Libra ex-husband says the door is never closed
Rosalind provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,I was married to a libra man, we have a child together. i want him back, and he will only say "the door is never closed". how do i proceed? how do i win back a libra?Coming from a Libra, "The door is never closed" can mean one of two things:
- "I'm not willing to say 'no' to you because that will hurt your feelings."
- "I am not able to make a firm decision, hence the door always remains open."
I suspect that he may have experienced your Jupiter-Mars conjunction in Aries as overbearing, so you should not try to win him over with force or an appeal to "higher reason." Your best bet may be to rely on the wit of your Mercury in Gemini. Mercury in such a flexible sign knows how to maneuver through cracks and skirt around obstructions. Although not powered by the "almighty" attitude of your Jupiter or your Sagittarius Moon, this is a good thing, for Libra may feel that you're trying too hard to convince him to take you back.
Your Mercury opposition to fantasy-prone Neptune provides you a strong imagination and poetic flair that will help appeal to Libra's idealism about relationships. I suggest you use your gift of gab to incrementally win your Libra ex to your side. Then use your fiery and fun Venus in Leo (supported by trines from both Jupiter and Neptune) to turn up the heat in the romance department.
What this means in English: If your Libra ex-husband is of two minds about whether to reunite, convert him to your side with stimulating conversation and playful flirtatiousness. Don't come on too strong with directness.
Comment below: What do you think "the door is never closed" means? And how would you win back a Libra?
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 2/06/2008
16 Comments:
I think "the door is never closed" could be only a piece of the information. Maybe the guy has said more to her, but she's not sharing. My best guess is that it's conditional. "If you [change in whatever way] then the door is never closed..."
If the door is truly never closed, then that is an invitation to walk back in, as far as I'm interpreting it. What does one expect to do with an open door? Walk through it obviously.
Either she is not taking the big clue, or there is more to it. Logic says so, BUT you could argue that Libra man is not a logical creature. He's flaky (as Libras tend to be) and doesn't know what he wants, or he's just being plain mean and leading her on when he has no intention of reconciling, and preventing her from moving on.
My first sticky sweet teenage love was with a Libra guy and he was absolutely famous for being flaky and wishy-washy. One day he'd be wanting to be with me, and the next wanting to be with his friends and not me. We broke up and reconciled more times than I can count - either him dumping me or doing something so stupid that I'd dump him. I remember his final attempt to reconcile when he thought I was slipping away from our "casual" relationship. He asked if I wanted a commitment, to which I replied "Yes! But not with you." I'd finally had enough of it. That's my one and only experience with a Libra lover, and what I see in the future for one that is leaving the door open. He was an awesome lover, and periodically a good friend, but that in the end wasn't enough for me. The desire to know what was going on from one minute to the next won out.
First off - I couldn't stand someone that indesisive about what he wants- I'm too direct for libra.
Did you stumble en route to the spacebar? Battery croak? Not the dread Blue Screen of Death?
Is there a second off? Part B? Moreover? To be continued?
Don't leave us hanging, girlfriend. Unless, of course, that's all part of being too direct.
Who cares about the Libra. I'm all fidgety for more.
Would this apply also for someone who has their moon in Libra
"... door is never closed ..."?
Maybe it means:
"hey, you're the one who wanted out, not me, but considering how much is broken between us now, and what you did to me, I'm not really sure, I want to be in that situation again, however, I do care about you, to let you in again, hoping that you won't hurt me again!"?
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Leg Crossing Ahead: Please explain how your post is relevant to the discussion.
Thank you! I wondering exactly the same thing.
How many other people have an open door policy with Libra? You know what I mean? Try to find out, b/c it sounds like Libra is being coy. You can do this in a few ways: ask friends if he's seeing others, stalk him (OK, not literally, but it doesn't hurt to see if he's out and about w/ other chicks), or best yet, just ask him. If he sulks up on you, I say slam that door in his face!
As an Aries married to a Libra, I've found that sometimes you have to just go off on 'em... they don't like it, but it's fun, it shows them you mean business, and it helps get everything out in the open. You get to "air" your differences/complaints. You can laugh about it later, and Libra loves to make up. ;0)
Libras a two-faced wishy washy bishs who don't know what they want till something better comes along!
that picture is wrong on so many levels.
as someone with Libra rising, i say he doesn't want to hurt you.
he may love you still, but something else is more important to him right now.
also, he could be hurting as well. so he might be trying to heal his own wounds.
i say, win back a Libra by being 'airy'. Talk, explain, intellectualise. You have Sun and Mercury, i'm sure you have the gift of the gab..
Being a libra...and the epitome of one at that, I PROMISE you its one of the two original propositions. I have been telling my cancer ex that for almost a year now. I've just never had "that spark" with him that I need to feel connected in a relationship.. But i stayed with him for 3 years out of guilt (hes an amazing..caring..loving person and how dare i give anything but that back to him? Its what he deserves, the thought of him hurting from losing me kills me bc he does everything in his power to make me the happiest woman in the world) and indecision(why am i so unfulfilled with such a perfect man and is that lack of fulfillment worth losing him... Or is there something I can try and change about myself that will allow him to...fill me?) This is the libra thought process and there are countless other factors that I must take into account in my fruitless attempt to make a decision.. Being born under the scales has its advantages but it has its handicaps too : / I have thought all those things since day 1 and after nearly 3 years I finally decided to end it.. But in an attempt to take away as much of the sting as possible...I always assure him that whats meant to be will be...ie: the door is never closed with libra :/ Being "airy" is the way to win him back for sure but if its just a show he'll see straight through it. My suggestion is to try and move on..
I am the question asker and I have some more details: I left the relationship because we needed a drastic change to save our relationship. He didn't want to separate, but has been very good to me. I approached him to reconcile and he went for it for about a week. then he clammed up and backed off. He actually IS dating. He thinks i am just being impulsive. He tells everyone we know, not just me that the door isn't closed, that he needs time to work things out for himself. I don't think he is just telling me that to spare my feelings, because i am already completely in the dumps. and he is honest to a fault.
I dated a Libra for years. I still love him deeply-soulful connection- but he is a super flake. He comes and goes so much that I am not phased anymore. He has told me more than once that he had to go away only to come back out of the blue like nothing ever happened. The last time he left was in August 2008. He sent me an e-mail to tell me that he wasn't pleased with himself and how he had been acting. He said that I was a good person and I didn't deserve his treatment of me. Then he disappeared and wouldn't return my calls. He was right but his way of communicating had "punk move" written all over it. December 2008 he called at 2am one morning from a phone booth asking if I wanted to see him. I declined but we started talking on the phone casually again. I was more careful but I guess not careful enough. Whatever man-now he's in the wind again. He said I was rude or something on the phone one day. So he won't return my calls AGAIN! It's just too much work for too little return. I'm sure he'll try to come back only to flake again. In Dec. I asked him if he was gonna go away again. He promised that he wouldn't disappear. He didn't keep that promise. I find his vague manner, childlike attitude and disappearing acts disrespectful. I gotta move on. It's long overdue. Love is blind and ignorance is bliss. But I'm not blind or ignorant anymore. If your man wants you, he should be man enough to say what he wants. This ain't Blues Clues. Ask him what that "door open" stuff means. Libras flip flop and sit on the fence about serious issues much too much. They are also very judgmental about everyone else--but not about themselves. I actually find this to be true more of the men than the women. Still, they aren't all bad. He was very smart and a wonderful conversationalist. They are usually quite handsome or appealing. I'm sure other aspects of their chart (besides their sun sign) govern a lot of the character of each individual.
Of you have children with him I guess you can give it a shot or if you love him. I have been involved with 2 libras and it was tramatizing. The first one who I thought was my friend for two years turned his back on me. I had nightmares for months the second one told me he didn't have a gf. A month later not only did he knock some girl up but he was also seeing another girl on the side but he said he had 'feelings' for me. STFU libra men never again. He was a liar besides I told him if he ever wanted to see someone else just to let me know but no he wanted my love and also more love from everyone else. And after knocking this girl up who he calls a slut he still wanted to continue with me. pfft. I left that fool and I moved too. Sagittarians hate HATE liars. And after he lied to me he's asking me why I am acting like a robot? Yeah like I am supposed to pretend that everything is ok please. Libra men just can't be trusted but that's my opinion
Is he being FAIR? Im a libra and spend hours trying to find the middle field in everything, so its equal. I think thats a good angle to try. Using your words, present him with situations where his behavior is unfair...and this will certainly cause quite a stir. You have a child together. Has his behavior to you been FAIR to the well being of your child, and has it presented a FAIR reflection of both of you to him? Has there been any other ways you feel like he has been unfair? You might have to find them for him, because we usually have trouble finding these unfair reactions when it comes to matters of love. Being to emotional only complicates matters, so come at him with a storm of situations that reflect how unfair it all is. Like, "Is it FAIR for you to not give me more open answers to my questions, when I am being very open or honest with you?" It might push him to reveal more if he realizes his way of reflection was unfair. Balance is a bitch.
PS: Dont overdue it. All that contimplation and trying to be fair can wear us out. And then he might just get lazy again.
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