Paul provided birth times for both himself and his girlfriend (click chart to view, but ignore the houses as they may not be accurate) and writes,

We are both very much in love with each other after four years, but each of us, though committed to the other, sometimes worries that the other might be unfaithful. Neither of us believes that he/she will, yet each of us does sometimes worry and at these times our otherwise beautiful relationship suffers. Are there indications that either of us has anything to worry about in our respective charts? Somebody told us there is on both sides, because each of us has a Venus Uranus square.

A Venus-Uranus square does not force you to cheat on your partner. It does suggest that you need to take an unconventional approach to relationships, or that you need a fair amount of space in a partnership, as Uranus rules the need to disrupt the status quo and express one's uniqueness. Venus also rules art and money, so a Venus-Uranus square could just mean that you have unpredictable finances or that you create paintings that challenge the mainstream, for example.

Your Venus in consistent yet possessive Taurus, making a tight 90-degree angle (or square) to Uranus. However, a trine from reliable Saturn to your Venus adds a taste for commitment. Your girlfriend's Venus is in experimental Aquarius, which is more independent than your Venus placement -- but this may just mean that she really needs to spend time with friends. Her love planet is nine degrees away from an exact square to her Uranus, which I think is too large of an orb to take seriously. She may have a wounded sensuality due to her Venus' square to Chiron in Taurus. Her Mars in Pisces is opposed by Saturn, which may put the reigns on her sexual expression. Your girlfriend's Venus is in a tight opposition to your natal Uranus, suggesting a relationship that must accommodate freedom and change.

Any astrological aspect has many forms of expression. Although the signs and house placements/rulerships of the planets provide the details regarding how an aspect manifests in action, we all have the power to make conscious choices. As long as both of you (especially you, with the Taurus Venus) give each other room, you won't feel driven to sleep with someone else just to assert your individuality.

Related posts:

• When you don't identify with your Venus sign
• Does Uranus in the 7th house automatically mean infidelity?

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Ali provided a birth time (click chart to view) and wrote,

I am totally in love with a wonderful man who is a Virgo sun and Virgo moon and we both have Libra as our venus--i think that means something but I'm not entirely sure.

I haven't allowed myself to fall deeply in love with anyone for 15 years, ever since a very charming libra broke my heart into little pieces. After a very, very, very, very long and frusturating relationship with an aquarius i decided it was better to risk a broken heart then feel the emptieness of a relationship with no emotional connection. Which brings me to my question.

Six months ago I met and fell totally in love with a wonderful man. My only problem is that I have pangs of fear--fear of suffering a broken heart again, fear of abandonment, etc. This fear issue may be holding back our relationship from progressing to the next stage of commitment. Should I put my trust in him? Is it true that a Virgo man is a safe bet?

Your love planets (Venus and Mars) as well as your Moon are in relationship-oriented Libra, signifying a strong need to connect. However, this Libra stellium also contains Uranus and Pluto. These disruptive outer planets are in many ways beyond your control. Pluto's destructive power may have broken your heart (Venus), while Uranus' unpredictable need for independence may have resulted in your abandonment (Moon). Since these Libra planets are in the Western hemisphere (or right side) of your chart, you may be at the mercy of other people -- that is, you do not feel in control of your destiny.

In some respects, these fears are just something you have to live with. Given the influence of Uranus and Pluto, you are unlikely to have what one would call a "stable" love life, as their purpose is to shake up and knock down anything that gets in their way. At best, you can consciously explore the depths of intimacy (Pluto-Venus) and embrace your impulsive need for freedom (Moon-Uranus-Mars). You won't get over your fear until you accept and embrace your life-long transformational journey in the realm of partnership.

Virgo men are safe bets as far as men go, but your boyfriend's Sun sign means nothing until you are willing to look your terror in the eye.

Comment below to provide Ali feedback, or discuss Virgo-Scorpio compatibility in the forum.

Related post: Is Scorpio man cheating on Virgo woman?

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Kali provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

i am a female interested in a female sagittarius sun, gemini rising, and pisces moon. Things were going good and she suddenly changed and didn't want to be bothered with me anymore. are we compatible?

Your female interest is highly mutable, meaning that her Ascendant, Moon and Sun are all in signs known for being mental, disseminating, flexible. Mutable signs are not stubborn like fixed signs, nor or they ones to take initiative, like cardinal signs.

Uranus, the planet of sudden change and independence, just stationed in Pisces (apparently stopping its forward motion to move backwards in the sky) this past Saturday. Because Uranus is transiting through a mutable sign, it is making "hard aspects" to your girlfriend's Rising sign and Sun sign. Uranus is definitely conjunct your Pisces Sun, and is in the sign of her Moon.

You're going through a period of awakening and revolution throughout the year, with this outer planet challenging you to shake up whatever has been stuck in your solar self-expression. Your highly mutable friend may have Uranus transiting all three points -- her Ascendant, Sun and Moon. This could bring on such a level of instability and recklessness that predictability will not be her strong suit. All she may be thinking about is her need for independence.

It may not be about you -- you just happen to be around.

Her Pisces Moon conjunct your Pisces Sun makes for a good connection. The Gemini and Sag don't mix well with either your Cancer Ascendant and Moon, or your Pisces Sun.

I would advise you to just give her time and space, and see if she comes around after Uranus runs its course.

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Greg provided his birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

My fiance recently broke up with me. Will we get back together? She is a Leo.

Your natal Venus -- which signifies relationships -- is being squared (90 degree angle) by transiting Uranus, the planet that yearns for freedom and independence. The tension of the square aspect, along with the "sudden break" energy of Uranus, corresponds with the end of your engagement. Additionally, your progressed Moon -- one way to time events -- is currently square your natal Venus and opposite transiting Uranus.

Another more subtle indication that you are undergoing struggle: Transiting Saturn -- planet of delay and hardship -- is conjunct your progressed Sun in Leo. (This goes exact on June 14.)

Transiting Uranus has only passed over, or "hit," your natal Venus for the first of three times. Its first hit was in mid-May; it retrogrades over this point in early August, and then finally passes over Venus the last time in late February of next year. This means that the instability and need for change in your love life will not end until Spring.

Will you get back together? I don't know. However, you can use this time to make the following inquiry: What can you change in your relationship patterns? What rigidity needs to be shaken up?

Your Venus in Gemini wants variety and stimulation, yet it is squared by Saturn in Virgo, adding a need for stability and commitment. This complex is being challenged by transiting Uranus, and you have the opportunity to re-organize your values during this transit.

Uranus opposes your natal Saturn -- which rules your relationship, as Capricorn is on your Descendant -- in March 2009. Essentially, your difficulty expressing love, your fear of affection as symbolized by your Venus-Saturn contact, is being awakened over the next few years. Perhaps, with consciousness, you can loosen your defenses ... and you will be more attractive to women (or your Leo ex, in particular) as a prospect for marriage.

Jeffrey offers private consultations.

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Most relationship don't work out, and as much as we'd like to blame the other person, we can only change ourselves. The planets in our charts symbolize the variety of urges we have as human beings: to nurture, create, assert, defend, escape, and so on. Although the expression of any planet can be beneficial, our planets can also be alienating to other people.

Only the challenges of Jupiter through Pluto are listed below, because it is often the hard angles they make to the personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars) that bring out their dark sides.

Jupiter

As the big planet, Jupiter has a tendency to exaggerate. With challenging aspects, Jupiter can lead to arrogance, evangelism, going beyond what is necessary, overlooking the details, neglecting the fine print in favor of the big picture. Nobody wants to be lectured or proselytized to. And coming off as too big for one's britches is a turn-off.

Saturn

Fear, a sense of inferiority ... we all have our deficiencies, and that's OK. What counts is how we work with them. All too often, Saturn encourages us to build walls of defensiveness to cover over our feelings of not being enough. We become rigid, inflexible. Or we overcompensate to fix our flaws, only to become a workaholic. Discipline is a virtue, but when you deny your vulnerability, it's hard for people to feel close to you.

Uranus

The world need revolutionaries. Otherwise, life would be stagnant and most people would be living under the dominion of monarchs. But sometimes you rebel just so you can differentiate yourself, taking up a cause and provoking people so much that you end up alienating them. It doesn't matter if you're pro-life or an animal rights activitst, there's a way to fight the power without frightening off your friends.

Neptune

Great art and music is often pulled out of thin air, inspired by the muses and the gods. However, Neptune's propensity for escapism can lead you to lose yourself in drink or virtual worlds, neglecting your daily responsibilities. You may not be hitting rock-bottom with your addiction to crack or massively multiplayer online games, but your unavailability makes intimacy an uphill battle.

Pluto

The lord of the underworld can be an agent of transformation, bringing psychological and physical toxins to the surface to enable healing and regeneration. However, Pluto can also be violating and controlling, digging into other people's dirt and manipulating others for his own gain. Although insight into the human psyche and the ability to root out secrets can be used for good, these same talents used inappropriately can betray trust and make people feel like they've been metaphorically raped.

Comment below: What challenging aspects in your own chart sabotage your relationship success?

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Demetria provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I have been in a relationship with a scorpio male for a yr. he cheated on me with a libra female 3 months into the relationship because he said I was yelling too much and smoking. He lied to me constantly about EVERYTHING. He swore he was in love with me and I was his dream girl but still cheated. She eventually dumped him and we got back together. (i eventually stopped the things he didnt like) he now swears he loves me, realizes he screwed up and wants to marry me. Is he really in love with me now or did he just come back by default?

Around April 2006, transiting Uranus -- the planet of unpredictability and independence -- entered your Seventh House of Partnership, which would have coincided with the beginning of your relationship with this Scorpio man. When Uranus enters this house, your partnership(s) are shaken up ... you experience an awakening in how you relate to significant others.

After its retrograde period -- when Uranus apparently moved backwards into your Sixth House -- this revolutionary planet re-entered your Seventh House around February of this year. Now the real work begins, and there is more change on the horizon. Uranus is approaching an opposition to your Virgo Sun, which rules your Twelfth House of secret love affairs. During this life-changing transit, you experience radical breakthroughs, an awakening of your self-expression, and a need to do things your own way, however unconventional. However, this transit is an opposition, with transiting Uranus in your Seventh House. Both the aspect and the house concern relationships, so your love life is the realm through which you will undergo an electric makeover. As such, you may feel that change is being thrust upon you, not that you are a conscious agent of your own revolution of self. And I hate to break it to you ... this transit is going to last a long time. Uranus stations retrograde at 18 Pisces -- one degree from your 19 Virgo Sun -- in June of this year, and passes 19 Pisces for the last time in January 2009.

Given the placement of transiting Uranus, the nature of the opposition aspect, and your Sun's association with hidden things, I would not expect any sense of relationship stability for the next 18 months.

About the lying: Pisces and Neptune are associated with deception. Pisces sits on your Seventh House cusp, and your Sun (men) squares Neptune. Transiting Uranus has also been stimulating your natal Neptune. You may have a pattern of being drawn to men who are deceptive, or at least escapist in nature.

I haven't answered your question. I don't know if he's in love with you. I do have two suggestions:

1. Don't get married until 2009.
2. Use this relationship as a vessel in which you learn -- through the Uranian principle of change -- that you, my dear Virgo, have less control than you think.

Jeffrey offers private consultations.

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Sagilarious provided a birth time (click chart to view) and wrote,

This is going to sound flat out rediculous. Here goes: I fell in love with a Pisces man (with moon in Sagittarius) for the first time last summer. He and I were separated, and I love him with all my heart to this very day. Five months later, I fell in love with another Pisces man. Well, this one cheated on me. Today, a Pisces that I have been attracted to for a while just told me that he is in love with me. Since the first Pisces, it has been only about 10 months!!! I haven't spoken to the first one since July. The second one, not since April. The third, since 4 hours ago.

What is wrong with me? Another detail....they are all Turkish. This could be some deep rooted defect in my personality. Am I flawed? WTF!!! HELP PLEASE!!!

Did I mention the first one felt like my soul mate? :( 2nd one's a jerk...third is too sweet to damage. And....I think I am in love with all three of them!!! Is that possible?

Transiting Uranus in Pisces is conjoining your Moon, which rules your Ninth House. The Ninth House governs international affairs. Uranus is awakening this part of your natal chart, and bringing these Turkish Pisces men into your life. This attraction to foreign men is mirrored by your Sun conjunct Jupiter in Sagittarius, as both Jupiter and Sag are naturally associated with the Ninth, and concern the world at large.

I don't see how an attraction to Turkish Pisces men is a "deep rooted defect" in your personality. Perhaps you feel uncomfortable with your attraction to Pisces because your Moon makes a 90-degee angle, or square, to your Sagilarious Sun. You have difficulty integrating your emotional self with your conscious identity. Habit (Moon) and will (Sun) are at cross-purposes.

Could it be that these men actually feel familiar to you, and that you are judging yourself (Sag Sun, Jupiter) for these feelings (Pisces Moon)? Your Moon sits in your Fourth House of Home, Family and Roots. And you would feel "at home" with Pisces because your Moon conjoins their Suns (at least by sign). Moon-Sun conjunctions in synastry are beneficial for long-term relationships. In addition, your Sun conjoins the Moon's South Node in the Second House of Security. Maybe you were a rich Turkish princess in a past life, and you've been trying to find your prince in this one.

Jeffrey offers private consultations.

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Tina wrote in response to Uranus in the Seventh House:

I recently saw a birthchart report that said Uranus in the 7th means unfaithfulness. Does Uranus in the 7th house automatically mean infidelity/unfaithfulness? Can it just mean needing space or change in the relationship? Let's say a person has sun in Capricorn or a Taurus ascendant or Venus in Taurus? Wouldn't the "stability" of those planets tame the restlessness somehow?

On a not so related note...I personally have Uranus in my 1st and a moon in Libra. I have had descriptions state that my moon in Libra can make me unfaithful in relationships yet I have never cheated in any of my relationships and also have never had an affair with someone in a relationship.I AM very independant due to Uranus in my 1st and need space but I prefer to be faithful. As a matter of fact infidelity seems offensive to me. Sure I get tempted like everybody else does but I have never acted on those impulses. I wonder if that may be cause of my ... Venus in Taurus "taming" that effect in some way? And if in that same regard can a person who has Uranus in their 7th be a bit more restrained due to startegically placed earth signs in their chart.

Computerized astrology reports are a mixed bag. They provide lots of useful interpretations, but without any integration of chart factors, or any human touch, for that matter. They're much less expensive than a consultation with a professional astrologer, but you get what you pay for. Although they are most of the time written by professional astrologers, quality varies, as some astrologers are better than others. In addition, some great astrologers are lousy writers. (Full Disclosure: I am an affiliate and employee of Tarot.com, which sells astrology reports.)

Any astrological placement has a variety of meanings. It doesn't come alive until it is placed within the context of the whole chart. As in Gestalt philosophy, the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. An astrology report provides many "parts," but cannot provide a perspective of the "whole."

I hope the report you read noted unfaithfulness as only one of many possible expressions of Uranus in the Seventh, for that would be plain irresponsible. Yes, the Uranian imperative to experience independence in marriage can lead to infidelity, but I wouldn't call that its highest expression. (See my related post, The Seventh House curse of Uranus on the Descendant?)

As you wisely wrote, the strong presence of the earth element in one's chart would temper one's propensity to go wild and crazy in relationships. In your chart, Venus in Taurus is the dispositor (or ruler) of your Moon in Libra, so this yearning for relationship stability informs your instinctual responses. But anyways, I don't see how Moon in Libra would correspond with unfaithfulness. One, you need to be in a relationship to feel secure; and two, it's just plain vulgar.

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Virgo chick asked in the comments section of Uranus in the Seventh House:

I have Uranus at 6 degrees Virgo conjunct my Descendant in Virgo. I have never been able to sustain a long term relationship. The longest was 9 months. However, this is not because I chose to end the relationships. In fact having a long term happy relationship is what I yearn for and I feel continually frustrated and sad that I can't develop anything significant that lasts. I also have the sun conjunct venus and pluto in Virgo and they sit between 13 and 15 degrees Virgo. Also chiron opposes from 14 degrees Pisces. Any comments or tips for me to break free of my 7th house curse!

Uranus and Pluto are transpersonal forces, by definition beyond human control. When these archetypes play out in your encounter with the Other, you can either channel the "will" of these outer planets in your intimate relationships, or just let them do with you what they will. With consciousness, you may be at the wheel, but you're driving in severe conditions. Without awareness, you're on a flat cart with wheels, but you have no way to steer -- and the weather is just as chaotic.

Uranus turns tradition on its face. In the domain of partnership, rigid personal and cultural mores need to be dismantled. I do not doubt that you yearn for a long term relationship, especially with a Seventh House Sun. However, your definition of "relationship" may be contributing to your frustrations. You may need to intentionally develop a partnership that sits outside of conventions. You desire more freedom and independence than a typical marriage allows.

However, your situation is modified by your Sun-Venus-Pluto conjunction. You also yearn for a profoundly intimate connection, one that allows you to explore the depths of what it means to share yourself with another human. The power and control issues, as well as the feelings of possessiveness and jealousy, that arise in a Venus-Pluto conjunction make it difficult to simultaneously function in a relationship that thrives on independence. For example, an open relationship may be attractive to Uranus, but will raise the ire of Venus-Pluto.

Your strong Virgo emphasis may also contribute to the difficulty of maintaining a long-term relationship. Are you intensely critical of your partners? Do you have very particular ideas of what you need in a relationship, as well as daily rituals that may feel disrupted by the constant presence of another adult?

Perhaps you'd do well with a brilliant but obsessive iconoclast who's not afraid of deep intimacy, someone whose presence instigates the death of your old schema of relationships. Fortunately, transiting Uranus is conjoining your natal Chiron and opposing your Sun-Venus-Pluto conjunction all of 2007. This transit will awaken the wounds related to your identity and appearance, as well as the part of you that requires a rebirth of your values concerning partnership. Unexpected changes and out-of-the-blue appearances are par for the course, so allow yourself to be open to change.

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What? No zodiac sign today? I hate to break it to you, boys and girls, but there's more to astrology than the signs. In fact, planets are where it's at. Signs are just butter on your bread, dressing on your salad, scallions on your sweet potato.

Uranus is the planet of revolution, sudden change, and independence. We all have this disruptive influence in our charts, and because this outer planet spends about seven years in a zodiac sign as it travels around the Earth (!), its sign placement is not so important. Rather, its house placement shows where you need to shake up the status quo in your life.

We all have twelve houses in our chart, the houses being a way to divide time and space. They relate to areas of our lives, and the Seventh House concerns marriage and other significant partnerships. The Seventh House is the "dusk" part of our chart. If the Sun were in your Seventh House, that means that our star was soon to set at the time of your birth.

There's about a 1-in-12 chance that anyone you meet has Uranus in their Seventh House. Woe be unto the poor soul who falls in love with such a person! The U7 (let's call them), somewhat like someone with Venus in Aquarius, needs independence in his marriage or significant partnership. He won't be tied down in any type of traditional relationship. U7 may be attracted to eccentric, brilliant or off-beat types as partners. Or he needs an unconventional arrangement -- maybe an open marriage, or at least freedom from the constraints of being at his spouse's side at all times. He may also feel that significant others are forcing change upon him, or that his spouse undergoes personal revolutions on a regular basis.

Uranus in the Seventh is a more powerful placement than Venus in Aquarius. U7 must continually break down the rigid structures of partnership. He will be compelled to shake things up when they become stagnant. Hence, U7 is not the ideal man if you want anything resembling a stable partnership. This does not mean that you can't maintain longevity -- but to make it work, you have to be flexible enough to withstand periodic upheavals in your love life. I guarantee it won't be boring, but if you can't tolerate the relationship equivalent of the Storming of the Bastille, turn away now.

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