Questioning Virgo provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,

My scorpio man is an amature astrologist. (really amature) We have this running debate between us about what sign is our ideal soul mate. I think that mine is Scorpio (of course) but he swears up and down that it's Pisces. Now I've been in a relationship with a Pisces and vowed Never Again!! This particular Pisces had a real problem with telling the truth and I found him to be weak in alot of areas. But I loved him because of our friendship--until I found out about the lies--so now the only emotion left is a very STRONG dislike for him and all of his kind. Is there some truth in what he's saying?

It is a common principle of behahavioral psychology that we tend to avoid actions or objects that have corresponded with past discomfort. If you touch a hot stove as a child, you learn quickly not to do it again. But there is a risk of overgeneralization. I can understand avoiding the Pisces man who lied to you, but you are making a cognitive error by choosing to avoid all Pisces men as lovers. Not all Pisces are weak, nor are they all liars. Yes, they have gained that reputation for a reason, but these qualities do not automatically apply to all people born under this sign. Weakness can develop into "the ability to surrender to circumstances that are beyond one's control." Lying can transform into "an ability to develop a rich imagination." That is, there are varying levels of maturity in any adult, regardless of their Sun sign. Some people express the lower qualities of their Sun sign, others the higher qualities. Do you really want to cut off nearly 1/12th of the population as potential lovers because of their Sun sign?

In your chart, Venus -- your love planet as well as the ruler of your Seventh House -- squares Neptune, ruler of Pisces. This is the planetary combo of romantic idealism, or plain ole delusion in matters of love. It could suggest an attraction to Pisces, but a lot of suffering would come with that package, because Venus in Virgo would go crazy with Pisces' dreaminess.

You have an extremely tight Pluto-Mercury conjunction in your Seventh House, just a few degrees from the cusp, signifying an attraction to people who intellectually probe deeply into life, as well as those who know the power of words to effect transformation. Pretty Scorpionic, if you ask me. It's not my place to say which sign is your ideal soul mate, but I'd pick Scorpio over Pisces in your case -- which is ideal for your current relationship.

Now, what's up with your Scorpio insisting that Pisces is the sign for you? What kind of sabotage is that?

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