Taurus acts like he’s interested, then disappears
November 28, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
The Taurus man is like a wild animal that smells an intriguing scent or hears an unfamiliar sound. He cautiously steps to the perimeter of his safety zone to see what’s going on. If there is the possibility of free food, he may even enter new territory. But any perceived threat will send him scurrying off back into the safety of the woods.
As much as Taurus seeks pleasure, he also values security. It’s like one of those childhood games: If you leave your pile of wealth unattended to garner more goods, you risk losing all that you’ve attained. This fixed earth sign is more likely to sit on his treasure than to venture out without some security in place to protect his stash.
And when it comes to relationships, he’s no different. If a man or woman appeals to him, Taurus will put out his feelers, and if he anticipates a threat to his comfort level, he’ll just go back to his cozy spot. So if he disappears on you after expressing interest, he’s not playing mind games with you … he’s just feeling hesitant. He’s worked too hard at building his nest to throw it all away on someone who gives off a funny smell.
If you want to retain the interest of a Taurus man who’s retreated back into the woods, find a way to reassure him that you’re not a predator. To prove that you’re not looking to take anything away from him, the easiest thing you can do is give. Place an offering at the edge of the woods, and let him tentatively come to it, and make sure it’s not poisonous. If he eats it, he’ll come back for seconds.
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Good food, that’s the ticket for Taurus! Prepare a nice meal, offer a neck massage and be prepared to be patient. But Taurus usually responds well to the idea someone went to the trouble to prepare their favorite dishes with love just for them.
Yes, he disappeared. No mind games at all, but he’s married and isn’t about to risk his security for some tasty delight, no matter how enticing the vanilla scent . . . he did pause to take a whiff or two (or three). . .
The better for both of us
If he’s married, then it is for the best. Not to be a terd here, but if you lack respect for the sanctity of marriage (namely someone else’s) then karma may throw that back at you someday when it’s YOUR marriage and some tasty, vanilla scented, delight stumbles onto your man.
And you’re absolutely right about him risking his security. He WON’T. Even if he’s unhappily married. I was with to a Taurian male (and I’m a Taurian female) for 13 years, married 8 of them. He cheated from the 3rd year of the marriage - but never left. When I spoke the “D” word, he wasn’t hearing it. Just stuck around like nothing was wrong. Getting him to leave was like trying to move Mt. Rushmore. He was more than satisfied to continue the marriage, playing the field. I wasn’t and now he’s gone.
You hook up with one like that - and that may be YOU several years from now. . . .
I met a Taurus and he is not married but lives with someone, they fight all the time, Im friends with his sister and I live next door to them..he is very unhappy, too unhappy, we clicked since day one and he tells me to walk with him,He says he doesn’t want me just for sex, he says tha can wait. he says not to rush, we have had no sex, he says he will leave her before the yr is over, we are in December 1st and he told me last night that he will do it soon since he cannot take it anymore…I know how Taurus are, they take their sweet time…I don’t know what to think..I don’t know what he is thinking..where do I stand on all this…I went to him this weekend and asked him..he said I wanted to know too much..so I said I think we should end it..and he said no..he said wait, he said that he cannot tell me everything he has in his mind because he is just observing,,I know he likes me very much..But Im so confused..Should I just stand back and let happen whatever will or should I insist and come out and ask?
By the way im a Gemenii..can you imagine he is asking for patience? LOL I have none…WHAT DO I DO???????????
Ah, taurus.
Gemini, I think you should wait to see what happens. He’s taking his sweet time for a reason. But then again, that is from my taurus heart, so I don’t know.
I hate it when I disappear too as a taurus female, but I dislike it more when the other person become confused. Then, they become impatient, wondering, “What is this idleness, where are you?” and I’d have to chase them back to give them security that I am still here. BY then, my security is kind of in a frenzy.
Can’t everyone just wait for me? When I’m ready, no one will be disappointed.
heaven66, you’d do best to sit and wait this one out. Being a Taurian, this may take months. If he’s secure in his environment with her (regardless of whether he’s happy or not) he may remain. To Taurians, security is king. Especially with a Taurian male. My experiece with them has been just that and I’m a Taurian female. He’ll work plan B (that’s you at this point) while remaining secure with plan A. To understand this further, please click on my name above - Mirror of Aphrodite. Visit my site and please read the posts: Passive Taurian Male Bull and Experiences With A Taurian Male. Hope it helps!
I met a male Taurus at work a few months back. We talked a lot until one day he suddenly pulls back, saying he doesn’t want a relationship yet. We still make heavy eye contact but haven’t started talking again other than casual greetings. I’m afraid to push him, knowing the Taurean slowness to make up their minds and need to think things through. Is he still interested or does he just enjoy undressing me with his eyes? What should I do?
Wait. Then wait some more. And keep dressing and smelling like dessert. Let the man make the moves and since Venus rules Taurus, use your Venus (soft, feminine, lovely, graceful) energy to attract him. Aggression on your part is to be avoided.
Thanks for the comments, Victoria. I had used my Venus and it seemed to have kept him enthralled, though still not quite sure. There is now another twist to the story. He will be gone for the better part of a year to another state and left without saying much. He seemed conflicted about it around me but also excited about the experience (money was also a big factor). I am confused by this silence and lack of communication. I’m wondering if he’ll stay in touch… does he think he has control over me because I revealed that I like him?
Yes. But that’s not a bad thing necessarily. He’s put you on the back burner but you’re still in his kitchen. Which makes you a handy ingredient for his next recipe when he’s in your town, or . . . you could be cooking one up of your own. With another fellow who is more available, generous and receptive to your love. My advice? Keep him on the back burner.
I like the way you think. I wonder how it will affect his sense of control and security if I pull back (I have been texting him occasionally up until now even after he stopped communicating)and do not contact HIM. In my experience, men respond better to no contact than they do to words. Perhaps this will rattle his cage a bit? Sounds to me like Taurus men don’t like to lose things (or people) they think they have a hold of…
“men respond better to no contact than they do to words”
Oh yes. And they respond even better to contact. As in the physical touch of a woman, her caress, with not a word spoken.
Next time he’s in town and wants to get together– smell good, look good, meet him where he wants to meet and touch him, with no words spoken. Just sit next to him (not across from him) in the cafe booth, and touch him. You could try feeding him a spoonful of dessert or a sip of your wine. Whisper in his ear, makes sure your lips brush against his cheek, your leg brushes against his . . .
This works magic with Taurus, who lives in the realm of the five senses.
(it’s best not to talk or text or email a Taurus frequently unless he’s got a lot of Gemini going on elsewhere in the chart)
Physical contact… unfortunately only a distant possibility for the time being.
It is wait and see for now. Perhaps absence really does make the heart grow fonder…
Glad I intuitively paced myself with the texting and gave him plenty of space. No pressure. He has his 4 major planets all in Taurus, Venus in Cancer. No Gemini.
I am confused! I met a taurian man recently and spent 10 lovely days with him, we dont live near each other but we both want to be together and so far we have planned to see each other on a regular basis. During this time, he confessed his undying love for me, and I feel the same and now that I am home he calls me everyday telling me how much he misses me and that he wants us to get married and have children. He has gone from saying in the near future to saying he wants to get married this summer as he doesnt want us to be apart. The only problem is that he is a VERY good looking man with a string of past flings with girls and he has been know to consider himself a playboy! but when I was with him I saw the family orientated, quiet, moody side of him that just wanted to stay home with me and cook, eat, snuggle. Infact he didnt really want to be apart from me at all. So he doesnt seem to be holding back as you state he would. Is this right are Taurian men like this when they are in love or is he acting out of sorts! P.S I am a libra women who is a couple of years older than him could this be that I offer him that security you are talking about?? any advice would be grateful!
Need advice. I was dating a Taurus guy for three months. Our getting together was fairly consistent and felt secure. Then over the course of a few days I contacted him too much as I was worried about him after ending a conversation abruptly while traveling on ice. I didn’t hear back from him for several days and knew he was interviewing for a position out of state. When he finally returned my call, he said he wanted to break up. He said if this last week was any prediction of how the future would be then it was best that we break now as opposed to six months in the future.
I felt that he really liked me and I really liked him. Then over the course of a few days i pushed him away. He also mentioned that he wasn’t ready to get married in the next two years and there is a good possibility that he may relocate out of state for a new position.
It’s been two weeks and I haven’t had any contact with him. Do I continue to not make any contact and see if he comes around?
BTW i’m a Leo.
I’ve joined the forum but now how do i post directly on the forum?
@tauruslover, click on the Forum tab and then “start a new discussion.”
i’m in a situation with a taurus not a bad one (so i think). you see we met during a play we were both in and at the time i was dating someone else but when i met taurus he caught my attention more than the scorpio i was dating. by the end of the last weekend of the play taurus and i began to hang out as friends like go joy riding and go out to starbucks walk around the docks near the river. i left scorpio bcuz i didn’t want to be in a 2 guy situation. anyways one night we got to the point of kissing. he kissed me bcuz i bit his ear and kissed his neck just to flirt( i’m a libra). then the other time after that we hung out again and we had sex.(yea yeah i know) and i told him i liked him and he said he does like me but not like that. but what i dont get is why when we kiss or hug or anything he gives me this stare and this smile that says something but i dont know what it is and when he kisses me i feel something he holds me tightly on his lips until he wants to let go. i dont know if he does like me and just dosent want to tell me. uuug help!!!!!
i’m in a situation with a taurus not a bad one (so i think). you see we met during a play we were both in and at the time i was dating someone else but when i met taurus he caught my attention more than the scorpio i was dating. by the end of the last weekend of the play taurus and i began to hang out as friends like go joy riding and go out to starbucks walk around the docks near the river. i left scorpio bcuz i didn’t want to be in a 2 guy situation. anyways one night we got to the point of kissing. he kissed me bcuz i bit his ear and kissed his neck just to flirt( i’m a libra). then the other time after that we hung out again and we had sex.(yea yeah i know) and i told him i liked him and he said he does like me but not like that. but what i dont get is why when we kiss or hug or anything he gives me this stare and this smile that says something but i dont know what it is and when he kisses me i feel something he holds me tightly on his lips until he wants to let go. i dont know if he does like me and just dosent want to tell me. uuug help!!!!!
@Anonymous, tauruslover, and libraeyes88
If he looks too good to be true, he may be. My advice to you is to be very careful with Taurus men in the early stages (i.e. before you get emotionally involved). They are extremely fickle about their perceptions of security, stability, and comfort. So even though he may “like” you and sleep with you, if he doesn’t feel he can hang on to you forever or he isn’t sure about what he wants, you may be in store for a nice emotional roller coaster ride.
Proceed with caution if you already have doubts, Ladies…
in response to “mirror of aphrodite”…
“And you’re absolutely right about him risking his security. He WON’T. Even if he’s unhappily married. I was with to a Taurian male (and I’m a Taurian female) for 13 years, married 8 of them. He cheated from the 3rd year of the marriage - but never left. When I spoke the “D” word, he wasn’t hearing it. Just stuck around like nothing was wrong. Getting him to leave was like trying to move Mt. Rushmore. He was more than satisfied to continue the marriage, playing the field. I wasn’t and now he’s gone. “
i can’t get over how this sounds exactly like what happened to me, only mine is a much smaller scale. my relationship with a taurus male lasted only 3 months before he cheated, and the day after i broke up with him he called me as if nothing ever happened! this went on for months afterward, making it impossible for me to get over him, yet i pushed him away as best i could.
anyway, that was annoying, but really tough. i guess i should have known this would happen with a Taurus!!
PLEASE HELP.
I had a Taurus man. And I somehow have managed to lose him.
He believes I cheated on him(which I didn’t). And I have been trying and trying to win him back but nothing seems to work. WHAT DO I DO???
I am an aquarian woman with a broken heart.:(
Help, I am in love with a Taurus male and I am a Scorpio female. I have known him for several years, as we used to do business together. When I met him I was married on my way to divorce. Over the years he has always kept in contact with my sporadically calling me out of the blue to find out how I am and what’s going on. I have been divorced for a few years now and when he called me one day I suggested that we meet for a drink (no strings attached - we just always have great convo and lots in common). After meeting him for that drink I realized how charming he was and we started talking on a more frequent basis (for hours on end at least 2-3 times per week) he works crazy hours (owns his own business) but we enjoy talking and have lots of laughs. Ok I am IN LOVE WITH THIS MAN and I have to have him. I recently started professing my love to him, he thinks I am dillusional and doesn’t really believe me (I think - he may be playing and has the need to feel desired) but he keeps referencing my ex-husband who I am SO over. We had sex once (unexpectedly) a few months ago and he kind of lost his mind right after “he started saying that I made him weak, etc” — so I figured ok won’t be getting that good stuff again any time soon) once he even said “you made me feel like a 17 year old high school boy that night” (but I’m a scorpio we can’t help it) however after a week after that incident I was able to baby walk him back to our regular state (he seemed so scared after we had that initial incident) so things are back to normal now but I have to have him and yeah I know they have to slowly think everything out… but does ANYONE have any ideas on what I need to do in order to get this man because I KNOW he likes me. He’s a man who works from 9am until midnight most days so if he didn’t like I am sure he wouldn’t waste his time always talking to me. I am a great cook, etc. I can even cook entrees from his native country (as we are both from the same country) but I got to get the man over my house again in order to feed him. His b-day is coming up do I send him something or is that too aggressive - what do I need to do? Any and all advice is welcomed!!
@Scorpio Beauty, this Taurus sounds like he doesn’t like to be vulnerable. He’s scared of losing control with you. How could you plant something in his head to make him want to take the lead?
I am trying to figure out the same thing. I told him that I was going to continue professing my love for him until he believed it, embraces it and surrenders! His reply “girl you’re priceless, what am I going to do with you?” But I know he loves it and is totally flattered. LOL I think he thinks he was going to take the lead the night we had our “incident” but aggressive Scorp always wins in the love making dept - Now he’s probably shaking in his boots (we always joke about that night - I tell him I figured if I touched you again you’d jump out the window!!)
What should I do, I can’t wait forever but I really like him and I know he’s the one? I want to make him a home cooked meal but getting him over my house is going to take a lot. I was thinking of maybe cooking for his b-day but having it delivered to his job (or is that just too much, and would I seem too aggressive??)
@scorpio beauty, I was actually thinking of that, but held back for some reason. If you bring him food to his workplace, especially at a time when it’s not near the very end of his workday, it could be experienced as “safe” because he would have to choose to split early to rip your clothes off.
Well good because I know if he tastes my food it’s a done deal! At this point I am running out of options and you know how Scorps have no patience. GEESH this man is like a rock!!
omg! i can relate to heaven66,exactly what happened to me n my taurus guy. he said he wants us to be slow n steady, he said it’s not that he don’t want me, but i need to understand that he has issues he needs to take care of..But I’m a Gemini, i also want this to work so much! thanx for such an insightful article, it helps me a lot in understanding my taurus guy better!
As a taurean woman I have to laugh at this… Becuase I have done it to many! I have dated but I can read guys pretty well of all astrological signs, and thats what impression they take you for either a girlfriend or a get it on friend, this lets get it on types I play games with.. I say okay, you dont want to take me seriously as a woman and you want to show me your goods and get to the point without wanting to get to know me first, okay lets have it, I let them have a round.. but never again, I never call back I never try to get in touch thereafter and thats when I see their calls begin to persist and text messaging, but I never ever respond, they obviously liked what I gave them a taste of but I am more about whether you want a 401K plan or just a bonus check and I cannot take any man serious again after doing away with him on such a note… But the first guy to be respectful and patient gets all of my loyalty and attention. Trick is not to play me like a damn fool, I can smell bullshit from miles away!
Help me out. I dated a Taurus man (April 20) for two months - everything was great. He pursued me for a few weeks and I got comfortable. Some of the things he said to me is “now that I’ve caught you, I don’t know what to do with you” and “I don’t know what I want.” OK, so he’s not ready. So, why in the heck did he ask me out in the first place? We’d been ‘eyeballing’ each other for over a year and I thought the time was finally right. For three weeks, he called less and less. I finally saw him one more time - before we parted ways (we’d met for dinner), he asked to kiss me (wasn’t the passionate kiss like before, as if he was afraid I’d draw him in and he’d cave). That was two weeks ago. I sent him a birthday card inviting him to a sporting event before I realized he wasn’t going to call again. I’ve called one time in two weeks, left a brief message in a very chipper voice - “Just wondered if you got my card, wondered if you’d picked a date to see the game so I can order tickets…” Still no phone call. Is there a chance he’ll come back? I am pretty sure he was falling for me so I’m confused and heartbroken by his inaction. From the advice I’ve read, I won’t be calling him again but I honestly thought he was the One. How long of a wait is too long? By the way, I’m a Sag.
I understand what you mean Kochic. I am a Gemini Male dating a Taurus Female for 3 months now. And in reading your post I noticed things you mentioned about taurean women is completely accurate. Being a Gemini it is a tough road slowing down and taking slow and steady to comfort her. I have been reading up on taurean women and have learned some things but as a taurean woman what other advice can you pass on to a Gemini man who is really trying to keep his taurean woman.
I am currently in a relationship with a Taurus man. We live in two separate cities about an hour away from each other. We have been together for more than a year. He has a good job where he is at. He works ridiculous amount of hours to pay for his student’s loans, and I see him about every 1-2 weeks. My concern is that during the 1-2 weeks, he’s off to his own world like if I didn’t exist. And then out of the blue he will give me a call and drop by to visit. We always have a good time when we are together, However, I find it hard to believe that he cannot pick up the phone or e-mail a little “missing you babe message”. Wouldn’t an interested man call his gf once in a while to see what she is up to? I am hoping that he will eventually decide to move here with me as we use to both live in his city. But how long does a girl wait for this kind of change from a Taurus? Where do I draw the line ?
Im in a relationship with a taurus male with a cancer moon and leo rising. Im a libra female with a scorpio moon and saggitarius rising, and we’ve been together for 14 months now. We have very compatible moons so emotionally we click extremely well. Its very hard to move earth! I learned that eventually. Its all about how you play the game. If he’s interested in you, you’re already on the winning side. He’s obviously very fixed, and when he makes up his mind about you (after checking things out thouroughly) then he’s going to pursue you till the ends of the earth. Because when he has a goal, he’ll work very hard to obtain it. I didnt know much about astrology when I met my guy. It happened very fast and when I first knew him, I was together with someone else. I was extremely unhappy in my relationship, but kept trying to make it work. I never really trusted that guy. But then the taurus came along and was extremely shy but tried so hard. I didnt realize I was in love with him until a long time later, and when I saw a certain gemini was closing in on him, I called him (for the first time) and told him to meet me. Then I told him very bluntly my feelings and everything, and expressed my emotions freely. Two weeks later we were living together.
I guess it all depends on the situation. He’ll want to know how stable you are. Playing games just pushes him to other more available people. Security is the key. Dont play too hard to get with this one because it will bewilder him. Mine didnt really use much tactic with me, but he definitely would come and go at strange times, to ’sniff’ me out. The best part of them is that when they feel secure with you, and decide to be faithful, they are.
Okay, so I have had my eye on a Taurus male for quite some time. He is very nosey when we speak. As if he is trying to figure me out. It seems like he wants to ask me out although he never gets around to it. The questioning of my life and what not has gotten pretty serious with him. I have had thoughts on asking him out but I am not sure what this man will say or if he will recoil. Do I stand a chance? I am a Capricorn woman with a Gemini moon. I am definitely a lady but I CAN hang with the guys as well. Somebody for the love of God help me out with this one.
Do Taurus men like loud, aggressive women, or quieter, shy ones?
I’m a Pisces female gemini rising (a quiet shy type) smitten with a Taurus man. I think we vibe well. We arent dating but I casually slipped into conversation that last year I had temporarily developed a little crush on him. He was quiet friendly about it and we still talk. I was so fearful he would shut down and avoid me. And I think he knows better..(that my crush didn’t stop - haha). But there’s also another Pisces female with a leo rising vying for his affections to. And staking her claim to him. she doesn’t know Im interested him - but her loud displays of wanting to be center stage around him, just rattle me. Even though her approach isn’t apparentlty working. LOL. I’m quieter and approach interest with subtlety, and sweet playfulness.
3 people who know us both have told me I am a better fit for him than she is. But I wonder - who do Taurus respond to better? The aggressive loud woman, or the quiet, sweet one?
I am an Aquarius woman(Aquarius rising/Libra moon/Capricorn venus/Taurus mars) and about some time in May reconnected with a
Taurus man from H.S school days thanks to Facebook. We began writing each other everyday, our emails were long, deep and we both confessed we had a thing for each other and he admitted that now we were writing again, those fond feelings he had are actually still there. by June he was visiting family in new york where i live and we spent the day together with his son (he’s a divorced dad - I’m married to a Sag guy) my taurus friend was a true gentleman and respected that I was married so we didn’t flirt or nothing more than a hello/goodbye hug - but now i’m completly confused now that its July. we kept in touch by phone and email until recently i feel he’s completed dug his heels in and has not written to me or phoned me and i’m stunned that he’s not returned my emails/calls. finally i got a brief email and he sounded completed depressed with his life (he admits to having bouts of depression) but twice in the email started out with “Please don’t think that I am ignoring you or that my recent lack of correspondence has anything to do with how I think or feel about you” and closed with “But please don’t fret. Please don’t be concerned. Please don’t worry that I have forgotten you. I haven’t. I couldn’t”
what can i do? even tho’ we admitted being fond of each other I thought we were insync that a friendship was important to the both of us and him tell me so many times that our paths crossed again for a good reason, a reason he was (then) all too happy to embrace, now I’ve got the cold shoulder and can’t understand what I may have said or did that sent him to shut down. should i try calling him again? i adore him he’s always been a postive influence in my life even tho’ we haven’t spoken since h.s. but now that we’ve reconnected, is he pulling away from me because he taken with me or afraid to be? he’s now wrote on his facebook header “i’m so very confused” -he’s not the only one now!
MadPoe
I met a Taurus through a dating site. We spoke a few times on the phone and chatted quite a lot through messaging and text. We went out a total of three times. On the third date, we hooked up. When the deed was done, there was no cuddling and no exchange of kisses. He was almost cold. The next day I asked if would want to get something eat and responded with he was busy. To make a short story even shorter, he said he thought things were moving too quickly ( which they weren’t) and quickly disappeared on me. Is it normal for a Taurus to show a good amount of interest and then none at all?
Hi, Im an aries Woman Who is in love with a taurus male, or extreme like. i have knowen this guy for 4 years long distance, I live in Atlanta, ga and he lives chicago, where does the agony stop. He has a g/f there that he has been with about the same time as he has known me. she doesnt want him to talk to me, so a month ago he called me saying ” Didnt I tell you not to call me?” but he nver told me not to call him, so i said ” what do you mean” and he hangs up. Then a few days later i call him and leave a voice mail saying that “obviously ur g/f was around cause u never told me not to call u.” Then that same day he calls me and doesnt say anything, as I say hello. Then hangs up. im not sure if his g/f is monitering his calls but I havent heard from him in a month, and I have text and called and threatened him. I even pleaded that he atleast say good bye and I wont ever bother him again. But he hasnt called. I don’t even know if he is still alive. What should I do? y the way we hung out in florida throught out the years, we met up at our meeting place atlanta grey hound station.and we have never had sex, just kissed. Im so confused and hurt. Help me please
@anon, I know you’re hurt and confused, but it sounds best to just let him go, not to wait for him to say goodbye. He has a g/f!
I can understand. And its so disheartening to hear that Taurus’ does these things so often,it doesnt leave me with much hope.So here’s my deal. I’m a Cancer woman, my Taurus man caught me by surprise, he was riding by in his car and noticed me sitting on my porch and decided to approach me. He was very straight forward and asked me for my number and if he could take me out. I didnt agree because I had just met him but did give him my number because he was attractive and such a gentlemen. I never used the number he gave me, and he never used mine, instead about 2 weeks later I came outside to see him sitting in his car outside my home waiting to catch me. We went to dinner that evening and he asked me to be his girlfriend, I said I wanted to take things slowly and see where they go from there. He was fine with that. After that day another 3 weeks or so goes by without a word being spoken between us, then one day I come out of my house I find a note on my car telling me to call him. I didnt because I didnt have the time. So maybe a week later he shows up outside my house again, we went to one of his friends birthday parties, he was very attentive, held my hand and kissed me several times throughout the night. Again he asked me to be his girlfriend, he said he wanted to take care of me and be the best man I ever had. He also asked for me to spend the night with him, I declined his offer, he still seemed okay with that. At the end of the night we parted ways and kissed again. Later that week, I calledhim and proposed we spend an entire day together and he happily agreed. The night before our get together I called him several times to confirm our date, finally he called back and said he was have problems with his car but should be rectified by the time of our said date. He said he would call me the following morning with an exact time. Needless to say, sense Im writing this blog, that that call never came, I call numerous times ( not back to back) with no answer. Then I called from a different number, he still did not answer but little while later he return the call to the unknown number. H e told me the car had not been fixed and would take an additional three days or so but that he would call me a little later before he went to bed. It has been five days with no calls, no contact whatsoever. I dont understand what could have happened in so little time. I want to call him and demand that he gives me an explanation, however I want to give him time to come back on his own since that incident is completely forgivable, I dont want to un him off for good. Am I foolish to believe he will? What could have happened with him? What can I do to speed the process up? I am in an emotional limbo!!! Someone please give me so advice?
-Sad and Confused
I am a taurus women true to my sign… But I am a little confused about my taurus man!!
I have met him about 10years agao, we had dated for about 1 year, but i left him alone and hear t broken, we both moved on, I moved out of state, he had a child stayed with the young lady for sometime and eventually left her.
I moved back to the home town and ran into him one day, we exchanged phone numbers and eventually went out on a date, 30 days later. he treated me likea Queen. our birthdays were coming up and we made arrangments to spend it together, but something came up.
we continued to see each other, but i started asking him, in which direction is the relationship going in, he told me that he wasnt ready for a commitment and of course it turned him off. he than started giving me a hard time, no calls, no text messages, nothing..
we finally hooked up and explored each other, I opened him up to doing a lot o f different things sexually. he is 10yr older than me, so he started being excited every time i would go over, but than i started feeling like I was being used. so we made a mutual decision to not have sex anymore. but we did not discuss were we were going, if we are to still be friends or to leave it alone.
I am confused by this guy, he gives a lot of mixed messages, we have been dating for 4 months and am not sure how to take him.. should i just leave him alone or wait it out. I feel for him HARD!
HELP!!!!
I am a taurus women true to my sign… But I am a little confused about my taurus man!!
I have met him about 10years agao, we had dated for about 1 year, but i left him alone and hear t broken, we both moved on, I moved out of state, he had a child stayed with the young lady for sometime and eventually left her.
I moved back to the home town and ran into him one day, we exchanged phone numbers and eventually went out on a date, 30 days later. he treated me likea Queen. our birthdays were coming up and we made arrangments to spend it together, but something came up.
we continued to see each other, but i started asking him, in which direction is the relationship going in, he told me that he wasnt ready for a commitment and of course it turned him off. he than started giving me a hard time, no calls, no text messages, nothing..
we finally hooked up and explored each other, I opened him up to doing a lot o f different things sexually. he is 10yr older than me, so he started being excited every time i would go over, but than i started feeling like I was being used. so we made a mutual decision to not have sex anymore. but we did not discuss were we were going, if we are to still be friends or to leave it alone.
I am confused by this guy, he gives a lot of mixed messages, we have been dating for 4 months and am not sure how to take him.. should i just leave him alone or wait it out. I feel for him HARD!
HELP!!!!
I wrote in before about the guy that I met and spent 10 days with. After that it turned out that he was unfaithful to me with a one night stand and this broke me in bits. I have never really trusted many men but he was so lovely that I let my guard down so when this happened I was so shocked considering the speed at which our relationship was growing. Friends said that as a guy living far away from me they were not suprised that he did this as I wasnt there but I didnt think that this was a good enough excuse. Anyway we fought and fought and when I went back there, it didnt get much better all we did was argue and we didnt get anywhere I just felt so hurt but all he seemed to be worried about was the fact that we were fighting!! and I couldnt understand his problem. When I got back he started having really bad family problems which put a real strain on us as he is quiet anyway and really didnt want to talk. He did explain this to me but I couldnt let it go, as it made me feel like he was cheating on me again and try as I might I couldnt get that out of my head. So all we did was fight all the time until one day he lost it and finished with me. I was due to go back there 2 months later and when that time came we hadn’t spoken at all as he had told me never to call again, and when I did he ignored it. Then sadly his mother passed away, so I swallowed my pride and called him, we spoke a couple of times after this and he told me he loved me but then he went back to really off with me. I told myself that this was because of grief and I know, from friends that he was really going off of the rails over there.When I arrived there 2 months later he wouldnt talk to me, wouldnt even look in my direction and made it very clear he wasnt interested. But yet was always there, in the background following me about and going out of his way to make me look at him, dressing well dancing near my table (he works in bar) and putting my favorite songs on. I couldnt handle it and started talking to a nice guy who happened to be a friend of his, we spent some time together but it wasnt the same. And then I found out that he was telling everyone that I was his girlfiend and warning guys off of me but wouldnt back down and talk to me. I got so tired of this and finally one night I said to him, look if you dont want me then leave me alone. That night he came to see me we sat and talked, he seemed to be under the impression that we had never finished but that he was waiting to talk to me face to face. But I had been hurt by the period of time he had ignored me for and the fact that one minute he was in love with me and the next he seemed as if he had never known me!We spent the rest of our time together, and he explained that he still wanted to be with me but that he wanted it to go slowley this time and that he felt that we should start again from the begining and get to know each other better without the fighting. He even told my Mum one day that he still wanted to marry me and have kids with me but that he couldnt handle my jealousy and fighting. But on the last day he wouldnt talk to me at all and started a fight as I left blaming me for us not spending the whole time I was there together and saying that the time before when we were always fighting was all my fault. When I asked him if he wanted me to come back and see him, he said he didnt know and that he would let me know. I was so upset and felt as if I was back to the begining again. As I got into the taxi he said I love you and drove away, he hadnt said this to me for 2 months. Since then we have spoken everyday and we are not fighting as I promised I would try not too, this is his main problem with me as far as he says.
He is much more loving and affectionate with me and often tells me how much he loves me. We have talked more and he is starting to change back to how he was before with me, but we do have our bad days. The other day he got very drunk with his friends and was apologising to me I said dont be silly and he said when you come over we will get drunk and party together but yet he still hasnt mentioned when he wants me to come back. I dont know if I should just leave it and see if it happens naturally or whether I should take it as he doesnt want me to come back yet, he is so changeable at the moment that I feel as if my head is in a wirlwind, but I love him so much and would really like to give this a go. Does anyone out there have any advise as to how to take this step??
Hey….so much pain with this Taurus….met him at work, he acted as he was very interested since mid-July…eyeing me from every angle, sending flirty mails, lunches and afternoon walks, lots of loughs and exciting conversation, jealousy, tenderness and all…we match perfectly…evening chatting on the net…but never invited me anywhere yet, this drives me crazy…I have an impression that he only wanted to tick a box of victories…though he is single…I have made him understand clearly that I like him too, but apparently this is ALL he wanted….is this not weired ??
• We had twice a dinner at my place, nothing happened
• We have been hanging out a lot
• Lots of eye contact
• He listen to everything I say and also act upon
• He ask what I think about his personal stuff, such as cloths
• He tell me about his family
• While walking together he picked nice a flower for me
• I have given him a massage
• Have watch a movie together
• Have put my head on his shoulders
• He takes care of me
• Is friendly
• Didn’t mind to be close to him
We have been alone so many times but nothing has happened. Between I have also given him space by not contacting him for two or three days.
By the way he is my neighbour.
Then last time we went out with friends, we were dancing together but he didn’t want to get closer or be touched!! While walking back home together he starts singing some song and as usual I just listen. When got at our place we said good bye and went into our own apartment.
Have done everything to attract this guy; dinners, massage, looking good, smelling good, but is like that everything was for nothing.
Anyone who can tell me what he is trying to do and what should I do?
I don’t know where to post this question
I always have 2 call this Taurus guy but he never calls me. Is he interested in me? Should I keep pursuing?
When I ask him out we have fun but
I have been seeing this Taurus guy for almost two months… I have showered him with gifts and sweets and food and music. Its totally killing me to the point that I’m starting to lose interest. We had met once two years ago then only gone out for two weeks when we met again recently but the chemistry was there from the beginning and we hung out 2 days out of the 3 on Labor day weekend… Then just one text message which I initiated. And then another great all-day date last Saturday. He said he would call on Sunday and never did. I sent him one sweet text on monday and he responded saying thank you with a smiley face. Then nothing. I decided that wasn’t a good enough response and decided not to contact him at all. I was hoping we would see each other this weekend but no way in hell am I going to initiate contact again. I think its his turn really. But my friends are telling me I’m crazy and that it shouldn’t matter who calls who. On the other hand, I just don’t know if he’s even interested or if I’m being played. I mean then why was he lying in my arms in the park last week?? I know a few people just tend to be passive but then I’ve never dealt with such a non-reciprocal situation. Please the more of you that write in response the better I’ll be able to figure out what to do. Maybe its not worth it being so confused if someone doesn’t even care enough to send you a text to ask how your day/week was. But then maybe I’m just jumping the gun??
More than amazing when we get together…but zilch after I leave him. Seems like an extremely loyal person too. Gorgeous, level-headed, all that. On top of it, its rare that I connect with someone the way I have with him. But its been almost two months now and I don’t know what’s going on or where this is going. At times, we have gone by two weeks with me waiting for something from his side but it never comes and finally I just initiate contact. I once even kind of jokingly alluded to what I called the regular “disappearances” as well and whether I should take a hint and he said no he was just useless at picking up the phone and can never get around to texting on his tiny phone. This week it has been a week now from the last time I saw him and I’m still kind of refusing to send a text or call. It makes me miserable though but I don’t want to talk about it with him (keep maintaining that ’stiff upper lip’ which is what I had decided to do a long time ago), I feel for sure that might be relationship suicide right there, and the risk may be too great.
This girl has the same problem:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070917113840AAsLqdN
And so does this guy:
http://help.com/post/189058-i-always-have-to-call-my-girlfriend
At least I know mine’s a Taurus.