Cancer woman loves passive Pisces man: Should she continue pursuing him?
Pisces Mania provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,i met this pisces male who is eight years my junior and he is from another country to boot. love at first sight and despite our language difficulties we connected on a spiritual, emotional, physical and psychic level. never experienced this type of relationship before. but he confuses the heck out of me.Stop fooling yourself. It sounds like this Pisces man wants you to be in the driver's seat, yet he won't even get in the car with you. You leave frequent messages, and he complains you don't call more ... plus he rarely responds. I don't care how much you love him ... he's not living up to his part of the deal. However much his feelings for you are reciprocated, his near-total passivity -- for which Pisces gets a bad rap -- is a deal-breaker.
i could tell from his nervousness and sweaty hands that he was really into me but then he'd ignore my phone calls for several weeks only to call me out of the blue and ask why i didn't call more? the last time there was two months in between our inneraction (because he stopped returning my calls, i refused to keep trying) but curiosity got the best of me and i called. he got in touch a week later and came over. greeted me with the most passionate kiss ever and asked again why i didn't call more and that he was "waiting" for me. it's like he doesn't even realize he is the one being distant or perhaps he's good at lying. so, it's now been a month since we last saw one another and i left a message several weeks ago telling him i missed him and would like to spend more time together. of course, no response and i'm ready to walk away. is this typical pisces behavior? have read pisces are indecisive and live in their own world. how do i know to stick it out and fight the good fight or stop fooling myself? help! i'm hopelessly in love with this strange creature....
You have Venus in Taurus in your Seventh House. Stability and a feeling of being valued are necessary for you to have a satisfying relationship -- neither of which this Pisces man is offering. You also have transiting Uranus -- planet of awakening and sudden change -- transiting your natal Jupiter in Pisces. This planet may signify your Pisces man, as Jupiter represents people from foreign lands, and it is in his sign. This transit -- which ends February of next year -- indicates a lack of any stability with regards to him. He may come in and out of your life with no predictable frequency. Do you want that?
You currently have the opportunity (Jupiter) to build a dream (Pisces) home or home life (Fourth House), which can help provide you a sense of security (Jupiter rules your Second House). I'd suggest you put your energies into bringing the best of Pisces into your life ... not the worst.
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 6/11/2007
3 Comments:
try a scorpion man and a pisces woman, can that work?
Hi. Wow, I REALLY feel for you. I am experiencing something very similar with a Pisces, but we also live 8000 miles apart to boot.
I have dated a few Pisces, and I can say with certainty this not just "Pisces behaviour," even though it is. What I mean is, Pisces can be just as assertive as anyone else when they care about you and the relationship. They can also behave like the one you are dealing with. I think you should try to decide what exactly you want from him. Then tell him. Just telling him what he is doing wrong isn't enough. He may need you to tell him what you want too. Do you want him to call everyday, or at least every few days? Move towards getting closer over time? Maybe move in together one day in the future, maybe get married one day. Most people see a relationship as a building process, working towards getting closer to someone. It sounds like this is what you have in mind, and it's not what he has in mind.
He may freak out if this is not what he is imagining, but at least that will let you know how far apart your thinking processes are right now. If this relationship is hurting you, which it sounds like it is, then you should be pro-active, and not just by calling him often. Get to the point with him. Is he married? Just popped in my head. Are you sure this guy is single?
I'm a Libra, Sag. rising, leo moon. i dated a pisces...eight months ago. his persute was sweet and kind. But after we hooked up a coupla times (no sex) he stopped calling me back until weeks after I'd call.
i thought...ok...maybe he's just passive and he wants me to step it up. No deal. I asked him out just once and he totally blew it off. it was an experiment anyway. a failed experiment.
I ended up curtaining those feelings when I fell for a scorpio a month later...(that is a whole other blog lol). When that courtship began to fall apart up pops my pisces...what!?
He saw me at a club dragged me to the back was extremely attentive and obviously wanted to hook up...I ended up leaving alone that night because i wasn't interested anymore. the man knocks on my door at 3am and invites himself in (so much for pisces passivity!).
then the HOT and COLD act starts once more and last week I deleted his phone number...and that's my story.
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