Why did Libra turn cold?
In early March, a Taurus wrote:i arranged to go out for drink with a Libra, he agreed to meeting up and seemed quite friendly in his texts. Until the day of going out he textd me a blunt message saying he couldnt make it, i assume hes not interested but y did he turn coldToday, presumably the same person wrote:
Im female had a date with Libra male. Before his texts were warm and friendly. He cancelled last minute saying couldnt make it his text was cold. Thought that was it. Then he text me after 3 weeks. I replied but not heard again yet. Help?One wouldn't normally accuse Libra of being cold. This Venus-ruled sign is charming and polite. Unfortunately, Libra goes out of his way to avoid offending anyone, and there may not always be a diplomatic way to cancel a date.
How to back out gracefully? I'll leave matters of textiquette to Miss Manners. Although cell phones are a great medium for an air sign, it may be difficult to convey emotional subtleties via SMS. Just because a text feels cold doesn't mean that was the texter's intention. And besides, would it have been better for him to write that he was no longer sweet on you? I'm not sure a Libra would text anything to hurt your feelings. Maybe he thought that "i cant make it" was all he could muster.
And yet ... he texted you three weeks later, and did not respond to your reply. Libra indecision for ya! Why don't you just CALL HIM?! Tell him you like him but are getting mixed signals, and you want to know what's up. Yes, it's a risk (anathema to Taurus, I know), but it's the easiest way to stop torturing yourself. If he's not straight with you, take that into consideration when you continue pining for him.
Comment below: Have you known a Libra to turn cold? How do you make sense of it?
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 4/04/2007
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My best friend is a Libra and she can turn cold as ice - in fact she is known to some as the "ice queen". When she feels challenged to make a decision, she will freeze everyone out rather than make up her mind under pressure. I'm a Taurus so I just calmly let it all happen around me, but I think Libra’s can go very cold when they feel pressured to make a definite decision outside their own timeframe. My friend is currently coupled with another Libra who, when he feels she’s moving too fast or getting too close, disrespects her, kicks her to the curb, then comes back as if there's nothing wrong (he's a crazy maker) but she is too nice to move on - even refused to go out with me while they were broken up because he might get mad (I'm a woman - not a man). Go figure.
I've been involved with two Libra men, and never experienced them turning cold. BUT...both of them hated to offend anyone by not being nice...they would end up getting entangled with people they just weren't that into rather than say no. And also, both of them would spread themselves too thin and not prioritize people or activities very well...so, sometimes they would inadvertantly blow off friends they really loved because they got too busy.
The indecision and difficulty setting boundaries clutters up Libra's time.
As a Libra, Rising sign 1' Aquarius and moon in Sag, I can say I have a hard time sustaining warmth. Pleasant is easy but true warmth takes stamina and that is not my strong point I'm afraid. Doesn't mean I don't care but I need to have down time in between people time for me to feel energy again (Mars- Pisces, 1st house). Decisions- pure torture, especially if they are personal!
have one for 5 years he no longer shows love for me only show sex with me. shellie
I'm a Libra who loves to help and and bend over backwards for anyone and yes I have a hard tinme saying "yes" even when I want to say "no". I guess you can say sparing someone's feeling or better yet, not liking to disappointing anyone. I love to make people feel good even when I'm not. We as Libra really can't help it.....at the same time I, as a Libra don't like to be to overwhelmed ann yup I can tune you out the same time the same time I tuned in. I love my down tinme and most important... I need it. Give me a moment, please. LOL
I've been seeing a Libra man for just over 4 months now. I'm a Virgo and yea we all know that's not considered the best match but we hit it off so perfectly...it was incredible! About 3 months into our "perfect" relationship he starts sending texts saying things like "why don't you just say you're falling in love with me...It will be okay", "We both know we love each other" and "your heart is safe with me" coaxing me to give more than I had given of myself. Well 2 weeks later we are on a trip together...I finally say the "L" word and his reply is "I feel the same way" but never said "the word" and immediately became distant...major back-up and I quickly fell to the bottom of his priority list. I am so confused. When discussed, he said he guessed reality hit and he got scared and now needs to back up.
Knowing that Libras find it difficult to break up, I keep wondering if he just can't make himself do it and is just waiting on me. Don't know what happened and I have just tried to be patient and wait but it's been over a month now. I am in no hurry to get married or anything and would not have given my heart this quickly without all his coaxing and really believing we were on the same page...
I don't like being last on the list and won't stay here long but man is it difficult to walk away from something that seemed so absolutely perfect and wonderful. Just thought I might get some insight on what his thought process might be at this point. During the discussions to figure out what changed, he said "I love you as much as I can...I'm just not in love with you...yet" (kind of a best friend I have kind of love)Hmmmmm....what does that mean exactly and is he worth waiting for or should I just cut my losses, let my broken heart heal and feel I got out easy? Any advice?
As a Libra woman, I am completely avoidant of men I'm not interested in. I don't have the heart to tell them flat out. I feel guilty about it a lot.
katie, i feel the exact same way!!
SC
I was with a Libra man for 6 months I was scared at times because it was so perfect he showed so many feelings it was a nice change from most men he said he loved me but best of all he could show it so it wasnt just words then one day I come home him and all his things are gone im confused and dont understand what happened so I text his Mom and told him to call me he called the next day and asked me to pick him up when we got back to our house he began packing the rest of his stuff then telling me he needs space and wants to just date me he isnt ready for commitment needless to say I get a text here and there not really saying anything I cried for a few days and believe me it still hurts but Im trying to move on I think what hurts now is all the loose ends and unanswered questions but the big thing that I dont understand about this is how he can just walk away and not look back I would love to just hear his voice again
But no matter what even if he wanted to come back it would be hard but for my own sake I cant do it fear he would do it again, he had doubt about his love for me, but most of all the emotional strain he put on me and I would always have what he did in the back of my mind.
Move on for your own sanity
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