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Pragmatic Pisces provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I have known an Aquarian man for a few years through a mutual friend. Our chemistry is off the charts. I really respect him and love to talk to him. Recently, we were all talking and I realized the depth of my feelings for him. I mouthed in a whisper to the mutual friend, "I think I am in love with him." She smiled and said, "I know." The mutual friend is a very truthful and terribly insightful Sagittarius that is like a sister to me and to him. He heard what I mouthed to her and turned to me and asked, "What did you just say?" with a very serious face. The Sag said, "You can't run from this one." So I told him, "I think I am in love with you." He then told me, “We need to talk.” And we did. I have never had such an in depth and serious conversation with a man about starting a relationship in my life! I have never really had a serious committed relationship. I have avoided men that would actually be good for me. Since that day we have not talked at all. He called once and I missed the call. I have called him twice and left messages but no return. He is a very successful slightly famous business man and is always very busy. He just left the country today and will be gone for two weeks. He said that we would have to take our time. He told me he would be very busy until the beginning of next year. But that was a month ago. I have been reading about Aquarius detachment and need for freedom. But I have also read about their devotion and truthfulness. If he doesn’t call, was what he said the truth? Surprisingly, I don’t feel like my old clingy self. I just wonder if I can trust the seriousness of our conversation. I don’t want to be a silly Piscean girl.

Your Aquarius love interest is probably not lying ... but relationship is not really his priority. Most likely, he's just quite involved in his work life. That being said, Aquarius does want his freedom, and the Piscean urge to merge may scare him off. Aquarius celebrates the individual, whereas Pisces is about the dissolution of the individual. It's "I am unique" versus "We are all One." This is not to say that a relationship between an Aquarius and a Pisces cannot work, but it helps to have other planetary aspects between your charts to enhance compatibility.

You wrote your question the day after Uranus stationed direct in Pisces. (When a planet stations, it apparently stops its movement in the sky to move in the opposite direction.) The planet of unpredictability and awakening was conjunct your Sun earlier this year, in your Fifth House of Romance. Uranus moved backwards to within a degree of your Sun over the weekend, again stimulating your Fifth House, as well as issues around men, since the Sun rules important males in your life. Your love life is supposed to be unpredictable at this time!

Although Aquarius is not prominent in your natal chart, Uranus rules this independent sign, and when this planet aspects the Sun, it is not uncommon to encounter Aquarian men. Now that Uranus is moving forward again, either something will happen because this electric energy is no longer dormant, or you may just lose interest because Uranus is no longer aspecting your Sun.

Your Seventh House of Partnership has Taurus on its cusp, as well as Mars in Taurus. This house signifies the other person. It's likely that most guys you're interested in will be slow to act, so you'll need to be patient, especially since your Venus in Aries wants a relationship now. If you're really into this Aquarius man, it may be worthwhile to trust his sincerity and wait to see what happens in the New Year.

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The Taurus man is like a wild animal that smells an intriguing scent or hears an unfamiliar sound. He cautiously steps to the perimeter of his safety zone to see what's going on. If there is the possibility of free food, he may even enter new territory. But any perceived threat will send him scurrying off back into the safety of the woods.

As much as Taurus seeks pleasure, he also values security. It's like one of those childhood games: If you leave your pile of wealth unattended to garner more goods, you risk losing all that you've attained. This fixed earth sign is more likely to sit on his treasure than to venture out without some security in place to protect his stash.

And when it comes to relationships, he's no different. If a man or woman appeals to him, Taurus will put out his feelers, and if he anticipates a threat to his comfort level, he'll just go back to his cozy spot. So if he disappears on you after expressing interest, he's not playing mind games with you ... he's just feeling hesitant. He's worked too hard at building his nest to throw it all away on someone who gives off a funny smell.

If you want to retain the interest of a Taurus man who's retreated back into the woods, find a way to reassure him that you're not a predator. To prove that you're not looking to take anything away from him, the easiest thing you can do is give. Place an offering at the edge of the woods, and let him tentatively come to it, and make sure it's not poisonous. If he eats it, he'll come back for seconds.

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Taurus takes a long time, period. This fixed earth sign prefers stability and security over anything ... except maybe chocolate cake. Taurus will want to make sure she is safe before saying "I do" to a relationship. She will never jump in -- she is not the spontaneous sort, unless she has Uranus in Scorpio opposite her Sun, or some other impulsive combination.

Earth signs in general are cautious. Their physical environment is precious to them, and it can be unsettling to share one's space with a person who doesn't value possessions and placements to the same extent. Virgo may be finicky about having the papers on her desk shuffled around, but Taurus can be just plain rigid about you messing with her stuff. The security she feels in her environment is what grounds her emotionally. Whether you cut down a tree in her backyard or move around her Hello Kitty ornaments, you best be prepared for her Bull to come out.

You see, it comes down to trust. She needs to know deep down that her material world will still be predictable once she gives you the keys to her home. And on a deeper level, that her preferences won't be challenged on a daily basis. Taurus likes what she likes, and she's not going to change for you. It's OK if you like mint chocolate chip, but don't make her give up her Cherry Garcia.

Related post: How do you get Taurus to do anything?

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A Taurus man may be initially slow to express his affections, but once he acts on his feelings for you ... you'll know. Taureans are sensual beings, born under an Earth sign ruled by Venus, goddess of art, beauty and love. He'll touch you with a sensitivity to how you needed to be treated -- whether you're firm clay that needs to be molded with insistency and penetration, or a fine silk garment that requires exquisite care.

Unlike many men, he knows how to pick a gift, having an eye for objects that bring you both visual and sensual pleasure. The Taurus man knows the value of money, and although he's not as status-conscious as a Leo or Capricorn, he's not unwilling to spend well on something that either lasts the test of time or makes the most of its limited lifespan. If your gift is not ruggedly durable, it will be heartbreakingly beautiful in its ephemerality.

Your Taurean may be of the more gruff variety -- he'll tend to your garden (wink), mow your lawn, and trim your bushes. But perhaps most importantly, he won't give up. This fixed sign doesn't quit until he gets what he wants -- and if he covets you, he'll persist with an admirable stubbornness that will either win you over or have you filing a restraining order.

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Jara aka BlahBlah writes for 'Seduction Central' on Saturdays. (Thanks, Jeff!)

(Disclaimer: This blog entry is for humorous and educational purposes only. Adhere to the following advice at your own risk.)

Venusianprincess provided her birth information and writes:

There has been this Scorpio guy that I have been talking to for quite awhile. We've known each other for 4 years and now, out of the blue, I am starting to fall for him. I have always kept him at a distance, but now I want to be with him and I'm scared that I will be hurt (he hasn't given me any reason for feeling this way, he actually treats me like a princess) So I don't know why I feel this way. I am 26 and he is 40 (a young 40). His venus is in sagittarius and his moon sign is in pisces. A part of me wants to go further (he wants to marry me), but a part of me wants to keep it like it is (because I'm scared). Any insight would be so greatly appreciated. Thanks so much.

Taurus and Scorpio are opposite signs, which could explain the magnetic, yet uncomfortable attraction you have for this Scorpio guy. Scorpio is a passionate sign that yearns for something deep. When in love, Scorpio wants to make a lasting commitment and know that you will always be there for him. This should appeal to you, since Taurus is an earth sign that also needs to know where a relationship stands. Your Venus in Taurus reinforces this core value regarding relationships, as well. But maybe your Scorpio's intensity is making you feel pressured...

Your chart is loaded with the fire element, which contradicts the long-term commitment valued by your Taurus Sun. Your Moon, Mercury and Mars are all in fire signs (Sagittarius and Aries, respectively). Since you don't provide any specific external examples, the overwhelming amount of fire within your chart could be the main cause for the let's-wait-awhile, commitment-phobic feelings regarding making the ultimate commitment of togetherness - marriage.

Your Sagittarius Moon dislikes the emotional burden of being responsible for other people's feelings (especially if they're complex). Perhaps your Sag Moon is intuitively sensing that your Scorpio man (with his sensitive Pisces Moon) will require more from you emotionally than you're willing (or able) to give. Not only is your Moon in a freedom-loving fire sign, but it's also located in your 5th house (naturally associated with Leo). Short-term love affairs and fun are 5th house concerns. In other words, having fun is an emotional craving for you, so keeping things "as it is" is your way of keeping things light and fun (are you catching the pattern here?).

Aries is not exactly the most relationship-oriented placement. With both your Mercury and Mars in this headstrong, independent sign, you are probably concerned about whether your man will be able to keep up with you or hold you back from doing what you want to do. Your fear could be the result of you questioning if the relationship will provide the constant mental and physical stimulation that you enjoy. As I mentioned before, boredom = no fun to that 5th house Moon of yours.

Having so much fire in your chart (your Ascendant and North Node are in Leo - yet another fire sign), you most likely have an idealized definition of love. You mention "falling for" your Scorpio "out of the blue" despite having known each other for 4 years. What Aries, Leo and Sagittarius all have in common is that they are prone to sudden infatuations (or falling in love, as they call it), which can lead to disappointment when the affair doesn't go as they expected. In your considerations of getting engaged, are thoughts of how past relationships ended making you less optimistic (i.e., scared) about the future?

In addition, you have lesson-instilling Saturn in Libra, which means you have some karmic concerns about relationships/partnerships. You have learned over time to take entering into and exiting them very seriously. Mr. Scorpio may get impatient with how long it takes you to weigh all of the pros and cons of where your relationship is headed, but this process is necessary for you to feel comfortable with your final decision. The upside is that once you finally make a decision, it will be a lasting one.

As I write this, the Moon is now in Taurus and Saturn is in trine aspect to your Sun. The next 2 days or so is a great time for you to take advantage of this period when you'll be able to exchange your foggy, rose-colored glasses for a level-head in order to view your relationship realistically.

With your Mercury-Mars conjunction in your 9th house of long-distance travel, I suggest you book a trip to a foreign city, state, country or continent for you and your Scorpio sweetie. This getaway will be a great boost to creating a safe emotional environment for your Sagittarius Moon to open up to your Scorpion about your marriage concerns. And who knows? It might also stir his Venus in Sagittarius (the 9th house's natural sign) to officially pop the question. ;)

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Sonia27 provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I am struggling with whether to continue a relationship with a Sag man who is not giving me what I need emotionally but whenever I try to break it off it hurts too much and I end up going back. He is a good guy overall, he is loyal and wants a long term commitment with me, but he can be very demeaning in the way he talks to me and doesn't seem to care how much he hurts me. Should I go through the pain of letting him go or keep trying?

Do you ever get what you need emotionally? Your boyfriend is not the problem, just another symptom.

You have a Mutable Grand Cross, which means that you have planets in mutable signs (Venus in Gemini, Saturn in Virgo, Neptune in Sagittarius, Moon in Pisces) that are all making hard aspects (90-degree square or 180-degree opposition) to each other. Most notable in this configuration is a Saturn-Moon opposition, which relates to difficulty getting your emotional needs met. The Moon concerns feelings, nurturance, a sense of belonging ... of being embraced like a child by her mother. Saturn restricts the fulfillment of whatever planet He aspects. The ringed planet imposes delays and obstacles to creating that "at home" feeling you crave.

This experience is likely due to a sense of abandonment by a parental figure, and this interpretation is accentuated by these planets' placement in the 4th and 10th houses of your chart, which are associated with mother and father. (By the way, Saturn symbolizes the harsh father, and Moon the nurturing mother.) As a result of your childhood trauma, you are drawn to people who "help" you replicate your original wound. In psychoanalysis, this is called the repetition compulsion, in which, as an adult, you repeat patterns with other adults who are like one of your parents, so that you can hopefully "resolve" the original conflict. Saturn rules your 7th House of Partnership, also strengthening this pattern.

Although I do not usually give flat-out advice, I think you should let this guy go. Unless he grows up, he will continue to be demeaning, and you deserve more than that. Transiting Pluto is approaching an opposition to your natal Venus, supporting a breakup. Pain will accompany the end of your relationship, and Pluto will bring to the surface any unconscious material about feeling undervalued (Venus in the 12th). Now is an opportunity for healing, and this process has already begun, as Pluto has recently squared your natal Moon. Find the support of good friends to help you through the turmoil, and so that you can be accountable to them when you lose your resolve to maintain your distance from your Sag man.

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Labels: astrology, breakups, sagittarius, taurus

Jara aka BlahBlah writes for 'Seduction Central' on Saturdays. (Thanks, Jeff!)

Disclaimer: This blog entry is for humorous and educational purposes only. Adhere to the following advice at your own risk.

If you've ever been in a relationship with a tender Taurus, virtuous Virgo, or a committed Capricorn, then you know how it feels to be with a partner who wants to be your biggest asset. But what happens when your earth sign mate has become a liability? Here's how to make a clean break with a Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn:

The Breakup Strategy

Taurus doesn't like change – even if the change is for the better. This quality is what makes breaking up with Taurus challenging, especially for signs that don't like change anymore than Taurus does (that means you, Cancer) or who would prefer that a problem solve itself (yes, I’m talking to you, Pisces). You want the quickest way to break up with Taurus? It doesn’t exist. When you entered into a relationship with Taurus, you made an agreement to be in it for the long haul and you must honor that agreement. This includes enduring a long breakup. Begin by weaning Taurus out of your relationship by failing to cater to the Bull. Stop cooking all those great meals. Don't run any more bubble baths. No more late night massages! If this doesn’t work, try introducing Taurus to someone who cooks better than you.

Breaking up with Virgo is actually very simple. Virgo is a mutable sign, which means that the Virgin easily adapts to new stimuli. In this case, the new stimuli would be you wanting to break up. Expect many questions about how you came to your decision. Although the chain of questions will seem endless, it’s just Virgo's way of gathering more information for future reference. Not answering the questions only inspires more questions, so carve out some time to satiate Virgo's curiosity and you’ll be home free!

Capricorns are usually the ones doing the dumping, so breaking up with them is relatively easy – as long as you let them be the boss of the breakup. Present yourself as a loser without future earning potential or any interest in money or status what-so-ever. No matter how many times the Goat introduces you to a great mentor in your career field, say you're not sure this is the right step for you. The Capricorn will fire you from the relationship for being an unsuitable mate (aka business partner). If you don’t let Capricorn dump you, then look forward to changing jobs, bank accounts, and social security #s in order to protect yourself from the Capricorn wanting to get revenge against you (especially if your goat has Venus in Scorpio).

Ex-files

Unless you broke Taurus' trust, a Taurus ex will probably be in your life forever in some way or another (especially if you have kids together). If you married Taurus without a prenuptial agreement (how'd you manage that?), then be prepared for a long battle in court if you want to leave the marriage with anything Taurus wants to keep, like the car, the house, the kids, or YOU. If you're moving out of the home you’ve built with the Bull, make sure to clearly mark all of your belongings. It will make packing so much easier.

You will enjoy Virgo better after a breakup than you did during the relationship. Not only do you still get the constructive "advice," but Virgo might even help you reorganize your life after it falls apart due to Virgo's highly noticeable absence. If you share children with Virgo, you won't have to fight for joint custody, but you will have to endure Virgo frequently correcting and criticizing your parenting style.

The great thing about a Capricorn ex is that the Goat won’t kiss and tell about your breakup. It will be as if you never existed at all…

How did your relationship with a Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn end? Did the end of your relationship with an earth sign leave you feeling on shaky footing or on solid ground?

Labels: astrology, capricorn, taurus, virgo

In a man's chart, Venus represents the type of (young) woman to whom he is attracted. The mythological Venus is Aphrodite, the goddess of love and beauty. The planetary Venus does not travel beyond two zodiac signs from one's Sun, meaning that a man with Venus in Cancer can only be a Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo or Virgo.

In general, this man will be drawn to a maternal type, a woman who will nurture him with her cooking or with her sensitive attendance to his emotional needs. The Cancer figure tends to be on the shapely side -- think of the stereotypical mother's warm bosom.

A Cancer man will obviously be the most straightforward to please in this manner, as his Venus seeks similar expression to his Sun. However, when a man's Sun sign is different than his Venus sign, attraction gets more complicated.

A Leo man likes glitz and glamour, and his attraction to a shy, empathic cuddle bunny may be at odds with his desire to be seen in public with a trophy wife who serves as an accessory to boost his image. To attract this type of man, one would need to encase the caretaker in a slinky dress -- to be the wild Moon to his Sun.

A Virgo man may be more comfortable with his Venus in Cancer, as both signs are on the introverted side. However, his critical tendencies and analytical mindframe are not at home in the world of emotions. He may project his Venus onto a woman (meaning that he disowns his Venus and makes a woman "take the Cancer on" for him) and then end up hurting her feelings by picking her apart. To attract this type of man, one would need to have enough self-confidence to not take his feedback personally, yet be receptive to his home cooking reviews ... if they have any merit.

A Gemini man may have a hard time incorporating his Venus in Cancer because his propensity towards variety and exploration threatens the part of him that craves emotional security. He consciously wants to play the field, yet he's drawn to a woman who wants him to stay at home with her to watch the Lifetime channel. To attract this type of man, one needs to be able to be caring without being smothering, and to provide a home base without insisting that he's home all the time.

A Taurus man may have the easiest time with his Venus in Cancer (other than the Cancer man). Both Taurus and Cancer crave security and safety. Taurus grooves on being fed and nurtured. He may not be as emotional as the woman to whom he is attracted, but if she can translate her love into sensual acts and the creation of home-made knick knacks, she's sure to have his heart.

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Staci provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I am currently dating a Sag male and I am a Taurian female. Having suffered the "bad boys" early in life as many Taurian females do - I'm gun shy now. But this Sag male seems very genuine, sincere, and brutaly honest. Problem? Everything I read states HUGE incompatibility issues here. His Venus is in Libra and mine is in Aries. We get along smashingly and he's the only guy that's ever been incredibly honest with me - which I love. I give him his much needed freedom in return for his honesty. But is this an ultimate waste of my time?

You get along smashingly ... why would I want to discourage you? Besides, a Sagittarius man would meet your fantasies and ideals, as you have Neptune and Jupiter in this sign. In fact, the traditional ruler of your Pisces Descendant (7th House of Partnership) is Jupiter, dignified in the sign He rules -- an indication of what attracts you in a partner.

Your dreamy, inspired Jupiter-Neptune conjunction sits on your IC, the 4th House of Domestic and Family Life. You may indeed feel "at home" with your boyfriend.

Also, your Sun is in the Ninth House, which is naturally associated with Jupiter and Sagittarius. You need to express your Taurean self in the Sagittarian realm, which may mean you two can enjoy similar pursuits.

You have Venus, Moon and Mercury in Aries, a fire sign that gets along splendidly with Sagittarius. Your aggressive planets complement your boyfriend's more diplomatic and indecisive Venus in Libra. At times, this polarity will provide a welcome balance in energies. At other times, you may get on each other's nerves ... but who doesn't fight now and then? In addition, your Uranus in Libra may help awaken his inner artist.

A Taurus only believes what she sees, while a Sagittarius grooves on philosophies that defy the logic of science. Inevitably, tension will ensue when he takes risks that trigger your fear response, or when your resistance to change conflicts with his adventuresome spirit. However, you're giving him his much-needed freedom, and his honesty helps you feel secure, so it looks like this relationship is working out just fine. Ignore the textbooks and go with your heart.

Related post: How would a Sagittarius and Taurus break up?

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Labels: astrology, sagittarius, taurus

Danielle provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

My two major relationships have been with Taurus sun sign men. However I am finding that what happened in my first partnership is happening in my current, My sex drive is to large for my boyfriend(venus taurus/asc leo/ moon aquarius), I feel insatiable and often rejected and as a result the communication and often my self is image is suffering. I feel like there is something I should be doing to bridge this gap and make things flow easier. I have toned down my sexuality but the less frequent sex is creating alot of extra nervous energy. Any ideas?

You have sexual Scorpio Rising, with its traditional ruler, Mars, conjunct your Gemini Sun. A Mars-Sun conjunction alone brings lots of drive and energy to one's self-expression. However, this conjunction is opposed by a Jupiter-Uranus-Moon conjunction in Sagittarius. Jupiter expands your sexual energy (Mars), and electric Uranus stimulates it, resulting in an excess of "nervous energy" if it is not channeled appropriately. Jupiter-Mars goes overboard, and Uranus-Mars is reckless, restless, impatient -- it wants to get off any old way, however unconventional or boundary-crossing. This opposition is occurring in your First and Seventh Houses, those of self and relationship, your needs and your partner's.

Currently, your progressed Moon is at 28 Libra, stimulating a yod (both Saturn and Neptune quincunx Chiron in Taurus, exactly conjunct Descendant). This progression may bring up wounds (Chiron) regarding your ability to experience sensual pleasures (Taurus) in relationship (Descendant).

In addition to being the ruler of your chart, Mars also rules your Fifth House of Play and Creativity. I think the key to siphoning off some of your excess sexual energy is to sublimate it through art. You're a Gemini, so writing could be one way -- but I don't think that's enough. Gemini is too mental to work off such biological drives -- you'd need to do physical activity. First off -- if you don't do this already -- trying jilling off. It should help you get by until the next time your Taurus man is horny. You could also trying working with your hands (Gemini) in some way -- to make something tangible (Taurus) that expresses the themes of philosophy/travel/faith (Jupiter and Sag) and rebellion/revolution (Uranus).

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As far as Sun signs go, Taurus and Libra have little in common, save their common planetary rulership by Venus. Taurus is a fixed earth sign that seeks security and stability. Libra is a cardinal air sign gifted at initiating social interactions and navigating the world of relationships. Match an introvert who knows exactly what she wants with an extrovert who can't decide on anything, and you've got trouble.

Libra will want to schedule a night on the town, but set-in-her-ways Taurus disagrees with Libra's agenda, leaving the Scales imbalanced. Libra kowtows to Taurus, but neglecting his original idea leaves him resentful yet unable to express his anger. The Libra man puts on a fake face all evening, which irritates what-you-see-is-what-you-get Taurus. Taurus holds on to her anger all night and isn't terribly adept at hiding it, which Libra finds uncouth in the presence of company.

The next day, Taurus doesn't want to talk about it. She retreats to the backyard and gets her hands dirty in the garden, letting the earth absorb her anger. Meanwhile, Libra goes out to breakfast with his best buddy and bitches about his Taurus girlfriend's inflexibility. Why can't they just get along? Why is she so intractable?

Libra comes home with a house plant and a chocolate brownie, hoping a dose of sweetness will make everything better. Not surprisingly, Taurus takes to both like a bull to bluegrass.

Related: How can a Taurus woman impress a Libra man?

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aries303 provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I've recently ended a 5 year relationship - my first real one, in part because I felt like I was "the man" of the couple and I longed to feel like the woman. As a single girl, I've been attracted to/attracting and dating Alpha types. 4 different guys I consider to be "my" type: powerful, aggressive, dynamic. But there is guy from my college days whoI've liked for six years. He is suddenly in my life again (we've been in schools in different cities and totally by chance, we're now working in the same hospital). He's the opposite of the guys I'm usually into . He's a Taurus with his Moon, Mercury, Venus, AND Mars in Aries (why the self-esteem issues?)! I've never been able to explain how instantly we connected. The reason we didn't get together in college was because - according to his best friend - he needed for me to make the first move, despite supposedly liking me a lot. I was bewildered and a little hurt and as a result, I refused to make the first move. Now I have the feeling he still likes me, since his best friend has started calling me again, wanting to hang out. This was always the only way this Taurus felt comfortable "going out" with me. I don't want to have to go through his friends anymore! I want to approach him directly but I'm worried that I'll scare him away! Is it a bad idea to be direct? How do I get the show on the road?

You and this Taurus man have two Sun-Moon conjunctions by sign (if not by aspect), with your your Sun and his Moon in Aries, and your Moon and his Sun in Taurus. These are good marriage aspects, for the Moon and Sun are the wife and husband.

I can also see why he'd want you to lead. As much as you want to be the "woman" in a relationship, you've got a lot of cardinal (initiating) energy, with Capricorn Rising and an Aries Sun. Other parts of your chart relate to your desire to be wined and dined: your love planets -- Venus and Mars in Pisces -- are more passive and yielding, and your Taurus Moon wants to be comforted.

Is it a bad idea to be direct?

How else are you going to get what you want? Taurus is reluctant to take risks, for he does not want to lose whatever security he has. He may be afraid of losing your friendship if he expreses his interest in you. So, you may have to be the "man" here to get things going. If you scare him away be being assertive, then he's not ready for you.

Transiting Venus is just entering your Seventh House, and will conjoin your Seventh House Jupiter -- planet of good fortune -- around June 4. That will be a good time for looove. Transiting Mars will conjoin your natal Sun around May 26, which will give you an extra boost of assertiveness. The worst that can happen is that nothing romantic will come of your friendship with this Taurus man ... and nothing has happened so far! Except for some potential embarrassment, you'll at least know that you tried.

Related: If I back off from a Taurus man , will he want me more?

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Labels: aries, astrology, taurus

Before the internet, you had to ask a girl friend for advice on how to break up a relationship. Or if you were lucky, there'd be a how-to article in a woman's magazine. Nowadays, all it takes is a simple google query, and all of your answers are solved. The secrets of ruining another person's life are at your fingertips!

Back in the day, a girl friend would have talked some sense into you. She would have told you that you're as unlikely to get a Taurus man to leave his girlfriend as you are to rouse a lazy bull from his resting spot. Why would any creature of habit who's living the good life be tempted to do things differently? Your girl friend would also have told you that you'd be stupid to think that a guy who leaves his wife for you wouldn't do the same to you later on.

But no, with the beauty of the internet, if you don't find the answer you want, there's always 729,000 more websites to browse, until you find what you were looking for. So shut down your computer and give your gal pal a call. She'll tell you to put your energy into a man who's actually available.

You see, not only are you drawn to a man you can't have, you're drawn to a Sun sign that is least likely than any other sign to ditch his girl for you. Maybe therapy is what you need!

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Decisions, decisions.

The question alone sounds like a pitch for a romantic comedy. Tam, a self-sufficent young woman able to hold down her beer and beat her brother at arm wrestling, is torn between two guys. Jack is a type-A Corporate America personality who wears three-piece suits and does power lunches. Sal cooks pastries at the local bakery, and spends his lunch break feeding ducks at Central Park. Tam loves Jack's confidence and authority, but she's totally sweet on Sal, a man who's not afraid to show his vulnerable side.

Jack takes Tam to a swanky uptown restaurant where he slips the maitre d' a few bills to get them the best table. He wants to fly her on his private jet to Madrid over the weekend. But wait! She has a date with Sal this Saturday to view 'The Dinner Party' exhibition at the Brooklyn Museum. What should she do? How can she turn down this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity?

You see, a man with money fills her need for financial security. Not that she can't make it on her own -- she's doing fine selling her clients' stuff on eBay -- but she's certainly not opposed to getting a nice diamond. On the other hand, Tam could totally feel taken care of by Sal, in a different way. She loves his romantic nature and that he would go out of his way to make her feel safe. Jack just doesn't feel cushy, you know.

This turning-point -- where the above paragraph plays out in a flashback montage over a catchy but sentimental emo song -- occurs near the end of the film. It's your turn to write the ending.

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A frustrated reader writes:

Enough about Scorps! What about Taurus? Why are they so damned stubborn? And how do you get them to do anything??

Have you noticed that Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius are all fixated in one way or another? They are all resistant to change, whether in the realm of ideas (Aquarius), their self-importance (Leo) or emotional resentments (Scorpio). All these signs have one thing in common -- being fixed signs. They're all stubborn, just in different ways. What makes Taurus take the cake, though, is that the Bull is an earth sign. Compared to the other elements (water, fire, air), earth is the most reserved and cautious. Earth signs (which also include Virgo and Capricorn) need to see the goods to feel secure -- cold, hard cash; a plotted graph; a dust-free cabinet. When you mix fixed with earth, you get Taurus -- the most stubborn sign of the zodiac. Taurus doesn't want to let go (fixed) of any of his possessions (earth), and wants things to stay just as they are, thank you very much.

So, how do you get him to do anything? Venus provides the key. The planet of love, money and art is the ruler of Taurus. The Bull is a pleasure-hound, and will be roused out of his laziness if there's a reward to be had. The reward, mind you, must be physical -- praise won't cut it. A deep massage, sexual favors, rich food, sweets, money -- whatever it takes to bribe Taurus into taking a course of action. Learn the principles of behaviorism to develop an effective schedule of reinforcement. You know: rat gets pellet of food when it hits a lever.

I know it's not easy. If Taurus has dug his heels regarding an issue important to you -- such as his willingness to spend Christmas with your parents -- then it may take some creativity and persistence to find the right carrot to get your donkey walking.

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A Taurus writes:

I have asked my friend to pass my number on to a Libra man I fancy. Should I have played harder to get, as it's been nearly a week and I'm still waiting?

Libra is the sign of the scales, and as an air sign, he is both blessed and cursed with the ability to weigh both sides of any issue. As a result, he has earned a reputation for being indecisive. Although as a cardinal sign he can be a man of action, Libra cannot initiate until he's made up his mind. Ruled by Venus, Libra can also be a bit lazy.

I don't understand how having your friend give this guy your number is playing hard to get. You're more like being hard to give -- meaning that you're putting yourself in a passive role. It seems so "high school," but for all I know, maybe that's where you really are. A Taurus will surely not be the first sign to subvert gender roles, but geez, can't you be a bit more assertive?

Let's assume this Libra knows you're interested in him. Why would he not call?

1) He's not interested.
2) He thinks you're cute, but he doesn't really know you all that well, and you seem a bit unyielding. There is this nice, sensual quality to you -- you seem really earthy. However, he's not sure if you two would hit it off. I mean, you have a throaty voice -- that's really sexy -- but you don't really talk all that much. Does he want a silent type? He wants somebody to talk to, somebody who can match him mentally. On the other hand, maybe what he really needs is somebody to ground him, and you seem like you could do that for him. Maybe he'll sleep on it, think more about calling you ... tomorrow.

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A Taurus woman writes:

A Pisces man wants to have sex with me and I him and we both have known each other for years, but what concerns me is the fact that he is rather pushy about the subject. He assures me that I won't be disappointed, and after being in a very sexually unpleasing marriage with a Scorpio man, I am scared to become sexually involved with the Pisces man. Should I be or should I allow myself the experience?

You should wait until you feel safe. As a Taurus woman, you know your body is sacred and that you need to feel secure if you're going to share it with another. And God knows, Scorpio men know how to hurt those with whom they are intimate.

Your Pisces man ought to be sensitive and empathic about your fear. He probably has a pushy Mars. And of course, men can be overly focused on sex, but this guy's pushiness sounds like a red flag. Not that he's Scorpionically dangerous, but he's not listening to your resistance. Your Pisces man may very well be good in the sack, but how can you appreciate it if you're scared?

If you haven't already, communicate to him why you're holding back. If his response helps you feel comfortable taking the risking of being with someone new, then it's OK to "feel the fear and do it anyway," for sometimes all we need is a new experience to disprove old theories. However, if Pisces is not sensitive to your hesitation, then maybe your fear is justified.

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Taste ... you've got it. In fact, you both got it. Although Taurus and Libra are incompatible by both element and modality†, they are both ruled by Venus, goddess of love and beauty. Libra has an aesthetic sense of balance and grace, whereas Taurus has a more sensual appreciation of art and the body. The Taurus woman may not be as cultivated as Libra, but surely she can transcend her vulgar leanings to meet him at the museum or a nice restaurant. If you're eating out, don't grunt. Taurus rules the throat, so it is all too easy to signal your pleasure with a lusty "hmmm!" -- guttural noises will turn off Libra. And if you're viewing a painting collection, it may require force of will to abstain from feeling the texture of the brushstrokes; Libra will chafe if you climb under the velvet ropes. Manners are all it takes! If you can act like a lady instead of the earth goddess you are, then how can Libra not be impressed?

†Taurus is fixed earth, Libra is cardinal air.

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Sag: I'm going out.

Taurus: No, you ain't.

Sag: What you gonna do, stop me?

Taurus: I'm gonna lock all the doors in this house.

Sag: You can't keep me here. I cannot be contained.

Taurus: Ha! I'm gonna contain yo ass right now!

Sag: I'd like to see you try.

Taurus: You don't understand. You're mine. What gave you the idea that you can come and go as you please?

Sag: What gave you the idea that you can keep me like one of your friggin' house plants?

Taurus: If you leave, don't think you can just waltz back in here. The locks will be changed.

Sag: Fine! I don't wanna come back anyway!

Taurus: Fine!

[Slam.]

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A reader asks:

I'm a Taurus with an Aquarius moon dating a man who's a Cancer with a Sagittarius moon. So we're the commitment-phobic homebodies. I know Cancer and Taurus match well, as do Aquarius and Sagittarius. But what kind of mix is this? Can we ever make it together? And how do I seduce this man?

--Name and birth times withheld--

You both have yin Suns (Earth and Water) and yang Moons (Fire and Air). The benefit of these matches is that you both approach the world in similar manners. Neither his desire to spend Saturday night at home nor his need to hop on a plane to Malaysia will shock you. Moreover, you get it when he gets all torn up over this inner conflict, because you feel it yourself. In a way, being with each other can be affirming, in that you both know you're not alone in having competing desires within yourselves. With the insight you have above, both of you can even laugh at yourselves when you act like you have multiple personalities.

But it depends on the space you each are in. We all need to express the nature of our Sun sign to feel fulfilled, yet we retreat to our Moon sign when life gets too stressful. You each instinctively respond to life in an outgoing way, chafing at anyone who tries to squelch your sense of freedom and individuality. Yet you're each conservative in nature -- not Dubya conservative, but in that you each prefer things to stay the way they've always been. What if your boyfriend is in Cancer mode while you are in Aquarius? He might not like you upsetting his home life. And what if he's in a Sag space while you crave Taurean stability? His purchase of two tickets to Siberia may rub you the wrong way. And what happens when the partner who's in a yin Sun space tries to inhibit the other's actions? The partner in yang Moon mode may say, "Screw this, I'm outta here!" However, you each can rely on your self-understanding to work through these conflicts.

And how can you seduce this man? Perhaps you can bring the Sagittarius experience into his home. Dress up in traditional garb from a foreign country, and cook him something exotic. This will appeal to both sides of his nature, and make him want more!

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Grieving takes time. You can start by integrating the qualities you most appreciated about your Taurus man into your daily routine. The end of a relationship can introduce an emotional hole into your life, and it is best to fill it with activities that nurture your spirit. A Taurus guy is not the same as the archetype of "Taurus," undiluted by other astrological factors. He is a complex individual with many zodiac signs expressing his different needs. Nonetheless, you were probably attracted to his sensual, grounded nature. How can you introject, or "take in," those qualities?

I would advise against Taurean pursuits like shopping and eating chocolate to get over your Taurus man. They might feel good for a few minutes, but they are not spiritually fulfilling. (OK, maybe if it's really good chocolate.) Instead, go to an art museum and lose yourself in shapes, colors and textures. Taurus is ruled by Venus, goddess of beauty. Can you find Beauty in your surroundings? Venus also loves sensual pleasure -- take an aromatherapy bath and scrub yourself with sea salt; go to the park and lean against a tree, letting its rootedness support you as you wallow in your sorrows. Mother Earth can absorb your sadness. She has endured much more loss than you, and She still perseveres, like any good Taurus would.

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