How To Break Up With A Fire Sign (Part 1 of the Breaking Up Series)
Jara aka BlahBlah writes for 'Seduction Central' on Saturdays. (Thanks, Jeff!)
Disclaimer: This blog entry is for humorous and educational purposes only. Adhere to the following advice at your own risk.
Yes, breaking up is hard to do. And it's so much harder when your soon-to-be-ex is an amusing Aries, a lovely Leo, or a smart Sagittarius. If you've ever dated fire signs, then you know that breaking up with them is nearly impossible, especially if they don't want to break up with you. In that case, they'll pull out all the stops to win you back, which can be a very tempting proposition for you. Assuming you're truly ready to move on from your Aries, Leo or Sagittarius, you'll need all the help you can get to make the breakup stick. Here's a guide to initiating (and surviving) a breakup with a fire sign.
The Break-Up Strategy
Breaking up with an Aries requires some foresight (not a trait that Aries is known for having, by the way). Without a plan of action, the probability of getting pulled into a knock-down, drag-out fight is very high if Aries even suspects for one second that you're voluntarily walking away from the relationship first (keyword with Aries). The least painful tactic (for you) is to convince Aries that it's his or her idea to break up with you. Become the antithesis of what Aries respects: a lazy, unfocused and indecisive coward. To make sure the breakup sticks, adopt a new pessimistic outlook on life. Whenever Aries comes to you excited about a brand new venture, point out all the reasons why the venture is the worst idea in the history of ideas. Make sure to point out flaws in Aries' plan only ONCE, though, because repeating yourself will signal to Aries that an argument is on the horizon. Naturally, an argument may turn Aries on and lead to some break-up-to-make-up sex. If that happens, you'll have to start all over from scratch, except now Aries thinks you're playing the "Breakup Game" as foreplay for another enthusiastic sex session.
Leo is a very loyal sign, so breaking up can be extra tricky. In order to escape from Leo unscathed, you must commit to putting aside your ego for the greater good of the breakup. As with Aries, the goal here is to get Leo to break up with you. There are two surefire ways to having a relatively stress-free parting with a Leo:
1.) Go light on the praise and remove the words "thank you" from your vocabulary, but lay the criticism on heavy (especially in front of someone Leo admires)
AND/OR
2.) Convince Leo you're not worthy of being in the relationship.
Examples of tactic #2 include getting demoted (or better yet, fired) for doing something Leo can't put a positive spin on or being seen in public looking significantly less groomed than normal (or as Leo expects). The beauty of convincing Leo you're unworthy is that you'll just be confirming what Leo already thinks, so this will be very easy. The exception is if you're a super, duper great catch (to Leo). In that case, don't bother with #2 because Leo will just hang onto the relationship even tighter. The worst thing you can do at this point is raise Leo's suspicions that a dumping is around the corner or those paws will dig in and the Lion or Lioness will refuse to be "convinced" that breaking up is for the best. When all else fails, cease all forms of physical affection and that will have the Leo sealing the breakup deal faster than you can spell G-E-T L-O-S-T.
Since Sagittarius appreciates and respects honesty, you can breakup with Sagittarius using a straightforward approach. Luckily, the famous Sagittarius sense of humor will go a long way in helping a breakup remain amicable. Sagittarius may have even been contemplating whether he or she really likes being in the relationship in the first place. This, of course, makes your job a lot easier. Sag may try to find out the reason behind your decision if the relationship is a good one to him or her. He or she will most likely play things cool by cracking some jokes about how they'll catch you in the next lifetime. To a Sag's way of thinking, the breakup provided food for thought, another life lesson learned, and yet another friend to add to his or her ever-expanding collection of buddies.
The Ex-Files
Unless you have extremely compatible personalities, don't expect to be friends with Aries after the relationship ends. As a matter of fact, don't be surprised if Aries deals with the breakup by auditioning new admirers as your replacement immediately after your breakup.
Leo makes a wonderful ex if allowed to save face during the breakup. The benefits of Leo as an ex is that his or her benevolent nature almost guarantees that you will receive help in your times of need (especially if you two share any children).
Sagittarius rarely dwells on the past, so there is great potential for you and your Sagittarius ex to be best friends even after the breakup (but only if you dealt with the situation honestly).
How has your relationship with an Aries, a Leo or a Sagittarius ended? Did the end of your relationship with a fire sign leave you feeling extinguished or ablaze?
Disclaimer: This blog entry is for humorous and educational purposes only. Adhere to the following advice at your own risk.
Yes, breaking up is hard to do. And it's so much harder when your soon-to-be-ex is an amusing Aries, a lovely Leo, or a smart Sagittarius. If you've ever dated fire signs, then you know that breaking up with them is nearly impossible, especially if they don't want to break up with you. In that case, they'll pull out all the stops to win you back, which can be a very tempting proposition for you. Assuming you're truly ready to move on from your Aries, Leo or Sagittarius, you'll need all the help you can get to make the breakup stick. Here's a guide to initiating (and surviving) a breakup with a fire sign.
The Break-Up Strategy
Breaking up with an Aries requires some foresight (not a trait that Aries is known for having, by the way). Without a plan of action, the probability of getting pulled into a knock-down, drag-out fight is very high if Aries even suspects for one second that you're voluntarily walking away from the relationship first (keyword with Aries). The least painful tactic (for you) is to convince Aries that it's his or her idea to break up with you. Become the antithesis of what Aries respects: a lazy, unfocused and indecisive coward. To make sure the breakup sticks, adopt a new pessimistic outlook on life. Whenever Aries comes to you excited about a brand new venture, point out all the reasons why the venture is the worst idea in the history of ideas. Make sure to point out flaws in Aries' plan only ONCE, though, because repeating yourself will signal to Aries that an argument is on the horizon. Naturally, an argument may turn Aries on and lead to some break-up-to-make-up sex. If that happens, you'll have to start all over from scratch, except now Aries thinks you're playing the "Breakup Game" as foreplay for another enthusiastic sex session.
Leo is a very loyal sign, so breaking up can be extra tricky. In order to escape from Leo unscathed, you must commit to putting aside your ego for the greater good of the breakup. As with Aries, the goal here is to get Leo to break up with you. There are two surefire ways to having a relatively stress-free parting with a Leo:
1.) Go light on the praise and remove the words "thank you" from your vocabulary, but lay the criticism on heavy (especially in front of someone Leo admires)
AND/OR
2.) Convince Leo you're not worthy of being in the relationship.
Examples of tactic #2 include getting demoted (or better yet, fired) for doing something Leo can't put a positive spin on or being seen in public looking significantly less groomed than normal (or as Leo expects). The beauty of convincing Leo you're unworthy is that you'll just be confirming what Leo already thinks, so this will be very easy. The exception is if you're a super, duper great catch (to Leo). In that case, don't bother with #2 because Leo will just hang onto the relationship even tighter. The worst thing you can do at this point is raise Leo's suspicions that a dumping is around the corner or those paws will dig in and the Lion or Lioness will refuse to be "convinced" that breaking up is for the best. When all else fails, cease all forms of physical affection and that will have the Leo sealing the breakup deal faster than you can spell G-E-T L-O-S-T.
Since Sagittarius appreciates and respects honesty, you can breakup with Sagittarius using a straightforward approach. Luckily, the famous Sagittarius sense of humor will go a long way in helping a breakup remain amicable. Sagittarius may have even been contemplating whether he or she really likes being in the relationship in the first place. This, of course, makes your job a lot easier. Sag may try to find out the reason behind your decision if the relationship is a good one to him or her. He or she will most likely play things cool by cracking some jokes about how they'll catch you in the next lifetime. To a Sag's way of thinking, the breakup provided food for thought, another life lesson learned, and yet another friend to add to his or her ever-expanding collection of buddies.
The Ex-Files
Unless you have extremely compatible personalities, don't expect to be friends with Aries after the relationship ends. As a matter of fact, don't be surprised if Aries deals with the breakup by auditioning new admirers as your replacement immediately after your breakup.
Leo makes a wonderful ex if allowed to save face during the breakup. The benefits of Leo as an ex is that his or her benevolent nature almost guarantees that you will receive help in your times of need (especially if you two share any children).
Sagittarius rarely dwells on the past, so there is great potential for you and your Sagittarius ex to be best friends even after the breakup (but only if you dealt with the situation honestly).
How has your relationship with an Aries, a Leo or a Sagittarius ended? Did the end of your relationship with a fire sign leave you feeling extinguished or ablaze?
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posted by Blah Blah at 8/11/2007
18 Comments:
Well done, Miss Blah Blah!
Here's one way to make sure that Leo breaks up with you: Humiliate a Leo in public. The break-up will be clean since he'll walk away and never speak to you again for as long as you live. You won't have to worry about him ever calling you in the middle of the night, begging for "closure," either. If he ever runs into you again some months later, he won't try to seduce you in order to reassert his own huge ego bc once you've humiliated a Leo, he'll see you as attractive as Jabba the Hut even if you're Beyoncé.
It's the only way that a Leo will act like a Scorpio and cut you off for good but it WILL work like a charm. I should know. I'm a Leo with a Pisces Moon, Cancer rising.
I've never had to break up with a fire sign. . .but decided to try and "shake" an Aries male before to get him off my tail.
I'll say this. . .when it comes to Aries - don't just run. This gives way to the famous Arien "chase." Even ignorant behavior won't work with this one. And you become an even bigger target in their sites.
An Aries cannot fathom that anyone wouldn't want to be with them. So it must be a game. And the chase game is one that the Arien lives for.
Ahhh. . .gotta' love that Arien ego :-)
And if your not handling your Aries with kid gloves during the break up process. . .expect to have them broadcast negativity about you to a very public audience.
In light of that I must say - I do love you Aries men! The man's man.
I agree with everything you said about Aries men, especially the part about not running and how even ignorant behavior won't work (I've tried to do both). In a way, Aries guys are similar to dogs - they love to chase anything that's moving away from them. :)
I recently met an Aries man with quite a bit of water in his chart (Cancer Moon, Pisces Mars, Cancer Saturn, Scorpio Uranus). My first impression of him was that he seems like a shy guy, but then I noticed that he has a very quick sense of humor that consistently shows through the shyness. And, of course, the twinkle in the eye that so many Aries men have. He doesn't act like a man's man at all, though. Just when I thought an Aries couldn't be on the non-aggressive side, I meet one that changes my mind. It's always interesting to me when people don't wear their typical sun sign traits on their sleeves. Ah, layers.
Yeah, I have a lot of Aries in my chart, though I'm a taurus, and I NEVER speak to my ex's. Recently one double virgo found me online, and I choose to act as if he is non-existent by not even replying. I hope he analyzes his brain to hell! Just kidding. I don't wish him anything. I just have no desire to speak to him. I don't care.
Eme Kah, I agree with you to a point...but if a Leo is really, deeply in love with someone, s/he will possibly stay with that person even after a public humiliation. In that case, the Leo will turn the awfulness inward, into grief and self-loathing.
That's why letting the Leo save face during a breakup is a good idea. A really smitten one will actually move on more easily then.
You say public humiliation makes a Leo act like a Scorp--true, but if the Leo was really invested, instead of putting up a Scorpio ice wall, s/he might stay very involved and exact revenge. (Which, Scorps do too, if someone wrongs them.) I honestly think being firm, consistent and gentle--plus allowing some face-saving--is essential for all the fixed signs. They all (even Aquas!) have a Scorp-like tendency to linger around seeking justice if you wrong them.
Dead on, Miss Blah Blah, I broke up with my Leo ex. After a beautiful, compatible, and fulfilling 7 years of marriage with my stable calm Leo man, he simply faded out: I lived in a world void of emotional, physical, or sexual connection with him. After two years of trying to connect with him again, really loving who he is, and him telling me point-blank that he "just wasn't available for that" or "didn't feel that way about me" I finally had an affair. Once he found out, he didn't waste a second making that public to his (our) friends.. without mentioning, of course, that he'd abandoned me. He was angry and hostile for quite a while- who wouldn't be? I can hardly blame him, except that I went thru my own sense of loss and rejection, for the two years before the affair. Now, 5 years later, we are friends- mostly because we have a son together, and also, because we both have been willing to look into ourselves, and acknowledge our needs and behaviours that led to the breakup. Interestingly, he's recently started taking some medication (hormonal therapy) for a lagging thyroid and that all-important male testosterone, and he's alot healthier and more energetic. I do wish that had come around a few years ago- it undoubtedly would have saved our marriage. And yes, he has been... not exactly benevolent, but certainly responsible, and kind.
lol @ that. i agree about the leo thing totally!
the aries thing, sometimes they are so stubborn that even all that doesnt work!
Thanks, Jeffrey. :)
Notanonymous, that's a good point you made about fixed signs needing to seek justice and the potential of them being vengeful about it. I never looked at it that way, but I may have to agree with you (just based on my experiences). I broke up with my Aqua ex about a month ago and I never would've thought he would be vengeful, but he did some pretty spiteful things. And how cliche is it that he used the Internet to do it?? Aquarians and their damn knowledge of computers and electronics. :(
Ricercar, my first longterm relationship was with an Aries. We were together for about a year, but it took another 6 months to break up with him. I tried every method you can imagine. It came down to just ignoring him. What I didn't know then that I know now is that I should've let him think he broke up with me. That 6 months would've been cut down to 1 week. lol
Our relationship is what triggered my interest in studying astrology in more depth (e.g., learning about sun signs other than Cancer) because what I read about Aries/Cancer relationships were so dead on. I figured if anything could describe our relationship so accurately without knowing us, then there must be something to it. In my case, Aries' love of confrontation + Cancer's passive-aggressive avoidance of confrontation = Hell
Anon, thyroid dysfunction can cause everything in the body to go out of whack (including lack of sexual interest). You'd be amazed at how many people don't know they have hyperthyroidism or hypothyroidism. Unfortunately, it runs in my family so I'm very aware of the craziness that it can cause. It's too bad that your Leo ex found out about his condition after things stopped working out between you two. I'm glad you have a working friendship with him now, though. Leos are pretty loveable as long as you don't step on their egos. :)
Get rid of an Aries?
The only thing I can think of that will truly work is to hire a hit man.
When Jeffrey gets back I will be in trouble for saying that though...
You may get in trouble for your comment, but it's hilarious. lol
Hiring a hitman might impress and flatter the Aries. :)
I could use some of the Aries' unfaltering optimism in the face of reality and ability to pursue things impulsively in certain areas of my life.
I'm so excited the series!!
teehee jara aka bla bla!
you mean that optimism like if you tell an Aries they are an idiot they will smile and say, "wow, you spend so much of your own time analyzing me. thank you!" and they are NOT being sarcastic, they mean it.
I'm a Leo (Scorpio Rising, Moon in Cancer) and after every break up, I chose to go away yet never to return, even after numerous phone calls (I didn't reply) and emotional messages (It doesn't mean I didn't care about them, I even spent hours crying over it but again, no replies). The thing you shouldn't forget about, is the ego and the pride; so how can a person so full of pride and ego can stick with someone after any kind of humiliation? (public or else) Oh and one good way to break up with Leo, don't listen to them, don't appreciate their gifts, forget their birthdays, treat him/her like s/he never did something for you (even if s/he did) and you have it, the break-up and the huge tears on Leo's face. It's possible you can not see them though, s/he may be gone before you could realise them. You can try to be true, tell the problems to his/her face. I don't think they would just agree with the problems though, and they will try to talk to you and tell you you can solve all the problems. Shortly, the best way to break up with Leo is... Well, erm, I don't know how I would break up with myself.
I am in Leo. I understand all the negative sterotypes that people have put on Leo's and some are true about the underdevolped leo. I don't like the games. So just tell me you aren't feeling it and we can move on. Forget the games. But every guy who has broken it off with me by being up front and honest or by playing games has ALWAYS called back! Stop the games! I don't play them and am very easy to deal with.
I'm an Aries, and like some of you said, I'm flattered that so many people take the time to complain about how difficult it is to get rid of us. :D
I'm a leo and if I were publicly humilated I would seek revenge. I'm pretty well adjusted, but for someone to play a game like that on me would be to invite my wrath, and I can be as mean as I can be happy.
I highly recommend you do not do this.
Generally considered publicly humiliating your partner is abuse. A leo, getting abused in a relationship. What do you think would
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