On Wednesday, Pluto stations retrograde. Whenever a planet apparently stops and reverses motion, the themes with which it is associated are pronounced. Look to the house of your natal chart that contains the first few degrees of Capricorn. The areas of life ruled by this house will be dismembered and resurrected. You may have power struggles or intense connections with people governed by this house. If its the 11th, your friends; 3rd, your siblings; 7th, your partner; 5th, your kids or your lover. Also on this day, Mercury enters Aries. You can communicate directly and with force, and are little inclined to worry about the effect of your words on others. Language is a means of taking action. If you have your heart set on someone but have been afraid to speak up, now is an excellent time to jump into the fire!

On Thursday, Mercury squares Pluto. Both planets are in cardinal signs -- the modality of initiative -- and the 90-degree angle is an aspect of action. Use your intellect to dig up secrets; talk about sexual taboos. Find out if your lover is having an affair, or explore new ways to get kinky. You can't get what you want if you don't ask!

Saturday's New Moon in Aries is all about "me me me." Focus on projects that inspire you. Love can wait.

On Sunday, Venus enters Aries and squares Pluto. When the love planet meets the first sign of the zodiac, we are attracted to whatever is new, and express affection impetuously. Subtlety is not Aries' strong suit, so do not expect soft and fuzzy intimacy at this time. Quick-and-dirty sex is appropriate at this time -- and with Pluto in the mix, throw in some bondage or domination to explore power dynamics. Or not. Regardless of what you do in the bedroom, love has an obsessive-compulsive flavor when Venus and Pluto make a stressful aspect to each other. With consciousness, you can use this time to purge the toxins in a relationship or midwife a rebirth in your own relational patterns.

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He Said/She Said features a love advice question answered by professional astrologers Jessica Shepherd of Moonkissd and Jeffrey Kishner of Seduction Central. After they each provide their perspective, they combine their insight to offer advice they both agree on.

D.R. Millenium writes,

My counselor tells me that when it comes to men, I seem to running away to ones I could me and towards ones I can't. I thought about this long and hard and decided that I just want a different reality- it may be a 7th house thing. The chart of the man is of an actor, a famous one but I'd like to get to know him as a person- all the while respecting his sense of privacy, space, time, constraints all that. I admit to feeling a strong attraction, but also I am afraid to say it, i sense a connection- perhaps we share some of the same cultural history growing up in the same era. I want to know the proper way to pursue meeting or at least contacting this guy with success. I believe that some of us in the outer world are really nice folk and aren't crazed fans. He as a capricorn has life lessons I feel he could teach. He's got a start up IT business too and I respect a go getter! I myself am learning medical coding. He can't give me material things but rather and only those things in his persona that he as a man uniquely posses. I'd love to be advised as to how to pursue, albeit with respect and tact oh and what are my chances with such a suspicious scorpio moon as he 's got. I'm thinking of writing to Oprah Winfrey for advice in the regard to do this properly with respect to him- do you think it's foolhardy? Thanks again ! D.R.

He Said:

Everyone runs in their own circles, whether they're astrologers or famous actors. This doesn't mean we don't make contact with outsiders, but we do need to share similar values and experiences to make a connection. You and the actor were born in the same year, so you do share the same cultural history, as you said. You both have Water-sign Moons (yours in Cancer and his in Scorpio) and yin Suns (your in Pisces and his in Capricorn). Your Cancer Moon is in a tight opposition with his Capricorn Sun, which suggests a potentially deep connection.

But these factors may only explain your feeling of resonance with the actor. After all, one of the reasons famous actors become and stay famous is that they are good hooks for our projections, our fantasies. This actor has a First House Neptune -- planet of image and film -- within five degrees of his Ascendant. People see what they want to see in him. And you're quite Neptunian yourself, with an imaginative Pisces Sun trine natal Neptune.

OK, so I've established that he's good fantasy material. But you want more. I won't say that successfully courting him is impossible, but here's my realistic assessment:

• He probably has millions of fans swooning over him.
• With a Capricorn Sun and Scorpio Moon, he probably will be suspicious of anyone who tries to get close to him. He's got cash -- how does he know a woman wants him for something other than the trappings of fame?
• Have you looked at his Wikipedia entry? What if he has a girlfriend?

That being said, probably the most tactful way to make contact is to send a letter expressing your admiration of his work and offering a reflection of what you may have in common, coming from the same generation. And leave Oprah out of the picture.

She Said:

To read Jessica's response to the same question, visit Moonkissd -- then read They Said for their bottom line advice!

To submit your burning love question, email Jessica with "he said, she said" in the subject line, or complete Jeffrey's form.

They Said:

Take a step back and explore the power of your fantasies and projections. Famous Actor may not be as accessible as you hope, no matter how tactfully you approach him. There are many cool guys -- who share your background and orientation towards life -- in your own neck of the woods.

Jeffrey and Jessica are available for astrology consultations. Check out their respective websites for details.

Related post: Do Pisceans want what they cannot have?

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Although I was trying to wait until the Aries New Moon late next week, I cannot hold it any longer! I have a new blog called Love-Advice.com. It offers "free relationship, dating and love advice by a licensed psychotherapist." If you like what I write at Seduction Central, you'll enjoy my new blog, because I'll be answering questions like I do here -- just without the astrology.

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Here's what I've written so far:

• Why do I attract married men?
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• Would a man be on a dating site if he's not ready to date?

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The following guest post is by horary astrologer Christine N. Davis.

Dear Christine,

Help! I am a Virgo woman dating a Capricorn man. My question to you is, can he ever really be monogamous? He loves women. I can't tell if he has a hard time being monogamous due to his sign or due to the fact that maybe he has low self-esteem and has a high need to be validated by women. What do you think?

Also, his best friend is a woman that he has known for 12 years and who actually works with him at a business they just started. He says they are only friends. I think she wants more, even though she lives with her boyfriend. But they go on seminars together and sleep in the same bed but don't touch - at least that's what my boyfriend says. He says he's not sexually interested in her but loves her as a friend. I feel jealous and confused because I don't think there are clear enough boundaries. Come on - sleeping in the same bed and he is dating me and she has a live-in boyfriend? Am I too sensitive?

J. is for jealousy

Dear J.,

I'll be honest. I think we're too kind, sometimes, to the ones we love - at our own expense. We feel hurt and confused by something they do, but instead of confronting them about it or voicing our needs in a clear, direct way, we try to excuse it by blaming it on their sun signs. "He can't help it, he's a Capricorn." Yeah, well, a skunk by any other name - or any other sign - is still going to reek.

Let's see if a horary chart can tell us what's going on. Horary astrology uses the chart of the moment the question is "born" to provide an answer. A lot of what I say here will sound strange if you're only familiar with sun-sign astrology. But I love the way horary astrology cuts to the chase in questions like this.

First, you may be on to something when you suggest he needs validation from women. The Sun, which in this chart stands for his libido, is in Pisces, the sign where Venus is exalted. Sun exalts Venus: this Man idealizes Woman. But here's the interesting part: he is not happy about where his libido is taking him. His other planet in this chart is Mercury in Aquarius - the sign where the Sun is in its detriment. Turn the tables and we see that Sun is in the sign where Mercury is in its detriment (AND its fall). "English, please, Christine!" Simply put, his mind hates the way his mojo leads him; and his mojo hates the fact that he feels so conflicted. The mind is in better shape by sign - Mercury has a decent amount of essential dignity in Aquarius - but with the Sun on an angle (in this case, conjunct this chart's Ascendant), his libido is what's running the show.

So he's a decent guy with a weakness for the ladies. What about this specific woman, his friend and coworker? Are they just trying to save the business some cash when they share hotel rooms - and beds - at seminars? (Haven't they heard of Priceline?) Several indications in this chart make me doubt his story that he "loves her as a friend." For one thing, Mercury, his planet, is located in your 12th house of secrets. This tells me he's not being straight with you at all; he's got something to hide. For another, Mercury is showing a huge interest in Saturn in this chart, and Saturn loves Mercury right back. On top of that, your planet, Jupiter, is suffering because it's in Saturn's sign; and Saturn is in a sign where it can't stand you. Who does Saturn represent? I say it's the friend/colleague/bedwarmer.

But! I can see no evidence in this chart that they've acted on their feelings, nor that they're about to any time soon. And your man still wants you very much. You see, two of the planets representing you are Jupiter and Venus. Your guy, as Sun in Pisces, loves Jupiter and exalts Venus: that's you. You're the one he's with, you're the one he wants. I can assure you of that.

That's what you need to leverage, J. In my opinion (and with this chart backing me up), you're absolutely justified in feeling that his boundaries around this colleague are too lax. He cares about you, but he can't read your mind, so find a way to express how his actions affect you. If you want to say that his penchant for sharing hotel beds with colleagues hurts your feelings and makes you want to withdraw from him, say so. Use "I" statements, not "you" statements, so he understands the impact of his actions on your feelings without feeling personally attacked. Your heart, represented by the Moon, is in Mercury's sign Gemini, so use your words and tell him how his behavior affects you.

J., thank you for writing to me with your question. Good luck, and let me know how things work out!

- Christine

About the Author
Christine N. Davis (askchristine.wordpress.com) offers traditional horary astrology readings. Her writing has appeared in The Mountain Astrologer. For private consultations, visit her website at www.askchristine.info. If you would like Christine to consider your question about relationships for Seduction Central, email her at seduction@askchristine.info.

Comment below: How do you not speak up for yourself?

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On Monday, Mercury conjoins Venus in Pisces. Express your affection with a love song or a poem. Towards the end of the week, both these planets aspect Jupiter and Uranus. The planets of freedom and deep thoughts sextile each other on Friday. Jupiter celebrates and expands Uranus' penchant for breakthroughs and revolution, while Uranus adds a jolt of originality and unconventionality to Jupiter's philosophical and geographical explorations. Which means that a grand brilliance pervades the air while they are in aspect.

When Mercury and Venus meet up with this outerish-planet sextile Thursday and Friday, they will be conjoining Uranus in Pisces and sextiling Jupiter in Capricorn. The energy of sudden change and disruptive ideas will color the exchange of messages and affections. News that you'd never think you'd hear; about-faces in the trajectory of a relationship -- just about anything can happen, and you can't even predict what it will be, because your small mind cannot even imagine it. Whether it's a breakup or a sudden declaration of love from out-of-the-blue, your vision of your life will be larger and more exciting than it had been before.

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I have decided start a love advice blog that does not utilize astrology. It will feature my usual brand of profound psychological insight and quirky humor, without all the New Age HooHah. Please submit your love advice questions and I may be able to answer them on my new blog. In fact, I'm more likely to answer them there than here, because I have to create lots of quality content for it before I even announce its name and web address. The only downside is that I will disregard any questions that mention taboo words like Scorpio and Uranus. But most of the advice I dole out here doesn't rely on astrology anyway -- I only use the fancy words to make myself sound smart ;)

Please use the link above to submit your question -- don't ask your question in the comments section. Thanks!

An ongoing discussion in the comments section about Scorpios illuminates the wide variety of perceptions about this sign's capacity for fidelity. Janis has "never met a scorpio that was truly faithful," while Victoria says, "generally speaking Scorpio is a very faithful and loyal and devoted sign, if they are in love."

I'm not going to take sides, because both readers speak to part of Scorpio's truth. What interests me is that we all have strong beliefs about zodiac sign characteristics. And we don't necessarily arrive at the whole truth of a sign by relying on observations. Certainly, the understanding we have acquired by studying the charts (or just Sun signs) of our friends and lovers is deeper than that which we would acquire from solely relying on the stereotypes offered in Sun sign books. But there is one significant problem with coming to astrological conclusions based on personal experience: They're personal.

Most of us repeat relational patterns, such as attracting the same type of boyfriend again and again. Whether we ascribe this experience to a Freudian repetition compulsion or the complex associated with a challenging square, it doesn't matter. What counts is that we develop a limited perspective from having been stuck in a repetitive cycle. If you keep shacking up with men who cheat on you and lie about it, you are obviously going to believe that men cheat. And if you keep shacking up with Scorpios who cheat on you and lie about it, you're going to think all Scorpios cheat.

But it is just not the case that all Scorpios cheat. Rather, the Scorpios you attract cheat on you. It's your chart -- meaning that your experience with others is a reflection of your own astrological patterns. Maybe your 7th house ruler is in Scorpio, in aspect to Neptune or in your 12th House. Until you become conscious of this pattern and find alternate ways for the planet to express itself, you may continue drawing deceptive lovers into your life.

Psychotherapists call this a "frame." Imagine you have a picture frame, and you can only see the world from within its four walls. Think of everything that's blocked out!

Even professional astrologers work from within a frame. Read any two interpretations of the same natal chart, and you'll see what I mean. Neither is necessarily more true than the other. But by virtue of being limited human beings with our own beautiful, unique experiences, we all see charts (and the humans they "capture") differently.

The wonderful thing about the dialogues that occur on this blog is that we get to see widely divergent belief systems about different zodiac signs. It levels the playing field. We get to see that our ideas are just that -- ours. When we read opposing views, it gives us an opportunity to wonder: Why do I see Scorpios this way? Not to judge ourselves, but just to be curious.

Comment below: How has reading the comments section led to a change in your understanding of astrology?

The following guest post is by Lisa Saliture.

If you really want to seduce and eventually get a Leo man to commit to you, you had better devise a clever game plan, and be ready to play the game like you never played it before!

Of all of the 12 Sun signs, when it comes to attracting a multitude of women, the Leo man is at the top of his game, oozing cockiness, charm, and an almost boyish sexiness that he uses to lure you in. He is fun, loyal, and can be a poet when it comes to seducing you into a frenzy with romantic words.

The Leo man is 100% all about the hunt, the chase, and the conquest. The lion couldn't have been a more fitting icon when describing the astrological traits of the modern day Leo man. Being a single woman, I've had the privilege -- or should I say the experience -- of being part of a Leo man's conquest in the boudoir and in a relationship. While the Leo man is very sexually addictive and alluring, here is a bit of advice on how to tame him without falling prey to his seductions first.

Lion King Traits

A quick breakdown of the Leo man's celestial make-up can help you devise the best game plan for keeping this lion in your jungle, and will have him begging to make you his ruling queen lioness instead of just one of his pride waiting for his call. With the Sun as the ruler of Leo, this man truly exudes power, energy, vitality, and a personality that truly shines. You can easily spot him in any crowd -- even the size of a football stadium -- with his sexy smile. That hypnotizing bad-boy reflection you notice -- the first time you lock eyes -- will definitely have you hooked. The Leo Man is larger than life both in his own mind and those of his followers -- aka buddies -- who just love to spend time with him. You can't miss a Leo man when he is out on the town, or even in the workplace. He is usually the life of the party, and he's Mr. Suave when it comes to attitude -- captivating and drawing both men and women to his magnetic personality. Even though his ego is in need of constant nourishment from all of his fans, underneath this powerful exterior is a sensitive guy, especially when it comes to how his woman feels about him. If you do capture and tame a Leo man, he can be affectionate, warm, and tender, almost purring like a cuddly little kitten insisting on your approval.

The 3 C's of seducing and getting a Leo man to commit

An absolute must for your seduction and commitment game plan is to include the 3 C's to seduce the Leo man and keep him interested in you. The 3 C's -- Challenge, Confidence, and Control -- are your biggest advantage in winning over the Leo man. When seducing a Leo man, always remember the rules of the game: He is the hunter, and you are the coy lioness always keeping him at bay. (Or, for as long as you can muster up enough willpower to keep him from pawing off your panties.) Even if you don't like the idea of playing the role of the hunted prey, you have all the power if you want to both keep this lion in check and keep him sniffing long enough to capture his heart.

The Challenge

Seduction is Leo's game, and if you fall prey as his victim too soon, you might as well enjoy a couple more good nights of the best sex of your life, and then be prepared to be downgraded to just another female in his pride. A big turn off for the Leo male is a female doormat, one who gives him what he desires whenever he wants. Challenge is the power you create for yourself when playing the role of the hunted prey. The thrill of the hunt -- your power card -- is very appealing to a Leo man. A "hard to get" attitude will definitely catch his attention, and that is exactly where you want him.

Have him learn to be attentive to your needs, by being a little selfish about what you expect in a relationship and challenging his behavior and beliefs about commitment. Making your needs and wants clear -- before you become emotionally involved with a Leo man -- ups his attraction level to you in a big way!

Confidence

The biggest turn-on for even a hardcore player is a woman who is confident in herself. Her attention is the reward for the male who is relentless in his chase to win her love. Mr. Leo will be putty in your hands and will crown you as his lioness queen. Leo men truly respect and respond to a woman who can be aggressive enough to keep him in line, and who can call the shots when it comes to affection early in the dating stage. Confidence also has a big impact if you want to move things forward in a relationship with a Leo man.

Control

A woman who is in control of her own actions and emotions will put a Leo man in a tailspin and spark his interest in a big way. You need to get him on the chase on your terms! The best way to have a Leo man commit for the long haul is to keep him out of your bed for as long as possible, and let his appetite for your affection and attention build until he is starving. This means you will have to use portion control to keep him consistently interested and intrigued with you. At this point, he will do just about anything to keep you interested and happy.

The more time a Leo man spends getting to know you outside of the bedroom, the more he becomes attached to you as a potential partner, and starts to envision you as his queen. Once you tame the Leo man, plan to be spoiled and showered rotten with gifts, affections, and all of his love.

Deep down in the heart of a Leo man is a great guy who hates to be single or alone. Once a Leo meets a woman who challenges him and enforces the 3 C's during the seduction and dating stages, this stubborn cat will be tamed. How do you know when a Leo man is happiest? When he is playing the role of the protector of his family, taking pride in raising his offspring in the blissful kingdom you rule together as a couple.

About the Author
Lisa Saliture is a Marketing Communications Specialist and freelance writer. She recently started Astrology Dating Match, a web site that will match singles by using the most compatible aspects of their love planets in their natal charts.

First photo by Lex in the City, second by jelleprins

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Blogging is a fine balance between writing about astrological topics that fire me up ... and pleasing you. It's a relationship, really. I hope that -- most of the time -- we want the same things. But people change over time, which means the relationship must change.

This blog has evolved since its inception. I initially wrote many short, witty Sun sign posts. Recently, the blog has been entering more complex territory -- which may appeal to serious students of astrology, but turn off beginners who feel they're in over their heads.

I've broken down recent content into the following categories. Please let me know which types of articles you like the most. You can vote for more than one. I'm listening.

(If the typeface in the poll is too small, try here.)

Being the Virgo Rising person that I am, I had to pick up To-Do List at the library. It contains about 100 lists from various individuals, and there is a special section devoted to listing the traits of one's Ideal Mate. One lister decided that she would turn away any guy who met less than 65-70% of her criteria.

So what does it mean if you fall in love with someone who, say, only meets 55% of your criteria? Do you show that person the door?

Mercury may rule lists, but Neptune governs our vision of the Ideal Mate ... the key word being ideal. We all have our fantasies of what will make us happy. Smart, kind, athletic. Busty, good cook. Domineering, well-endowed.

Not all list items carry the same weight, though. Some are "bottom line requirements" and others are "wouldn't it be nice?" Perhaps you won't put up with someone who's a heavy drinker, or a Republican, or bisexual. Yet if your partner doesn't have a cute butt, you'll survive. This is where Saturn comes in. This planet sorts out the needs from the wants. Saturn removes the excess to get to what really matters.

If a partner meets all of your bottom line requirements but few "wouldn't it be nice" qualities, will you be happy?

It's OK to grieve when your partner doesn't fit all of your ideals. A good relationship is a little bit Saturn, a little bit Neptune. You want it to be more than "all reality, all the time" ... but you're not likely to be living in fantasy 24/7, either.

Comment below: What does settling mean to you?

Related post: Staying in a relationship past its expiration date

Mercury should not get short shrift in a love horoscope. Although this planet doesn't receive the attention lavished upon sexy Venus and Mars, a relationship is not going to last without communication. Erotic draw may get you into bed with another warm body, but eventually the excitement of novelty wanes, and the faults of your beloved come into clear focus. Many courtships last no longer than three months because the two involved parties don't know how to talk about their needs.

Mercury entered Pisces on Friday. The last sign of the zodiac is not Mercury's ideal placement, as the communication planet's words get muffled in metaphor. How can you speak directly, when your verbiage flows down the wrong tributary, missing your target completely? Mercury's opposition to strict Saturn on Monday does bring some much-needed structure to communication. Saturn's job is to pin Mercury down, to make him precisely define his words. This is a good time to emotionally communicate your needs as carefully as you can, so there is no way you can be misunderstood. Without conscious intent, you'll just find it more difficult to get your point across.

Friday's Libra Full Moon follows the Sun's ingress into Aries on Thursday. The Aries Sun represents the Self's agenda; the Libra Moon symbolizes the needs of a relationship. When the "I versus Us" conflict comes to a head, Libran themes such as imbalance and lack of fairness are highlighted. This lunation is especially powerful, as it is squared by Pluto in Capricorn. Pluto brings power struggles and intense emotions that make relationships especially challenging. This Libra Full Moon can be healing -- if you use excavated secrets and raw feelings as a springboard to regenerate a stagnant partnership.

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He Said/She Said features a love advice question answered by professional astrologers Jessica Shepherd of Moonkissd and Jeffrey Kishner of Seduction Central. After they each provide their perspective, they combine their insight to offer advice they both agree on.

A Capricorn woman writes,

I have much to be grateful for but the one area of my life that is a perpetual source of frustration is my romantic life. I have dated a lot, I attract men, but my romances are always so fleeting, end abruptly, and not usually by me. I have tried all sorts of positive ways to handle being single, but it's getting rough to keep up the good attitude. Recently I had a date with a Leo man who literally could not wait to see me again, he wanted to see me the very next night... I couldn't see him until a few days later, but he ended up canceling our date the morning of, and never returning my call to reschedule. It honestly was baffling to me. This happens a lot to me, men who are very hot then very cold. Sometimes I worry that I will never experience true long term intimacy, or marriage and kids, which makes me very sad. I want those things. Any advice?

He Said:

The Seventh House of your chart concerns partnership, and with Libra on the cusp of this house, the give-and-take of romantic relationship is important to you. The planet that rules Libra -- Venus -- is in freedom-loving Aquarius. This sign -- ruled by shocking Uranus -- is inherently unpredictable, so "abrupt endings" are par for the course. As the Seventh House can represent one's partner, you may find Venus in Aquarius "acted out" by others -- meaning that you attract men who are erratic in their behavior.

In addition, your Venus is in a stressful 90-degree angle -- called a "square" -- with Saturn, the planet of restriction and delay. Saturn's influence can bring hardship to romantic relationships. You may feel unloved or undervalued, and it may feel like it's taking forever to find a stable, long-term relationship. People with challenging Saturn-Venus contacts may come into relationship later in life than other folks. The key to living with this combination is weeding out relationship patterns and potential partners that disappoint you or weigh you down.

Saturn thrives on simplicity. As it rules the skeletal structure, think about your "bare bones" needs in a partnership. In your estimation, what's the foundation of a sound relationship? See if you can spot the men who live out the positive qualities of Aquarius. Humanitarian, friendly, inventive. When you realize that you don't want to waste your time on the less-than-stellar Aquarian attributes in men -- like abruptly dropping out of the game -- then you may be less attracted to them.

She Said:

To read Jessica's response to the same question, visit Moonkissd -- then read They Said for their bottom line advice!

To submit your burning love question, email Jessica with "he said, she said" in the subject line, or complete Jeffrey's form.

They Said:

It takes time to find a partner worthy of your love. Weed out those who don't meet your basic partnership needs and aim for the highest qualities in the men you attract . Once you do this, try letting your guard down. You might find yourself attracted to and changed by someone very different from you.

Jeffrey and Jessica are available for astrology consultations. Check out their respective websites for details.

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• Honoring Saturn and Venus
  

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The follow guest post is by horary astrologer Christine N. Davis.

Dear Christine,

I met this man recently, and our chemistry is off the roof! We connect in every aspect, and he's a sweetheart and literally everything I look for in a man. He feels the same way about me. Only thing is he's a Cancer and I'm a Libra (plus, our planetary alignments aren't exactly "made for each other" types, if you get what I mean), so I find it amazing how we're connecting so well. If everything goes right, I would seriously consider a future with him. So, do you see a future for our relationship?

- L., a Libra in love

Dear L.,

Isn't it a relief that attraction doesn't come down to sun signs alone? Otherwise we'd all have to wear signs saying, "I'm a Libra: all other cardinal signs, stay away." And I totally understand about aligning his chart to yours and hoping the resulting synastry will spell out "Go for it!" in the sky. Right away, I'd say don't panic if at first glance your natal charts don't seem to mesh.

I've cast a chart for the moment I understood your question, and am using old-school horary astrology to interpret it. In this chart, you're represented by Venus (your mind and, to some extent, your mojo) and the Moon (your emotions, your heart's desire); and your guy is signified by Mars (his personality) and Sun (his mojo).

From Mars in Cancer, ruled by you as the Moon, it's clear your guy cares deeply for your heart. And Sun in Pisces, which exalts you as Venus, tells me he digs your personality - and your feminine wiles - very much. Exaltation is like putting one's sweetie on a pedestal: he may be idealizing you now, but at some point we goddesses have to step down from the clouds and reveal how we look without makeup.

To answer a horary question like "Do you see a future for our relationship?", what we do is take the chart we've got and move our significators forward just a little. You're asking the chart, "Is it better to go forward or stay put?" If important significators are about to change signs, for example, it can show an upcoming change in attitude - for better or for worse. I'm sharing the possibilities below with you, not to discourage you, but for you to know about so you can see them with open eyes.

Now, Mars is in early degrees of Cancer in this chart. Symbolically speaking, it'll be in Cancer for quite a while, so I don't see a change in his feelings for you any time soon. But I do see Mars aspecting Saturn by sextile. Saturn, ruling his 10th and 11th houses, may have something to do with his work or his buddies. Saturn in Virgo is in the fall of Venus, your significator: so whatever Saturn represents, it's no friend to you. Your guy might have to make work or his friends a priority, for instance, which would mean spending less time with you.

Also, we know that the exaltation-goddess-pedestal phase has to end someday. (Sigh...) I see a couple of indicators suggesting that the electric attraction between you two is bound to calm down a bit. For one thing, Miss Venus, you're about to enter Pisces - where you're going to start exalting... yourself! It looks like a surge of self-confidence coming your way, where you start to feel more comfortable putting your needs first. Not a bad thing, to ask your partner for more of what you like! Venus in Pisces is also in what's called the triplicity of Mars. This is a mellow sort of planetary dignity where you start to feel like you and he are keeping a nice simmer going. Not too spicy, but not at all cold.

As for him, I think he's likely to start asking for more of what he wants, too. The Sun, which exalts you as long as it's in Pisces, will eventually enter Aries. And Aries is the sign where Mars is top dog and the Sun is exalted. (Did you hear anything about your planets in that list? Nope, me either.) He won't stop caring for you, but I bet he stops playing the selfless sweetie and shows more of his true colors.

But it's early yet. You're in a place together where everything is possible and every shared revelation makes you fall all the more in love. Treasure this part for what it is - the fun and the chemistry and the wow - and always check in with your heart, which is well-grounded in reality and knows what you really need.

Thanks for your question. Let me know how things work out!

- Christine

Christine N. Davis offers traditional horary astrology readings. Her writing has appeared in The Mountain Astrologer. For private consultations, visit her website at www.askchristine.info.

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BruisedLioness included birth info for both herself and the guy she's into. (Click on his chart to view.) She writes,

I'm into him. I think he's into me, but I get mixed signals. We flirt excessively and get along like soul mates! So why doesn't may Aries man ever take it to the next level? What do I do with this Aries man who keeps coming and going? I'm afraid that if I stop initiating things and start playing hard to get, he'll get the wrong message and move on to the next girl he meets.

You'd think that an Aries with Venus and Mars in this fiery sign would go full throttle for what he wants. He would express his desires with direct force, leaving subtlety at the door. However, the man you like has his fire dampened by Saturn. When he was born, both Saturn and Jupiter were in Libra, opposite in the sky from his Sun and love planets. This makes for a complex picture, as Saturn and Jupiter are polar opposites.

Saturn is the planet of restriction and hardship, whereas Jupiter is expansive and brings a sense of opportunity. Both of these planets modify the expression of your guy's Sun, Venus and Mars. Jupiter adds confidence and comfort with taking risks, while Saturn blocks the expression of his naturally assertive energy. Depression, frustration, lack of self-confidence -- all these feelings are possible when Saturn opposes his personal planets.

The combination of both Saturn and Jupiter can mean that your Aries guy is coming and going. He may feel confident with you sometimes, and fearful of rejection at other times. I can't read his mind -- either he's into you but afraid of being turned down, or he likes flirting but is not interested in a relationship.

Should you explicitly communicate your interest to him? Supposedly an Aries male wants to be in charge, and doesn't like to be the pursued party. The Ram is attracted to a woman who plays hard-to-get, because he thrives on a challenge. However, your guy may -- after meeting a certain amount of resistance -- just feel defeated and pack it up.

So, you can't just follow stereotypical "how to get an Aries guy" advice. My feeling is that you should find a balance between inaccessibility and availability. He needs some reassurance that you are attracted to him, yet you shouldn't give him the key to your place just yet.

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• How does a Leo gal keep an Aries man interested?
• How to make an Aries man obsessed with you
• How to conquer an Aries man
  

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Do you have a love advice question you'd like answered -- the old-fashioned way? Before astrologers even read the horoscopes of "common folk," they'd simply look at the the location of the first seven planets at the moment they understood a client's question, and interpret this chart using the principles of horary astrology.
Christine N. Davis has offered to answer love advice questions using this ancient astrological technique -- on Seduction Central!

Christine will select one reader's question to answer on the blog. Leave your birth info at home this time; all she needs is your specific question about love & relationships (plus a sentence or two with all the juicy background info). "Does the guy at work like me?" "Will he leave his girlfriend for me?" "Is there a future to this relationship?" are all fair game. If you would like her to consider your question for Seduction Central, please email it to seduction@askchristine.info.

If friendly but detached Venus in Aquarius has left you feeling intellectually stimulated yet lonely, you can look forward to Venus entering Pisces on Wednesday. Pisces is the sign of Venus' exaltation, as the highest form of love is dee-vine. Venus in Pisces has the urge to merge, the desire to dissolve the boundaries between two souls to become one Being. However, V in Pi may also indulge in delusional rescue fantasies. Support a ne'er-do-well guitarist's dope habit? Sign me on!

The love goddess swims through this sign until April 6. You may feel incurably romantic, or become a martyr on the altar of enmeshment. Your choice. This is also a good time to indulge your inner artiste, as Pisces excels at expressing the ineffable through dance, music, film and poetry. Put on your jazz shoes and let the ground support your transcendent forays into mysticdom!

On Thursday, Venus sextiles Pluto. During Venus' ethereal wanderings, Pluto in Capricorn gently exposes the dangers of flying high without a parachute. Then on Friday, mama's boy Mars in Cancer gets chided by sextiling Saturn in Virgo for eating too much cake. On Saturday, Venus opposes Saturn, resulting in a proper ass-whooping for being all footloose and fancifree when there are lists to be made. Saturn picks apart Venus' new boytoy, dashing her dreams of bliss. He doesn't have a steady job! He's high half the time! His fretwork will never match Clapton's! Venus may continue on her course, but a good dose of reality keeps her from complete self-destruction. Life lessons suck, but once you separate the wheat from the chaff, you can make beer.

Finally, there's a sizzling hot pool party on Sunday, when Venus trines Mars. After all this drubbing from Saturn, it's time to tell the teacher to bugger off! Put on your trunks, your two-piece, your birthday suit -- because the water is fine! Drip, drop. Slip, slop. Hippety-hop, the sex don't stop!

Comment below: Who in your life imparts life lessons you don't want to hear, but that eventually turn out to be true?

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aqua gurl provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I have been dating a scorpio for a month and I have fallen madly in love with him, but I don't know how he feels about me. He calls and text me everday and all day. He is so nice to me and then he could just lash out any time. One minute hes like i miss you and calls me baby. Then the next minute hes like im about to stop dealing with you real soon and then he's back to nice mod. He is very possessive he does not want me to have friends but he can have friends. We have never been on a date cause he doesnt like to go out late when he has to work, We do talk on the phone all night. He doesn't want anyone to know were dating not even my friend and she the one who hooked us up he says he doesnt want people from his job in his business. I love him and want to stick it out because I feel like his attitudes is just a way of showing me he loves me. What should I do? Does he love me or should i just move on?

Your Scorpio boyfriend is showing classic, stereotypical traits of his sign: possessiveness, secretiveness, reclusiveness. But so what if he loves you? What are you getting out of this relationship? You have generous Jupiter conjunct the cusp of your Seventh House of Partnership -- in loving and compassionate Pisces, no less. You want to experience boundless, idealist love in a relationship -- not to be controlled and have so many limitations placed on your love life.

You've never been on a date with him? He doesn't want anyone -- even your friend -- to know you two are dating? Half the time he lashes out or implies he's going to stop dealing with you? If you've fallen madly in love with him, I'm not going to question the validity of your feelings. Or maybe I will. Why would you put up with being treated this way?

You were born on a Leo Full Moon. You may be an Aquarius who's cool with the distance afforded by this arrangement, but your Leo Moon wants to feel special, to be seen. And how can you receive validation when this guy doesn't want to go out in public with you?

Did your Mommy and Daddy get along? A Full Moon baby can have parents who are constantly in opposition. Maybe you're setting yourself up to repeat this pattern -- by being in a relationship in which your needs won't be met. I'm just saying.

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There comes a point in nearly every relationship in which you must decide if you are going to move on or commit. Sometimes you enter the dating world with a set of dealbreakers, but you become lax about them if you have strong feelings about a guy. Perhaps you really want to build a family, and he's "open" to it when you get to know each other. But when your clock really starts ticking, he owns up to the truth that he just doesn't want kids. Or you really want a guy who can hold down a job and pay his own bills, but you overlook his mooching because he's just so romantic -- until you're fed up with taking care of him.

And then there's the issue of reciprocity: Do you love him, and does he love you back? There are many reasons to stay in a relationship without love: sex, financial security, companionship, a green card. Yet if you love your guy and he doesn't love you back, you can feel devastated. It is natural to wonder if there's something wrong with you (or if you're confident, what's wrong with him for not loving you back?). But essentially, you wonder if you're wasting your time. Perhaps you'd even be willing to give up your dreams of having a family with a gainfully-employed guy, if he loved you back.

At the end of the film Juno, the protagonist's father tells her that a relationship can work over the long haul if both people love each other, warts and all. If your guy loves you even when you wake up and your hair is messy and you have bags under your eyes, then you've got a good thing! If he loves you despite your screechiness or willfulness or insecurity, you're a lucky lady.

One of the painful experiences of childhood is being conditionally loved by one's parents. You learn that parental warmth, affection and approval come when you "perform" certain behaviors, and these gifts are withdrawn when you perform others. Psychologists say that we develop false selves by pushing down that which our parents find unacceptable and only presenting those parts that elicit love and approval. When we grow into adults, we long to be completely accepted by another adult -- to have our whole being embraced. It can be so lonely to have to put on a facade all the time. When you can come home to a partner and let go of your public mask, you can feel a tremendous relief.

So if you feel subtly (or not so subtly) rejected by your guy, if you feel that he doesn't totally accept you as you are, how long do you wait for him to turn around?

If circumstances permit, you probably should leave if he does not fall in love with you -- unless other factors overwhelmingly weigh in favor of staying (for the sake of the kids, financial considerations, etc.). So it really is a matter of when. People's feelings of love can grow over time, so it's within the realm of possibility that he will fall in love with you at some time in the future. But then again, he may not. How much of your life do you want to put on hold while you wait?

Astrology is one tool that may help you set a deadline for yourself. One indicator of time would be a transit from Saturn to your natal Venus. This is a "sh*t or get off the pot" experience, in which you are forced to become clear about your relationship priorities -- and if they're not being met, you move on. Saturn governs time, and you're sick of wasting this valuable commodity on someone who doesn't appreciate you. You can also look at outer planet transits to your natal Venus, and the position of your progressed Venus.

Venus rules value. If you're not appreciated on your own terms, then you may want to find someone who does cherish you.

Related posts:

• Staying in a relationship past its expiration date
• You cannot make someone fall in love with you

Comment below: Have you waited for someone to fall in love with you? When did you decide to move on?

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On Tuesday, Mars enters Cancer, where he will stay until May 9. The planet of action and sexual desire was previously in this sensitive sign last Fall, and turned retrograde at 12 Cancer, moving backwards into Gemini. If you have any planets or angles in the first 12 degrees of cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra or Capricorn), Mars will be making his third pass over these points. If issues concerning assertion and desire came up for you between October and December, Mars' transit through Cancer will offer some resolution, a sense of closure.

Mars is in its "fall" in Cancer. A no-holds-barred planet in a defensive, sideways-moving sign is not happy. You can best use this energy towards Cancerian endeavors, such as working on home-improvement projects. Invest your energy in family now -- you can paint the town gold when Mars enters Leo in a few months!

On Thursday, Venus conjoins Neptune. The love planet is lost in idealism and fantasy, dreaming of the perfect mate. If you are in a new relationship, you may see no wrong with your partner, as the clouds of delusion mask his or her inadequacies. Overall, you are in a romantic mood, but seduction may occur at a distance, as both Venus and Neptune are in Aquarius. Beware of online dating sites, as appearances will be deceiving, and people may not be who they say they are. However, you may fall head over heels with someone at a gathering of friends or a group activity.

Mars opposes Pluto on Friday. This is the third "hit" of this transit due to Mars' retrograde motion into Gemini. The previous oppositions occurred on September 21 and January 2. In addition to resolving the themes that appeared during the first two passes, this final opposition is more powerful because both planets are in the first degree of the cardinal signs Cancer and Capricorn. (Previously they were in the late degrees of Gemini and Sagittarius). Cardinal signs correspond with major shifts -- the equinoxes and solstices -- and when a planet enters a cardinal sign, its energies are strong.

Mars and Pluto are both aggressive and sexual planets -- Mars on a personal level, and Pluto on a transpersonal level. Pluto is the force of biology and evolution, and brings on destruction in order to bring life to a higher level of organization. However, Pluto also releases the darkness of whatever planet it aspects, and in the case of Mars, the Lord of Underworld unleashes its primal instincts -- which are to rape and pillage. On a global level, this aspect may correspond with ugly acts of violence. Friday also features a New Moon in Pisces tightly conjunct Uranus, the Awakener -- adding a level of unpredictability to the mix. The highest manifestation of this energy can be the use of one's will and ambition to effect powerful change with the help of an illuminated vision. But I always like to keep an eye on the bad stuff.

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