpio/Saggy Male. Nov 20th! Help!! He confuses me, one minute Im his friend, next he looks at me like he wants to devoure me up.
I'm a Cancerian so I'm all about family, however, I am very careful to pay attention to the idea of "WOUNDOLOGY" as discussed in all Carolyn Myss's works.. she is a great spiritual teacher.
Do we wish to introduce ourselves and/or be defined by that old stuff? Or, our weakest points?Do you really want to be the poster child of your family's weakest parts??
It is so important to get OFF our family crap and get ON WITH our lives in the present.Yes, some looking at the past is probably important, where we come from and all that.. but I have problems with people who STILL at age 63, or other ages, refer to themselves as "victims of child abuse." or, "I am a migraine sufferer." Or, "I am the CHILD of an alcoholic parent." No, you are a grown up, in the year 2007!!
Yikes. What a world view!
How we choose to live, to use our 60 or 70 or 90 some years on this planet.. it's all in our own hands/spirits (IMHO!) and not at the mercy of some familial discord.. we ALL had quirky families, as you mention.
So what?
Have you gone on, and CREATED YOUR OWN HAPPY FAMILY.. whether it be 2 or 3 or 6 of you?? Furry children ,Chinese adopted children, no children, or other various human ones. Gay or straight or somewhere in between.YOU get to choose.
Honor your ancestors and then, get on with it.Must be my MOON IN CAPRICORN tonight speaking with this New moon opposition!
Madeline, I totally agree with you. But you can't move on until you've identified what's holding you back.
True Jeffrey! What I discovered about myself is that I need to be out I the world. I my mind rambles & I get looney when I stay home too much. Sometimes it takes us into adulthood before we figure ourselves out and realize whats good and bad for us.
P.S. Let me clarify one thing;
I happened to have a had a great childhood despite the fact it didn't include my biological family. I could write a book!!
July 14th I went to a family reunion with my Leo husband. We were happy, (or so I thought) and lookin forward to moving into our new home in September. Strange phone numbers kept appearing on his new cell phone. I wrote them all down and confronted him. He said they were wrong numbers. I found out he has a girlfriend, the affair has been going on all year. I had NO idea.
An old friend has a stellium in Leo. She could win an academy award for acting like a classy lady. In reality she's seen more dick than Fruit of the Loom!
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