Cancer man wants to make flirtatious Gemini girlfriend jealous
Micah (view chart) writes,
Instead of making your Gemini girlfriend jealous, why don't you just work on your own jealousy issues? Her flirting is triggering your own insecurities about how much of a "hold" you have on her. Perhaps you are afraid she will leave you for someone more interesting. You have your Sun, Moon and Venus in Cancer. This Water sign desires security, and with your planets of needs and affection here, you want to be coddled. When you watch your Gemini girlfriend flirt, your feelings may be akin to that of seeing your mother pay attention to your siblings instead of enveloping you in her love 24/7.
Mars, your action planet, is in possessive Taurus. Your impulse is to take what you feel is yours -- and forget about sharing! Planetary heavyweights Saturn and Pluto add to your frustration. Saturn squares your Mars from Aquarius. You don't feel you belong, and this insecurity only fuels your desire to cling to your relationship. An opposition to Mars from Pluto in Scorpio intensifies your jealousy.
Neither Cancerian clinginess nor Taurean possessiveness are attractive to a Gemini. And trying to make a Gem stop flirting is like telling a car it's not supposed to drive. Just continue to be interesting so that she stays fascinated with you.
~ Jeffrey
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My girlfriend is of course a gemini, and we've been dating for about 2 months. As you know gemini's are the flirtatious kind, and I can get a little jealous. But i don't tell her i'm jealous because i know they hate when you tell them to stop flirting. My question is How Can I make my gemini girlfriend jealous?Micah,
Instead of making your Gemini girlfriend jealous, why don't you just work on your own jealousy issues? Her flirting is triggering your own insecurities about how much of a "hold" you have on her. Perhaps you are afraid she will leave you for someone more interesting. You have your Sun, Moon and Venus in Cancer. This Water sign desires security, and with your planets of needs and affection here, you want to be coddled. When you watch your Gemini girlfriend flirt, your feelings may be akin to that of seeing your mother pay attention to your siblings instead of enveloping you in her love 24/7.
Mars, your action planet, is in possessive Taurus. Your impulse is to take what you feel is yours -- and forget about sharing! Planetary heavyweights Saturn and Pluto add to your frustration. Saturn squares your Mars from Aquarius. You don't feel you belong, and this insecurity only fuels your desire to cling to your relationship. An opposition to Mars from Pluto in Scorpio intensifies your jealousy.
Neither Cancerian clinginess nor Taurean possessiveness are attractive to a Gemini. And trying to make a Gem stop flirting is like telling a car it's not supposed to drive. Just continue to be interesting so that she stays fascinated with you.
~ Jeffrey
Related post: Gemini woman and jealous Cancer man. Can it work?
Comment below: Have you ever made a Gemini jealous? If so, how?
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 5/09/2008
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And trying to make a Gem stop flirting is like telling a car it's not supposed to drive...
Jeffrey, are you suggesting that anyone dating & or in relationship with a Gemini just has to accept this 'fact' & not expect anything different from them? That doesn't seem fair to me. Just as the Cancer guy needs to work on his insecurities/possessiveness (BTW, I feel you on that one, Cancer guy....:-)), shouldn't the gem girl be expected to curb her flirting tendencies as well out of respect for his feelings?
I've had a lifetime of entanglements with Gems, Aquarians, and Mercurial men (my Mars & Saturn is in Gem, my Venus & Mercury in Aquarius) and I have to agree with Jeff: you either take them or leave them, flirting and all. Another fun Mercury-person game is to fall in and out of love with you at least four times a year (this is often accompanied by brief "relationships" with other people, though not always physical ones, thank god.)
It drove me crazy when I was younger. It still drives me a little crazy, but it's also taught me self-sufficiency and the value of emotional flexibility.
Of course, this is easier for me to say, since my love planets are all air themselves!
No, Gem will never stop flirting, and no, Cancer/Taurus will never stop trying to possess. But if there's enough maturity and tolerance, both Cancer and Gemini could very well learn to love and accept one another as very different people.
My two cents, for what it's worth!
Laura,
After reading your post, I can only reach one conclusion that I better NEVER get involved with a Gemini. Kudos to those who can take this type of 'relationship', I know myself well enough to know that, it will push me over the edge (of sanity, that is)...:-) I am a Cap Sun & Cancer ascendant with mutliple Plutonic connections in my chart. This would drive me CRAZY. Interestingly I've Gem Moon myself, one that I have never identified with really, feels more like Cancer moon to me.It was interesting to read your viewpoint though.
Yes, shygirl, I think one does pretty much have to accept this 'fact.' But flirting can be harmless, what counts is how devoted the Gemini is to his or her partner. One has to remember that it doesn't have to be personal.
Cancer man,
So you want to make your flirtatious Gemini girlfriend jealous, then I suggest you do the same. She probably might flirt more but show her that it doesn't bother you.
BUT I think you should not do that and just talk to her and see if she is doing it because she is a flirt or because she is looking for some attention that she might be lacking in your relationship. If she is doing it because she is just a flirt, maybe you can let her know that it bothers you and if she can tone it down a bit. If she is doing it because she is lacking some attention in your relationship, then you guys need to address that. If she doesn't want to compromise, then I say RUN and don't look back.
Hope it works between you guys. Best of wishes. Keep us posted.
Hi Jeff, this is a Piscean woman posting about a Capricon man. I have just met him, he is from work, and we have met each other two times. How can I tell if he is interested in me? I dont want to take the first step here, or do anything which will make me look like a fool. We ( him, me and another girl and a guy from office) are to meet up at his place next week.
So far, he has told me and the other girl about his parents, his sister, his niece, his work, his work, his work ( which I dont mind, I too love talking about work), what he thinks about the country we are living in etc...
Any tips, helps, would be very appreciated!
@jokerista, I wonder if a Capricorn would make romantic moves on a coworker, could be risky. They tend to be reserved in their expression of affection. I'd say any efforts at all to be alone with you could be interpreted as interest.
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