On Monday, Mars retrogrades back into Gemini, where he will stay for a few months, stationing direct on January 30 and returning to Cancer on March 4. Throughout the first month of the year, you will have the opportunity to recollect all the ways you've talked your way into (and out of) sexual predicaments. Or remember the challenges you've faced having to choose between two or more men (unless you just decided to have them all at once.)

Wednesday features an aggressive Mars-Pluto opposition. In the wake of Prime Minister Benazir Bhutto's assassination, one cannot provide an optimistic spin on this aspect. These are both the planets of sex and violence, and Pluto's dark side is that of the rapist, the manipulator, the underworld pimp. Although you can use this energy to explore sexual taboos and unearth your hidden desires, keep an eye out for people who try to violate your boundaries. This is a planetary powerhouse combination that can manifest in ugly ways.

On Sunday, Venus squares Saturn in the mutable signs Sagittarius and Virgo. Shortly after having left controlling Scorpio, the goddess is now being restrained and judged by the Taskmaster. Her best-laid plans to travel the world and flirt with those sexy Eastern European men are momentarily dashed, as Saturn needs her to stay home and vacuum under the rug. Overall, relationships are challenged and expressions of love are thwarted. Use this time to seriously consider what you want in love, so that you can leave some baggage behind on your way to the airport.

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Women are often raised to attract men with their Venus, via clothing and cosmetics, flirtation and femininity. But gender roles are in flux, and many females don't want to be stuck on the receiving end of relationships, waiting for the man to make the first move.

However, a guy frequently want to be in the driver's seat, and may be put off by a woman asking him out. (Since he can no longer hunt for boar, he needs a challenge!) But where does that leave the woman, who's itching to let out her Mars? Does she wait until she's already firmly ensconced in a relationship to express her assertiveness and competitive drive?

Traditionally, a woman's Mars signifies the type of man to whom she is attracted. But if she simply lets a guy "own" her Mars, then she has abdicated this vital part of herself to another. She cannot be a whole person if she always lets her man fix the sink or argue with the phone company for overbilling ... unless she also takes on some "masculine" traits.

At the other end of the Venus/Mars spectrum is being "one of the boys." Hanging out, drinking beers, playing Xbox ... yet not being recognized as feminine and wondering why she's not getting dates. It seems like a delicate balancing act, being able to attract without being passive, being able to hang loose with the guys while still being seen as a woman.

The Swiss psychologist Carl Jung coined the term animus possessed to refer to women who"live their lives according to the archetypal masculine principles of order, efficiency and perfection, as opposed to allowing themselves and their lives simply 'to be' as they are. These are the women who seek power rather than love--their intellectualized ambition keeping them ever-striving, with no energy left to be alive." [from Dancing in the Shadows by Laura Bryannan]

However, there has been criticism of the inherent sexism of Jung's characterization, which suggests that there is something pathological about a woman who strives for success and chooses logic over emotions. Surely, a woman can express her Mars without being judged?

Knowing when to play the Venus card or Mars card seems to be the key to relationship satisfaction. Sometimes it works to be the coquette, other times the tigress. Attract without letting someone overstep boundaries. Kick butt at the karate dojo yet do t'ai chi in the bedroom.

Unless your guy likes to be treated rough.

Comment below: How do you modulate the expression of your Venus and Mars?

Related posts:

• Venus in Love, Mars in Heat
• When you don't identify with your Venus sign
• Think with your Venus
  

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I wrote many posts in 2007, and some received a more enthusiastic response than others. It is difficult to place value on a blog post, but there are ways to determine which entries resonated the most with readers. Here are the ones that inspired the most comments and received the most visitors:

Most commented-on posts of 2007

• Why does Pisces lie? - 50 comments
• Loving an immature Leo - 49 comments
• How to know when a Scorpio doesn't love you - 49 comments
• Venus in love, Mars in heat - 39 comments
• You cannot make someone fall in love with you - 37 comments
• Using astrology to get who you want - 35 comments
• Are Libras unfaithful? - 32 comments

Most heavily trafficked posts this year (pages with the most visits)

• What does a Scorpio man want in a woman?
• Scorpio and Gemini reasons for breakup
• How to know when a Scorpio doesn't love you
• How do you win a Scorpio male's affections for good?
  
• What Virgo men find sexy about Cancer women

Comment below: Do you see a pattern other than an obsession with Scorpios? What did I do well this year, and what can I do differently in the future?

The effects of this past Sunday's Cancer Full Moon lingers on, as Mars and Jupiter continue to dance with each other and the Sun. On Monday, the Capricorn Sun opposes retrograde Mars in Cancer, and on Wednesday, Mars opposes Jupiter. And all this over the backdrop of a Winter Solstice ushered in by Mercury and Jupiter's earlier entrance into Capricorn.

Mars would rather be in his granddaddy Saturn's sign -- where he is exalted -- than in Mama's Boy Cancer. In essence, the planets of opportunity and will are enjoying the fruits of their labor at the top of the mountain, while Mars is stuck rehashing the past in therapy ... and guess who's to blame for his problems? The Sun and Jupiter are getting all the girls -- because they have status and fat wallets -- while Mars feels nearly impotent. The shrink suggests that Mars not let Jupiter egg him on to walk up to the prettiest girl when he goes clubbing. Either her boyfriend will beat him up, or Mars won't be able to "rise to the occasion" once he's alone with her. Best to continue exploring why he keeps on choosing women who turn into his mother.

On Sunday, Venus enters Sagittarius. After spending most of December in hot-and-heavy Scorpio, the love planet gets a breath of fresh air, emerging from the dark, dank bedroom to go for a brisk walk in the park. Ah, the freedom! Scorpio was possessive and controlling, but now you can go ahead and do whatever you want! There are adventures to be had, and many willing travel companions.

Check the accuracy of last week's horoscope, or comment below about this week.

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I've recently been reading books on seduction and dating from the perspective of both genders. The basic premise I've been encountering -- regardless of which camp you belong to -- is that we are attracted to people who are not too available. When someone is 100% open to you, there's no challenge, and you get bored. "Cat string theory" (a term I encountered in Neil Strauss' The Game) states that when you stop dangling string in front of a cat and just let it sit there, the cat gets bored and walks away. You have to keep on dangling to keep its interest.

This of course is Mars in action. Mars wants a challenge, a fight. A guy wants to work hard to win over a girl, and a girl wants a guy who's not all needy and desperate. According to Darwinism 101 (aka evolutionary psychology), a man is naturally competitive and wants the woman with the greatest hip-to-waist ratio to bear his child. Conversely, a woman wants an alpha-male to ensure that she and her child will be protected. One pickup artist named Mystery (mentioned in The Game) states that despite cultural and technological advances, we're still slaves to our biological drives that worked for us tens of thousands of years ago, when we lived in small tribes.

Manipulation

A friend of mine mentioned that her office colleague comes in with new ideas to snag a boyfriend. One tip -- called "doing a coyote" -- involves a woman going to a guy's house for the first time after dating for a while, having sex, and then leaving in the middle of the night while he's sleeping. Presumably the intended effect is to make the man feel insecure so that he'll work harder to keep the woman, as well as make him feel more attracted to her because she's not 100% available to him. He was probably looking forward to cooking breakfast for her -- he's not just into the sex, you know!

Manipulative tactics such as this are under the domain of Scorpio, which is traditionally ruled by Mars. Are we to assume that -- to succeed in the dating world -- we must resort to competition and mind-games?

Yet it is true that without distance from a perceived goal or outcome, Mars has nothing to do. We get angry when somebody blocks us from something we desire. We strive towards a goal that we have not yet attained. Some couples fight just so they can have make-up sex -- they use Mars to create some space between themselves, presumably because emotional enmeshment is not a turn-on.

There is some wisdom to Mars. Members of couples who have enough separation are healthier than those who are codependent. If both people in a partnership have their own hobbies, friends they go out with, and so on, then they develop their own distinct identities, they are not just one-half of a relationship unit. They continue to feel attracted to each other because there is a gap to bridge.

Mars gives us the drive to go out into the world, initially impelling us to separate from our mothers. Then the Moon impels us to come back for security and nurturing. In developmental psychology, this is called rapprochement.

In the dating world, it is the Moon in people that is apparently a turn-off. Neediness, clinginess, waiting by the phone, "I need you" ... it is these behaviors that often drive someone away. It is one thing to flirt and send flowers (Venus), it is another to call someone up and say, "I can't live without you."

Lunar Longing

Perhaps it is the child in us that sabotages dating success. Our first template for relationships is the mother-child bond. As adults, we have unfulfilled needs, and we expect that our infantile fantasies -- we will be taken care of, all of our emotional needs will be met, we will be enveloped in love and warmth -- will be met by a man or woman. However, most adults don't want to be parents to a partner. Parenting implies being with someone 24/7, having no space or time to develop one's own interests. That's what it's like raising an infant.

There is a healthy medium between Cancerian neediness and Scorpionic manipulation in dating. You can be confident and independent (Aries). You don't have to play mind-games, trap someone with an unexpected pregnancy or play the helpless waif who needs a strong protector.

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Since Saturn entered Virgo, I've been building the Astrology Blogger Directory. It features

• A near-comprehensive listing of astrology blogs, as well as a constantly updating feed of the latest posts from the astroblogosphere
• Astrology videos that you can watch directly on the site
• Astrology podcasts that you can listen to directly on the site
• A smattering of horoscopes
• And a social bookmarking section in which you can submit links to astrology articles and blog posts that you'd like to share with the community

Check it out!

I'm interested in doing a series of case studies on the astrological factors relating to sex appeal.

Which celebs do you find the sexiest? I don't necessarily mean looks-wise -- I mean actresses and musicians who just have it regardless of whether they'd look hot airbrushed on the cover of Cosmo.

Please comment below with your submissions, and include what it is about them that you find appealing.

(And don't worry, I'll cover the guys next!)

The sign your Venus is in shows how you attract people. But what if you just don't identify with what the astrology books say about your Venus sign? (Read Venus in Love, Mars in Heat to learn more about what your Venus sign means.)

When Venus is in a different sign than the Sun

One form of "dissonance" occurs when your Venus is in a different sign than your Sun. The Sun is your conscious identity, your will. If your Venus is in the sign immediately before or after your Sun sign, then your love planet attracts in a manner incompatible with what you intentionally strive for. If your Venus is two signs away from your Sun, their expressions are more compatible, because they are both either yang/masculine (Fire and Air signs) or yin/feminine (Earth and Water signs.) And if your Sun and Venus are in the same sign, then their expressions are congruent.

A quick example: Say you're a woman with Sun in Aries and Venus in Pisces, the sign immediately preceding Aries. You're direct and impulsive, you know what you want and you go for it. Yet when it comes to attracting potential partners, you tend to be more passive and hard-to-grasp. The Venusian part of yourself feels at odds with how you identify yourself. Frustrating!

(I have also written a post about Venus in Cancer and the five Sun signs that can accompany this placement.)

When Venus makes a hard aspect to an outer planet

Your Venus' expression, however, can be totally disrupted when one of the outermost planets (Saturn, Uranus, Neptune or Pluto) makes a stressful angle to it. The most stressful aspects are typically squares (when two planets make an approximately 90 degree angle to each other) and oppositions (when two planets make an approximately 180 degree angle to each other).

I've already written about Saturn in aspect to Venus. In general, an outer planet's hard aspect to Venus overwhelms her expression -- both by adding its own powerful influence and by possibly bringing out the worst of the zodiac sign in which Venus is placed.

An example: Say you were born when Uranus was in Libra (circa 1968 - 1975) and your Venus is in Cancer. If these two planets are within 8 degrees of a 90-degree angle, then they are square by aspect.

Venus in Cancer attracts by caretaking and nurturing, and is generally conservative in nature, valuing the past and family traditions. Yet Uranus blows Venus out of the water! This outer planet disrupts the status quo and urges you towards independence. One part of you wants to settle down with your boyfriend and make him a quilt, while the other insists on the freedom to do what you want, even if your actions challenge traditional notions of partnership.

See? You're a hard nut to crack. And I haven't even mentioned Venus' house placement!

Know Your Chart

It's easy to get overwhelmed when you realize that you can't understand your "powers of attraction" just by looking at your Venus sign. But you can't simplify desire! Do yourself a favor and either learn your chart, consult a professional astrologer, or purchase an astrology report to understand yourself better.

Comment below: Share your Venus sign, Sun sign and hard aspects to Venus from other planets. How do you make sense of your powers of attraction?

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On Tuesday, Venus in Scorpio trines Uranus. This is a complex aspect, for the love planet is pulled in two different directions. Transiting in Scorpio, Venus yearns to go deep, ploughing through fear and resistance to reach the core of intimate connection. Yet in aspect to Uranus, this goddess values her independence and seeks to break conventions in partnership. Uranus does not facilitate emotional closeness, threatening to disrupt Scorpio's plans to soulmerge. However, they have one meeting ground, and that's the taboo. Uranus likes to shock, and Scorpio is drawn towards socially unacceptable practices and people. Licking erotic flavors other than vanilla is a prerequisite to turn this aspect into a good time.

Unfortunately, Capricorn is hosting a party for the next year, as Jupiter enters this sign on Tueesday. This is no wild bash. Everyone is required to wear formal attire. And you can't drink to excess or go skinny dipping in the pool.

Saturday hosts the Winter Solstice, when the Sun enters Capricorn and the days finally start to get longer. Venus squares Neptune today. As you celebrate the return of the Sun and dance around the tribal fire, you're likely to get romantically swept away, falling transcendently in love with that cutie near the bar. Even if you tea-total your way through the festivities, you still won't be sober while under the influence of Neptune. Any attractions now are subject to delusion and fantasy. When you wake up in a strange bed and wonder how in Jove's name you got there, don't say I didn't warn you.

Also on Saturday, Mercury in Capricorn opposes Mars, still retro in Cancer. You will have serious thoughts about your dwindling sex life, and make a plan to turn the situation around. But Mercury moves fast, while Mars is nearly at a standstill. Your sex life will still suck, while Mercury tries to improve the bottom line somewhere else.

The Cancer Full Moon on Sunday conjoins Mars and opposes Jupiter. You become painfully aware that you're still not getting any action. Jupiter would ordinarily spur Mars on to take some stupid risks to meet someone, but both planets are in the signs of their "fall." Might as well sit this one out. The best you can do is sort through old family photos and have a good laugh at how silly your relatives look.

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Saj provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

Ive always heard that Sag and Cancer don't get along but in my case I feel like we are somewhat compatible. His moon is in Aquarius and my moon is in Libra. His mars is in Leo and Venus in Cancer and my mars is in Scorpio and Venus in Capricorn. Anyway, when we first met we got really tight and slowly after like a month we started to kind of fade and stopped talking as often but i still slept over sometimes and each time was amazing. The last time we were together was the best. It felt so right like we knew exactly how to take care of each other.

He wont talk about it with me so I stopped trying to force him to share his feelings with me but I got so uncomfortable not really knowing where we stand and not knowing the truth for sure so I told him we should stop seeing each other the way we did and I told him I deleted him as my friend off myspace because i was trying to get over him a little bit and now he's not talking to me.

My question is, is there a chance he could miss me too? Because I miss him so much and I wont IM him or text him or call him just because when I tried to before, I got no response. Sometimes I feel like when he puts sad love songs as away messages they are for me but I can't be too sure because theres a million other girls in the world and who really knows.

I've met a lot of guys since and I'm going out with them sometimes but i still think about him even when I'm out and I have no desire to be with anyone else.

You have a powerful Mars: it is dignified in its own (traditional) sign, conjunct your Midheaven, and intensified by a conjunction to Pluto. It's actually a pretty potent combination: the two planets of sexuality conjunct, in the sign that they both rule, at the cusp of the very public 10th House. You've got sexual drive up the yin yang, and he's probably scared of you. A poor little Cancer could get destroyed by that combination. And with Venus rising in Capricorn, you're probably really attractive, albeit in a very classy and dignified way. You've got high standards, and maybe he feels he's not good enough for you.

However, you're attracted to him because you have Cancer on your Descendant (the cusp of your Seventh House). You're drawn to the sensitive type who can provide nurturing and care. But you have to remember that Cancer feels easily vulnerable and can pull back into his shell to protect himself, thus giving a hard appearance. Perhaps he doesn't feel safe enough to share his feelings with you right now.

You have a stellium of planets in Sagittarius: Mercury, Sun, Saturn and Uranus, all within orb of a conjunction, and opposite Chiron in Gemini. Deleting him off your MySpace is a little extreme, but suddenly (Uranus) cutting off (Saturn) a guy (Sun) because you feel wounded (Chiron) fits with your chart. Also, the vindictive nature of Mars-Pluto in Scorpio makes me wonder if you're punishing him for not opening up to you after you felt so connected to him.

The key is to stop forcing him to share his feelings with you. He may indeed still have you in his heart, but he's not going to take off his armor if he feels backed into a corner.

Comment below to provide Saj feedback, or discuss Cancer-Sagittarius compatibility in the forum.

Related post:

• Sagittarius woman only needs Cancer man when she's lonely

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Jessica Shepherd over at MoonKissd has written an excellent post on how women use their Mars in seduction when they should really be using their Venus:

When women use their Mars to attract love she invites a landmine of problems. Here's Mars marching orders: chase, capture and conquer. Versus Venus' beauty credo: the world is one big orgasm (or ice cream cone) and it's coming my way! It's a subtle difference in attitude. Mars is all red alert and high intensity, while Venus is warmly expectant and receptive. Dating, for the woman who has lost touch with the innate playfulness of Venus is Mars dangerous - like lobbing hand grenades cleverly disguised as romantic overtures into enemy territory. Because that's what it feels like for a man, sabotaged and caught by surprise, when she comes on too strong.

Read the entire article Put a Muzzle on Your Mars, Think With Your Venus.

Jessica has an upcoming book on attracting your soul mate -- from which her article is excerpted. She also has one of the most well-designed astrology blogs I've ever seen. So check 'er out!

The following guest post is by Neith aka Diane Lang.

In chart comparisons, the presence of Jupiter in an interaspect usually indicates that we will enjoy the other person's company -- especially if Venus, his favorite dancing partner, is involved. When we astrologers start checking aspects between two charts, Jupiter and Venus are the planets we love to see, because they help smooth over the rough patches we all run into over the course of a relationship.

However, being a Libra, I'm going to present the other side of the story -- Jupiter squaring the personal planets in synastry. In other words, what happens when you have too much of a good thing? We'll start with a look at the possibilities of a Jupiter/Sun square. The Sun and Jupiter are both expansive forces in the chart -- think Leo (Sun) and Sagittarius (Jupiter). If Jupiter in one chart squares the Sun in the other, we can have a situation where the Jupiter person encourages the Sun person to have unrealistic expectations of what they can accomplish. This sets up a scenario where severe letdowns are in store. Of course, if Saturn shows up too, he will help keep Jupiter in check.

When Jupiter squares the Moon, you may want to consider the phrase "over the Moon" about someone. The emotions are exaggerated and we can find ourselves going on quite an emotional roller coaster ride of Love -- up one day and down the next. It can be fun if you like that kind of excitement … and lots of Fire signs types will line up for the experience!

Let's not forget the effect Jupiter can have on Mercury -- such as making promises he can't possibly keep. Or he gets a little carried away describing this great little restaurant that has the best food in town ... and you get there to find a dive!

Venus/Jupiter squares in synastry lead to that incredible weekend in Vegas where money flows like water and you wake up on Monday wondering what the heck you did -- but it must have been fun, right?! That lasts about as long as it takes to check your credit card charges and realize you are right up to your credit limit. Jupiter can seduce Venus by showering her with gifts, whether he can afford them or not. Throw in a strong Neptune aspect or two, and oh boy ...

Mars and Jupiter?! Remember the time your best friend double dog dared you to do something really stupid, and you did ... to your everlasting embarrassment? Well, that's one possible result of having Jupiter squaring Mars (Actions) in synastry.

Seriously, I love to see two or three good Jupiter connections in synastry, because they bring a spirit of generosity and a willingness to let bygones be bygones. People simply like each other and can always find the humor in just about any situation, all good for keeping a relationship on track -- and someone has to offset dour Saturn!!

About the Author
Neith AKA Diane Lang writes a blog on Synastry at Neith on Synastry, where she writes posts answering relationship questions from readers and does the occasional post on how the outer planets in particular affect our ability to relate. She also has another blog, Neith.net, which covers a broad range of topics relating to Astrology and her life. If you enjoy her style and are interested in having her take a look at your chart, she does written reports for a reasonable fee too.

Explore other Seduction Central posts mentioning Jupiter through Google Blog Search.

Comment below: What Jupiter interaspects do you have with a partner? How are they too much of a good thing?

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In the comments section of Sagittarius woman only needs Cancer man when she's lonely, many Sagittarians lambasted the poor Cancer guy with Pisces rising for lying to his Sag ex-girlfriend.

"You see we do always tell the truth (as we see it) for better or worse and we do appreciate the truth in the same way."

"Sadge women CANNOT be lied to...no matter what."

"Sagittarius people cannot tolerate a liar."

Perhaps the truth as Sagittarius sees it is not the same as The Truth. This sign's ruling planet is Jupiter, the Expander and Exaggerator. When a fact doesn't support Sagittarius' worldview, philosophy or theory of everything, the Centaur may just choose to ignore it. After all, the Big Picture is more important than every little detail. And Sag may give some supporting pieces of information slightly more emphasis than others to make her point. She wouldn't call this "lying," just "putting things in perspective."

Is stretching the truth less ethically questionable than outright lying? Sagittarius may not see it as a problem. But then again, Sag may not even be aware that she is leaving key points out of her version of the truth. Nor may she recognize when she is over-emphasizing a minor tidbit that makes her look better. And if she does know what she is doing ... well, surely there is a good reason for it.

Sagittarius governs higher education and universities, and there are numerous cases of professors or researchers who fudge the data to help get their scholarly articles into the most prestigious journals. In her arrogance and self-aggrandizement, Sag may prune a few trees to make the forest look better.

Comment below: Do you know a Sagittarius who's told a tall tale?

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Tuesday is packed with juicy aspects. The planetary lovers Venus and Mars meet in water signs, rubbing each other (the right way) at a 120-degree angle that unleashes tidal waves of pleasure. The conjugal connection between the principles of attraction and action promotes steamy encounters and emotional waterfalls. If you're not partnered, this aspect does wonders for one's creativity energy, so sublimate your desire into some wet and sticky fingerpaints.

The sexiness does not stop there! Also on Tuesday, Jupiter conjoins Pluto. The compulsion to do the nasty in the most unspeakable manner with partners deemed inappropriate by the cultural arbiters of taste is inflated to such grand proportions that you may do something that you both thoroughly enjoy and flat out regret. (Did you know that Jupiter rules run-on sentences?) Remember to get written consent from all involved parties over the age of 17 before you engage in any roleplaying that touches on themes of violation or degradation.

Alas, all this heavy dessert needs some whipped cream. On the same day, the Sun sextiles Neptune. You will awake on Wednesday feeling like all those wild sexual escapades were nothing but a dream. (But then why are your sheets wet?)

With Venus sextile Saturn on Wednesday, reality will indeed kick in, but only to cement some of the good stuff that happened the previous night. The rest will be promptly dropped in the waste disposal bin.

Comment below: How has your love and sex life been this week? (Spare the graphic details, of course.)

I am not currently writing love horoscopes for each sign. Check out Jeff Jawer's love horoscopes at Tarot.com: Aries - Taurus - Gemini - Cancer - Leo - Virgo - Libra - Scorpio - Sagittarius - Capricorn - Aquarius - Pisces. Be sure to look at your Rising Sign if you know it.

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MJ submitted his birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

I've been with this girl since 2002, and we break up since 2006. But, i can't forget about her! She's unpredictable. As an example, I stopped contacting her because she said so, but out of the blue, she called me like nothing happen before.

I don't think i can forget about her. True, i was "cheat" and lie to her while she's complete honest and faithful to me. I don't understand why she wanted me to give an explanation or reason behind all my action. Sometimes, it drives me mad. Even, when we're argued, she talked based on her own logic. In every argument, it was me who's silent - she's on the winning side. Every argument i make, she reverse it.

Are there a future for us for being together again?

Is cancer compatible with sagittarius?

By the way, she did mention she needs me when she's lonely but no longer love me or need me when she's not lonely. Can't she lie a bit? it - honestly - hurts me. But, i love her and wanted her back.

How can win back sagittarius woman?

I know you love her, but it's not going to work out. The truth hurts -- and no one's more likely to tell it like it is than a Sag -- but you need to accept it. She only wants you when she needs your Cancerian nurturing. When she's not feeling lonely, she's out having adventures and enjoying her freedom -- because that's what a Sagittarius needs to do.

The time of birth you gave me was right on the hour, so I don't know how accurate it is. However, it's possible that you have Pisces Rising, which would accord with your propensity for lying. Pisces would prefer fantasy to reality, and is willing to pull the wool other their own (or someone else's) eyes to manifest their visions.

In your chart, Venus -- symbol of the young woman to whom you are attracted -- is opposite independent Uranus. This aspect suggests that either you are drawn towards women who are averse to settling down, or that you feel this yearning for freedom in relationships. There's nothing wrong this this, but it conflicts with your basic Sun sign nature, which longs for security and coziness. (Your Scorpio Moon also desires intimacy and can't handle the abrupt changes in love brought on by your Venus-Uranus opposition).

Your North Node conjoins your Cancer Sun in your Fifth House of Romance. Bringing sensitivity and care to the realm of love is a requirement for your spiritual growth. You deserve more than a woman who comes to you only when she needs some coddling.

Comment below to provide MJ feedback, or discuss Cancer-Sagittarius compatibility in the forum.

Labels: astrology, cancer, sagittarius

From Paul Wade of AstrologyWizard.com:

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I'm experimenting with a new blog navigation system, with buttons at the very top of the blog. I also removed all contact and social networking information from the sidebar and added it to my bio page.

So tell me, what do you think? Both aesthetically and practically, how does the new system work for you? Can you more easily find what you are looking for? Have you any suggestions to simplify the site? Please leave feedback in the comments section.

In the comments section of How Scorpios get over breakups, Dramatoso Scorpioso wrote,

A Scorpio get dumped?

I've known a few Scorps and this one thing holds true in all cases, male or female-- they do the dirty work (the dumping). They are well ahead of the game and as master strategists will not place themselves in a position to get dumped.

If their spidey senses pick up on a waning interest, they pull out the knife and slash it then and there. Hurts like hell but you gotta do what you gotta do.

I feel suspicious whenever I read "one thing holds true in all cases." Sun sign behavior is not as reliable as, say, the orbital pattern of Mars.

Scorpio is not only about control, strategy and manipulation. This sign ultimately concerns the depths of intimacy one experiences with another person -- the true sharing of one's innermost self, as well as one's body and belongings. To be this close, a Scorpio must relinquish power. As long as she holds the knife, she is on the defensive, fearful of getting hurt. Vulnerability can be terrifying to a Scorpio, for wounds to this intensely emotional water sign can feel as painful as death. Thus, the scorpion develops an arsenal of shields and weapons, as well as enhanced detective skills (the spidey sense).

But who says Scorpio needs to be locked and loaded? Can't she have enough trust to let down her guard, to leave the sharp utensils in the kitchen? Although I would not go so far as to describe Scorpio as innocent, I can imagine a young scorpion falling deeply in love, willing to connect completely with another -- no games, no ammo. If she gets burned by her first lover, then the stingers come out. She toughens up and resolves never to let it happen again.

But there is a beauty in her initial willingness to go to the depths in a relationship, and it is a shame that she may not recover that all-consuming passion -- for how can she love truly, madly and deeply when she's packing a pistol? She may be possessed by desire, but as long as her inner Mars is at the ready, she's destined to remain separate.

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The week starts with love planet Venus sextile Pluto. This 60-degree angle brings intensity and depth to friendships and professional relationships. You may have a long, deep conversation with a colleague or acquaintance that evokes erotic attraction. Whether you get off on hearing a friend's dirty secrets or you have an obsession-of-the week with some guy at your monthly networking meeting, recognize that sexual energy is a sign that you're truly connecting. The feeling will pass if you want it to ... but you may get lucky if you act on it!

On Wednesday, Venus enters Scorpio. The love planet is in this Pluto-ruled sign until the 30th. In relationships, you're no-holds-barred, going for the throat. Nothing less than total consumption of your lover will do. The upside is the potential for mind-shattering sexual intimacy. The downside is jealousy and possessiveness, paranoia that your lover is sleeping around. You want total control over another person, and guess what? Not everyone wants to succumb to your will. Now, if you can find a willing slave or submissive, then you have my blessing. But otherwise, you're just going to get into energy-draining power struggles.

On Saturday, Mars sextiles Saturn. The planet of sex is both retrograde and in sideways-moving Cancer. Being direct about you want has never been more of a struggle. Saturn in Virgo can help you be more clear and defined about your desires. Just don't present your lover with an alphabetized list of your kinks.

Comment below: How has your love and sex life been this week? (Spare the graphic details, of course.)

I am not currently writing love horoscopes for each sign. Check out Jeff Jawer's love horoscopes at Tarot.com: Aries - Taurus - Gemini - Cancer - Leo - Virgo - Libra - Scorpio - Sagittarius - Capricorn - Aquarius - Pisces. Be sure to look at your Rising Sign if you know it.

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