Do Scorpios get over their exes?
Exes often have a place in our hearts. We may love them forever, but know that there's no chance in hell a reunion would work. Or we may pine for them until eternity, wishing we had done things differently, or that we hadn't met them when we were so young.And those are the good ones! The rest, we just file under "Well, that was a waste of my time!"
The zodiacal diversity (or perversity) in our approaches towards attachment and separation suggests that not everyone will process endings in the same way. Case in point, Scorpio. This sign can go to two different extremes: never letting go, or burning an ex's memory to the ground. All fixed signs (Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, Aquarius), in fact, are resistant to change, but Scorpio -- being an intensely emotional water sign -- conjures up the image of prying a beloved object from one's cold, dead hands. The Scorpion loves so deeply that it's hard to excise an ex from its heart.
But that's exactly what's needed. Scorpio is ruled by Pluto, planet of resurrection and regeneration. The phoenix rising from the ashes is one of Scorpio's iconic images, for to be reborn, one must die. In the context of letting go and moving on, this sign relishes ex-arson like no other. (No, I don't mean setting one's old lover on fire!) The incineration of the attachment of Scorpio to their ex must be complete. This process requires that all vestiges of the ex -- photos, memorabilia, neural impressions -- be excavated and then thrown on a bonfire fueled by Scorpio's obsessive insistence on removing all traces of evidence at the scene of the crime.
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 9/13/2007
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I think we do. I do anyway. I have exes that are still friends. Not many, but I do..lol.
Usually when I am done, I'm done. No looking back. So yeah, I can burn them out. But the ones I love on a deeper level, I still have them around as friends. No weird attachments, we see each other occasionally. Damn, as I am typing it does seem typical.. Eww.. Its not, really. Our relationship is completely different.
I'm a Sun & Mars Scorpio. At times I have wished I could erase memories of people from my life like they can in the movie "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind".
Hmmm when I tried to break up with Mr Taurus (we fight like hell) I completely removed all traces of him from my place. EVERYTHING. All jewellery and clothes he had given to me were to be returned... although he refused to collect his stuff and talked me into not giving up by pleading with me etc.
I did get over my Cancer ex-hubby, but it took a long time. He was moody, self-pitying and blamed me for everything in our marriage...refused to have kids with me which was the final straw. I divorced him, then had twins as a single mother. My babies are the true loves of my life!
I do not talk to him when I see him, but I have kept our wedding pictures and I am grateful to him for the experience of marriage. As a fixed sign I do tend to hold on, but he showed me that even I have my limits! Personally, I don't think Cancer/Scorpio is such a great partnership. Cancerians can be completely crazy at times.
I sure did. I left him after over 20 years and 3 kids together. I now have absolutely no emotion at all in regard to him. I don't love him, don't hate him. I have no feeling at all. Seems weird at times that I could have lived with him all those years and now it's as if I don't even know who he is, or care either. I never realized it was a Scorpio thing.
My scorpio man caught his ex with another.She wanted him back. He sold up, everything, until all he had was in 5 boxes and moved back to mum to decide what his next move would be. Thats when I met him , his possessions were still in boxes and now he his moving to Canada!!Never looked back.
Wow! everything i've read on here relates so much back to me, and here i am reading for the first time about Scorpios. I had my first real relationship at age 18.It was love at first life, with a sagittarius. We dated for 3 years then she ended breaking up with me for religious reasons(which i'm still a mad about). so i got even with her and dug my own personal hell to live in (lol). i brood around for a couple of years and finally got over it. when i look back on it now, i thought it was just dumb now. funny, i even have a tattoo of a flaming phoenix raising from ashes on my back. ive never dated ever since because now i seen relationships as pointless now. wow, here i was going thinking that Zodiac signs this and astrology that was just bogus. im actually quite fascinated now.
@Anon Scorpio, I'm glad you caught the astrology bug :)
A couple I felt I had to get rid of. The big one, well, I returned all her things, because I felt that they were never given honestly and I had no wish to be a thief.
There's a couple of them I'd be fine with being friends, and definitely a couple I wouldn't.
max
['It does seem a shame to lose everything, but so it goes.']
Great blog... trying to let go is really hard for me a scorpio woman. I have loved hard and don't know how to remove them from my memory or if I even want to maybe it will be the healthiest thing to do move forward, but they meant so much to me...
Not strictly pertaining to love relationships, but - I am a Scorpio, and I recently suffered the end of a 15-year friendship with a close friend (Libra). In a way this is more significant to me than the loss of previous boyfriends. Men come and go, but your girlfriends are supposed to be there for each other though thick and thin. We had known each other since childhood and this Libra girl was like a second sister to me... the way she chose to treat me at the end was really subhuman and disrespectful.
I think it is appropriate that you use the analogy of fire! At first I was so angry at her it was like magma from a volcano, just boiling alive inside of me. Now that some time has passed it has cooled, and it's like when magma cools into pumice... the type of rock that is coarse and dry and will never liquefy again. I think about her less and less every day, and I know that if she ever tried to re-establish contact it would be impossible for me to give her my heart. She just emotionally does not exist for me anymore.
P.S. Geologists, please don't kill me for the inaccuracies contained in this post :)
Not strictly pertaining to love relationships, but - I am a Scorpio, and I recently suffered the end of a 15-year friendship with a close friend (Libra). In a way this is more significant to me than the loss of previous boyfriends. Men come and go, but your girlfriends are supposed to be there for each other though thick and thin. We had known each other since childhood and this Libra girl was like a second sister to me... the way she chose to treat me at the end was really subhuman and disrespectful.
I think it is appropriate that you use the analogy of fire! At first I was so angry at her it was like magma from a volcano, just boiling alive inside of me. Now that some time has passed it has cooled, and it's like when magma cools into pumice... the type of rock that is coarse and dry and will never liquefy again. I think about her less and less every day, and I know that if she ever tried to re-establish contact it would be impossible for me to give her my heart. She just emotionally does not exist for me anymore.
P.S. Geologists, please don't kill me for the inaccuracies contained in this post :)
we might eventually but i cant get over mr Cancer and im trying to but i see him almost every day and it hard i have gotten rid of all the things that he gave me but i guess it will just take time to get over o well ill move on
i miss him... i better stop that
Its crazy how scorpios love. I was with a cancer..male for three years. we broke up and I was threw. The wierd thing was I never really though about him afterwards. just checked to see if he's got a woman or something but now we talk all the time. And now im in a relationship again with another cancer...female. i love her so much if we do break up I know it will be extreme. she's my fiance and im hers.
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