It's a bitch trying to hitch a wild horse, so it's reasonable to assume that one must appeal to the upper half of the centaur if you want to marry him. The higher mind of a Sag studies the religious or philosophical foundations of marriage. The animal self wants to just gallop off to distant lands and impregnate many mares.

Therefore, a Sagittarian's faith, his religious commitment, would be a primary motivation to tie the knot. If God says a man and a woman shall unite and make babies, then Sag will be the first one to jump onto the bandwagon. He's not a conformist, but he'll do what everyone else is doing if there's an inspiring reason to do so.

Not all Sagittarians are God-fearing folk, though. This sign relates to both the legal system and foreign lands, so obtaining a green card would also make him want to exchange rings. If he's truly in love but bristles at the idea of being constrained by a piece of paper, he'll do it anyway to keep his beloved in his country. Or if he's not really in love but his student Visa ran out, he'll exchange vows just so he can stay overseas.

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Jara aka BlahBlah writes for 'Seduction Central' on Saturdays. (Thanks, Jeff!)

(Disclaimer: This blog entry is for humorous and educational purposes only. Adhere to the following advice at your own risk.)

Venusianprincess provided her birth information and writes:

There has been this Scorpio guy that I have been talking to for quite awhile. We've known each other for 4 years and now, out of the blue, I am starting to fall for him. I have always kept him at a distance, but now I want to be with him and I'm scared that I will be hurt (he hasn't given me any reason for feeling this way, he actually treats me like a princess) So I don't know why I feel this way. I am 26 and he is 40 (a young 40). His venus is in sagittarius and his moon sign is in pisces. A part of me wants to go further (he wants to marry me), but a part of me wants to keep it like it is (because I'm scared). Any insight would be so greatly appreciated. Thanks so much.

Taurus and Scorpio are opposite signs, which could explain the magnetic, yet uncomfortable attraction you have for this Scorpio guy. Scorpio is a passionate sign that yearns for something deep. When in love, Scorpio wants to make a lasting commitment and know that you will always be there for him. This should appeal to you, since Taurus is an earth sign that also needs to know where a relationship stands. Your Venus in Taurus reinforces this core value regarding relationships, as well. But maybe your Scorpio's intensity is making you feel pressured...

Your chart is loaded with the fire element, which contradicts the long-term commitment valued by your Taurus Sun. Your Moon, Mercury and Mars are all in fire signs (Sagittarius and Aries, respectively). Since you don't provide any specific external examples, the overwhelming amount of fire within your chart could be the main cause for the let's-wait-awhile, commitment-phobic feelings regarding making the ultimate commitment of togetherness - marriage.

Your Sagittarius Moon dislikes the emotional burden of being responsible for other people's feelings (especially if they're complex). Perhaps your Sag Moon is intuitively sensing that your Scorpio man (with his sensitive Pisces Moon) will require more from you emotionally than you're willing (or able) to give. Not only is your Moon in a freedom-loving fire sign, but it's also located in your 5th house (naturally associated with Leo). Short-term love affairs and fun are 5th house concerns. In other words, having fun is an emotional craving for you, so keeping things "as it is" is your way of keeping things light and fun (are you catching the pattern here?).

Aries is not exactly the most relationship-oriented placement. With both your Mercury and Mars in this headstrong, independent sign, you are probably concerned about whether your man will be able to keep up with you or hold you back from doing what you want to do. Your fear could be the result of you questioning if the relationship will provide the constant mental and physical stimulation that you enjoy. As I mentioned before, boredom = no fun to that 5th house Moon of yours.

Having so much fire in your chart (your Ascendant and North Node are in Leo - yet another fire sign), you most likely have an idealized definition of love. You mention "falling for" your Scorpio "out of the blue" despite having known each other for 4 years. What Aries, Leo and Sagittarius all have in common is that they are prone to sudden infatuations (or falling in love, as they call it), which can lead to disappointment when the affair doesn't go as they expected. In your considerations of getting engaged, are thoughts of how past relationships ended making you less optimistic (i.e., scared) about the future?

In addition, you have lesson-instilling Saturn in Libra, which means you have some karmic concerns about relationships/partnerships. You have learned over time to take entering into and exiting them very seriously. Mr. Scorpio may get impatient with how long it takes you to weigh all of the pros and cons of where your relationship is headed, but this process is necessary for you to feel comfortable with your final decision. The upside is that once you finally make a decision, it will be a lasting one.

As I write this, the Moon is now in Taurus and Saturn is in trine aspect to your Sun. The next 2 days or so is a great time for you to take advantage of this period when you'll be able to exchange your foggy, rose-colored glasses for a level-head in order to view your relationship realistically.

With your Mercury-Mars conjunction in your 9th house of long-distance travel, I suggest you book a trip to a foreign city, state, country or continent for you and your Scorpio sweetie. This getaway will be a great boost to creating a safe emotional environment for your Sagittarius Moon to open up to your Scorpion about your marriage concerns. And who knows? It might also stir his Venus in Sagittarius (the 9th house's natural sign) to officially pop the question. ;)

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Pisces Male Blogger gave his birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I have been co-habitating with a Scorpio woman (Taurus Rising, Libra Moon, 800 planets in the Sixth House) for nearly 15 years, and we have a 9 year old daughter. We are buying a house and my new medical benefits could save us a load of money if we were to get married. We've both had our issues about the government impinging on our personal lives, hence marriage has not been a priority. However, now that we are both on the deed, she wants us to tie the knot.

Although I've been committed to her all this time, the thought of marriage freaks me out. Maybe I just have bad associations with the institution. Regardless, here I am, and I have to make a decision. Last Friday, I realized that getting married would be tantamount to closing the door on my fantasies. I mean, I'm not screwing around now, but if I were to get married, I'd be driving a nail into the coffin of countless opportunities not acted upon.

Also, she's not a nice Jewish girl. Ever since college I've avoided Jewish girls like the plague, yet all of a sudden -- now that the marriage discussion is on the table -- I'm realizing my girlfriend doesn't look like the type of girl I am supposed to marry.

Please help, Jeff!

Transiting Uranus is conjoining your Seventh House Pisces Sun. This house governs marriage and legal partnerships, which are a prerequisite for the sharing of financial resources governed by the Eighth House. If you want to benefit as a single economic unit, then the government rewards you -- if you're married (and in a heterosexual relationship).

Uranus is the planet of independence and revolution. Under the influence of this outer planet, one's need for freedom may result in separation or infidelity. However, what is revolution? It is doing things differently, breaking from the status quo -- namely, your status quo, not necessarily that of the culture at large. For you, taking the leap into deeper commitment is drastically different than anything you've done before.

Yet you are coming up against these "images" of the perfect wife. Your dreamy Pisces Sun rules your Twelfth House of Unconscious Fantasies, Blind Spots and Karma. You could think of this house as containing unprocessed "stuff" from before you were born. How deeply have you explored what it means to be Jewish? How do you feel about not perpetuating the Chosen People's gene pool -- about having a half-goy daughter (God love her)? What would your great-grandmother think? This is also the house of Confinement, and as your Seventh rules your Twelfth, you may associate marriage with loss of freedom. (Uh, doesn't every guy?)

My advice to you, Pisces Male Blogger, is to get over it. You've got a good thing, don't screw it up! You have this unconscious fear that your girlfriend -- after fifteen years -- will turn into your mother once you get married, but I think you'd know by now what you're getting into. If you can spend that much time living with a woman with 800 planets in her Sixth House, then you can survive anything.

Comment below: Should Pisces Male Blogger take the plunge?

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1. Come from a wealthy family. Scorpio has an incentive to marry into money, because then he gets half. Don't ask him to sign a pre-nup -- he will feel you don't trust him (which you don't), and he won't get his share of the booty after the divorce.
2. Withhold sex. Not entirely, because you want to give him a taste of what's to come. But hold back on the dirty stuff, and promise him you'll fulfill his kinky fantasies on the honeymoon.
3. Blackmail him. Dig up some dirt, and let him know you'll only keep his secrets if you two tie the knot.
4. Tell him that only through marriage can he truly control you. (The "c" word is Scorpio's favorite!) This institution, after all, was created to legitimize the sexual ownership of women.
   
5. While you're at it, give him carte blanche to screw around behind your back. He's going to do it, anyway. (This one is courtesy of a Scorpio female!)

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What are you thinking?

Cancer rules the family, old-fashioned values, and the home. Unless this Cancer man has restless Uranus compelling one of his love planets to break the rules of matrimony, you are as likely to break up his marriage as the Moon is likely to stop in her tracks.

And what is this whole seduction-of-married-men thing about, anyway? The planets may be far away, but they are not impartial. OK, Uranus may say, "Go for it!" but Saturn ... oh Saturn ... the god who keeps tabs on your karma -- he doesn't forget. Like Santa Claus, who makes a list of who's naughty and who's nice, Saturn will give you back whatever you put out. The witches say that it'll come back three-fold! And if not in this life, well ... in your next life you'll be born a leper or an orphan or one of those poor saps who's constantly cuckolded.

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OK, I'm gonna get on my moral high horse right now and tell you that it is wrong to break up a marriage.

That said, it's not so hard to get a married Sagittarius man. He's got a bit of wanderlust in him. The Sagittarius man does not like to be shackled in wedlock, so a mare on the other side of the fence will appeal to him, especially if she can promise adventure ... a rollick in greener pastures, for example.

On the other hand, some Sagittarius men love mounting the moral high horse. Sag is ruled by Jupiter, planet of ethics and religion. If the married man you covet has strong beliefs about the institution of marriage, then you're wasting your time. Find some other stallion ... preferably one's who's single!

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I'm not a big fan of the adjective Cancerian, but it is in the Free Dictionary. Can you be a Cancer but not Cancerian?

And how can you make a Cancerian man propose?

First of all, let me say right off the bat that you can't make anyone do anything. Cancer men have free will, even if their moods are at the whim of the Moon.

Secondly, why can't you just take the Crab by the pincers and propose to him? (On the other hand, Cancer respects tradition, and may not feel comfortable with such unorthodoxy!)

Now that I've put those matters aside, the only sure-fire way I know to make any man propose marriage is to threaten him with your imminent departure unless he forks over the ring. Hesitant men need to be cornered.

And anyways, what do you think is holding your Cancerian man back from getting down on his knee? Maybe you're not the kind of girl of which his mama would approve. Maybe he doesn't think you'd be a good mama yourself. Maybe he doesn't like your cooking.

These are important things to a Cancer man. Especially if he is Cancerian.

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