To feel remorse, you first have to be aware of -- and respect -- the experience of another being. Unfortunately, many people are either sociopathic or just not mature enough to recognize that others deserve fair treatment. The foundation of this understanding is based on rules and laws, moral codes that are hammered into our heads by our parents and society. This superegoic consciousness can be represented by Saturn. This strict planet is not all bad -- it is appropriate to repress certain instincts, when acting on them hurts others. Think of the Ten Commandments: It's not OK to steal or screw your neighbor's spouse, for example. If we all did whatever our instincts told us to do, we'd live in chaos.

And yet, our parents and society also teach us to repress vital parts of ourselves -- in the service of conformity, as well as submission to the State. Is it not sad that -- in becoming aware of our talents and desires that meet disapproval from the mainstream -- we feel like we are trespassing, or doing something wrong?

Libra, the sign in which Saturn finds its exaltation, is focused on doing what appears right or culturally appropriate. There is a core of strength in Libra, in its focus on fairness, justice and balance. And yet there is also a wishy-washy quality that comes from being so focused on pleasing all parties that Libra does not know what to do -- he does not trust his insides because he does not want to lose face.

How does a Libra feel when he violates his own sense of what is just?

All things being equal, a Libra may be less likely to be uncouth or to outright hurt another's feelings than other Sun signs. It is difficult to act on one's impulses when "the done thing" is foremost in one's mind. But if he has, say, a personal planet in blunt Sagittarius, critical Virgo, vindictive Scorpio or elitist Leo, he may relate in a manner that violates his own sense of decorum.

If there is an opportunity to make a Libra feel guilty, it is by exploiting the inner conflict between (A) his priority on civility and fair treatment; and (B) his impulses that conflict with the values embraced by his conscious Self. That is, to make his Libra Sun feel offended by the behavior of one of his subpersonalities.

You may need to draw special attention to how one of his other personal planets acts in a depraved manner, for a Libra may very well disown this planet and project it on to others, as he cannot bear acknowledging that there is a part of himself that can be so crude.

Bear in mind that the point of this exercise is not to make him feel guilty out of malevolence, but rather to help him find a higher expression for parts of himself that are underdeveloped.

There is a risk, though, of aiding in the suppression of healthy instincts that just happen to not be "nice." There is a place for bluntness, for exposing ugly truths, for being critical in order to help someone make improvements upon themselves. Not all human behavior needs to be "sugar and spice and everything nice." So, if you care about your Libra man, use guilt sparingly, for if he remains stuck in his Sun sign modus operandi, he will rarely express any emotional depth or engage in meaningful exchanges in the pursuit of a higher truth.

Comment below: What would a Libra feel guilty about?

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Air signs like to talk things out -- yet the three members of this clan do so in vastly different ways. Take, for example, Libra and Aquarius. Libra talks as a way of building a one-on-one connection, and one of her prime assets (as well as liabilities) is being able to view an issue from multiple perspectives. This understanding helps her to moderate between opposing parties, and suits her well for careers in mediation, law and public relations. However, this ability to balance the scales can work against her in her personal life, for in trying to please everyone, she may neglect her own needs.

Aquarius, on the other hand, approaches relationships from a more detached perspective. The Water Bearer is friendly, to be sure, but in a more impersonal way than Libra. Aquarius talks to spread ideas through the collective, as his ultimate purpose is to improve the lot of humanity. He has fairly fixed ideas, and thus is less able to be swayed by someone else's viewpoint. He feels confident that his ideas are revolutionary, yet he also feels misunderstood because so few embrace his vision. This sense of alienation can make him unyielding in discussions.

What happens if you put Libra and Aquarius in a romantic realtionship? As much as these two Sun signs are compatible, they have their differences. Libra, being an initiating cardinal sign, will attempt to resolve their problems, yet Aquarius can be so stubborn in his belief of "how things should be" that Libra -- able to get where he's coming from -- jumps off the fence (where she lives much of the time) to his side.

After having compromised numerous times, Libra's anger starts to build up. This Venus-ruled sign may be refined and polite, but everybody gets angry! Libra just has a hard time owning and expressing it. After all, Libra is opposite from Aries, the Warrior, who has no problem blowing off steam. As Aries is direct, Libra can express her anger indirectly. For example, if she does not want to agree with Aquarius but also does not want to be upfront about it, she may use indecision as an act of defiance.

Comment below: Share your Libra-Aquarius relationship experiences.

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dazedandconfused included a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I am a Libra that married a Gemini pretty young. We have been married for a while, have 2 kids. He does all the things he's supposed to...but I have not had that hot steamy feeling for him for a long time. I don't tell him for fear of destroying him, and the kids. NOW there is this guy I am around as a friend, but pretty regularly. From the very first time we met there was this energy...now that we know each other better, he's a libra too. So I have been doing my research and this is what I am faced with??My husband, a gemini is like my perfect match...and this libra is a perfect sex match?? So I guess I need advice. How do I as a Libra control myself around this other libra, when I have been in this "boring" marriage. And also, ways I might reignite that spark with my gemini.

Long-term relationships often lose their fire, and it can seem easier to act on your sexual feelings toward someone new than to stir the dying embers within your own marriage. However, ethics dictates that you do the right thing -- which means keeping your pants buttoned when you're near the Libra man. I'm sure you don't want to compromise your marriage and family life by having an affair.

The best way to control yourself is to make a decision that you're just not going to "go there." As long as you feed energy to your attractions outside the marriage, you water down your intention to "reignite the spark" within it. There is nothing wrong with flirting, but when this behavior is more than playful, you need to pull back. For starters, set some boundaries with yourself around this Libra man. What kinds of touch increases your desire? What topics of conversation feel naughty? Make a commitment to not cross whatever line you've drawn in the sand.

There is a lot of push-pull in your chart that may illuminate your dilemma. For starters, your Libra Sun is conjunct both Saturn and Jupiter. Saturn honors commitment and longevity, while Jupiter craves freedom and adventure. Your challenge is to integrate both energies into your self-expression, to expand your horizons within set limitations. These Libra planets are in your Fifth House of Romance opposite your impetuous Aries Moon, suggesting that your need to act on your desires right now conflicts with the need to cultivate zest in a long-term partnership.

In addition, both of your "love" planets are influenced by the planet that craves excitement and independence. Your Uranus is conjunct Venus in Sagittarius (the sign that likes to "play the field") and square Mars in Leo. The electric energy of this outer planet makes restraint and impulse control near-impossible.

So I see that it's not exactly easy to hold yourself back. Boredom in a monogamous relationship for someone with these Uranus aspects and personal planets in Fire signs is a recipe for trouble, so it is essential that you find a way to bring excitement and inspiration into your marriage. Since your Sagittarius Venus is in your Sixth House of Daily Routine, I'd suggest you find ways to disrupt whatever ruts you've gotten into as a couple -- you know, the rituals of daily life that you've fallen into by force of habit.

Your husband's Venus and Mars are in earthy Taurus, suggesting he's slower to arousal than you are, yet his love planets are opposed by Uranus, so he's got a similar dynamic to yourself. Perhaps, because it's an opposition, he projects his Uranus onto you and lets you take that on in your marriage ... in which case, his job would be to "own" his own desire for excitement and unpredictability.

Related post: Are Libras unfaithful?

Comment below: How do you bring the spice back into a marriage?

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Rosalind provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I was married to a libra man, we have a child together. i want him back, and he will only say "the door is never closed". how do i proceed? how do i win back a libra?

Coming from a Libra, "The door is never closed" can mean one of two things:

• "I'm not willing to say 'no' to you because that will hurt your feelings."
  
• "I am not able to make a firm decision, hence the door always remains open."
  

In the first case, he is being insincere, and there is no hope of winning him back. In the second case, you have some room to squeeze through the door. Being an Air sign, your ex approaches relationships mentally. Because Libra always views a situation from various perspectives, your ex is balancing both the positive and negative views of your prior relationship with each other. If you can add the weight of rationale to the scale that's in favor of reunion, then you've got a chance.

I suspect that he may have experienced your Jupiter-Mars conjunction in Aries as overbearing, so you should not try to win him over with force or an appeal to "higher reason." Your best bet may be to rely on the wit of your Mercury in Gemini. Mercury in such a flexible sign knows how to maneuver through cracks and skirt around obstructions. Although not powered by the "almighty" attitude of your Jupiter or your Sagittarius Moon, this is a good thing, for Libra may feel that you're trying too hard to convince him to take you back.

Your Mercury opposition to fantasy-prone Neptune provides you a strong imagination and poetic flair that will help appeal to Libra's idealism about relationships. I suggest you use your gift of gab to incrementally win your Libra ex to your side. Then use your fiery and fun Venus in Leo (supported by trines from both Jupiter and Neptune) to turn up the heat in the romance department.

What this means in English: If your Libra ex-husband is of two minds about whether to reunite, convert him to your side with stimulating conversation and playful flirtatiousness. Don't come on too strong with directness.

Comment below: What do you think "the door is never closed" means? And how would you win back a Libra?

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The following guest post is by Neith aka Diane Lang.

We are all familiar with the reaction when someone says they have the Sun in Scorpio, but there are other less obvious ways the same energy crops up in natal charts. Those of us who have a strong Pluto influence (for example, a loaded Eighth House, Pluto in aspect to personal planets or Scorpio Rising) can also act a lot like those Scorpio Sun types. I will use an example from my own life to illustrate this . . .

I am a Libra Sun, Libra Moon person with Venus in Sagittarius in the First House. This translates as a pleasant, friendly sort with a charming manner. When I was young, it meant long blond hair, a casual sporty style and a breezy, easy going way about me – Sagittarius bait in essence! The catch is that I have Mars and Mercury in Scorpio conjunct my Scorpio Ascendant, with Pluto squaring my Mars. Throw in a Pluto sextile Moon aspect, and you have a Plutonian type. This meant the exterior was far different from what was going on inside. Now I could also project the Scorpio Rising pretty effectively too, notably when I was angry about something.

Sagittarians love the chase far more than the capture, and if you want to keep their interest, you just need to stay ever so slightly out of reach. There was one Sagittarius guy that was drawn to the Venus in Sagittarius style, and flirted with me like crazy when I was out partying with a girl friend. I found him equally attractive, so I came back another time and started chatting him up. The minute he got wind of the Scorpio intensity, he ran so fast all I saw were hoof prints in the dirt and the bushes waving from the breeze created by his departure.

The moral of this tale is this: If you have lots of Pluto aspects, a loaded Eighth House or Scorpio Rising, even if you are a sweetheart of a Libra, lighthearted Gemini, fun-loving Leo or some other harmless looking sort, you are not nearly the lightweight you appear. So don’t be surprised that when you unveil your natural intensity, you get a different reaction than anticipated. Oh, one other thing ... if you are a Plutonian, it is a good idea to start working on accepting that side of yourself without prejudice and acknowledging you are one of the power-brokers of the Zodiac. There are plenty of rewards . . . = smirk=

About the Author
Neith AKA Diane Lang writes a blog on Synastry at Neith on Synastry, where she writes posts answering relationship questions from readers and does the occasional post on how the outer planets in particular affect our ability to relate. She also has another blog, Neith.net, which covers a broad range of topics relating to Astrology and her life. If you enjoy her style and are interested in having her take a look at your chart, she does written reports for a reasonable fee too.

Related posts:

• Pluto problems in relationships
• Integration and dangers in the process of healing Pluto problems
• Pluto vs. Neptune: How do you process your emotions?

Comment below: Are you a Plutonic person? How does this aspect of yourself conflict with other elements of your chart?

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Joke of the Day

What do Pisces and Libra have in common?

Scales!

Can Pisces win over a Libra? Other than scales, what else do they have in common? Venus -- the planet of love, art and relationships -- is dignified in Libra and exalted in Pisces. The goddess is happy in both signs.

The Libra Woman

A woman with her Sun in Libra is -- more than any other sign -- attracted to partnership. Not being in one may make her unhappy, because she shines brightest when she is relating to another person. She's willing to make all sorts of compromises to please her partner, and may even lapse into codependent behavior, putting his needs above her own. Many of her decisions are based on how their outcome will impact others, as she wants to maintain harmony with her loved ones. And, sometimes she goes to great lengths to avoid being seen as the "bad guy."

The Pisces Man

Sacrifice, of course, is familiar to the Pisces man. The last sign of the zodiac is ruled by Neptune, the planet that dissolves boundaries in the quest for enlightenment -- or at least a good buzz. Pisces is the sign of the monk and the alcoholic -- those lost (or developed) souls who choose retreat, or who withdraw into fantasy because they can't tolerate reality well enough to function. The Pisces man's romantic quest is to transcend separation and to love All That Is. He can reach this state through the help of meditation, drugs ... or even a good old-fashioned relationship. But for him, a loving connection is a means to an End, a way to move from self to Self.

Unfortunately, all this spiritual talk is whimsy. More often than not, the Pisces man is more martyr than mystic, a spineless schlump who suffers on the cross of victimhood, hoping to evoke guilt and pity in others for his inability to do anything more useful than dream.

Put 'Em Together

So, can these two get it on? Although they both worship at the altar of Love, they go about relating in different ways. Libra is more sociable than easily overstimulated Pisces, who prefers take-out sushi over frequent dinner parties. And Pisces may feel disappointed that Libra is more interested in putting on a Good Face than doing Good Works.

However, they do have a meeting ground. The Pisces man can win over Libra with Art. Although not mystically-inclined, she does have an eye for beauty, and can appreciate a well-designed table or a graceful ballad. One of Pisces' greatest talents is his ability to draw on his Muse to create inspired songs, poems or paintings. His compositions express what cannot be articulated by words alone, and although they draw on emotions that are not her natural language, the Libra woman will get weak at the knees knowing that his song is about her.

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This post was written by Jara aka BlahBlah, who writes for 'Seduction Central' on Saturdays. (Thanks, Jeff!)

Disclaimer: This blog entry is for humorous and educational purposes only. Adhere to the following advice at your own risk.

Ah, air signs. So breezy. So much fun. So deceptively low maintenance. Who would want to break up with one? If the answer to that question is you, then you're in luck. Here's an easy-breezy guide to how to get out of your relationship with a gregarious Gemini, likeable Libra or abstract Aquarius.

The Breakup Strategy

Geminis are probably the most difficult of the three air signs to break up with because you are in a relationship with (at least) two people who happen to have the same face. Yes, the Twins are a handful. You probably fell in love with the charming twin. The Charmer is the smooth talker that always manages to say the right thing at the right time. You've tried to break up with Gemini before, but The Charmer kept you coming back for more. The other twin makes you remember why you wanted to end the relationship in the first place. Let's call this one The Actor. The Actor will try on different moods to provoke a certain response out of his audience (in this case, you). Why? Purely for entertainment purposes. The difficulty in breaking up with Gemini comes in if you're not prepared to handle both of the Twins at the same time (either one can appear and disappear at will). Don't try to break up with The Charmer by having a two-way conversation. This twin will just talk you out of your decision. Send a quick "we're over" text message or email. The Charmer will appreciate the brevity and try to contact you. Don't pick up the phone, answer the door or respond to any written communications. After two weeks, The Charmer will have moved on to someone or something else. Leaving The Actor is harder because this twin has a seemingly endless amount of scripts to choose from. This one will enjoy the drama of the breakup and milk it for all it's worth. When you're emotional, he acts like he couldn't care less. When you're distant, he's passionate. And so on...The Actor has more stamina than The Charmer. Expect to hear back from him for a long time after the official breakup.

Breaking up with Libra is relatively easy. Make the breakup as pleasant as possible. This sign does not handle anger well at all, and can be very unpredictable when agitated. For example, Libra could snap and start smashing plates, only to act as if nothing out of the ordinary happened 10 seconds later. In other words, don't get Libra upset. The best way to keep Libra in a pleasant mood is to create a beautiful atmosphere for the breakup. Take Libra to his or her favorite restaurant (public places are great for keeping Libra's anger in check because they don't like making scenes). Keep the enjoyable conversation flowing (helps set up the sneak attack later). Casually mention your solo future plans. Libra will notice the lack of "we" in your plans and ask you about it. Use this as your opener to discuss why you think it's best for both of you to explore other opportunities for happiness (don't worry, Libra understands euphemisms). Resist suggestions to go to couples counseling. Don't answer the "What can I do to make things better?" question Libra is surely to ask. Whatever you do, don't blame Libra. This will make Libra defensive and start a passive-aggressive, never-ending (although reasonable) debate that you have no chance in hell of winning (unless you're a Gemini). Remember to tell Libra that you have no hard feelings and would like to remain friends (regardless of whether this is true or not). If you don't care to take this long route down Breakup Blvd., then simply forget your manners at all times and/or introduce Libra to her dream date. She'll thank you in the future by sending you an invitation to their wedding.

There are two types of Aquarians. The optimal breakup strategy differs according to which Aquarian you're trying to dump. There's the Aquarian ruled by Saturn (keywords: structure, convention) that is now used to being in a relationship and will resist change. Then there's the more widely known version of Aquarius ruled by Uranus (keywords: free-thinking, unconventional) that already has one foot out the door. Obviously, the latter doesn't require much convincing to accept his walking papers. Tell him it's been fun, but you've outgrown the relationship. However, the Saturn-ruled Aquarius...now that's another story. She will hate that she's emotionally dependent on you, but will still try to hold onto the relationship. Be prepared to watch the inner battle Aquarius wages with himself over this contradiction. Contrary to popular belief, Aquarians don't dislike being in relationships. They dislike being in confining relationships. Paradoxically, if you allowed them their freedom to come and go as they please, they will not give up the relationship without a fight. After all, Aquarius is a fixed sign and can be very stubborn. The easiest way to get an Aquarius to let go is to start restricting freedoms (think prison guard), become a professional nagger (think PMS-ing Mommy), and take every opportunity to treat others as if they're beneath you (think royalty). Remember to maintain a holier than thou attitude while fighting to keep the status quo of inequality for all, and you won't have to worry about spending your Saturdays participating in another peace protest or recycle program against your will ever again.

The Ex-Files

Geminis can be the exes from heaven or hell. It really depends on what you liked most about them. If you enjoyed their stimulating company and all the funny jokes they cracked, you'll have a friend for life. If you expected to have a white, picket-fence house, 2.5 kids, and a dog named Skippy with your Gemini, then the relationship probably left a bitter aftertaste in both of your mouths. Regardless of whether things ended on good or bad terms, prepare to be bad-mouthed whenever someone asks Gemini why things didn't work out between you two. File for full custody of the children.

You're probably still a bit in love with your Libra ex. That's OK. It happens to the best of us. Why does this happen? Well, Libra probably spent most of the time being (or trying to be) your ideal mate, so it's hard to let go of that fantasy. And it doesn't help matters that she still flirts with you as if it's your first date. Libra will probably work out a fair custody agreement re: the children. Don't expect to be the favorite parent.

If you're a fire or air sign, you're still good friends with your Aquarius ex - meaning you speak to him every several months or so to play catch up. If you're a water or earth sign, you're wondering why you feel as if you were temporarily abducted by aliens. Aquarius will want to be on good terms with you, but you won't understand why.

How did your relationship with a Gemini, Libra or Aquarius end? Did the end of your relationship with an air sign leave you windswept or walking on clouds?

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Lust alone can bring people together, but it's not the glue that makes them stick. Whether you want some easy-to-apply paste or 'til-death-do-us-part cement, compatibility is the adhesive that helps two people cohere.

If Libra likes Elmer's glue, then Scorpio digs the Crazy variety. Although both brands fasten, Scorpio's going to cling alot more fiercely than Libra, who's into forging the connection but not so committed to an everlasting bond.

Libra loves the idea of relationships, but this sign's element -- Air -- is not as integral to the love-paste recipe as Water, Scorpio's element. Scorpio feels his way into relationship, and it is the emotional intimacy that keeps his glue gummy.

However, before they even open up their art supply cabinets, these signs may think they've got a chance. Both signs are (traditionally) ruled by the lovers, Venus (Libra) and Mars (Scorpio). Both are associated with the relationship sector of the horoscope (7th and 8th Houses). Scorpio -- immediately following Libra on the zodiacal wheel -- picks up on the former's initial impulse to connect and deepens it.

But that's where the similarities end ... and don't we require two similar surfaces if we want to fasten them together?

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Ali provided a birth time (click chart to view) and wrote,

I am totally in love with a wonderful man who is a Virgo sun and Virgo moon and we both have Libra as our venus--i think that means something but I'm not entirely sure.

I haven't allowed myself to fall deeply in love with anyone for 15 years, ever since a very charming libra broke my heart into little pieces. After a very, very, very, very long and frusturating relationship with an aquarius i decided it was better to risk a broken heart then feel the emptieness of a relationship with no emotional connection. Which brings me to my question.

Six months ago I met and fell totally in love with a wonderful man. My only problem is that I have pangs of fear--fear of suffering a broken heart again, fear of abandonment, etc. This fear issue may be holding back our relationship from progressing to the next stage of commitment. Should I put my trust in him? Is it true that a Virgo man is a safe bet?

Your love planets (Venus and Mars) as well as your Moon are in relationship-oriented Libra, signifying a strong need to connect. However, this Libra stellium also contains Uranus and Pluto. These disruptive outer planets are in many ways beyond your control. Pluto's destructive power may have broken your heart (Venus), while Uranus' unpredictable need for independence may have resulted in your abandonment (Moon). Since these Libra planets are in the Western hemisphere (or right side) of your chart, you may be at the mercy of other people -- that is, you do not feel in control of your destiny.

In some respects, these fears are just something you have to live with. Given the influence of Uranus and Pluto, you are unlikely to have what one would call a "stable" love life, as their purpose is to shake up and knock down anything that gets in their way. At best, you can consciously explore the depths of intimacy (Pluto-Venus) and embrace your impulsive need for freedom (Moon-Uranus-Mars). You won't get over your fear until you accept and embrace your life-long transformational journey in the realm of partnership.

Virgo men are safe bets as far as men go, but your boyfriend's Sun sign means nothing until you are willing to look your terror in the eye.

Comment below to provide Ali feedback, or discuss Virgo-Scorpio compatibility in the forum.

Related post: Is Scorpio man cheating on Virgo woman?

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As far as Sun signs go, Taurus and Libra have little in common, save their common planetary rulership by Venus. Taurus is a fixed earth sign that seeks security and stability. Libra is a cardinal air sign gifted at initiating social interactions and navigating the world of relationships. Match an introvert who knows exactly what she wants with an extrovert who can't decide on anything, and you've got trouble.

Libra will want to schedule a night on the town, but set-in-her-ways Taurus disagrees with Libra's agenda, leaving the Scales imbalanced. Libra kowtows to Taurus, but neglecting his original idea leaves him resentful yet unable to express his anger. The Libra man puts on a fake face all evening, which irritates what-you-see-is-what-you-get Taurus. Taurus holds on to her anger all night and isn't terribly adept at hiding it, which Libra finds uncouth in the presence of company.

The next day, Taurus doesn't want to talk about it. She retreats to the backyard and gets her hands dirty in the garden, letting the earth absorb her anger. Meanwhile, Libra goes out to breakfast with his best buddy and bitches about his Taurus girlfriend's inflexibility. Why can't they just get along? Why is she so intractable?

Libra comes home with a house plant and a chocolate brownie, hoping a dose of sweetness will make everything better. Not surprisingly, Taurus takes to both like a bull to bluegrass.

Related: How can a Taurus woman impress a Libra man?

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mona provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

i met this wonderful man n i am in love with him. . we been dating like a year now but i been reading all these theories that libra n caprocorn will not matched. i am worry. my question will be what i can do to fortify thsi relationship

You're worried, based on what an astrologer says? Hogwash! Trust your own experience, mona! Astrology is just a system, not the truth.

You have Pisces on the cusp of your Seventh House of Partnership. Jupiter, the traditional ruler of Pisces, is in Capricorn in your Fifth House of Romance and Play, conjunct Mars. Mars in a woman's chart signifies the type of young man to whom she is attracted. Hence, the sign placement of both Mars and Jupiter correspond with your attraction to this hard-working sign.

Jupiter and Mars in Capricorn 'make' you productive and results-oriented, hence this aspect of yourself jibes with your boyfriend. Your Mars may even drive him to succeed, depending on the degree of his Capricorn Sun.

In a way, whatever challenges you'd have with a Capricorn man, you'd also have within yourself. Your Libra Sun's purpose is to find balance and beauty, to socialize and to please. Yet your Mars, which acts to fulfill your Sun's will, goes about it in a purposeful, pragmatic way, with little concern for feelings as he moves his way to the top.

Currently, transiting Saturn is making a square (or 90-degree angle) to your natal Venus, planet of love. If you want to fortify your relationship, this is the time to do it, as Saturn is all about building and strengthening bonds that are meant to last. However, to do this you have to let go of relationship patterns that weigh you down. It's up to you to determine what those are by doing an inventory of your current and past relationships. Looking at your love life seven years ago -- when Saturn was opposing your Venus -- will help provide some clues regarding how this current transit will play out.

Discuss Libra-Capricorn compatibility in the forum, or below in the comments.

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bp provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I am totally in love with my boss. I have worked for him for just over a year and I know he thinks I do a great job. We had a very near sexual encounter at the end of a company event in the Caribbean 4 months ago. I set out to seduce him and let him know privately at the end of the evening. We kissed, he led me to his room, and we ended up in his bed. But I couldn't go through with it as we had both had a lot of alcohol. We ended up falling asleep/cuddling together for the night and were rushed to catch planes and commitments the next day. He lives in another state, and we did not talk about it afterwards and I didn't see him (although we interact daily) again for six weeks. He continues to treat me with the same kindness and respect. He is a Libra as well. I want to clear this up, and want so much to explore things with him. Is he interested, or not? Does he think I rejected him? Is he holding back because he is my boss? Could he handle a relationship with me? Is he waiting for me to say something or make a move? What should I do????

Thank you so much. I am tormented with this.

You write that you two nearly had sex four months ago. On January 7, you had a progressed New Moon at 11 degrees 54 minutes Scorpio, in your natal Fourth House. Your progressed chart shows where all the planets were about 42 days after your birth, as progressed planets move one day per year. Progressions show your inner evolution, and when the progressed Moon and progressed Sun conjoin each other (a New Moon), a new cycle of growth is indicated. Being that both of your progressed "lights" (Sun and Moon) are in Scorpio, you are oriented towards Scorpionic themes: sex and obsession, for example. This progressed New Moon sextiles (a 60 degree angle) your natal Uranus, the modern ruler of Aquarius, which sits on your Descendant (relationships).

Simultaneously, progressed Mars in Leo is moving towards an opposition to your natal Saturn (traditional ruler of your Descendant) in your Eighth House of Sex.

What does this all mean? Saturn signifies the boss. You are wanting to initiate a relationship (Mars opposite the traditional ruler of your Seventh) but are at the same time inhibited (Saturn).

Your progressed New Moon conjoined your natal Neptune. Neptune governs alcohol, and by virtue of its rulership of your Ninth House of Travel and Long Distances (with Pisces on the cusp), the Caribbean vacation.

Is he interested, or not? Dunno.
Does he think I rejected him? Dunno.
Is he holding back because he is my boss? Well, a boss can get in a heap of trouble for sleeping with an employee.
Could he handle a relationship with me? Dunno.
Is he waiting for me to say something or make a move? Dunno.

What should I do???? People do things they would not ordinarily do under the influence of alcohol. Things they later regret. People also do things they would not ordinarily do under the influence of Neptune, because they are in a dream world and cannot see reality in a clear fashion. Combine this with Scorpio -- sex and power -- and you've got a set-up for "About last night" scenarios.

This progressed New Moon was a trigger point, and possibly misdirected towards your boss. Occuring in Scorpio in your Fourth House, perhaps spending some time looking at underground family dynamics from your past would illuminate your attraction to an authority figure. Listen, I know you two are consenting adults, and this stuff happens all the time, but sleeping with the boss always has a "Daddy" connotation to me, but maybe that's just because I did training in psychotherapy.

Your progressed Moon is tightly conjunct your progressed Neptune right now, so I would advise you to to just chill. You are so much in fantasyland right now that any actions you take might come back to haunt you.

Just, like, meditate or something.

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You're nearing the end of your first date, and nothing horrible has happened. In fact, the evening has progressed smoothly. Your Libra date has been charming, polite, great at conversation. Hell, he's even added romantic gestures that are "just right" at this stage of the game.

Yes, you want more. No, not tonight ... you don't want to send that kind of message too soon. But you see that this could go somewhere. However, he's a Libra -- how do you know all these flourishes are authentic? Maybe he's like this with all the girls.

Dinner's over, he drops you off at your place, tells you he had a wonderful evening -- "Me, too, " you add -- and gives you a light peck on the cheek. What? Is that all? Isn't he going to say, "Are you free on Wednesday?" No, instead he says, "I'll give you a call."

You wonder what that means. Is that the kiss-off of death, or his true intention? You reply, "Sounds great," and unlock your front door. He returns to his car. After you get inside, you collapse a little inside, for after so many awful first dates, this guy's actually someone you'd like to see again. But no follow-up is planned, and you're left hanging. You don't even know if he's interested. Do you wait for him to call? You're not up for asking him out, maybe because you're so frightened he would say no.

Fortunately, you've got this limitless tool called Sun sign astrology. Armed with the knowledge that Libra is a romantic at heart and wants to be in a relationship, that he craves balance and fairness in all things, which snappy line would you email him in less than a week's time, if he hasn't followed up?

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Libra Snake provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I'm a libra woman.i'm always alone in my family. prefer 2 be alone, which is not a libra's trait.. but having problem with males. what i mean is i'm very simple not realy into a possessive or nasty lover. actualy not that type. i love 2 be neutral.Family girl.i never had a lover. but ALWAYS end up as BOYS behaving like intrested and they will tell something to their GF just to make them envy and then i'm always the GIRLS VICTIM.they attact me. my question is why is it ALWAYS LIKE DAT? no matter where i change my study place. I'm not intrested in stealing their men? in fact i'm quite quiet.most of the time. The only guy that i'm very much into is a SCORPIO. [DOB deleted] it has been 6 years still burning in my heart.eventhough i don realy show my burning feelings.i know he's very,very,very MEAN but..i don't know what to say...........!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You want to know why you are the victim of jealous, angry girls [Libra Snake is 17]. You were born on an Aries Full Moon, with the Moon at the cusp (or beginning) of your Eight House. The Moon represent women; Aries is anger and aggression; the Eighth House concerns sex and emotions like jealousy and possessiveness. Your Moon is being expressed by others, as it is in "opposition" (180 degrees) to your Libra Sun. The tension between keeping the peace and going for what you want plays out in your natal Full Moon, with you taking on the role of the "neutral" (Libra) person.

However, you have a part to play in these conflicts. Your Sag Venus in the chatty Third House is making stressful aspects to both your Sun and Moon (semisquare Sun [45 degrees], sesquiquadrate Moon [135 degrees]). You attract (Venus) by being outgoing and talkative. In fact, your Venus is quite important as she is the ruler of your Libra Sun. Your adventurous spirit must somehow come through, no matter how shy (Virgo Rising) you say you are.

In addition, Mars -- the ruler of your Aries Moon -- is in Libra, conjunct your Sun and opposite your Moon. Mars in Libra does not like to express his assertiveness or anger directly. Although you have quite a bit of drive, it may be difficult for you act on your desires for fear of alienating others. You don't want to step on anyone's toes, but nonetheless the "juice" is there, and the girls (Moon) can see it (Mars opposite Moon). You can be quite charming and disarming, but you may not be taking responsibility for your self-expression. Although you cannot control the boys' attraction to you, don't underestimate the power of the "vibes" you put out.

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No breakup is easy -- the best you can do is minimize the sting. And let's assume that you're not seeking advice to make your own life easier, but rather to let him go with the least possible harm done.

Although Libra is not the most sensitive sign in the zodiac, he is one of the most relationship-focused. Assuming he's not been unfaithful, he'll likely be devastated when you break the news.

Don't do it over email, IM or text message. Libra is a face-to-face type of guy, and the impersonal nature of internet communication can leave him feeling cold. Although breaking up over the computer or via SMS is nearly always an inappropriate escape route, Libra will experience this technological goodbye as a grave affront.

Be fair. To appeal to Libra's sense of balance, focus equally on each of your faults and strengths. Better yet, frame the reason(s) for the breakup in terms of "the relationship" instead of what he did wrong. For example, state that "we" had difficulty managing the issue of his flirtatiousness at parties and how you emotionally responded to his behavior. That is, it takes two to tango, and you each had a part to play in whatever led to the breakup. It may be your decision, but you're not an innocent bystander.

Break the news in a pleasing environment. He'll remember this moment, so you may as well reduce his future suffering by picking a nice spot. If his recollection is going to hurt, it will be worse if he has an image of your last moments near the dumpster behind Walmart. Take him to the beach, give the breakup some quasi-romantic overtones.

Don't let him talk you out of it. Libra likes to please, and will offer to compromise or give up something in order to keep you. His diplomatic flair and mediation skills can be used to dissuade from your original position. If a breakup is what you really want, stand firm.

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There's been a short discussion in the comments section on Does Uranus in the Seventh House automatically mean infidelity?

proserpine wrote,

I have heard ... that Moon in Libra means the person is unfaithful in relationships, but that that placement often means the native will have two relationships at the same time(or want to have them). Libra Sun will often have two relationships--and *that* I can testify to--personally, and second-hand.:-).

I have known a few Moon-in-Libra folks and they often do have more than one love affair going on.

I scoured the web a bit to look into this, because it's not something I've heard about. (Was I not invited to the cheating party?)

novareinna writes, "Libra is easily attracted to other individuals and fidelity is not this Sign's strong suit...although ironically, there may be evidence of jealousy on both sides at displays of such disloyal behavior."

Victoria Bazeley writes in the larger context of afflictions to Neptune in Libra, "I get a bit suspicious when I see a lot of Libra in any chart (including a Libra Ascendant), although I don’t actually have the hard data to back up my suspicions."

Granted, I don't have any personal planets in Libra, so this sign is somewhat alien to me. But conceptually, Libran infidelity doesn't make sense. Yes, they're flirtatious, but among the air signs, Libra would be the least likely to cheat. Aquarius is the sign of independence, and Gemini is the sign of "twos," needing variety to keep stimulated. Libra is just so focused on partnership -- why would they be unfaithful?

Perhaps indecision would be one culprit. Libra may be torn between two (or more) lovers, because they're constantly balancing each person's virtues and faults.

Libra is ruled by Venus, whose counterpart is Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love and beauty. Aphrodite frequently cheated on her hubby, Hephaestus. If you are a Libra, the sign placement of your Venus will be especially significant. Due to its proximity to the Sun, Venus can only be within two signs of either side of Libra, so that would mean Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio and Sagittarius. Venus in Sag would be prone to play the field.

I also suspect that the outer planets may have something to do with this reputation. Boomers born between 1943 and 1956 have Neptune in Libra, and people born between 1968 and 1975 have Uranus in Libra. Any Libras born during either of these periods are likely (using a 10 degree orb for a conjuction to one's Sun) to have their basic nature influenced by either of these powerful planets.

Victoria Bazeley again writes,

afflictions to Neptune in Libra (affecting the generation now in its 50s) have proven to be problematic in a number of cases. (Libra is the sign of marriage, so this is a blending of the symbols for deception and marriage!)

And people with Uranus-Sun conjuctions need their share of freedom, not to mention the fact that Uranus in Libra breaks down the conventions of marriage.

Anyone with a Moon in Libra who was born during these two periods will likely have a Moon-Neptune or Moon-Uranus conjunction, which correspond, respectively, with poor boundaries or a need for independence in relationships.

I'm not convinced Libra deserves this bad rap, but I'm open to your comments below. My Aquarian Moon wants some logical explanations, though.

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In early March, a Taurus wrote:

i arranged to go out for drink with a Libra, he agreed to meeting up and seemed quite friendly in his texts. Until the day of going out he textd me a blunt message saying he couldnt make it, i assume hes not interested but y did he turn cold

Today, presumably the same person wrote:

Im female had a date with Libra male. Before his texts were warm and friendly. He cancelled last minute saying couldnt make it his text was cold. Thought that was it. Then he text me after 3 weeks. I replied but not heard again yet. Help?

One wouldn't normally accuse Libra of being cold. This Venus-ruled sign is charming and polite. Unfortunately, Libra goes out of his way to avoid offending anyone, and there may not always be a diplomatic way to cancel a date.

How to back out gracefully? I'll leave matters of textiquette to Miss Manners. Although cell phones are a great medium for an air sign, it may be difficult to convey emotional subtleties via SMS. Just because a text feels cold doesn't mean that was the texter's intention. And besides, would it have been better for him to write that he was no longer sweet on you? I'm not sure a Libra would text anything to hurt your feelings. Maybe he thought that "i cant make it" was all he could muster.

And yet ... he texted you three weeks later, and did not respond to your reply. Libra indecision for ya! Why don't you just CALL HIM?! Tell him you like him but are getting mixed signals, and you want to know what's up. Yes, it's a risk (anathema to Taurus, I know), but it's the easiest way to stop torturing yourself. If he's not straight with you, take that into consideration when you continue pining for him.

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Aquarius doesn't know how to "do" relationships, so who better than Libra, the expert on partnerships, to guide him? The sign of the scales is ruled by Venus, goddess of love. She knows how to navigate the rocky territory of coupledom, using charm, compromise and all manner of secret techniques.

Aquarius is ruled by Uranus. This outer planet is more comfortable at Star Trek conventions than blind dates sipping on mochas. Uranus is all ideas. Libra can connect to him on the mental plane without losing her human touch. Both are air signs, expressing themselves best in the social and intellectual realms. Libra may not be a space alien like Aquarius, but she can tune into his wavelength enough to decode his transmissions.

Why not Gemini women? Although Gemini is also an air sign, it is ruled by Mercury, planet of communication. Uranus is a "higher octave" of the messenger planet. Put together two thinkers and you'll have some good discussions, but not much incentive to make the connection physical. Some goddess energy is required to take Aquarius out of the clouds and into the bedroom.

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Conflicted Libra asks:

I am a libra female who had a 5 year relationship with a scorpio male. He accused me of cheating on him and ended the relationship. We lost touch for a few years and then I searched him out on one of those class reunion websites. He responded to my e-mail quickly and we have continued e-mail exchanges. Over the last year and a half we have met in person twice and ended up in sleeping together. I have told him on both occassions that I still have feelings for him even 7 years after our breakup and that I truly feel he was the one person who was meant to be for me. His response was that he feels a familiarity but has since moved on and no longer feels the same way he did about me when we were together. While that clearly stings the soul, my question is, what is he pursuing and why would he be pursuing it with me if he wasn't interested or felt anything for me. Our relationship was very intense, passionate, affectionate, and basically wonderful until the end when the accusations of infidelity arose. Being new in my career, I traveled frequently and he had suspicions that I was cheating on him. We were different then and so it hurts more now than ever, to see him again at this stage of our lives knowing fully well we could have made an ideal couple. I am confused as to why he continues to pursue me when he admitted his marriage to his Capricorn wife has it's ups and downs, but for the most part he is happy. Does a "happy" Scorpio male pursue sexual relations outside of his marriage with an ex-flame? His actions and words do not make sense to this conflicted and heart broken Libra. Is it, in your opinion given our signs, we will ever reunite permanently? He did confess that it took him over 6 months to get over leaving me but he knew that we were in different stages in our lives, and we needed to go different directions. Recently he did admit that he thinks things could have been different. He is flirtatious, but not affectionate. I believe there has to be some small corner of his heart reserved for me otherwise this wouldn't be happening. I am not happy in my marriage to my Cancer husband and I am not so sure he is so happy with his Capricorn wife. On top of my questions above, this one weighs on my mind the most. Is committing infidelity on our existing marriages going to impact any potential for a future for us? I know he's got trust issues, but if I feel like I am under a spell when I'm with him and I can't say no to my heart or to his sexual proposals. Can you please help me figure this out?

You mention that you "still have feelings for him even 7 years after [y]our breakup." Saturn has a quarter cycle every seven years, in which it moves 90 degrees around the zodiac. I wonder if he left you when Saturn was making a difficult transit to love planets or points in either (or both) of your natal charts. The serious inquiry required by a Saturn transit can lead to an ending or a deeper commitment. Seven years later, these themes surrounding your breakup are re-appearing.

The Scorpio man can intensely connect with a lover, or he can use the power of manipulation to get his way. Of course, he can linger anywhere in between these extremes, but Scorpio does tend to be black-and-white in these matters. Your ex may have a small corner of his heart reserved for you, but what is a small corner worth? Will it buy you a ticket on the Love Express? If he is flirtatious but not affectionate -- and one doesn't need to be an astrologer to say this -- he may just be having sex with you because he can get you into bed. He may not be thrilled with his marriage, but also not feel any need to leave his wife, either.

The other option is that he is exploring the possibility of a relationship with you, but is hiding his love to protect himself. If just the thought of your infidelity seven years ago was enough for him to end the relationship, he's sensitive to betrayal.

Which leads to the question, "Is committing infidelity on our existing marriages going to impact any potential for a future for us?" I'm just being logical here: If Scorpio breaks up with a woman because he thinks she is cheating, and seven years later he cheats on his wife with that woman, who is cheating on her husband ... no, I can't do the math! For one, the double-standard (he can cheat, but probably wouldn't tolerate his wife's infidelity) is not an admirable quality. Second, if he is a possessive Scorpio, why would he get emotionally involved with you if he knows you are capable of cheating on your husband? This line of reasoning makes it doubtful that he's reserved more than a small corner of his heart for you.

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A Taurus writes:

I have asked my friend to pass my number on to a Libra man I fancy. Should I have played harder to get, as it's been nearly a week and I'm still waiting?

Libra is the sign of the scales, and as an air sign, he is both blessed and cursed with the ability to weigh both sides of any issue. As a result, he has earned a reputation for being indecisive. Although as a cardinal sign he can be a man of action, Libra cannot initiate until he's made up his mind. Ruled by Venus, Libra can also be a bit lazy.

I don't understand how having your friend give this guy your number is playing hard to get. You're more like being hard to give -- meaning that you're putting yourself in a passive role. It seems so "high school," but for all I know, maybe that's where you really are. A Taurus will surely not be the first sign to subvert gender roles, but geez, can't you be a bit more assertive?

Let's assume this Libra knows you're interested in him. Why would he not call?

1) He's not interested.
2) He thinks you're cute, but he doesn't really know you all that well, and you seem a bit unyielding. There is this nice, sensual quality to you -- you seem really earthy. However, he's not sure if you two would hit it off. I mean, you have a throaty voice -- that's really sexy -- but you don't really talk all that much. Does he want a silent type? He wants somebody to talk to, somebody who can match him mentally. On the other hand, maybe what he really needs is somebody to ground him, and you seem like you could do that for him. Maybe he'll sleep on it, think more about calling you ... tomorrow.

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