How do you make a Libra man invite you for a second date?
You're nearing the end of your first date, and nothing horrible has happened. In fact, the evening has progressed smoothly. Your Libra date has been charming, polite, great at conversation. Hell, he's even added romantic gestures that are "just right" at this stage of the game.Yes, you want more. No, not tonight ... you don't want to send that kind of message too soon. But you see that this could go somewhere. However, he's a Libra -- how do you know all these flourishes are authentic? Maybe he's like this with all the girls.
Dinner's over, he drops you off at your place, tells you he had a wonderful evening -- "Me, too, " you add -- and gives you a light peck on the cheek. What? Is that all? Isn't he going to say, "Are you free on Wednesday?" No, instead he says, "I'll give you a call."
You wonder what that means. Is that the kiss-off of death, or his true intention? You reply, "Sounds great," and unlock your front door. He returns to his car. After you get inside, you collapse a little inside, for after so many awful first dates, this guy's actually someone you'd like to see again. But no follow-up is planned, and you're left hanging. You don't even know if he's interested. Do you wait for him to call? You're not up for asking him out, maybe because you're so frightened he would say no.
Fortunately, you've got this limitless tool called Sun sign astrology. Armed with the knowledge that Libra is a romantic at heart and wants to be in a relationship, that he craves balance and fairness in all things, which snappy line would you email him in less than a week's time, if he hasn't followed up?
Respond below.
Stumble It!
If you enjoyed this post, please subscribe to this blog.
posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 5/24/2007
13 Comments:
I've been in two long-term relationships with Libras.
I say--why wait around? Call the guy yourself two days later and ask him out, SOCIALLY and casually. Say, "Josh and Mary and (insert four other friends here) are all going to a party Saturday--come with us?" Libra will ease into asking you out again without having had to DECIDE about it, but instead of thinking you're too easy, he'll think you're wonderful and easygoing...even the reclusive ones love a group of friends.
Send him a "photo-shopped" picture of you two together in a fun setting with a caption that reads:
"The perfect couple on their 2nd date."
Why this works?
1. It's a direct (something they have a hard time doing), yet sweet approach.
2. Answers the "Do we make a good-looking couple?" question that was on repeat in his head all during the first date.
3. Libra's magic words are "perfect", "couple", and "date." They can't resist this combo!
4. Lets him know that you admire him/his looks (same difference to a Libra). The only sign that eats up flattery more than Libra is Leo. If your Libra has any personal planets in Leo, you just guaranteed yourself a 2nd date.
And most importantly,
5. This gives him a nice story to tell at your anniversary party in 50 years.
Good suggestions so far. Thanks to the wisdom of my readers, I don't have to have all the answers!
I had a date last night with a very handsome Libra guy, and when I got back home I remembered this post, reread it and... yep, it was just as described in here, and I'm even more confused.
I've dated the same guy 5 years ago... and that was more of a 'over-the-phone' dating. He would call me 3 times a day, and we would talk for ages, but we managed to see each other only two times in 3 months. Then I politely gave him few days to decide if he wants to be with me or not. He then decided not to. Year later, again over the phone, he told me that he was actually in love with me back then but that his life affairs weren't sorted good enough for him to have a relationship over everything else that was going on.
This time I called him, suggested that we could see each other, we did and... there I am right at the beginning having no idea if he's indecisive and with lack of initiative, or I'm just not his type.
It really is hard to figure a Libra out sometimes, because you don't know if they are:
1. just being polite (translation: can't directly say they're not interested because they fear your overreaction)
2. indulging their flirtatious side (they are incurable flirts that like the flattery of people liking them)
3. really interested (and just being indecisive)
Maybe my experience with a Libra will provide you some more insight...
I met a Libra guy when I wrecked my car and it was towed into a nearby auto repair shop. He owned the place, so I had to deal with him A LOT. Although my car needed extensive work done on it, it took them FOUR MONTHS to finish. Throughout the 4 months, they would keep giving me dates for when my car would be finished, but every time I came in, my car wasn't done, yet. Every time, Mr. Libra would strike up conversation with me but I didn't think anything of it.
During month 4, he asked me out and I told him I'd think about it after my car was finished because I don't mix business with pleasure. Don't you know that after 4 months, my car was FIXED a week after I made that statement. :)
We dated for 5 months and it took him 4 months to tell me that he purposely took a long time fixing my car because he wanted to ask me out and didn't know how (I should've suspected this, but I was young).
Was his behavior frustratingly indecisive, extremely shy, scarily manipulative, or romantic? You make the call. Ironically, his birthday was the same as my father's, which scared the hell out of me...
Exclusion.blue, in your case, I think this guy isn't so sure of his feelings for you. If he was very interested, he would try harder to spend time with you in person. He probably enjoys your conversations, but isn't so sure that you're his "dream girl."
BlahBlah, great story, I'll avoid Libras in future :)
What bugs me the most is that I can't see through, hell I can't see anything, which I usually do.
One other thing, I can bet big money on not being his type - I drink beer faster and I'm always in outfit that screams 'if needed, I can run fast and jump over things'...
LOL @ exclusion.blue
You sound like fun! Maybe the Libra simply finds you entertaining...You might be the dream girl for an(stereotypical) Aries or Sag. :)
I'm a libra woman and I think he might be playing it cool...Libra's second biggest fear to loneliness is rejection. He will call you...if you don't hear from him in one week, text him to do something FUN. if he declines, it's over. if he complies, you're in!! make this date a SUPER fun time and look SEXY!!!
Good ideas. Esp. the fun date litmus test. Ex.blue likes to wear "in case of emergency" outfits, though, which I'm taking to mean something similar to jeans/track suits or sneakers/flats. That's sexy to some, but to a Libra???
I am a Libra woman and married to a Libra man! It has been hot and steamy for almost 8 and half years. I do have to say that at times he has a hard time saying what he wants(I do the same thing). It's not that they completely forget about what they want it is that they are thinkers! It has to balance out perfectly before they can decide on what they want. Trust me it took my spouse 4 years of college with 1 major(Philosophy) and 2 minors to finally decided that he wanted to go to Law school. They can be hard to understand unless you just remember that they hear you talking, they may want a relationship they just have to make sure it balances out right first. Sometimes, they can figure out if it balances out and so you need to help them by being a litte up front with them. To understand this you should see us trying to figure out what we want for dinner(sometimes it will take us 4 hours to figure it out.) Oh, picking what place to eat at, or what movie we want to see, and even what to do for a date night. It is interesting, but fun, loving, funny, enjoyable, social, intellectual, and very, very hot and steamy! Libra men do like to please!
Very interesting reading :) I am a Scorpio with Libra as my rising sign. I have been contacted by a very very sweet and patient guy on Facebook, we met and had a very good time drinking coffee and snowballfighting. We ended the date with a few light kisses - nothing heavy! He has been very very good at calling me, texting me and emailing me sweet things. He very quickly asked when we could see each other again and we agreed to meet again yesterday. This time at my house, drinking tea and watching comedies. Between the two dates contact was more quiet than usual. I thought it a bit strange but decided it was not important.
Our date last night turned into today and he left late afternoon, with kisses and a "I will text you when I am home". And he did!
We didn't do anything but kiss - neither of us believe in quick sex. This time he hasn't mentioned meeting again, but has told me he is going to some carshow near me next weekend with his brother and sister-in-law. Could this be some kind of read-between-the-lines-hint that he would like an invitation from me?
A lot of background from a very confused - but happy - girl (age 32).
I don't know his chart apart from birthday and place - I don't have the birthtime. But maybe it is possible to say a bit about a scorpio with Libra as a rising sign dating a Libra man?
@Gabia, it can't hurt to say you'd love to join them. No need to let him do all the initiating.
Post a Comment
Get email updates when new comments are added to this post
(There must be at least one comment already posted for this to work.)
Links to this post:
Create a Link
<< Home