What happens to a Sagittarius woman after she gets hurt?
If there's one positive attribute of mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Pisces), it's that they let go easily. Sagittarius, being a fire sign as well, may make a big display of her emotions, but she won't hold on to her hurt for very long. In fact, she may take the high ground -- Sagittarius is ruled by moralistic Jupiter, which is more interested in principles and ethics than who did what to whom. Unfortunately, Jupiter can be arrogant, so it's not uncommon for the Sagittarius to think that she's superior to the person who hurt her. Any forgiveness of the offender may come along with a nice dose of condescension. (See How to get a Sagittarius to forgive you.)Perhaps the biggest danger of hurting a Sagittarius is that she won't want to stick around any longer. Born under the sign of freedom and adventure, she may not want to go through the trouble of working out any problems. It depends, of course, on how she was hurt -- a threat to her need for space is worse than an insult to her cooking.
A special exception would be a Sagittarius woman with Venus in Scorpio. If you've hurt her, lock all your doors, take down your social networking profiles, and disconnect your phone.
Comment below with your hurt Sag stories.
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 7/27/2007
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Hah, excellent twist with the Scorpio-Venus near the end! ...Am I the only one practically waiting for Amber Schalke/Sagilarious to voice her opinion?
I'm a Sag with Venus in Scorpio. The first time I was hurt was over 15 years ago and I completely blocked and cut off in every single way from the man in question. I even asked the heavens to never meet this person ever again in any future lifetime to come! Now my pain was deep and it set me off on a completely different path, now my relationships are all platonic and all very loving in their own way. I've learned to respect men from my platonic friendships and believe in the goodness of man again.
That best friend of mine, Sag, she has Venus in Scorpio... she was hurt but in a friendship relationship and, yes, that's the way she acted and she will seek for revenge (if no one with more ratio at the moment doesn't stop her).
I think they just simply walk away never to think of you again.
Here I am Noctule :) That is sweet that you thought of me.
Well, I am Sag with Venus, Pluto, and Saturn in Scorpio, also with a Scorpio rising.
It is hard for me to speak for the average hurt Sag because of my Scorpio influence and Pisces moon. But I will say that the shame of hurting a Sagittarius woman is more than just the way it effects her view of relationships. Because Sag is so philosophical, idealistic, optimistic, trusting, and hopeful, hurting a Sag can damage her view of mankind entirely. Because a Sag is more likely to clumbsily hurt someone than intentionally, if someone were to hurt a Sag with intent, as some signs do, it may damage her view of humanity. That is the greater shame.
Also...if she has Venus in Scopio then any hurt that is not from jealousy will be enough work. But, if you make that kind of woman jealous or give her a reason to believe she has been betrayed then Hell has a better place for you than her heart does (yes, I am writing this at the exact moment I am experiencing it. How ironic!)
I'm a sag with moon in aquarius mercury, venus, mars in scorpio. When younger hurt = internal devestation - loss of belief in human kindness and deep lonliness in life. Then one begins to take hold of the beliefs and nurture them once again and slowly bring the reconnection from the heart back to life - a long and solitary process. Then when hurt happens again, even though sadness and loss are experienced it doesn't sit there for very long, it's like you grieve and let them go with an understanding that people sometimes don't know the most loving way to handle situations, that they are coming to terms with their life too. In short, I pull all my resources from my own strength and I never return to the people of past hurt.
I think that the hurt comes from believing so much in people and loving them with your entire being that when they misunderstand or step on your heart or dreams for that matter - it just takes time to get your head around that because all you can see in these people is their absolute beauty.
I was thinking that I'm nothing like that at all, as a sag sun and moon, until I read the last line and burst out laughing. Venus in Scorpio here folks, and he is not exaggerating. I think you've summed it up perfectly.
I think sagilarious has it right on as well. The betrayal is horrible and losing trust does make one a cynic, maybe me moreso than others, but I've been hurt many times and it affects those I meet afterwards and have relationships with. I think betrayal is bad enough for anyone, but I particularly have such a fear of it that it almost keeps me from caring.
I'm a Sag myself and I always seem to agree with Sagilarious opinions and she is right on point from my point of view. And, I also agree with Saggel when its said that "I've been hurt many times and it affects those I meet afterwards and have relationships with".
Ive been single for 4 years and of course my approach on it all can be slightly different seeing Im a lesbian. But all in all this is 4 years of single life after a DEEP DEEP HEART BREAK. I shut off to the world almost. I came out in spurts but always in TOTAL control of the people i let into my life. My relationship made me very close minded to the fact people are honest now a days etc etc. So i dated of course but nothing ever serious cause my expectations are over and beyond. So now my approach to most encounters is a 1 week free-trial. Within 7 days Ive somehow found something about them that just wont fly with me. Im not open to any compromising of my feelings. Its very lonely. But somehow i always talk myself into believing Im very logical on my expectations a "ant" could get it. And after sittin and analyzing it for hours at time, Im aggravated cause they was never on my level possibly. DOES ANY OF THIS MAKE SENSE? WHEN IM HURT, I RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK. NO SECOND CHANCES.
k.illa, where is your moon, venus, neptune and saturn placed? Do you have any hard aspects to your moon or neptune?
BlahBlah, k.illa's chart is in the gallery.
@K.illa -- I felt sad when I read your comment. Looking at your chart, you've got an opposition from Chiron (the Wounded Healer) to your Sag Sun. Perhaps this area needs attention ... Gemini @ cusp of the 6th issues. I can go into this later.
I didnt mean to bring the mood down a level on forum. I know that Jeff once said..."This is only the rules and/or law" Thing is I dont even know where my rules lie, to even being to follow possibly.
Back on SUBJECT...I thought I was a cusp of Scorpio? Shows what I know. Would anyone like to help me read my Chart? Im always pleased with the opinions and advice i get off Sedu.Central.
Killa-Instinct,you *are* on the cusp of Scorpio.
But your Sun is still in Sagitarius.It's approximately 3 degrees away from Scorpio which is not exactly on top of it, but close enough to be influenced.
Just off the top of my head,I notice you have Moon in Capricorn, and Venus in Capricorn.
I have never known a Moon in Capricorn that has not had trouble with trust, and feeling comfortable with love and feeling *loved*.
Was your mother cold or unavailable a lot?
Maybe a Cap herself?
Venus in Capricorn also would add to your high expectations, hon.
The truth is, and (*not* to embarrass you!)but to be upfront, you really do feel the need for a lot of affection but don't easily seem to get it, and don't allow most folks to know you all that well.I understand that too.
The truth is that we have to trust somehwat and give people a chance but not completely and fully like children either.:-)
K.illa, it's fine with me if you bring the mood down ... you're just being authentic with your pain. I just don't commenters to be cruel.
yes i'll have to say that when a sag is hurt, she'll either move on easily like nothing has ever happened.
but then becareful,
once she's been lied to in a very wrong way, she'll close everything down and all she ever wants to do is wander or run away. if she's is not allow to, in some time, you'll realize her conscious won't be there anymore.
how i know because i'm a sag.
sag sun, capricorn venus, virgo mars... will cut off communication entirely when you do something against my moral code without talking about it and not be able to remember why we were together in the first place because you're really just not that special. see my relationships logically and rationally and fall apart physically because am not able to reconcile my intellect with my feelings of really being hurt!
I LOVE this blog and this post! As a Sag with Venus in Scorpio, I often feel a little left out when other Sagittarians talk about getting over things so quickly. Sometimes I think I still love every bastard I ever let in my heart, even for a weekend fling (OH, the numbers!) I've had plenty of great chances to get some hard-hitting revenge on exes, but my Sag always overrides that wicked Scorpio and I opt for the high road. The high road being of course, living WELL. That's truly the best revenge. I just look FABULOUS and put it out where they can see it (blogs work best.)
I do bounce back incredibly well after breakups but I think that's due to my Sag optimism. I just know there's always another guy out there waiting to rock my world.
However, the other day my Gemini boyfriend and I were fighting and he said, "I worry what you'd do to yourself if I ever hurt you." I smiled and said, "Baby, it's not me getting hurt that you have to worry about - it's YOURSELF."
stumbled in here - a friend linked me into this site to find out about my MAN - but his page was down and mine wasn't.
I'm a Sag with a Venus in Capricorn - practical, reliable Capricorn -- the last time I spent all night up wailing over a man - I was about 20 - cursing the heavens and threatening revenge - I then let it go, cursing his head and swearing Fate would take care of him.
The Next time I heard anything of him - about 10 years later - all I heard was about "Poor A------. such a shame about that car accident." He'd been hit with a bad concussion several years before with some bad concussion and frequent memory loss/ years of operations ...
Now I figure he had a few OTHER contributing broken hearts he'd left behind -- but don't CROSS a Sagittarian female - even the NICE ones!
well i must be the loser in town...im sag sun ,moon capricorn,n venus in scorpio.i feel the pain of every one and every thing,and my pain hits rock bottom,the core and it hurts.and i find it hard not to feel any one eles pain
I am a Sag sun with venus, mars and jupiter (in the 7th house that has Scorpio on its cusp along with neptune) in scorpio, pluto squaring my sun exactly and it conjunct my moon and I just have to say that I am so pleased and excited to see that so many others on the post have this Sag scorpio mix stuff too!! It is wonderful to read and feel that someone else could understand what you go thru - as I can attest and agree with the other Sag Sun, Venus Scorpio posts on here that the deep hurt can make one feel like closing up and giving up for a very very very long time.
I feel as though I have really sparkled as a Sagitarius (being called a polyanna most of my life) and it has only been more recent that I have had such hurts that my view of humanity AND my sprituality has been tested (one thing I wanted to add that can happen to a hurt Sag!!!!)
I was deeply hurt by my last relationship but, as one Sag Sun and veunus scorp said; still did not get revengeful- even though I had ample reason (he is literally stuck in a cult for almost 4 years and has not returned to help with his 2 wonderful children and I still have not thrown everything of his away yet- may soon though!!)
The pain I have now over the pain I get from the relationship I am in currently seems almost worse- as was mentioned by others, when the jeolousy and lack of trust has been tampered with. I have felt so much pain that I couldn't believe that I was still alive and here one night because I felt like I was burning inside so much, that I felt like a log put in a fire and was almost surprised to still be there in the morning.
I have been studying Lilith too (is that pluto's mate??) and my boyfriends Sun is right on my Lilith. I feel that I was and am literally going thru initiation rites - to go on with what I was saying, I actually felt that the burning I felt the other night actually left anger and went further... to something actually healthy and necessary. I felt it was an honoring of myself. Again, and especially with Lilith envolvement (it is transiting my 7th house right now and my boyfriends 5th house) that I am tempted with the revenge and deep pain (that pluto brings also- transiting my sun by conjunction now) but I am holding the energy for something better; it is definitely more than words can describe.
I feel that I could be tempted to never want to love again, I feel sadness beyond the beyond - and yet, thank God for my Sag Sun IN my 9th house natally (and Sag neptune)!!! I do have the sense that I will not take this temptation, and no matter what; will still expect the happy ending that a Sag always expects :)
I'm a Sag with Venus in Capricorn, and Mars in Scorpio and I definately DO NOT let go easily. I still think about each man I lost or hurt me. Every person I've ever been with, I still feel like they are "mine" even after we aren't together. And I'm still plotting ways to get revenge on my last ex.. lol I've already succeeded a few times, but the bad part is, while I'm plotting revenge I'm also coming up with ways to get him back.. and I'm the one who broke up with him!! lol. what's up with that??
I'm a Sag and I don't know what with, though... My lover publicly humiliated me because I wouldn't act the way he wanted me to--so, I simply turned around, walked away, and never spoke to him again. Mind you, he made me get in the car with his whore--but I never spoke to him again and I blocked his email, turned my ringer off, and never answered my door unless I knew beforehand who was coming over. The only nastiness I had in reaction was that I will someday make a million off his face (as an artist, he said I'd live on skidrow forever). And, despite the fact that his face plagues my sleeping hours, I have forgiven and let go.
I'm a Sag with an Aquarius Venus and Libra Moon. Also, Im a Capricorn rising and an Aries Mars. As far as relationships go I never seem to care enough to get involved. But when I do its on at 100%. If I decide to care and Im invested in a relationship and it ends and its not my idea...I cant let it go. And then I have competition and selfish issues. Its almost as if I believe I earned the rights to that guy because i bothered to fall for him. And I fight for the relationship merely on the basis that it wasnt my idea to end it. lol. im ridiculous! I hate it.
I am a Sag. girl and I am very, very proud to be one! We are the only sign that will see the truth in everything no matter what it is!No, wonder-- we are the truth tellers. Most of the other signs make very wrong opinion about us-- reason, they DO NOT understand the intellectual Sag. or anything about us for that matter. Becaue we are TRULY pure and beautiful beyond limits! We are also the most philosophical, idealistic, romantic, ambitious, sky high goal driven, the most graceful, world winning charming, most optimistic, fun loving and the most kind people! Whew!
Now, since the truth has been told, let us talk about our purity in love!
I am talking from my experience, when it comes to love, I give it all-- mind, body, spirit and soul!!! Because, ideally, true love should be exactly that. The biggest problem is with the guys out there. What ever their sun or moon signs are, they DO NOT know HOW TO RECEIVE that much love and THEY HAVE NO CLUE how to RETURN that much love!
So, for all the Sag. girls, the guys who hurt us-- it is THEIR TREMENDOUS loss! Certainly NOT ours!
But the bad side of it all is--after this type of hurt, we loose faith in love.
Yes, I also GAVE up on love! There is REALLY NO GUY out their to understand, appreciate and receive my LEVEL of PURE LOVE and return the same!
To us, LOYALTY in love comes with the PACKAGE. INterestingly enough-- the men out there fail MISERABLY in the LOYALTY department. Because we ask of REALLY, REALLY true loyalty! And NO MAN is capable of that!
One thing I forgot to mention, oh yes! Sag. girls are the MOST SENSUAL, feminine, graceful and sexual women in the world!
One of my best friends is a Saggittarius, known her for over 10 years. So how does a girl sag handle a let down from life? She usually tries to stay busy, very busy, like haning with friends, going out, having fun, doing anything to keep her happy-go-lucky nature in tack. Usually she will take one day to nurse her heart and then she is back out there having the time of her life like what ever it was never happened.
>Sagittarius, being a fire sign as >well, may make a big display of >her emotions, but she won't hold >on to her hurt for very long.
Ha speak for yourself. I'm a Scorpio Sagitarius cusp and I never forget a slight or a hurt. OH yes I plot my revenge no matter how long it takes. I never hurt people unprovoked so I don't accept that they would hurt me. And if it is any act of betrayal I will never speak to the person again or ever take them back. I despise liars and/or traitors. They will be dead to me. One thing I hate about all is people who use your affections against you. I tell you it won't fly.
> cursing the heavens and >threatening revenge - I then let >it go, cursing his head and >swearing Fate would take care of >him.
>The Next time I heard anything of >him - about 10 years later - all >I heard was about "Poor A------. >such a shame about that car >accident."
I've had the same experience. And when someone hurts me I cry out to the heavens in deep grief like crying for over an hour.
And I get bad news too, one guy got in a car accident, bit by a recluse spider got robbed by his roommate, other guy almost got his houses flooded and he contacted me telling me about his misfortune. Mind you I was expressing my grief and seeking to be avenged by the Fates and Karma which I completely believe in. And they have avenged me every time.
There are some men who are fragile that I don't speak out against because I don't want something worse to happen to them. That is more like an act of love b/c I know they already are psychologically damaged in irreparable ways. I try to be fair above all and I am willing to sacrifice and compromise for love but a doormat I'm not.
But being a Sagittarius who truely respects others free will loves them wholeheartedly with no thought of return I do get very upset if people take advantage of me and try to pull their psychological bs to entrap me. I do seem unfriendly because I don't want people to get close to me. I have a very low opinion of people because I hear stories everyday about their power trips and their scorn for the underdog. Attack the weak just because you can. I am not weak but that principle bothers me.
Also I have never bullied or exploited anyone just because I could. So it isn't like I am a hypocrite at all.
My dream is to be a reclusive wild woman eternal student of all that is metaphysical and mysterious someone who aims for the stars and is never without music. People are disappointing and not worth the trouble I find at the same time I don't hold onto grudges and am not bitter. I just have other worthwhile ways to spend the time. How vast the world is how much there is still to learn and explore. That is a happy thought
We are also the most philosophical, idealistic, romantic, ambitious, sky high goal driven, the most graceful, world winning charming, most optimistic, fun loving and the most kind people
This is true. I must agree with you and although I have met signs that I could be compatible with, they were not as honest as I. And I know people think Sagittarians play fast and loose, sleep around etc but that isn't necessarily so. Sagittarians love deeply they have substance but after they discovered that the person they love isn't who they thought he was well there is nothing to love see.This has happened to me over and over and what I do is tell myself it was just mistaken identify. The person I loved didn't exist and is therefore dead RIP.
And the person who misrepresented himself well how can I care for him when I see the truth? If someone is honest it is easier to forgive then someone who misrepresented themselves to get your affections.
The biggest problem I have with the opposite sex is the way they misrepresent themselves. I will probably be single I am in a fringe relationship now with an Aquarius who initially had given me hope but the embers shall probably die.. But I wonder if only a fellow Sagittarian can really understand? Relationships are losing their appeal. The most hurtful one I had was where I was treated with coldness by a libran. Again deceit...if you say that I am magic and a wonderful friend why do you do contradictory things. Perhaps I suffered for my innocence but no more. Jekyl and Hyde...
At least I am honest about my moodyness artistic temperament after all I don't have the need to decieve people but I find that I tell them less and less because I expect them to be gone tomorrow. There is no need to expend energy. And no loss because I will be there tomorrow and as long as I don't lose myself I am sure that I can handle anything. I can handle anything I think people are wolves in sheep's clothing.
Pisces acendant
Sun in sag Moon in capricorn
Mercury in Scorpio
Venus in Sagittarius
Mars in Virgo
Jupiter in Virgo
Saturn in Virgo
Uranus in Scorpio
Neptune in Sagittarius
Pluto in Libra
>To us, LOYALTY in love comes with >the PACKAGE. INterestingly enough->- the men out there fail >MISERABLY in the LOYALTY >department.Because we ask of >REALLY, REALLY true loyalty! And >NO MAN is capable of that!
That is true. However I have had better luck with loyalty with unconventional types. I'm not sure about the birth time it could be 45 minutes off so my ascendant could either be Pisces or Aquarius but I have noticed that I am attracted to unconventional men. The more cerebral mental and mercurial the better the more eccentric the better. Now with men who are mercurial and mental I have discovered more loyalty than your typical male. I try NEVER to associate myself with typical males they are dull beyond belief with no mind of their own and values from the 50's. I have no time for those bores who believe in double standards. I am loyal and LOYALTY is more important that is why I bother to associate myself with men. I have only been betrayed by one fling but believe me if I ever discover infidelity and anything like that I will promptly pack my bags and leave no dialogue necessary. That is absolutely disrespectful. If someone was going to dothat they can at least give you a heads up this is why typical men don't interest me. Most of the time either I fall in love with someone's mind or love the fact that they are dependable and always available to me otherwise I give myself no reason to hope of anything and wouldn't get involved at all.
I don't know about all the planets in various constellations, but I'm Sag with Leo rising. I have a ripe talent for walking away even when emotionally involved. I've been hurt a few times but take the attitude that my guy IS out there. These other dudes have just been speed bumps! I'm 34 and still optimistic. Even bad girlfriends have just been speed bumps. I have neither the time nor desire to exact revenge. I have a life to live! Besides, good things come to those who wait, and those who do bad? They get theirs. I'm just not going to hang around waiting to see it happen - I have my own dreams to follow!
Great site/sight... Are any of you also fellow New Yorkers?
- Sag with Taurus Rising & Moon, Venus & Mars in Scorpio
I'm a New Yorker!
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