How to Break Up With an Earth Sign (Part 2 of the Breaking Up Series)
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Disclaimer: This blog entry is for humorous and educational purposes only. Adhere to the following advice at your own risk.
If you've ever been in a relationship with a tender Taurus, virtuous Virgo, or a committed Capricorn, then you know how it feels to be with a partner who wants to be your biggest asset. But what happens when your earth sign mate has become a liability? Here's how to make a clean break with a Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn:
The Breakup Strategy
Taurus doesn't like change – even if the change is for the better. This quality is what makes breaking up with Taurus challenging, especially for signs that don't like change anymore than Taurus does (that means you, Cancer) or who would prefer that a problem solve itself (yes, I’m talking to you, Pisces). You want the quickest way to break up with Taurus? It doesn’t exist. When you entered into a relationship with Taurus, you made an agreement to be in it for the long haul and you must honor that agreement. This includes enduring a long breakup. Begin by weaning Taurus out of your relationship by failing to cater to the Bull. Stop cooking all those great meals. Don't run any more bubble baths. No more late night massages! If this doesn’t work, try introducing Taurus to someone who cooks better than you.
Breaking up with Virgo is actually very simple. Virgo is a mutable sign, which means that the Virgin easily adapts to new stimuli. In this case, the new stimuli would be you wanting to break up. Expect many questions about how you came to your decision. Although the chain of questions will seem endless, it’s just Virgo's way of gathering more information for future reference. Not answering the questions only inspires more questions, so carve out some time to satiate Virgo's curiosity and you’ll be home free!
Capricorns are usually the ones doing the dumping, so breaking up with them is relatively easy – as long as you let them be the boss of the breakup. Present yourself as a loser without future earning potential or any interest in money or status what-so-ever. No matter how many times the Goat introduces you to a great mentor in your career field, say you're not sure this is the right step for you. The Capricorn will fire you from the relationship for being an unsuitable mate (aka business partner). If you don’t let Capricorn dump you, then look forward to changing jobs, bank accounts, and social security #s in order to protect yourself from the Capricorn wanting to get revenge against you (especially if your goat has Venus in Scorpio).
Ex-files
Unless you broke Taurus' trust, a Taurus ex will probably be in your life forever in some way or another (especially if you have kids together). If you married Taurus without a prenuptial agreement (how'd you manage that?), then be prepared for a long battle in court if you want to leave the marriage with anything Taurus wants to keep, like the car, the house, the kids, or YOU. If you're moving out of the home you’ve built with the Bull, make sure to clearly mark all of your belongings. It will make packing so much easier.
You will enjoy Virgo better after a breakup than you did during the relationship. Not only do you still get the constructive "advice," but Virgo might even help you reorganize your life after it falls apart due to Virgo's highly noticeable absence. If you share children with Virgo, you won't have to fight for joint custody, but you will have to endure Virgo frequently correcting and criticizing your parenting style.
The great thing about a Capricorn ex is that the Goat won’t kiss and tell about your breakup. It will be as if you never existed at all…
How did your relationship with a Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn end? Did the end of your relationship with an earth sign leave you feeling on shaky footing or on solid ground?
Disclaimer: This blog entry is for humorous and educational purposes only. Adhere to the following advice at your own risk.
If you've ever been in a relationship with a tender Taurus, virtuous Virgo, or a committed Capricorn, then you know how it feels to be with a partner who wants to be your biggest asset. But what happens when your earth sign mate has become a liability? Here's how to make a clean break with a Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn:
The Breakup Strategy
Taurus doesn't like change – even if the change is for the better. This quality is what makes breaking up with Taurus challenging, especially for signs that don't like change anymore than Taurus does (that means you, Cancer) or who would prefer that a problem solve itself (yes, I’m talking to you, Pisces). You want the quickest way to break up with Taurus? It doesn’t exist. When you entered into a relationship with Taurus, you made an agreement to be in it for the long haul and you must honor that agreement. This includes enduring a long breakup. Begin by weaning Taurus out of your relationship by failing to cater to the Bull. Stop cooking all those great meals. Don't run any more bubble baths. No more late night massages! If this doesn’t work, try introducing Taurus to someone who cooks better than you.
Breaking up with Virgo is actually very simple. Virgo is a mutable sign, which means that the Virgin easily adapts to new stimuli. In this case, the new stimuli would be you wanting to break up. Expect many questions about how you came to your decision. Although the chain of questions will seem endless, it’s just Virgo's way of gathering more information for future reference. Not answering the questions only inspires more questions, so carve out some time to satiate Virgo's curiosity and you’ll be home free!
Capricorns are usually the ones doing the dumping, so breaking up with them is relatively easy – as long as you let them be the boss of the breakup. Present yourself as a loser without future earning potential or any interest in money or status what-so-ever. No matter how many times the Goat introduces you to a great mentor in your career field, say you're not sure this is the right step for you. The Capricorn will fire you from the relationship for being an unsuitable mate (aka business partner). If you don’t let Capricorn dump you, then look forward to changing jobs, bank accounts, and social security #s in order to protect yourself from the Capricorn wanting to get revenge against you (especially if your goat has Venus in Scorpio).
Ex-files
Unless you broke Taurus' trust, a Taurus ex will probably be in your life forever in some way or another (especially if you have kids together). If you married Taurus without a prenuptial agreement (how'd you manage that?), then be prepared for a long battle in court if you want to leave the marriage with anything Taurus wants to keep, like the car, the house, the kids, or YOU. If you're moving out of the home you’ve built with the Bull, make sure to clearly mark all of your belongings. It will make packing so much easier.
You will enjoy Virgo better after a breakup than you did during the relationship. Not only do you still get the constructive "advice," but Virgo might even help you reorganize your life after it falls apart due to Virgo's highly noticeable absence. If you share children with Virgo, you won't have to fight for joint custody, but you will have to endure Virgo frequently correcting and criticizing your parenting style.
The great thing about a Capricorn ex is that the Goat won’t kiss and tell about your breakup. It will be as if you never existed at all…
How did your relationship with a Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn end? Did the end of your relationship with an earth sign leave you feeling on shaky footing or on solid ground?
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posted by Blah Blah at 8/18/2007
23 Comments:
Well, I just divorced a Capricorn, and it was my call. I was with him for four years, and I predicted how the "announcement" of the divorce would go...and I was right on. His predictability is part of what bored me to death...and his inability to manage finances, though he had all receipts in an excell spreadsheet, it couldn't fix the fact that buying a Porsche was not a good idea.
Anyways, it went like this:
Sag: "We need to talk about something"
Cap: "Ok, what?"
Sag: "I want to get divorced."
Cap: "Are you serious?"
Sag: "Yes."
Cap: "Ok, so do want to split the house, and the finances? Should we just divide up the bank account then? What about the pets? Do you wanna take one, and I will take the other?"
And this is how it went to the very end....it was like terminating a business contract, and we are still relatively cordial business associates on matters relating to the divorce and even personal matters.
I've had two relationships with Virgoans. Never again. They both left me completely ungrounded. One was my ex-husband. He wanted to play control games with the only one of my prized possessions: my book collection. I was willing to walk out without a settlement, etc. bc I wanted my freedom. I left that marriage with nothing but the books HE thought I should have. No money either. I had to start from scratch.
The other Virgo came between me and my family. That relationship almost did destroy my life. After he broke up with me, he asked me for money. Since he'd pawned off all the guilt on me and I was still reeling, I gave him the $$. (I was the bad one, see, bc I was angry all the time and he wouldn't engage in arguments. He was extremely uncommunicative.) When I asked for it back, he tried to gaslight me by claiming that he didn't have any records of me giving him the money--even though I did! Then he got my family (who thought he was angelic) on his side.
My experience with Virgos is that in public they want to look like the good guys but they can be very sneaky. I don't trust Virgo men as far as I can throw them. I like Virgo women, though, but my experience of the men is just awful. Give me a straight-up manipulative, evil Scorpio any time. At least a Scorpio doesn't insist that he's an angel and that you are the devil. I think that's a wicked thing to do to anybody, I really do. So, my experience of Virgo men is that they unground me.
HAHA. Virgos DO ask a lot of questions. I thought my male virgo friend does that because he wants to play "dad" (where are you going, who are you going with, where is it, how many people will be there, what's there), but now I know it's for future references :)
I am a taurus, and... a cancer and I ended a month ago.
He called me once after I requested that we cannot keep in touch, leaving a long message of "I still have your picture on my wall, I want to still be close to you, I want us to hang out..."
Not only does it sound pathetic, I could not agree to be his friend or a companion in anyway because:
He broke my trust.
When he said he needed "a break" from the relationship prior before our confirmed break up, in exact words he mouthed, "I will still be your boyfriend, I will be there for you, nothing changed, I just need a little time to think."
He went out and kissed ANOTHER GIRL.
He wanted redemption by confessing it to me; it does not make him "a man" in my opinion. And how dare he try to 'camouflage' what he should not have done in the first place. But since I didn't want US to change, I took him back (another chance for the long-term agreement), where he broke my trust AGAIN by breaking it off 10 minutes later.
So there you go. If I see him, it'll be something in the line of "hey, thanks for the good memories." but never will I trust him again. Now, future, life time.
And I am comfortable with that :)
- May
Caps are cool about break ups (of course if you're not the one being dumped by a Cap and you can take an objective look at their behaviour) cause they'll try real hard to end everything in a civil manner and with dignity, respecting the other side even if they hate their guts.
On the other hand, I'm Cancer with Taurus rising and I really have trouble letting go. (While the Cap just makes a surgical cut to the relationship. Cap decides that it's the end and that only thing left is moving on.) Add Venus in Leo and I make a soap opera out of the break up, unless I'm the one breaking up.
My Aries ex (described here
has Cancer Risign and Taurus Moon, he just claws in to people, break up lasted for 8-9 months.
Jara, you're onto something ;)
Eme Kah, "I've had two relationships with Virgoans. Never again."
Same here! And I second the fact that Virgo men are sneaky, sneaky, sneaky. Not only are they sneaky, many are downright strange. (Sorry to those of you who aren't - just my personal experience is all.)
I'm Taurus and when I broke up with my Virgo ex this last time, he was relatively ok with it. Why???? He was already working on Plan B in the office. Married her 5 months later. Probably working us both about a year.
But his main problem seemed to be that he just couldn't believe I was breaking up with him. How'd I reach that decision he seemed to ask? He had decided that between me and the other girl, I was first choice (cushier living situation). . .and he made it like I should've been thankful he chose me. But if I wasn't ok with it, he was moving onto plan b.
Mind you, she provided a cushy living situation for him, too. Virgo men seem to resemble a gold digger in a certain respect. Looking to latch onto something. Handled it ok, but acted strangely afterward. Started spying on me at my camp, some 100 miles from home. Would drive by and wave like we were buds or something. . .started camping nearby with friends and HER.
Very strange, indeed.
Virgos scare me a tad, so I can definitely not provide any personal report on what it's like to break up with them.
I've totally seen a Taurus in action though. Give the gleeful bull a garden to play in and nurture, plus material stability, they'll be at least comfortable. But heavens help you if you ever use that as a compensation for your lack of depth and emotion, the Taurus will confront you, make demands, and push you. And if you're not worthy, you can bet the Bull is gonna leave.
Get this; a Taurus and a Leo, fixed signs, semi-sextile. The Taurus has experienced a lot and has truly known people, a fighter and struggler, not to mention constant goal-achiever. The Leo was, on the other hand, all about facade and being presentable to the public, completely not caring about anything beneath the surface as long as everyone liked him. He'd pretend to talk with people, care about them, convinced himself that he could read people, while he in fact barely UNDERSTOOD or even acknowledged the existence of certain emotions. We can call him an afflicted Leo, it's like his Sun and Moon made out, imploded, and turned into Black Moon Lilith. Seriously.
Anyway, the Taurus tried to save the relationship and has confronted the hypocritical Leo several times, and when the Leo refused to show any regard or interest in the Bull's emotions, Taurus moved everything with tremendous force. The Taurus not only broke up, the Taurus actually showed who's the superior and initiative one, who the real boss always will be. That was the most beautiful moment ever.
That same Taurus was later involved with a Gemini. When the Gem felt pressured and particulary depressed, he broke up with Taurus. Heavens be damned.
The Taurus didn't just walk away or got depressed, oh no. Instead, the Taurus slapped some sense into the Gem and again showed such robust power and determination, that the Gem not only came back but couldn't even fathom why he wanted to break up with the Bull in the first place.
You know what else is interesting? That this Solar Taurus is also a Virgo Rising and Capricorn Sun.
If someone tries to break up with that Taurus, you better have a damn awesome reason. Even if you do, the Bull will do anything and everything to first get an answer out of you that is understandable for her. Even if that actually happens, the Bull will attempt to keep you. Screw her over, and she'll make sure your material stability and security is never seen again.
Oh, and she doesn't bear grudges, it's like traumatic events or breakups are harmless pebbles cautiously thrown at a bull, always falling to the ground with but a minor nuisance that lasts for less than a second. Delicate lover, outstanding business-partner, reliable friend, and a formidable, straight forward enemy/ex. No grudges, no pesky sneaking, everything is down to earth and served directly and concretely. Confrontations are to no avail, and some signs can barely handle such power.
"Would drive by and wave like we were buds or something. . ."
That sounds very Virgoan, Aphrodite. It's not strange if you realize that, above all else, Virgos are very attached to the idea of looking like the nice guys. They want the whole world to think of them that way and will be very hypocritical to that end.
He's bigger than you! He's over it! And he's STILL courteous to you. See what a nice guy he is?
Noctule: THAT was beautiful. Can you tell me HOW the taurus did it? I'm looking for what action she chose. Of course it was graceful and classy. I'm excited to read!
-May
"Virgo men seem to resemble a gold digger in a certain respect. Looking to latch onto something."
Hmm...you could have a point here. Virgos are always looking for the PERFECT partner (most of the time by becoming the PERFECT partner). No wonder Beyonce (a Virgo) came up with a song called "Upgrade You." She's definitely speaking to her Sag boyfriend when she lets him know she's an asset to him in every area of his life. There are a lot of songs on this last album that reference the things she can buy for him ("Suga Mama", for example). It's like being a reverse golddigger, but I don't think she would be as interested in her Saggy boyfriend if he wasn't one of the richest rappers ever. Virgos probably don't think of themselves as golddiggers, though. They just want the security of knowing they made the best decisions in life (i.e., picking the best partner).
@May: Well, the Taurus was married to the mentioned Leo. As the Leo was all about social rank and superficiality, it's been taking a toll on the marriage. The marriage lasted for about 8 years. The Taurus, on the contrary to the Leo, is a person of emotion, intimacy and depth of feelings and devotion.
She threatened with a divorce once, when the Leo simply refused to do anything to improve the relationship. She wrote a list of demands and things they should work on in order to make the marriage and relationship work out, and it should take mutual effort. She tried to save that marriage, even by consulting a relationship-therapist/councelor. The Leo did nothing. Ever.
He never took her seriously, and that was a big mistake of all his big mistakes, which are many. She bought an apartment, told him that she's divorcing him and moving out, and moved out. She literally rented a van, and moved all her stuff out within a week. The Leo was so baffled, shocked and later depressed. He must've thought that she wouldn't really do it. Silly Leo. She also told him to keep all the things and furniture, as the furniture specifically look great in the house. What a stylish way to break his pride even more. She's an interior architect and engineer, the typical Taurean Artisan.
That was indeed very beautiful. How she said that she will do this and that and how she did it without drama or emotional games, without threats. Just like, BOOM. The Leo was so shocked. That's what happens when a Taurus tried to confront issues directly and maturily with you, and you ignore her and don't understand the feelings. For the Bull, it was a sure sign that there is nothing to achieve emotionally in this dysfunctional relationship, as it takes two to tango.
I'm totally fascinated by that Taurus. Many great stories surround that Bull. The best part is that the Taurus doesn't hold grudges, when she occasionally runs into Leo, she bears no hostility or grudges but communicates with him like an acquaintance or friend, no sneaky thoughts behind. Amazing. I wish I could do that, but I'm too good at holding grudges, plotting stuff and being silly and sensitive for life.
Man, Taureans are awesome.
Eme, and Mirror of Aphrodite, I agree Virgo men are a pain in the neck.
I also agree I like the womne much beter-although they can be a little difficult too.But they're *much* more pelasant.
I have found Virgo men not to be so "nice' though.They do seem to think that explaining the reason for the break-up makes everything allright.
But the one Virgo I was real intop had a Cap moon, Virgo Mercury, and Venus, and Mars in *Scorpio*!
He was just horrible when he was angry--and almost cost me my job(I quit in shame, anyway).
He was nasty, and sneaky, yes.
Capriconrs--well that a goat of a different color.;-)
The one Cap I was in love with always managed to hurt me(for yrs)--though as a friend he was a nice guy.
Finally I ended the whole thing--and *he* went crazy with sorrow.
I was never so surpised, but it really was way too late.
We became good freinds a couple yrs later--and he was still unreliable, but fun caring friend.
It's been over 30 yrs now--actually abvout 37.:-)
My husband is a Taurus, and *my* moon is i Taurus.I have to admit I don't let go easily.Wish I could.
He did not either.
He and I broek up several yrs ago, and he could never grasp I honestly wanted space--for some reaosn he kept trying to prove he was "there' as if that was what I wanted.
I find a Taurus has one focus, and one only.
nd their speed are slow and stop.LOLOL.
We even tually worked things out in counseling, and were a happy, but mismatched couple.;-)
ai--sorry for my miserable typing 'skills'.
ai--sorry for my miserable typing 'skills'.
I'm a Taurus and loyal to the end but a Virgo man just cannot be my man: they're control-freak, they always say sorry when they make a mistake but are happy to repeat the mistakes 10 times, highly hypocrite and quite cruel when you dicover what they're doing wrong behid your back, and yes, extremely sneaky.
"Virgo men seem to resemble a gold digger in a certain respect. Looking to latch onto something."
The only reason why my virgo man was interested to marry me besides the great sex & great food (I'm a Taurus), is the perspective that I will gain a very good salary, better than his. When that did not happen, he basically cheated on me with a promising colleague. But his perspective turned real after the breakup (I got a very good job) and he's all chasing me again, wanting to remarry again.
So go ahead and re-marry him. Get a super-duper-set-in-steel pre-nup in your favour, reap the proceeds and divorce him twice as fast ;)
Don't get mad, get even.
I'm a Capricorn with a lot of Virgo planets, my moon itself is in Virgo.
Yes, so when I break up with you, I give you a huge list why. I need to make sure you understand my point and it was well thought out too.
If you break up with me, you better have a good answer or reason. I don't care if it's as stupid as you wanting your ex back. As long as I hav an answer, and you better explain to me as well how on earth could she be better than me. (Leo rising).
When arguing with you, it sounds more like business proposition. Here is what is not working, though I can see where there was improvement here that assited this area, but it's completely lacking with XYZ. Is it so hard for you to compromise and perform ABC? It only takes all of 3 mins to do this, and save about 5 hrs of seething anger and another 2 hrs of arguing....I spend a good amount of time "selling" my arugment, making my point and then end it with, "don't you agree?" "Am I right or am I wrong?"
hehe...of course, I'm right. I calculated and analyzed that shit so thoroughly, it's a fail proof plan!! hahaha jk - sorta.
I know this was meant to be funny, but as a Taurus, the best way to break up with me is to JUST DO IT! Don't play passive-aggressive games with me; don't keep me hanging on, while slowly taking small things, like affection and effort, away, because I'll probably sense that something is up, and you're not telling me about it, which will just piss me off. Just tell me you want to break up! It's true that I'm uncomfortable with change (good or bad), but if you just give it to me straight, I'll respect you a lot more in the end. Period.
Begin Anew, It's over between us.
I'm a sun taurus. God, I hate breaking up. It's always so hard for me, even when I know that this person is not right for me. I've been in a relationship with a libra that made my life miserable since day one. I've been wanting to break up for such a long time and it took me over a year to give up on us and do it. I guess that's my main problem - I see break ups as a sign of weakness, can't give up.
Needless to say it's not in our character to give up =] I can't accept the fact that I have failed to create a good relationship, even if it's not my fault. I can't just give up and walk away. I always have to try and fix it, to make things right, truly believing that I can do this, that I can make things alright again. Sometimes I'm too busy trying to "fix" everything, refusing to believe that maybe it just can't be fixed.
I guess it's our flaw, being so goddamn stubborn =] I'm always fighting for the one I love and care for, not realizing that maybe he's just not worth fighting for.
But of course, realizing that would mean admitting that I was wrong about him.
Me? Wrong? Nah, impossible :D
Ugh, taurus taurus...
I agree 100%. It's like you took the words right out of my mouth. Doesn't help that my natal Mars and Moon are in Virgo, along with two other planets...so I not only agree with what you said, but I have to analyze the hell out of it to rationalize why IIIII failed, what IIIII can/could have done differently, and what IIIIIIII can do to fix it. Even though nothing could be done to fix it. Being a proud Cap with Leo rising...the last thing I want to do is accept defeat. Not to mention, if I'm the one that walked away, I'll forever haunted by the "what if's" ringing in my head. It's daunting I tell ya.
"Not to mention, if I'm the one that walked away, I'll forever haunted by the "what if's" ringing in my head"
I wish. When I decide to walk away, I always know that it's for good. If I, me!, the most stubborn person in the world, decided to break up... It means that I've been through a living hell with that person and there is nothing anymore for me to come back to. For me to initiate a break up is burning all bridges - Set the fire, and once it's gone - It's gone for good. From there I can only go forward, there is no way back for me :S
I'm the same way. When I walk away, I walk away. It's over. Like it never happened in the first place.
However for the man to know when I'm really walking away is something else. There have been times I've told a man "*uck you" and "you know where you can go" because I've been so deeply in love with him. To give a man *hit is NOT walking away from him.
To completely ignore him, his calls, his very presence as if he doesn't even exist . . . THAT is walking away. And THAT is a permanent thing.
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