Chrissy included birth data for herself (chart) and her Pisces guy (chart) and writes,
Opposites attract, as they say ... but they also drive each other nuts. Virgo's all about the details, whereas Pisces can't find his keys. They both share an orientation towards service. Helping others is their meeting place, and they make a great team, for Pisces provides compassion while Virgo does the case management.

But there's way more than Sun sign compatibility to this relationship. Pisces does need time alone, as this sensitive sign gets overstimulated easily. However, your Pisces guy needs to feel independent for other reasons, and this impulse may be driving his absences. Both his love planets -- Mars and Venus -- are in "I want it NOW" Aries, making a 120-degree angle ("trine") to his Moon, Jupiter and Uranus in fiery Sagittarius. His Moon (needs) requires lots o' space, and Jupiter and Uranus are the two most excitable and adventurous planets in the solar system. He may be a peaceable Pisces, but he's also a very restless soul who needs inspiring experiences to feed his soul.

Meanwhile, you have your Moon and Ascendant in controlling/possessive Scorpio, and Sun and Venus in risk-averse Virgo. These "yin" signs are not an ideal match for his Fire. He may feel held back by you, hence his apparent frustration. But I wonder if (on some level) you want a guy who's occasionally missing? Your Mars-Uranus conjunction can correspond with a young man (Mars) who is distant/unpredictable (Uranus).

There are two ways to go with this: either stop trying to control him (so that he doesn't feel he needs his space so much) or tell him it's unacceptable to not date you on a frequent and predictable basis. The latter option is called "stating your needs." His Fire planets could tell you you're making too many demands on him, in which case he might split entirely. Or his Pisces Sun -- which needs to be pinned down once in a while, because Water needs form -- may fall into line with your expectations.

Comment below: What do you think Chrissy needs to do with her Pisces guy?

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He Said/She Said features a love advice question answered by professional astrologers Jessica Shepherd of Moonkissd and Jeffrey Kishner of Seduction Central. After they each provide their perspective, they combine their insight to offer advice they both agree on.

D.R. Millenium writes,

My counselor tells me that when it comes to men, I seem to running away to ones I could me and towards ones I can't. I thought about this long and hard and decided that I just want a different reality- it may be a 7th house thing. The chart of the man is of an actor, a famous one but I'd like to get to know him as a person- all the while respecting his sense of privacy, space, time, constraints all that. I admit to feeling a strong attraction, but also I am afraid to say it, i sense a connection- perhaps we share some of the same cultural history growing up in the same era. I want to know the proper way to pursue meeting or at least contacting this guy with success. I believe that some of us in the outer world are really nice folk and aren't crazed fans. He as a capricorn has life lessons I feel he could teach. He's got a start up IT business too and I respect a go getter! I myself am learning medical coding. He can't give me material things but rather and only those things in his persona that he as a man uniquely posses. I'd love to be advised as to how to pursue, albeit with respect and tact oh and what are my chances with such a suspicious scorpio moon as he 's got. I'm thinking of writing to Oprah Winfrey for advice in the regard to do this properly with respect to him- do you think it's foolhardy? Thanks again ! D.R.

He Said:

Everyone runs in their own circles, whether they're astrologers or famous actors. This doesn't mean we don't make contact with outsiders, but we do need to share similar values and experiences to make a connection. You and the actor were born in the same year, so you do share the same cultural history, as you said. You both have Water-sign Moons (yours in Cancer and his in Scorpio) and yin Suns (your in Pisces and his in Capricorn). Your Cancer Moon is in a tight opposition with his Capricorn Sun, which suggests a potentially deep connection.

But these factors may only explain your feeling of resonance with the actor. After all, one of the reasons famous actors become and stay famous is that they are good hooks for our projections, our fantasies. This actor has a First House Neptune -- planet of image and film -- within five degrees of his Ascendant. People see what they want to see in him. And you're quite Neptunian yourself, with an imaginative Pisces Sun trine natal Neptune.

OK, so I've established that he's good fantasy material. But you want more. I won't say that successfully courting him is impossible, but here's my realistic assessment:

• He probably has millions of fans swooning over him.
• With a Capricorn Sun and Scorpio Moon, he probably will be suspicious of anyone who tries to get close to him. He's got cash -- how does he know a woman wants him for something other than the trappings of fame?
• Have you looked at his Wikipedia entry? What if he has a girlfriend?

That being said, probably the most tactful way to make contact is to send a letter expressing your admiration of his work and offering a reflection of what you may have in common, coming from the same generation. And leave Oprah out of the picture.

She Said:

To read Jessica's response to the same question, visit Moonkissd -- then read They Said for their bottom line advice!

To submit your burning love question, email Jessica with "he said, she said" in the subject line, or complete Jeffrey's form.

They Said:

Take a step back and explore the power of your fantasies and projections. Famous Actor may not be as accessible as you hope, no matter how tactfully you approach him. There are many cool guys -- who share your background and orientation towards life -- in your own neck of the woods.

Jeffrey and Jessica are available for astrology consultations. Check out their respective websites for details.

Related post: Do Pisceans want what they cannot have?

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khristy included her birth time (click chart to view) and wrote,

I was born on the last day of Aquarius. I'm living with a guy who is also an aquarius. I seem to be showing some characteristics of Pisces. I do feel somewhat abandoned when he would rather spend time with friends. He tells me that I ask him too many questions. I just want him to be able to open up to me as I do with him.

You are indeed an Aquarius, with your Sun in the final degree of this Air sign. Some astrologers say that when you are born on the cusp between two signs, you feel impatient to move on to the next sign, and hence have some Piscean characteristics in your solar expression.

You also have Mercury in Pisces. You communicate from an emotional place. Your Mercury also sits in your Eighth House of Intimacy (as do your Aquarius Sun and Mars), making depth of connection a common theme in your discussions. "Opening up" is essential for you to feel close to someone.

Image by theotherway under CC license.

The challenge is Saturn's opposition to your Mercury. Saturn is the planet of restriction and structure. One the one hand, you feel compelled to "define" your relationship, as Saturn thrives on limits and walls. You want to know exactly where you stand with your boyfriend. Yet Saturn also puts a strain on communication. Especially in an opposition aspect -- which often manifests in relationships -- you often don't feel "listened to" or understood. It is difficult for you to get your point across -- and it's already difficult because a Pisces Mercury already speaks in such an elliptical manner.

Combine the above with a Scorpio Moon and Cancer Rising, and the strong Water emphasis in your chart more than makes up for being an Aquarius.

Comment below: Were you born on the cusp? How do you feel the pull between two consecutive signs?

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Pragmatic Pisces provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I have known an Aquarian man for a few years through a mutual friend. Our chemistry is off the charts. I really respect him and love to talk to him. Recently, we were all talking and I realized the depth of my feelings for him. I mouthed in a whisper to the mutual friend, "I think I am in love with him." She smiled and said, "I know." The mutual friend is a very truthful and terribly insightful Sagittarius that is like a sister to me and to him. He heard what I mouthed to her and turned to me and asked, "What did you just say?" with a very serious face. The Sag said, "You can't run from this one." So I told him, "I think I am in love with you." He then told me, “We need to talk.” And we did. I have never had such an in depth and serious conversation with a man about starting a relationship in my life! I have never really had a serious committed relationship. I have avoided men that would actually be good for me. Since that day we have not talked at all. He called once and I missed the call. I have called him twice and left messages but no return. He is a very successful slightly famous business man and is always very busy. He just left the country today and will be gone for two weeks. He said that we would have to take our time. He told me he would be very busy until the beginning of next year. But that was a month ago. I have been reading about Aquarius detachment and need for freedom. But I have also read about their devotion and truthfulness. If he doesn’t call, was what he said the truth? Surprisingly, I don’t feel like my old clingy self. I just wonder if I can trust the seriousness of our conversation. I don’t want to be a silly Piscean girl.

Your Aquarius love interest is probably not lying ... but relationship is not really his priority. Most likely, he's just quite involved in his work life. That being said, Aquarius does want his freedom, and the Piscean urge to merge may scare him off. Aquarius celebrates the individual, whereas Pisces is about the dissolution of the individual. It's "I am unique" versus "We are all One." This is not to say that a relationship between an Aquarius and a Pisces cannot work, but it helps to have other planetary aspects between your charts to enhance compatibility.

You wrote your question the day after Uranus stationed direct in Pisces. (When a planet stations, it apparently stops its movement in the sky to move in the opposite direction.) The planet of unpredictability and awakening was conjunct your Sun earlier this year, in your Fifth House of Romance. Uranus moved backwards to within a degree of your Sun over the weekend, again stimulating your Fifth House, as well as issues around men, since the Sun rules important males in your life. Your love life is supposed to be unpredictable at this time!

Although Aquarius is not prominent in your natal chart, Uranus rules this independent sign, and when this planet aspects the Sun, it is not uncommon to encounter Aquarian men. Now that Uranus is moving forward again, either something will happen because this electric energy is no longer dormant, or you may just lose interest because Uranus is no longer aspecting your Sun.

Your Seventh House of Partnership has Taurus on its cusp, as well as Mars in Taurus. This house signifies the other person. It's likely that most guys you're interested in will be slow to act, so you'll need to be patient, especially since your Venus in Aries wants a relationship now. If you're really into this Aquarius man, it may be worthwhile to trust his sincerity and wait to see what happens in the New Year.

Comment below to provide Pragmatic Pisces feedback, or discuss Aquarius-Pisces compatibility in the forum.

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Fish and wine, of course!

But did you know how Christian this meal is?

Fish

Fish is associated with both Jesus and Pisces. The vesica pisces or "Jesus Fish" has its roots in paganism, according to About.com:

... this glyph was associated with the Goddess Venus, and represented female genitalia. Early depictions of Christ depict him as an infant within the vesica (usually called a mandorla, meaning 'almond shaped.'), which represented the womb of Mary (and often, the coming together of heaven and earth in the body of jesus- part man, part god). As such, it is also a doorway or portal between worlds, and symbolizes the intersection between the heaven and the material plane.

The zodiacal Pisces is Venus' exaltation, and relates to our desire to create Heaven on Earth. This sign is ruled by Neptune, which governs the yearning to transcend the small mind and connect with God.

The Christians later adopted the fish as a symbol. The Greek word for fish, pronounced Ichthys, is an acronym for Jesus Christ, God's Son, Savior. Jesus was born in the beginning of the Age of Pisces:

[Jesus] went against the Old Testament, which emphasised ram [Age of Aries] and the sacrificial fir. Through his teachings the New Testament was brought about, along with the emblem of 'fish' and baptism by 'water'. The 'fish' is the symbol of the sign Pisces and 'water' is its element. Even on a deep psychological and spiritual level, his teachings and life represent the qualities of the sign Pisces. Jesus was born when the planets Jupiter and Saturn joined in the sign Pisces. This could have been the Star of Magi which the three wise men from east followed. (brackets mine)

Jesus also relates to the Pisces archetype because this zodiac sign represents the mystic and the martyr.

Wine

Jesus turned water into wine, and the Eucharistic wine transubstantiates into the blood of Christ. (Or so they say...) Pisces has long been associated with alcohol, because drugs are an effective way to escape from reality and enter an altered state of consciousness.

Yeah, but will this meal help me seduce a Pisces man?

Fish oil may help boost his libido. And the alcohol will lower his inhibitions.

But what if the Pisces man I want to seduce is a tea-totaling vegan?

Take him to a Japanese restaurant and order him mock crab and a cup of white tea. Then watch a David Lynch movie.

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Ephemeral Dreamer provided an estimated birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

From one piscean to another:

After a life long struggle I have nearly come to accept Life's designated role for me: I am the dark pisces; the garbage-pail pisces.

I've always been idealistic no matter how many times I got hurt and growing up in a tough neighborhood, that was quite often.

As a child I ranged from cocky, outgoing to shy sometimes all in the same day.

I didn't start to develop low self-esteem until high school, I began to notice girls weren't as into me as I expected.

Not to say I didn't have any girlfriends but I was a 'late-bloomer'; I didn't lose my virginity until I was 17.

But believe you me I've been horny ever since kindergarten.

Totally unrelated but I was molested by my babysitter's teenage son when I was a kid, I thought I dealt with that as best I could.

It's funny but in college I had beautiful girlfriends but the relationships were so stressful that they didn't last.

[Editor's note: detailed relationship history has been removed, but you can read it here.]

I've put on the weight, my health has deteriorated, my outlook on life is pretty bleak, I've contemplated suicide, sometimes when I drive I have to pull over because I get so caught up in my emotional state. My mom passed away (cancer) in 2004 and my favorite kitty died (diabetes) last year and I still miss them. I've recently been diagnosed with diabetes and when I look in the mirror I just want to kill what's looking back at me. But sometimes I do think "You know you're not pretty, but you're not a bad-looking (rugged-looking) chap. So what's your problem?"

I pray and pray but I feel lost.

Fellow Pisces, you have a few challenges in your chart. Your Pisces Sun is opposed by Pluto, lord of the underworld. You say you are the "dark Pisces, the garbage pail Pisces." Pluto is the darkness, Pluto is refuse. It is the planet symbolizing all that is submerged into the unconscious, stuffed away in hidden corners because these elements are socially unacceptable, taboo. Pluto is the realm of violent struggles for dominance, sexual taboos. Pluto can 'kill' whatever planet it aspects (or intensify its expression) -- in your case, it has demolished your already weak Pisces ego. (Molestation also falls under Pluto's grip.)

You are also more Piscean than a typical Pisces, which results in increased sensitivity and an experience of victimhood/martyrdom. Your Moon is in Pisces, square Neptune, the ruler of this intuitive sign. Your Sun trines Neptune, which suggests a strong imagination, as well as a desire to frequently transcend mundane reality. Your Sagittarius Mars (the action planet) is weakened by a conjunction to Neptune, which makes it hard to get up in the morning unless its for a cause greater than yourself.

Your struggles in relationship may be attributed to a conjunction between Venus (planet of love) and Saturn (planet of hardship and delay). You may feel that you are not attractive or lovable enough for a relationship. (Read Honoring Saturn and Venus for more on this combination.)

First off ... don't kill yourself. Consult a mental health professional for support. You've recently had a stressful Pluto transit to your natal Sun and Pluto. Pluto can bring death, both literal and psychological. It sounds like you've had to deal with major loss the last few years, and are going through your own personal hell.

You're a highly Neptunian person, so I would recommend taking on a dedicated spiritual practice. But even more important right now, you need a good dose of discipline, especially since your health is at risk. Now is the perfect time, because transiting Saturn is squaring your natal Mars through summer of 2008. Your Mars in Sag needs to take up a sport, and you need to stick to a strict regimen to lose weight. Use Saturn's transit in Virgo to focus on your health and to develop a daily routine that gives your life a sense of order.

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Have you ever achieved transcendental bliss during lovemaking ... not just your everyday orgasm, but a moment when "you" cease to exist? Mars in Pisces seeks this experience. Placed in the most spiritual of signs, the planet of sexuality seeks to dissolve the barriers of self.

The Downside

Mars the lover may be passive, for it is difficult to meet the needs of one's ego in such a watery sign. He may prefer to have sex under the influence of drugs or alcohol. His sense of boundaries -- where he ends and a lover begins -- can make for divine sex, but it can also lead to confusion -- as when he forgets that there are also two (or more) discrete bodies in the room.

The Upside

As Jara mentioned in Mars in Heat, this planet's idea of foreplay would be to dance seductively, put on sensual music, share his emotions. Mars in Pisces is an intuitive lover, and his empathic sense helps him to know exactly how to please you, because he knows what it's like to be in your stilettos.

Comment below: What do you know of Mars in Pisces ... in the bedroom?

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Miss Anxious Aquarius provided a birth time (click chart to view) and also asked her question in the Love Advice section of the forum. She writes,

I have been going out with my Pisces boyfriend for nearly 7 months now. Lately, I can't get him to communicate. I tried being gentle and calm and appealing to his emotions but it's not working.

After a whole night of fighting he told me that he is not getting any younger and he needs 'space' to think. He knows he wants me and he is the luckiest man to have to me but right now he is scared of commitment. He also wants to test me to see if I'm the one for him.

He's confusing me, making me feel anxious, I told him to take all the time he needs and that I'm here. What is going on? What's with the temper? What's with the space? What's with the Pisces? What's with me?

Lucia G. has already offered some insight into your Pisces boyfriend's chart and how to approach the relationship. I'm going to write a bit about "timing." On September 26, the Aries Full Moon exactly conjoined your natal Venus in Aries. Venus is the planet of love and relationship, but it is even more significant in your chart. You have Taurus on your Descendant (or Seventh House cusp), which means you seek security and stability in your relationships. Venus is the ruler of Taurus, so it signifies your partner ... and it also sits in your Fifth House of Romance. During an Aries Full Moon, the spotlight shines on one's personal needs (in opposition to the needs of a relationship). One's own impulses take precedence, and inevitably there is a conflict, because meeting these needs requires one to compromise less in one's relationship. This Full Moon may have stimulated your boyfriend's antsiness. "All of a sudden, he wants to accomplish things, constantly wanting to stay home, not talking about his feelings, his temper is short, I can't get him to communicate." Other than the staying home part, this behavior sounds pretty Aries-like.

In the forum discussion thread, you gave his birth time. As Lucia G. mentioned, he has Mars in Aries in his Seventh House. He can be very direct and assertive about meeting his needs in a relationship, and yet he's also got a lot of wishy-washy energy, with Libra Rising and Sun square Neptune. A few weeks after the Full Moon, the Libra New Moon on October 11 opposed his Mars from his First House of Individual Needs. (Mars is also the ruler of his Seventh House, with Aries on the cusp). This highlighted the tension between his need to please you versus his need to do what he wants to do. (Or maybe he feels overpowered by your direct expression of your needs, as his Mars symbolizes his partner.)

Aries is not the most commitment-friendly sign, as it does not want to be held back from acting on its desires, however they may impact others. These recent lunations have been activating the Aries love/sex planets in both of your charts.

Pluto shakes up your boyfriend's entire sense of self (Sun) over the next year, and will make a 90-degree square to his Seventh House cusp early 2009. He's going through the wringer, and much of his orientation towards home, family and relationships will be torn down in order to be rebuilt on a more authentic level. Only time will tell if your relationship survives this restructuring.

Comment below to offer Miss Aquarius feedback, or respond on her discussion thread.

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From the comments section on Does a Pisces man ever end a relationship?

Do pisceans have a tendancy to want what they cant have? then not want it when they think they can have it?

Pisces is the dreamer, and for this sign, reality is always a letdown when compared to his fantasies. The sign of the Fishes is ruled by Neptune, planet of imagination, transcendance and delusion. Neptune is The Matrix, maya, the world of illusion. In the best sense, it is communion with God, where boundaries dissolve and one feels connected with everything in the universe. But most of the time, Pisces is the anti-Neo, swallowing the blue pill to remain in his delusion. He does not want to know stark reality.

The dirty secret about Pisces: He does not really want to be embodied. Pisces want to be Spirit, yet he's stuck doing dishes and suffering through his day job. It is only when he plays his guitar or smokes a joint or falls for a pretty girl that he escapes from the Hell of the Mundane. The pretty girl is his Muse, inspiring him to write, paint, dance or daydream. Anything but to endure another hour of Here and Now. (Although the enlightened Pisces finds beauty in the present moment, for he recognizes the divine in as mundane an activity as sweeping dust from underneath the kitchen table.)

When the pretty girl is unattainable, then Pisces falls even deeper for her, for then his dreams cannot be ruptured by her humanity. Pretty girls bleed and poop and get needy and irritable. That's no fantasy! Pisces is only called to create when his Muse is ethereal, when She summons him to reach to the heavens with his song.

So if the seemingly unattainable pretty girl starts giving off subtle clues that she's into him, Pisces retreats. He knows that if he gets to know her, her human flaws will be revealed, and he will lose his inspiration. Once she becomes real, the bubble has burst, and he will have to look for another pretty girl to fuel his fantasies.

It is a cruel cycle that never ends until he comes to peace with being on Earth.

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Diggy provided a birth time for the empty Seventh House case study (click chart to view).

As a fastidious Virgo Rising, you have "dude, whatever" Pisces on your Descendant. Like Aquarius in yesterday's post, the last sign of the zodiac has two ruling planets. Pisces' traditional ruler is Jupiter, planet of philosophy, idealism and expansion. Neptune, Pisces' modern ruler, was discovered in the 19th century, during the rise of Spiritualism. The God of the Seas concerns mystical yearnings, dissolution of boundaries, the urge to transcend mundane reality. Sounds like Pisces, don't it?

With a Capricorn Sun and Virgo on your Ascendant, you're a fairly structured person, and a little water goes a long way in keeping you from drying out. That's where Pisces comes in. Your fantasy life is focused on the ideal mate, and a relationship may indeed help you move beyond humdrum reality. However, Pisces is the sign of delusion, deception and confusion -- your (potential) spouse may just be a lying, cheating ne'er-do-well. You may be drawn to musicians, poets, addicts, artists, monks, nuns, zookeepers and aides at your local lunatic asylum.

The co-ruling planets of your Seventh House happen to oppose each other (a 180-degree angle). Jupiter is in stable Taurus in your Eighth House of Sex, Death and Shared Investments, while Neptune is in seductive Scorpio in your Second House of Possessions, Finances and Self-Worth. Both the signs and houses inhabited by these planets concern money and value, as well as that fixed-sign possessiveness all too familiar to Taurus and Scorpio. A significant relationship would bring up issues around power, security, and how you share money. Perhaps your spouse would work in the fields of finance or psychotherapy or weed-killing.

Since Jupiter and Neptune oppose each other, the New-Age vibe of having Pisces on your Seventh House cusp is multiplied, exaggerated ... bloated. Jupiter expands the strong Neptunian tendency to leave consensual reality, while Neptune's suggestive influence leads Jupiter to philosophize about mediums, mystics and marijuana.

Use your practical Cap Sun and Virgo Ascendant and Mars to prevent some guy or gal from pulling the wool over your eyes and stealing your inheritance.

Labels: astrology, jupiter, neptune, pisces, seventh house

Joke of the Day

What do Pisces and Libra have in common?

Scales!

Can Pisces win over a Libra? Other than scales, what else do they have in common? Venus -- the planet of love, art and relationships -- is dignified in Libra and exalted in Pisces. The goddess is happy in both signs.

The Libra Woman

A woman with her Sun in Libra is -- more than any other sign -- attracted to partnership. Not being in one may make her unhappy, because she shines brightest when she is relating to another person. She's willing to make all sorts of compromises to please her partner, and may even lapse into codependent behavior, putting his needs above her own. Many of her decisions are based on how their outcome will impact others, as she wants to maintain harmony with her loved ones. And, sometimes she goes to great lengths to avoid being seen as the "bad guy."

The Pisces Man

Sacrifice, of course, is familiar to the Pisces man. The last sign of the zodiac is ruled by Neptune, the planet that dissolves boundaries in the quest for enlightenment -- or at least a good buzz. Pisces is the sign of the monk and the alcoholic -- those lost (or developed) souls who choose retreat, or who withdraw into fantasy because they can't tolerate reality well enough to function. The Pisces man's romantic quest is to transcend separation and to love All That Is. He can reach this state through the help of meditation, drugs ... or even a good old-fashioned relationship. But for him, a loving connection is a means to an End, a way to move from self to Self.

Unfortunately, all this spiritual talk is whimsy. More often than not, the Pisces man is more martyr than mystic, a spineless schlump who suffers on the cross of victimhood, hoping to evoke guilt and pity in others for his inability to do anything more useful than dream.

Put 'Em Together

So, can these two get it on? Although they both worship at the altar of Love, they go about relating in different ways. Libra is more sociable than easily overstimulated Pisces, who prefers take-out sushi over frequent dinner parties. And Pisces may feel disappointed that Libra is more interested in putting on a Good Face than doing Good Works.

However, they do have a meeting ground. The Pisces man can win over Libra with Art. Although not mystically-inclined, she does have an eye for beauty, and can appreciate a well-designed table or a graceful ballad. One of Pisces' greatest talents is his ability to draw on his Muse to create inspired songs, poems or paintings. His compositions express what cannot be articulated by words alone, and although they draw on emotions that are not her natural language, the Libra woman will get weak at the knees knowing that his song is about her.

Comment below or discuss Libra-Pisces compatibility in the forum.

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Torrain included a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I have had a on again off again relationship with a pisces male for 2 years. Recently I accused him of cheating after I went through his cell and discovered some text messages. Needless to say I put him out.

He has answered the phone when I called and he has responded to my text messages. When I send him messages such as I miss you and I want to see u he does not respond. I want him back what can I do. I am Miserable.... Please Help :(

Why did you go through his cell? Oh, I know why! You have Venus in Scorpio and Pluto conjunct your Ascendant! Your paranoid, probing nature seems to have gotten you in trouble. You don't say if your Pisces ex admitted to infidelity. It's certainly possible -- his Mars in Pisces, which can have sexual boundary problems, has been stimulated the last few years by both Uranus and a number of eclipses. Uranus excites him to act on his impulses, and to Pisces, there are many fish in the sea.

Regardless of whether you found him out or just alienated him by invading his privacy, it sounds like he is being civil but has written you off. I hear you're aching over this loss, but what do you expect? If he really did cheat on you, then why do you want him back? And if he didn't, his refusal to respond to your affectionate texts ought to teach ya to stop poking around. Pluto/Scorpio heavy people have a tendency to leave no stone unturned, often because they lack trust (often due to past betrayals) and expect to be burned. But don't you see how it can feel invasive if you're on the other end?

If you're feeling suspicious in the future, just be upfront about it! Don't go looking for clues.

Comment below to provide Torrain feedback, or discuss Sagittarius-Pisces compatibility in the forum.

Labels: astrology, breakups, pisces, sagittarius

Christy provided a birth time (not 100% accurate, but we'll work with it!) and writes,

Ok well the last few years have been crazy when it comes to my love life. I've been single for about a year and maybe about a month ago i was on line and i started to talk to this guy who is over sea's and is in the military. I have taken a liking to him. But i know he has a lot of female friends. But before this goes any further i want to know should i get my hopes up?

Your chart does indicate attraction to a military man. Aries -- the sign of war -- is on the cusp of your 7th House of Partnership. Its ruler, Mars, is in Virgo, the sign of the military (armed services). The house placement of your Venus -- which suggests where you find love -- is the 9th House of Faraway Places (Overseas).

The day you wrote me (8/2), transiting retrograde Venus in Virgo was conjunct your natal Jupiter. You were probably feeling optimistic and hopeful (Jupiter) about love (Venus), yet also somewhat cautious (Virgo) and hesitant to move forward (retrograde). Venus goes direct on September 8, which is a good time to proceed with new relationships. However, note that Saturn enters Virgo on September 2 and conjoins your Jupiter later the same month, squelching your feeling that there are boundless opportunities. And next year, Saturn will conjoin your natal Mars (signifying this Pisces man), resulting in obstacles toward fulfillment of your desires ... or perhaps a serious commitment.

Comment below: Should Christy get her hopes up about this Pisces military man?

Labels: astrology, gemini, pisces

First off, it takes so much initiative for a Pisces man to get off his butt to break up with you, that he must have really wanted out. Maybe the real you didn't compare to the fantasy you, and he just couldn't bear the dissonance between the two.

Regardless, you want him to give you a second chance. Remember, the best way to woo a Pisces is with lowbrow Piscean pleasures: drugs, music, movies, video games. Send him a CARE package containing a dime bag and a DVD you think would turn him on. Throw in a burned CD of some hard-to-find Dave Matthews gig, and he'll know you mean business.

Other Pisces men are too "beyond" to be seduced by media items. You must convince him that you are an embodiment of the Tantric Love Goddess, and you must never reveal your mundane flaws lest you burst his bliss bubble.

Frankly, it would be a lot easier to distract him from the day-to-day problems of relationship by keeping him high. Either that, or make his life so easy -- by taking care of dreary tasks like paying his bills and brushing his teeth -- that he won't feel challenged by life's difficulties, thanks to your efforts to shield him.

It's not easy to get a Pisces man back, but if you're willing to drape a Neptunian veil of delusion over his eyes, he may let you into his graces once again.

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Such a Virgo provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

Ok, I have been involved very deeply with a pisces male four years my junior for exactly eleven months. He has a girlfriend (I think she's a Taurus), he's been with her since before he and I got together. She lives in another state and depending on how well they are getting along, she visits him anywhere from 2-4 times a month (although she never stays for longer than two days). When she visits he's with me until the minute that she gets here and he makes plans to be with me even before she leaves. The two of them argue because she can tell that he doesn't want her to come, but he won't tell her not to. Not only do he and I work together but we honestly spend all of our free time (when she's not here) with each other. We go on vacations together very often, (we actually have two really amazing ones that are in the works for December of this year and March of next year), and we share the same social circle. I could write a book about he and I, but basically my question is this: I've never been so in love, because of the depth of my feelings for him I am now so much more open to the possibilities of love and life. I've tried to leave him alone because he hasn't left her and gives me no indication that he will. But whenever I leave him, both he and I are miserable. The little that I know of his and her relationship doesn't seem like a happy one, but they are both signs that almost never give up, even when unhappy. What should I do? My heart says to stay and continue to be the light of his life (I know that I am and this has been confirmed by both his family and friends), but my mind says that he'll never leave her as long as he has me to run to. I think that what they once shared has faded but that it will take them both a while to admit it. Like I said, I could write a book, but based on what you've just read, what do you think?

You have a North Node/Sun/Venus/Saturn stellium in Virgo in your Second House of Self-Worth. Venus -- the love planet -- is in its "fall" in Virgo, which basically means that your romantic and sensual needs are not easily met, as they are expressed in a critical, analytical manner. (The opposite of Venus' fall is its "exaltation" in romantic, divinity-seeking Pisces.) In addition, your Venus is conjunct Saturn, a pairing that can leave you feeling deprived of love. (See my post on Saturn and Venus.)

The way I see it, you can either stay or leave. If you stay, you are accepting this arrangement as is. Yet if you were totally cool with it, you would not be writing me.

If you leave, it would for strategic reasons -- with a desired outcome of making him see the light so that he breaks up with his long-distance girlfriend and comes back to you, 100% available.

If you make an ultimatum -- "You have to choose between her and me" -- you may risk losing him.

I could get all karmic on you and ask if you unconsciously sought this type of relationship to confirm your view that you are not going to get what you want. But I won't. You're here now, and you want a solution. Unfortunately, there are no easy answers -- just put up with it, or leave. (If there's an alternative I've missed, my readers will tell me!)

Fortunately, you're getting a planetary kick in the pants. Transiting Uranus in Pisces in your Eighth House of Sexual Intimacy is currently opposing your Venus-Saturn conjunction. Something's gotta change, and perhaps you are writing me because you feel the stirrings. You are sick of the status quo. How your love life will shake up, I don't know ... but it will. And if you don't take the reigns of revolution into your own hands, Uranus' unique brand of shock therapy will come from outside.

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Pisces Male Blogger gave his birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I have been co-habitating with a Scorpio woman (Taurus Rising, Libra Moon, 800 planets in the Sixth House) for nearly 15 years, and we have a 9 year old daughter. We are buying a house and my new medical benefits could save us a load of money if we were to get married. We've both had our issues about the government impinging on our personal lives, hence marriage has not been a priority. However, now that we are both on the deed, she wants us to tie the knot.

Although I've been committed to her all this time, the thought of marriage freaks me out. Maybe I just have bad associations with the institution. Regardless, here I am, and I have to make a decision. Last Friday, I realized that getting married would be tantamount to closing the door on my fantasies. I mean, I'm not screwing around now, but if I were to get married, I'd be driving a nail into the coffin of countless opportunities not acted upon.

Also, she's not a nice Jewish girl. Ever since college I've avoided Jewish girls like the plague, yet all of a sudden -- now that the marriage discussion is on the table -- I'm realizing my girlfriend doesn't look like the type of girl I am supposed to marry.

Please help, Jeff!

Transiting Uranus is conjoining your Seventh House Pisces Sun. This house governs marriage and legal partnerships, which are a prerequisite for the sharing of financial resources governed by the Eighth House. If you want to benefit as a single economic unit, then the government rewards you -- if you're married (and in a heterosexual relationship).

Uranus is the planet of independence and revolution. Under the influence of this outer planet, one's need for freedom may result in separation or infidelity. However, what is revolution? It is doing things differently, breaking from the status quo -- namely, your status quo, not necessarily that of the culture at large. For you, taking the leap into deeper commitment is drastically different than anything you've done before.

Yet you are coming up against these "images" of the perfect wife. Your dreamy Pisces Sun rules your Twelfth House of Unconscious Fantasies, Blind Spots and Karma. You could think of this house as containing unprocessed "stuff" from before you were born. How deeply have you explored what it means to be Jewish? How do you feel about not perpetuating the Chosen People's gene pool -- about having a half-goy daughter (God love her)? What would your great-grandmother think? This is also the house of Confinement, and as your Seventh rules your Twelfth, you may associate marriage with loss of freedom. (Uh, doesn't every guy?)

My advice to you, Pisces Male Blogger, is to get over it. You've got a good thing, don't screw it up! You have this unconscious fear that your girlfriend -- after fifteen years -- will turn into your mother once you get married, but I think you'd know by now what you're getting into. If you can spend that much time living with a woman with 800 planets in her Sixth House, then you can survive anything.

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Bex provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I recently seduced a man I have been attracted to for quite some time, we share the same birthday, same year.
However, because I am so shy, I left in the morning without arranging to see him again, he only lives round the corner from me, and we have mutual friends, he's seriously hot stuff! Is it wise to pursue a fellow piscean, and how do I go about it?

Why are you asking me? If this man is your astrological twin, can you not assume that he likes to be pursued exactly the same way you like it? Yes, you may have your planets in different house positions, and you may have different Rising signs, but even your Moons were in the same sign on the day of your birth.

With an Aries Venus, your seduction style is direct -- and with the same placement in his chart, your Pisces man will be attracted to a straightforward woman. (In fact, both of you may want to be "in charge" in matters of love, despite your Piscean passivity.) It sounds like you slept with him, but that you split before he woke up, or at the very least had some awkward exchanges without saying more than "See ya around" -- or whatever you Brits say after a one-night stand. You can't be that shy if you seduced him. Maybe your Venus in Aries-Mars in Aquarius energy provoked you to run in the a.m. because part of you doesn't want to be too intimate.

If you do manage to start a relationship with your astro-twin, do let me know how it goes. I'm curious to see how much "juice" there is when you two have so much astrologically in common. Certainly, a different Ascendant and different house placements provide enough variety, as you both would express your energies in different areas of life. So maybe that's enough to keep the fires burning.

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Kali provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

i am a female interested in a female sagittarius sun, gemini rising, and pisces moon. Things were going good and she suddenly changed and didn't want to be bothered with me anymore. are we compatible?

Your female interest is highly mutable, meaning that her Ascendant, Moon and Sun are all in signs known for being mental, disseminating, flexible. Mutable signs are not stubborn like fixed signs, nor or they ones to take initiative, like cardinal signs.

Uranus, the planet of sudden change and independence, just stationed in Pisces (apparently stopping its forward motion to move backwards in the sky) this past Saturday. Because Uranus is transiting through a mutable sign, it is making "hard aspects" to your girlfriend's Rising sign and Sun sign. Uranus is definitely conjunct your Pisces Sun, and is in the sign of her Moon.

You're going through a period of awakening and revolution throughout the year, with this outer planet challenging you to shake up whatever has been stuck in your solar self-expression. Your highly mutable friend may have Uranus transiting all three points -- her Ascendant, Sun and Moon. This could bring on such a level of instability and recklessness that predictability will not be her strong suit. All she may be thinking about is her need for independence.

It may not be about you -- you just happen to be around.

Her Pisces Moon conjunct your Pisces Sun makes for a good connection. The Gemini and Sag don't mix well with either your Cancer Ascendant and Moon, or your Pisces Sun.

I would advise you to just give her time and space, and see if she comes around after Uranus runs its course.

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Scorpio provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

i'm a scorpio female. i unilateraly fell in love with a pisces married man. he is 8 month older, he is my ms thesis supervisor. i can't stop thinking of him, so i'd like to know what are the magic techniques to drive him crazy or seduce him even though he is married.

You like to act recklessly, and may not even be aware of it. A very tight Mars-Uranus conjunction in your Twelfth House of Self-Undoing indicates a tendency to take risks without much thought about the consequences. Your impulsivity is expanded and intensified by this planetary pair's conjunction to Jupiter and Pluto.

Compulsivity and erotic charge in matters of love correlate with your natal Venus's square -- or 90 degree angle -- to Pluto (obsession), Jupiter (idealism, exaggeration) and Mars (sexuality).

Boundary problems with men are indicated by your Sun's conjunction to Neptune, planet of delusion and dissolution. This conjunction also suggests an attraction to Pisces men, as Neptune rules this final sign of the zodiac.

Your Seventh House of Partnership is inhabited by Saturn, planet of hardship and deficiency, suggesting a struggle to experience fulfillment in relationship, as well as an attraction to authority figures. The ruler of your Seventh House -- which has Aries on the cusp -- is Mars. This planet is in Libra, the sign of marriage, and is conjunct (as mentioned above) Jupiter, planet associated with university professors, in the Twelfth House of Secret Love Affairs. Sounds like your thesis advisor!

Do yourself a favor, Scorpio, and leave this guy alone. Just finish your degree. Having an affair with a married man is no good. Having an affair with your thesis advisor is no good. I know I'm being moralistic here, but there's a reason some cultural taboos and educational policies are put in place.

Transiting Pluto in your Third House of Gossip is exactly conjunct your natal Venus right now, contributing to total love obsession. Moreover, it is squaring your Jupiter (higher education). If you're not careful, word can get out (tr. Pluto in 3rd) about your affair (12th), possibly undermining your chances of finishing your degree.

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Pisces Mania provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

i met this pisces male who is eight years my junior and he is from another country to boot. love at first sight and despite our language difficulties we connected on a spiritual, emotional, physical and psychic level. never experienced this type of relationship before. but he confuses the heck out of me.
i could tell from his nervousness and sweaty hands that he was really into me but then he'd ignore my phone calls for several weeks only to call me out of the blue and ask why i didn't call more? the last time there was two months in between our inneraction (because he stopped returning my calls, i refused to keep trying) but curiosity got the best of me and i called. he got in touch a week later and came over. greeted me with the most passionate kiss ever and asked again why i didn't call more and that he was "waiting" for me. it's like he doesn't even realize he is the one being distant or perhaps he's good at lying. so, it's now been a month since we last saw one another and i left a message several weeks ago telling him i missed him and would like to spend more time together. of course, no response and i'm ready to walk away. is this typical pisces behavior? have read pisces are indecisive and live in their own world. how do i know to stick it out and fight the good fight or stop fooling myself? help! i'm hopelessly in love with this strange creature....

Stop fooling yourself. It sounds like this Pisces man wants you to be in the driver's seat, yet he won't even get in the car with you. You leave frequent messages, and he complains you don't call more ... plus he rarely responds. I don't care how much you love him ... he's not living up to his part of the deal. However much his feelings for you are reciprocated, his near-total passivity -- for which Pisces gets a bad rap -- is a deal-breaker.

You have Venus in Taurus in your Seventh House. Stability and a feeling of being valued are necessary for you to have a satisfying relationship -- neither of which this Pisces man is offering. You also have transiting Uranus -- planet of awakening and sudden change -- transiting your natal Jupiter in Pisces. This planet may signify your Pisces man, as Jupiter represents people from foreign lands, and it is in his sign. This transit -- which ends February of next year -- indicates a lack of any stability with regards to him. He may come in and out of your life with no predictable frequency. Do you want that?

You currently have the opportunity (Jupiter) to build a dream (Pisces) home or home life (Fourth House), which can help provide you a sense of security (Jupiter rules your Second House). I'd suggest you put your energies into bringing the best of Pisces into your life ... not the worst.

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