The Second House: What do you have to offer?
The Second House, associated with Taurus, concerns what you have to offer, your natural talents ... not to mention money and possessions. This house also governs self-esteem. Do you feel you have anything of value to give in a relationship? This is your "collateral." Is it your sense of humor, your breadth of knowledge, your fun disposition? Or do you feel you can only lure a man with your trust fund or your looks?
To succeed in a relationship, you must move from the Second House to the Eight House. You need to share. (I wrote about this on my Scorpio Full Moon post at Lunar Tunes). Sharing requires vulnerability. Will your partner break your heart, steal your thunder? Are you afraid that you will put more into the relationship than he does, and as a result, feel taken advantage of?
It's not a surprise that most fights are about money and sex, two key members of the Eighth House Club. There is so much potential for wounding in this area. You could pay off his debts, and then he could ditch you. He could cheat on you or coerce you into having sex. No wonder it is so hard to trust, when there is so much potential for abuse!
However, the call to merge with another is so strong that you keep looking.
Another danger in relationships is giving too much. What's your motivation? To be liked (Venus)? To use your past generosity to manipulate (Scorpio) him into feeling guilty or giving you something in return when he doesn't really want to? The thing about giving is that it's got to be no-strings-attached if you are going to feel good about it. Otherwise, resentment (Scorpio) ensues. And resentment kills relationships.
Your generosity is also an investment (Eighth House) in the relationship. However, like a financial investment, you take the risk of incurring a loss. Good investments are based on reputation and hunches, but as the disclaimer says, "past performance is no guarantee of future results." Sometimes you have to go with your gut, and mistakes will make you a better judge of character over time.
A frequently shared aphorism among recovering alcoholics is, "You can't keep what you have, unless you give it away." You can only maintain your sobriety by sharing your experience with others and being of service. Even outside of the world of recovery, your hard-earned sense of self-worth, your gift for making a mean key-lime pie -- it hurts just to keep it to yourself, doesn't it? Like an artist, even though the act of creation in itself is fulfilling, there is a sense of loneliness when she can't share her art with the world. The writer wants to be read. The musician wants to be heard. We all want to be loved. There's nothing wrong with that. Yes, you can live in your own world, and derive pleasure from from your own company -- that's a prerequisite for a healthy relationship -- but there's a validation that comes from being seen by another that's just not replaceable by looking in a mirror.
So you take risks, and sometimes they pay off, sometimes they don't. Hopefully you don't grow a hard shell, and refuse to let anybody inside. The challenge is being permeable enough to love and let love in, while being able to use your barrier when you need it.
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To succeed in a relationship, you must move from the Second House to the Eight House. You need to share. (I wrote about this on my Scorpio Full Moon post at Lunar Tunes). Sharing requires vulnerability. Will your partner break your heart, steal your thunder? Are you afraid that you will put more into the relationship than he does, and as a result, feel taken advantage of?
It's not a surprise that most fights are about money and sex, two key members of the Eighth House Club. There is so much potential for wounding in this area. You could pay off his debts, and then he could ditch you. He could cheat on you or coerce you into having sex. No wonder it is so hard to trust, when there is so much potential for abuse!
However, the call to merge with another is so strong that you keep looking.
Another danger in relationships is giving too much. What's your motivation? To be liked (Venus)? To use your past generosity to manipulate (Scorpio) him into feeling guilty or giving you something in return when he doesn't really want to? The thing about giving is that it's got to be no-strings-attached if you are going to feel good about it. Otherwise, resentment (Scorpio) ensues. And resentment kills relationships.
Your generosity is also an investment (Eighth House) in the relationship. However, like a financial investment, you take the risk of incurring a loss. Good investments are based on reputation and hunches, but as the disclaimer says, "past performance is no guarantee of future results." Sometimes you have to go with your gut, and mistakes will make you a better judge of character over time.
A frequently shared aphorism among recovering alcoholics is, "You can't keep what you have, unless you give it away." You can only maintain your sobriety by sharing your experience with others and being of service. Even outside of the world of recovery, your hard-earned sense of self-worth, your gift for making a mean key-lime pie -- it hurts just to keep it to yourself, doesn't it? Like an artist, even though the act of creation in itself is fulfilling, there is a sense of loneliness when she can't share her art with the world. The writer wants to be read. The musician wants to be heard. We all want to be loved. There's nothing wrong with that. Yes, you can live in your own world, and derive pleasure from from your own company -- that's a prerequisite for a healthy relationship -- but there's a validation that comes from being seen by another that's just not replaceable by looking in a mirror.
So you take risks, and sometimes they pay off, sometimes they don't. Hopefully you don't grow a hard shell, and refuse to let anybody inside. The challenge is being permeable enough to love and let love in, while being able to use your barrier when you need it.
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 5/02/2007
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I dont know what to make of my own chart. I have cap in 2nd and cancer in 8th. From what Ive read, I need money to be happy. That is incorrect. Maybe I am reading the wrong site..
What if you have a hard aspect to a planet in the 2nd house? I have a 2H Sun square to an 11H Saturn, the ruler of my descendant. I feel like I have a lot to give but that people don't appreciate it.
i really liked this. the message for scorps is bang on (and good timing, personally :))
Marly, here's what Curtis Manwaring writes on the second house: "If the Sun is afflicted or debilitated, then there may be those who seek to take advantage of your generosity and you have a hard time calling your posessions your own."
hey there just joined with my first post, so a warm hello to ya's, lovel y site and grea to find as astro blog I like the feel of.
I have just been thinking about my 2nd H saturn in aires, and how it's the apex of a yod or 'projection triangle' as the Huber school refer to it. My saturn inconjuncts both neptune and uranus, which I liken to a vague unease about permanent value stuctures, somehow with it being 2nd H, it shows up in small ways sometimes like forever losing jewellery for example or a sense of unclear boudaries around money. the way I am choosing to integrate this is by bring the larger dimension of neptune/uranus qualities into my ordinary daily life in how earn my bread - I'm an EFT therapist and astrologer studying for the Huber diploma. But the 2nd house is pretty solid isn't? it all the things that we based the stucture of our lives around, our bodies, our abilities, earning, spending, it's a very fixed area. On thinking about my Brother with his many taurian planets he's aquired property at an early age, works with a mortgage company, very solid and steady guy, rooted in the material bricks and mortar of life.. I guess what I'm working to some extent is confronting some of that fear about
holding onto something that's solid, this is the year as I aproach 39 that I will hoping to get my first flat coinciding with Saturn sitting a few degrees away from my ASC year in my solar return chart this yr conjucting venus, which I think brings the issue of personal resonsibility with money and possessions into focus for me...exciting and daunting al lat the same time.
The taurus new moon was sensorially excessive btw ;-)
love and blesings Fi
Fi, welcome and thanks for posting. I look forward to hearing more of your perspective. I have to say I'm not familiar with the Huber school. I just found Joyce Hopewell's blog, I'll check it out to learn more about that method.
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