Pisces man retreats from Virgo woman
Chrissy included birth data for herself (chart) and her Pisces guy (chart) and writes,
Opposites attract, as they say ... but they also drive each other nuts. Virgo's all about the details, whereas Pisces can't find his keys. They both share an orientation towards service. Helping others is their meeting place, and they make a great team, for Pisces provides compassion while Virgo does the case management.
But there's way more than Sun sign compatibility to this relationship. Pisces does need time alone, as this sensitive sign gets overstimulated easily. However, your Pisces guy needs to feel independent for other reasons, and this impulse may be driving his absences. Both his love planets -- Mars and Venus -- are in "I want it NOW" Aries, making a 120-degree angle ("trine") to his Moon, Jupiter and Uranus in fiery Sagittarius. His Moon (needs) requires lots o' space, and Jupiter and Uranus are the two most excitable and adventurous planets in the solar system. He may be a peaceable Pisces, but he's also a very restless soul who needs inspiring experiences to feed his soul.
Meanwhile, you have your Moon and Ascendant in controlling/possessive Scorpio, and Sun and Venus in risk-averse Virgo. These "yin" signs are not an ideal match for his Fire. He may feel held back by you, hence his apparent frustration. But I wonder if (on some level) you want a guy who's occasionally missing? Your Mars-Uranus conjunction can correspond with a young man (Mars) who is distant/unpredictable (Uranus).
There are two ways to go with this: either stop trying to control him (so that he doesn't feel he needs his space so much) or tell him it's unacceptable to not date you on a frequent and predictable basis. The latter option is called "stating your needs." His Fire planets could tell you you're making too many demands on him, in which case he might split entirely. Or his Pisces Sun -- which needs to be pinned down once in a while, because Water needs form -- may fall into line with your expectations.
Comment below: What do you think Chrissy needs to do with her Pisces guy?
I would like to know if my relationship with the Pisces man is capable of going the distance, and if so what does a Virgo woman and a Pisces man have to be willing to do to make the relationship successful?
Pisces man tends to retreat and go "missing" for periods of time and Virgo woman goes BANANAS whenever this happens. I get the feeling that I frustrate Pisces man a lot, and that is not my intentions. My main issues with Pisces man is that his actions don't always match what he says. He says he loves me, but he seems content to go weeks at a time without taking me out on a date. What gives?
But there's way more than Sun sign compatibility to this relationship. Pisces does need time alone, as this sensitive sign gets overstimulated easily. However, your Pisces guy needs to feel independent for other reasons, and this impulse may be driving his absences. Both his love planets -- Mars and Venus -- are in "I want it NOW" Aries, making a 120-degree angle ("trine") to his Moon, Jupiter and Uranus in fiery Sagittarius. His Moon (needs) requires lots o' space, and Jupiter and Uranus are the two most excitable and adventurous planets in the solar system. He may be a peaceable Pisces, but he's also a very restless soul who needs inspiring experiences to feed his soul.
Meanwhile, you have your Moon and Ascendant in controlling/possessive Scorpio, and Sun and Venus in risk-averse Virgo. These "yin" signs are not an ideal match for his Fire. He may feel held back by you, hence his apparent frustration. But I wonder if (on some level) you want a guy who's occasionally missing? Your Mars-Uranus conjunction can correspond with a young man (Mars) who is distant/unpredictable (Uranus).
There are two ways to go with this: either stop trying to control him (so that he doesn't feel he needs his space so much) or tell him it's unacceptable to not date you on a frequent and predictable basis. The latter option is called "stating your needs." His Fire planets could tell you you're making too many demands on him, in which case he might split entirely. Or his Pisces Sun -- which needs to be pinned down once in a while, because Water needs form -- may fall into line with your expectations.
Comment below: What do you think Chrissy needs to do with her Pisces guy?
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 5/01/2008
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Thank you so much for your professional insight into my matter with Pisces man! It has always irked me (as a Virgo woman) when at times it appears that he is not concerned with the lengthy periods of time that we go without spending time together.
He is always calm and unaffected, while I am ruffled and broken-hearted.
It appears that he hides his true feelings for me, when I never can tell through his actions how much he does care. He verbally communicates that he "cares" but he lacks the physical reinforcement.
Also, no I do not want a man who retreats and goes missing mysteriously. I thrive on communication and interaction from the ones I love.
Thank you so much for your professional insight into my matter with Pisces man! It has always irked me (as a Virgo woman) when at times it appears that he is not concerned with the lengthy periods of time that we go without spending time together.
He is always calm and unaffected, while I am ruffled and broken-hearted.
It appears that he hides his true feelings for me, when I never can tell through his actions how much he does care. He verbally communicates that he "cares" but he lacks the physical reinforcement.
Also, no I do not want a man who retreats and goes missing mysteriously. I thrive on communication and interaction from the ones I love.
Hi there! Well I am that Pisces Man that Chrissy (Virgo Woman) speaks of, and I must say, this is the most DEAD ON ACCURATE analysis of this situation since Chrissy and I started our relationship a year ago. I’ve talked to many friends and family members trying to better understand my Virgo Woman and assess our relationship but hands down this is the best interpretation. It seems as if someone who knows me personally wrote about my character, personality, and needs. How awesome! Although many pertinent details about the relationship are missing that have much to do with why Pisces man is often missing in action, the response is undeniably valid. You have a new blog reader!
Pisces man, please feel free to share why you are so often missing in action, DESPITE Virgo woman's constant availability to you.
:)
Welcome Pisces Man. But you two may want to take your conversation about your relationship into more private quarters...
LOL, of course Jeff! We will.. Sorry! You probably know better than anyone else that once a Virgo woman starts...it can be hard to stop her! One of the least attractive features of the Virgo is their argumentative spirit. No worries! No drama in your blog! :)
Jeffrey, Does the transit of Saturn through Virgo in the Pisces guy's 5th house ( house of love/romance) have anything to do in terms of aggravating his 'withdrawal' response that seems to leave her feeling 'unloved'?
@shygirl, it could certainly relate to him feeling restricted in his romantic life, pulling back to ascertain what he really wants
Oh, that vanishing act.
Chrissy, it drives me BANANAS too!!! In the beginning, I always thought we must simply be broken up (and he just hadn't told me), and after almost a month, I would just start dating other guys. Then when he came back....oh the jealousy! How dare I? What a cheater, right? He could NEVER see it from my view, like, "Hello!!! You didn't answer your phone for THREE WEEKS or return my emails, and you are surprised that I am talking with another guy now?"
He still thought I was a cheating b**ch for it. Now I know that when he goes missing, this is like my vacation time. I just think of Spring Cleaning or taking a little mini-vacation somewhere, maybe learn a new language or write a book. This was a HARD adjustment for me, because I bring "control-freak" to a whole new level normally in relationships.
Yes, he's Pisces too.
Oh, the advantage to this is that I can go missing too if I want, and he can't say jack about it!!! mwahahah! :) Monkey see, monkey do.
I think you should find another relationship - suited to a Virgo.
A distant man is what i've been married to for 22 years....the last 11 have been almost totally dry.
Someone who doesn't respond to you for periods of 3 weeks should tell you everything you need to know if you were to marry him.
I promise you it would be a lonely life.
I can relate to Chrissy, I too am dating a pisces man and I feel he is a mystery I may never understand and it drives me crazy!
My guy is on the road alot for work while I wait with anticipation for him to come home. While I crave the affection and intimacy from him he seems just content to cuddle and hang out, i feel like more of a "friend" than his girlfriend. He says he loves me and is very sweet but the lack of romatic gestures and feeling stuck in a dating rut makes me just wanna throw up my hands and call it quites.
As a virgo woman i feel like i need things layed out for me and have a clear cut idea of whats gonna happen next, where he gives me no idea if he even feels the same and doesnt like to be "pressured" into deciscions.
They say patience is a virtue. How about Patience is loving a Pisces!!
Good Luck to us all
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