Pisces male blogger has trouble taking the next step
Pisces Male Blogger gave his birth time (click chart to view) and writes,I have been co-habitating with a Scorpio woman (Taurus Rising, Libra Moon, 800 planets in the Sixth House) for nearly 15 years, and we have a 9 year old daughter. We are buying a house and my new medical benefits could save us a load of money if we were to get married. We've both had our issues about the government impinging on our personal lives, hence marriage has not been a priority. However, now that we are both on the deed, she wants us to tie the knot.Transiting Uranus is conjoining your Seventh House Pisces Sun. This house governs marriage and legal partnerships, which are a prerequisite for the sharing of financial resources governed by the Eighth House. If you want to benefit as a single economic unit, then the government rewards you -- if you're married (and in a heterosexual relationship).
Although I've been committed to her all this time, the thought of marriage freaks me out. Maybe I just have bad associations with the institution. Regardless, here I am, and I have to make a decision. Last Friday, I realized that getting married would be tantamount to closing the door on my fantasies. I mean, I'm not screwing around now, but if I were to get married, I'd be driving a nail into the coffin of countless opportunities not acted upon.
Also, she's not a nice Jewish girl. Ever since college I've avoided Jewish girls like the plague, yet all of a sudden -- now that the marriage discussion is on the table -- I'm realizing my girlfriend doesn't look like the type of girl I am supposed to marry.
Please help, Jeff!
Uranus is the planet of independence and revolution. Under the influence of this outer planet, one's need for freedom may result in separation or infidelity. However, what is revolution? It is doing things differently, breaking from the status quo -- namely, your status quo, not necessarily that of the culture at large. For you, taking the leap into deeper commitment is drastically different than anything you've done before.
Yet you are coming up against these "images" of the perfect wife. Your dreamy Pisces Sun rules your Twelfth House of Unconscious Fantasies, Blind Spots and Karma. You could think of this house as containing unprocessed "stuff" from before you were born. How deeply have you explored what it means to be Jewish? How do you feel about not perpetuating the Chosen People's gene pool -- about having a half-goy daughter (God love her)? What would your great-grandmother think? This is also the house of Confinement, and as your Seventh rules your Twelfth, you may associate marriage with loss of freedom. (Uh, doesn't every guy?)
My advice to you, Pisces Male Blogger, is to get over it. You've got a good thing, don't screw it up! You have this unconscious fear that your girlfriend -- after fifteen years -- will turn into your mother once you get married, but I think you'd know by now what you're getting into. If you can spend that much time living with a woman with 800 planets in her Sixth House, then you can survive anything.
Comment below: Should Pisces Male Blogger take the plunge?
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 7/05/2007
12 Comments:
Honey you're already married.
Paper is just so that you can have that health insurance or whatever it is covered with less money.
Yeah, living with someone for 15 years is much more of a commitment than most folks are able to make. Sure, they may get married but a large percentage of Americans divorce after three years of marriage. So I'd say that in the commitment game, you could definitely teach people a thing or two. Ya never thought of it that way, did you? Besides, who's to say your lady ain't afraid that YOU'LL turn into her father after you sign the papers?
You might as well reap the rewards of your constancy, brother.
Should Pisces Male Blogger take the plunge?
You have thought all your life who would be that special lady and she has been by your side for fifteen years and yet you act as if you don't truly see how special she, but i know you do; your just fearful of missing out on something/someone else.
I say take the plunge and I know of one special little lady who would love it.
Jeff, are you the Pisces male blogger? :)
BlahBlah, If I were the Pisces Male Blogger, I might regret having exposed my personal life to such a wide audience. Yet sometimes a Pisces Male Blogger has to publish his thoughts to make them real.
And Anonymous: Do I know you?
It would be so ironic (and SO CUTE) if Anonymous is Miss Scorpio who wants to be wed to Pisces Male Blogger.
I love happy endings! (And I'm guessing Pisces Male Blogger does, too.) ;)
If PMB has been committed to the same person in actions and by heart for 15 years, then the piece of paper is just a romantic symbol of that commitment. Both of you are already past the honeymoon stage when people don't show their true colors. You know what you're getting, but you're scared of missing out on the possibility of maybe getting something else (better?). Maybe scared of not being able to upgrade? Of marrying an unacceptable person? In the past 15 years, have you met anyone that has made you want to seriously break off the relationship with Ms. Scorpio? If not, the possibilities of what you're missing out on is just an illusion of the mind.
Lastly, in the immortal words of a famously good-looking male movie sex symbol:
"Why fool around with hamburger when you have steak at home?"
- Paul Newman (an Aquarius sun with Pisces moon) on adultery.
For nearly 50 years, Paul Newman has been happily married to actress Joanne Woodward (a Pisces sun with either an Aquarius or Pisces moon).
BlahBlah, Although there have been a few "close calls," I have not met anyone who has made me seriously want to break off my relationship with Ms. Scorpio.
PMB, being married doesn't mean you can't still be attracted to other people. As the joke goes, just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu. ;)
It seems to me that your would-be marriage would be beneficial in both a practical and symbolic way.
Take it from someone who's permanently stuck on "grass is always greener over THERE" mode: That we should all be so lucky to find someone special enough to share 15 years of history.
Of course, if you're really nervous about taking that final step down commitment lane, then don't rush yourself (despite all of the stacked pros). This kind of decision has to be made freely and without reservations, or else the commitment will be in name only.
Now I'm off to write to Mr. Bush and my state congress about making marriages subject to renewable licenses...
...to ease the fears of commitment-phobes. :)
Well, in your care, PMB, MARRIAGE-phobes.
I need to start proofreading what I write before clicking "publish."
*I meant to write "In your CASE, PMB, marriage-phobes."
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