Taurus acts like he's interested, then disappears
The Taurus man is like a wild animal that smells an intriguing scent or hears an unfamiliar sound. He cautiously steps to the perimeter of his safety zone to see what's going on. If there is the possibility of free food, he may even enter new territory. But any perceived threat will send him scurrying off back into the safety of the woods.As much as Taurus seeks pleasure, he also values security. It's like one of those childhood games: If you leave your pile of wealth unattended to garner more goods, you risk losing all that you've attained. This fixed earth sign is more likely to sit on his treasure than to venture out without some security in place to protect his stash.
And when it comes to relationships, he's no different. If a man or woman appeals to him, Taurus will put out his feelers, and if he anticipates a threat to his comfort level, he'll just go back to his cozy spot. So if he disappears on you after expressing interest, he's not playing mind games with you ... he's just feeling hesitant. He's worked too hard at building his nest to throw it all away on someone who gives off a funny smell.
If you want to retain the interest of a Taurus man who's retreated back into the woods, find a way to reassure him that you're not a predator. To prove that you're not looking to take anything away from him, the easiest thing you can do is give. Place an offering at the edge of the woods, and let him tentatively come to it, and make sure it's not poisonous. If he eats it, he'll come back for seconds.
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 11/28/2007
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Good food, that's the ticket for Taurus! Prepare a nice meal, offer a neck massage and be prepared to be patient. But Taurus usually responds well to the idea someone went to the trouble to prepare their favorite dishes with love just for them. :-)
Yes, he disappeared. No mind games at all, but he's married and isn't about to risk his security for some tasty delight, no matter how enticing the vanilla scent . . . he did pause to take a whiff or two (or three). . .
The better for both of us ;)
If he's married, then it is for the best. Not to be a terd here, but if you lack respect for the sanctity of marriage (namely someone else's) then karma may throw that back at you someday when it's YOUR marriage and some tasty, vanilla scented, delight stumbles onto your man.
And you're absolutely right about him risking his security. He WON'T. Even if he's unhappily married. I was with to a Taurian male (and I'm a Taurian female) for 13 years, married 8 of them. He cheated from the 3rd year of the marriage - but never left. When I spoke the "D" word, he wasn't hearing it. Just stuck around like nothing was wrong. Getting him to leave was like trying to move Mt. Rushmore. He was more than satisfied to continue the marriage, playing the field. I wasn't and now he's gone.
You hook up with one like that - and that may be YOU several years from now. . . .
I met a Taurus and he is not married but lives with someone, they fight all the time, Im friends with his sister and I live next door to them..he is very unhappy, too unhappy, we clicked since day one and he tells me to walk with him,He says he doesn't want me just for sex, he says tha can wait. he says not to rush, we have had no sex, he says he will leave her before the yr is over, we are in December 1st and he told me last night that he will do it soon since he cannot take it anymore...I know how Taurus are, they take their sweet time...I don't know what to think..I don't know what he is thinking..where do I stand on all this...I went to him this weekend and asked him..he said I wanted to know too much..so I said I think we should end it..and he said no..he said wait, he said that he cannot tell me everything he has in his mind because he is just observing,,I know he likes me very much..But Im so confused..Should I just stand back and let happen whatever will or should I insist and come out and ask?
By the way im a Gemenii..can you imagine he is asking for patience? LOL I have none...WHAT DO I DO???????????
Ah, taurus.
Gemini, I think you should wait to see what happens. He's taking his sweet time for a reason. But then again, that is from my taurus heart, so I don't know.
I hate it when I disappear too as a taurus female, but I dislike it more when the other person become confused. Then, they become impatient, wondering, "What is this idleness, where are you?" and I'd have to chase them back to give them security that I am still here. BY then, my security is kind of in a frenzy.
Can't everyone just wait for me? When I'm ready, no one will be disappointed.
heaven66, you'd do best to sit and wait this one out. Being a Taurian, this may take months. If he's secure in his environment with her (regardless of whether he's happy or not) he may remain. To Taurians, security is king. Especially with a Taurian male. My experiece with them has been just that and I'm a Taurian female. He'll work plan B (that's you at this point) while remaining secure with plan A. To understand this further, please click on my name above - Mirror of Aphrodite. Visit my site and please read the posts: Passive Taurian Male Bull and Experiences With A Taurian Male. Hope it helps!
I met a male Taurus at work a few months back. We talked a lot until one day he suddenly pulls back, saying he doesn't want a relationship yet. We still make heavy eye contact but haven't started talking again other than casual greetings. I'm afraid to push him, knowing the Taurean slowness to make up their minds and need to think things through. Is he still interested or does he just enjoy undressing me with his eyes? What should I do?
Wait. Then wait some more. And keep dressing and smelling like dessert. Let the man make the moves and since Venus rules Taurus, use your Venus (soft, feminine, lovely, graceful) energy to attract him. Aggression on your part is to be avoided.
Thanks for the comments, Victoria. I had used my Venus and it seemed to have kept him enthralled, though still not quite sure. There is now another twist to the story. He will be gone for the better part of a year to another state and left without saying much. He seemed conflicted about it around me but also excited about the experience (money was also a big factor). I am confused by this silence and lack of communication. I'm wondering if he'll stay in touch... does he think he has control over me because I revealed that I like him?
Yes. But that's not a bad thing necessarily. He's put you on the back burner but you're still in his kitchen. Which makes you a handy ingredient for his next recipe when he's in your town, or . . . you could be cooking one up of your own. With another fellow who is more available, generous and receptive to your love. My advice? Keep him on the back burner.
I like the way you think. I wonder how it will affect his sense of control and security if I pull back (I have been texting him occasionally up until now even after he stopped communicating)and do not contact HIM. In my experience, men respond better to no contact than they do to words. Perhaps this will rattle his cage a bit? Sounds to me like Taurus men don't like to lose things (or people) they think they have a hold of...
"men respond better to no contact than they do to words"
Oh yes. And they respond even better to contact. As in the physical touch of a woman, her caress, with not a word spoken.
Next time he's in town and wants to get together-- smell good, look good, meet him where he wants to meet and touch him, with no words spoken. Just sit next to him (not across from him) in the cafe booth, and touch him. You could try feeding him a spoonful of dessert or a sip of your wine. Whisper in his ear, makes sure your lips brush against his cheek, your leg brushes against his . . .
This works magic with Taurus, who lives in the realm of the five senses.
(it's best not to talk or text or email a Taurus frequently unless he's got a lot of Gemini going on elsewhere in the chart)
Physical contact... unfortunately only a distant possibility for the time being.
It is wait and see for now. Perhaps absence really does make the heart grow fonder...
Glad I intuitively paced myself with the texting and gave him plenty of space. No pressure. He has his 4 major planets all in Taurus, Venus in Cancer. No Gemini.
I am confused! I met a taurian man recently and spent 10 lovely days with him, we dont live near each other but we both want to be together and so far we have planned to see each other on a regular basis. During this time, he confessed his undying love for me, and I feel the same and now that I am home he calls me everyday telling me how much he misses me and that he wants us to get married and have children. He has gone from saying in the near future to saying he wants to get married this summer as he doesnt want us to be apart. The only problem is that he is a VERY good looking man with a string of past flings with girls and he has been know to consider himself a playboy! but when I was with him I saw the family orientated, quiet, moody side of him that just wanted to stay home with me and cook, eat, snuggle. Infact he didnt really want to be apart from me at all. So he doesnt seem to be holding back as you state he would. Is this right are Taurian men like this when they are in love or is he acting out of sorts! P.S I am a libra women who is a couple of years older than him could this be that I offer him that security you are talking about?? any advice would be grateful!
Need advice. I was dating a Taurus guy for three months. Our getting together was fairly consistent and felt secure. Then over the course of a few days I contacted him too much as I was worried about him after ending a conversation abruptly while traveling on ice. I didn't hear back from him for several days and knew he was interviewing for a position out of state. When he finally returned my call, he said he wanted to break up. He said if this last week was any prediction of how the future would be then it was best that we break now as opposed to six months in the future.
I felt that he really liked me and I really liked him. Then over the course of a few days i pushed him away. He also mentioned that he wasn’t ready to get married in the next two years and there is a good possibility that he may relocate out of state for a new position.
It’s been two weeks and I haven’t had any contact with him. Do I continue to not make any contact and see if he comes around?
BTW i'm a Leo.
I've joined the forum but now how do i post directly on the forum?
@tauruslover, click on the Forum tab and then "start a new discussion."
i'm in a situation with a taurus not a bad one (so i think). you see we met during a play we were both in and at the time i was dating someone else but when i met taurus he caught my attention more than the scorpio i was dating. by the end of the last weekend of the play taurus and i began to hang out as friends like go joy riding and go out to starbucks walk around the docks near the river. i left scorpio bcuz i didn't want to be in a 2 guy situation. anyways one night we got to the point of kissing. he kissed me bcuz i bit his ear and kissed his neck just to flirt( i'm a libra). then the other time after that we hung out again and we had sex.(yea yeah i know) and i told him i liked him and he said he does like me but not like that. but what i dont get is why when we kiss or hug or anything he gives me this stare and this smile that says something but i dont know what it is and when he kisses me i feel something he holds me tightly on his lips until he wants to let go. i dont know if he does like me and just dosent want to tell me. uuug help!!!!!
i'm in a situation with a taurus not a bad one (so i think). you see we met during a play we were both in and at the time i was dating someone else but when i met taurus he caught my attention more than the scorpio i was dating. by the end of the last weekend of the play taurus and i began to hang out as friends like go joy riding and go out to starbucks walk around the docks near the river. i left scorpio bcuz i didn't want to be in a 2 guy situation. anyways one night we got to the point of kissing. he kissed me bcuz i bit his ear and kissed his neck just to flirt( i'm a libra). then the other time after that we hung out again and we had sex.(yea yeah i know) and i told him i liked him and he said he does like me but not like that. but what i dont get is why when we kiss or hug or anything he gives me this stare and this smile that says something but i dont know what it is and when he kisses me i feel something he holds me tightly on his lips until he wants to let go. i dont know if he does like me and just dosent want to tell me. uuug help!!!!!
@Anonymous, tauruslover, and libraeyes88
If he looks too good to be true, he may be. My advice to you is to be very careful with Taurus men in the early stages (i.e. before you get emotionally involved). They are extremely fickle about their perceptions of security, stability, and comfort. So even though he may "like" you and sleep with you, if he doesn't feel he can hang on to you forever or he isn't sure about what he wants, you may be in store for a nice emotional roller coaster ride.
Proceed with caution if you already have doubts, Ladies...
in response to "mirror of aphrodite"...
"And you're absolutely right about him risking his security. He WON'T. Even if he's unhappily married. I was with to a Taurian male (and I'm a Taurian female) for 13 years, married 8 of them. He cheated from the 3rd year of the marriage - but never left. When I spoke the "D" word, he wasn't hearing it. Just stuck around like nothing was wrong. Getting him to leave was like trying to move Mt. Rushmore. He was more than satisfied to continue the marriage, playing the field. I wasn't and now he's gone. "
i can't get over how this sounds exactly like what happened to me, only mine is a much smaller scale. my relationship with a taurus male lasted only 3 months before he cheated, and the day after i broke up with him he called me as if nothing ever happened! this went on for months afterward, making it impossible for me to get over him, yet i pushed him away as best i could.
anyway, that was annoying, but really tough. i guess i should have known this would happen with a Taurus!!
PLEASE HELP.
I had a Taurus man. And I somehow have managed to lose him.
He believes I cheated on him(which I didn't). And I have been trying and trying to win him back but nothing seems to work. WHAT DO I DO???
I am an aquarian woman with a broken heart.:(
Help, I am in love with a Taurus male and I am a Scorpio female. I have known him for several years, as we used to do business together. When I met him I was married on my way to divorce. Over the years he has always kept in contact with my sporadically calling me out of the blue to find out how I am and what's going on. I have been divorced for a few years now and when he called me one day I suggested that we meet for a drink (no strings attached - we just always have great convo and lots in common). After meeting him for that drink I realized how charming he was and we started talking on a more frequent basis (for hours on end at least 2-3 times per week) he works crazy hours (owns his own business) but we enjoy talking and have lots of laughs. Ok I am IN LOVE WITH THIS MAN and I have to have him. I recently started professing my love to him, he thinks I am dillusional and doesn't really believe me (I think - he may be playing and has the need to feel desired) but he keeps referencing my ex-husband who I am SO over. We had sex once (unexpectedly) a few months ago and he kind of lost his mind right after "he started saying that I made him weak, etc" -- so I figured ok won't be getting that good stuff again any time soon) once he even said "you made me feel like a 17 year old high school boy that night" (but I'm a scorpio we can't help it) however after a week after that incident I was able to baby walk him back to our regular state (he seemed so scared after we had that initial incident) so things are back to normal now but I have to have him and yeah I know they have to slowly think everything out... but does ANYONE have any ideas on what I need to do in order to get this man because I KNOW he likes me. He's a man who works from 9am until midnight most days so if he didn't like I am sure he wouldn't waste his time always talking to me. I am a great cook, etc. I can even cook entrees from his native country (as we are both from the same country) but I got to get the man over my house again in order to feed him. His b-day is coming up do I send him something or is that too aggressive - what do I need to do? Any and all advice is welcomed!!
@Scorpio Beauty, this Taurus sounds like he doesn't like to be vulnerable. He's scared of losing control with you. How could you plant something in his head to make him want to take the lead?
I am trying to figure out the same thing. I told him that I was going to continue professing my love for him until he believed it, embraces it and surrenders! His reply "girl you're priceless, what am I going to do with you?" But I know he loves it and is totally flattered. LOL I think he thinks he was going to take the lead the night we had our "incident" but aggressive Scorp always wins in the love making dept - Now he's probably shaking in his boots (we always joke about that night - I tell him I figured if I touched you again you'd jump out the window!!)
What should I do, I can't wait forever but I really like him and I know he's the one? I want to make him a home cooked meal but getting him over my house is going to take a lot. I was thinking of maybe cooking for his b-day but having it delivered to his job (or is that just too much, and would I seem too aggressive??)
@scorpio beauty, I was actually thinking of that, but held back for some reason. If you bring him food to his workplace, especially at a time when it's not near the very end of his workday, it could be experienced as "safe" because he would have to choose to split early to rip your clothes off.
Well good because I know if he tastes my food it's a done deal! At this point I am running out of options and you know how Scorps have no patience. GEESH this man is like a rock!!
omg! i can relate to heaven66,exactly what happened to me n my taurus guy. he said he wants us to be slow n steady, he said it's not that he don't want me, but i need to understand that he has issues he needs to take care of..But I'm a Gemini, i also want this to work so much! thanx for such an insightful article, it helps me a lot in understanding my taurus guy better!
As a taurean woman I have to laugh at this... Becuase I have done it to many! I have dated but I can read guys pretty well of all astrological signs, and thats what impression they take you for either a girlfriend or a get it on friend, this lets get it on types I play games with.. I say okay, you dont want to take me seriously as a woman and you want to show me your goods and get to the point without wanting to get to know me first, okay lets have it, I let them have a round.. but never again, I never call back I never try to get in touch thereafter and thats when I see their calls begin to persist and text messaging, but I never ever respond, they obviously liked what I gave them a taste of but I am more about whether you want a 401K plan or just a bonus check and I cannot take any man serious again after doing away with him on such a note... But the first guy to be respectful and patient gets all of my loyalty and attention. Trick is not to play me like a damn fool, I can smell bullshit from miles away!
Help me out. I dated a Taurus man (April 20) for two months - everything was great. He pursued me for a few weeks and I got comfortable. Some of the things he said to me is "now that I've caught you, I don't know what to do with you" and "I don't know what I want." OK, so he's not ready. So, why in the heck did he ask me out in the first place? We'd been 'eyeballing' each other for over a year and I thought the time was finally right. For three weeks, he called less and less. I finally saw him one more time - before we parted ways (we'd met for dinner), he asked to kiss me (wasn't the passionate kiss like before, as if he was afraid I'd draw him in and he'd cave). That was two weeks ago. I sent him a birthday card inviting him to a sporting event before I realized he wasn't going to call again. I've called one time in two weeks, left a brief message in a very chipper voice - "Just wondered if you got my card, wondered if you'd picked a date to see the game so I can order tickets..." Still no phone call. Is there a chance he'll come back? I am pretty sure he was falling for me so I'm confused and heartbroken by his inaction. From the advice I've read, I won't be calling him again but I honestly thought he was the One. How long of a wait is too long? By the way, I'm a Sag.
I understand what you mean Kochic. I am a Gemini Male dating a Taurus Female for 3 months now. And in reading your post I noticed things you mentioned about taurean women is completely accurate. Being a Gemini it is a tough road slowing down and taking slow and steady to comfort her. I have been reading up on taurean women and have learned some things but as a taurean woman what other advice can you pass on to a Gemini man who is really trying to keep his taurean woman.
I am currently in a relationship with a Taurus man. We live in two separate cities about an hour away from each other. We have been together for more than a year. He has a good job where he is at. He works ridiculous amount of hours to pay for his student’s loans, and I see him about every 1-2 weeks. My concern is that during the 1-2 weeks, he’s off to his own world like if I didn’t exist. And then out of the blue he will give me a call and drop by to visit. We always have a good time when we are together, However, I find it hard to believe that he cannot pick up the phone or e-mail a little “missing you babe message”. Wouldn’t an interested man call his gf once in a while to see what she is up to? I am hoping that he will eventually decide to move here with me as we use to both live in his city. But how long does a girl wait for this kind of change from a Taurus? Where do I draw the line ?
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