Why Aquarius loves Libra women
Aquarius doesn't know how to "do" relationships, so who better than Libra, the expert on partnerships, to guide him? The sign of the scales is ruled by Venus, goddess of love. She knows how to navigate the rocky territory of coupledom, using charm, compromise and all manner of secret techniques.Aquarius is ruled by Uranus. This outer planet is more comfortable at Star Trek conventions than blind dates sipping on mochas. Uranus is all ideas. Libra can connect to him on the mental plane without losing her human touch. Both are air signs, expressing themselves best in the social and intellectual realms. Libra may not be a space alien like Aquarius, but she can tune into his wavelength enough to decode his transmissions.
Why not Gemini women? Although Gemini is also an air sign, it is ruled by Mercury, planet of communication. Uranus is a "higher octave" of the messenger planet. Put together two thinkers and you'll have some good discussions, but not much incentive to make the connection physical. Some goddess energy is required to take Aquarius out of the clouds and into the bedroom.
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 3/28/2007
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I'm a Libra W...and i don't understand the aquarian long term compatability with us. I'm attracted to them, i have a load of fun and great conversation...but I need more attention and I need someone that can handle my depth of love and feelings and not be scared from my affection.
So, how does this relationship REALLY work?
Libra woman--I am a Libra woman too, :-), and I don't generally get on all that well wiht Aquarius.Yes, as to intelectual understanding, and some affection, yes, but not much.LOL
My husband has Aquarius Moon squaring his Taurus Sun, and that is bad enough.
I like them but only once thought I loved one, and that didn't last so long.
I am certain it's the entire chart comparison that matters.
I am an Aquarius M... I love Libran W... I met a Libran woman recently. I find myself getting along with her better than any other sign so far...
I'm an Aquarius Man (on the cusp of pisces, w/lunar and ascendent gemini--I also have heavy Pisces and Saggitarius planetary influences) who's found his most kindred spirits in Gemini, Sagittarius and Libra. My parents are both Aquarians, so I know what an emotionally cold household feels like.
Libra is definitely a breath of fresh air, and in all my lookings about in the opinions of astrologers, definitely one of the best matches for Aquarius! In my own experience, Libra's persistent desire to connect (but not smother) brings helps me to sort through my mental complexities and turn them into meaningful, material/relational reality. The patient diplomat in Libra knows how to work around my stubborn streaks. Her masculine intellectual disposition (whilst still retaining feminine charm) allows for powerful conversation on all the deepest facets of life and reality. Plenty of people are attracted to the energy I exude (and my singing voice), and when it's a woman being pseudo-romantic in intention it's very awkward. So many make the mistake of trying to reach me by being physically alluring, seductive, etc. I'm interested in friendship and the meeting of minds. If you're quirky and different, all the better!
The thing about Aquarius is that a true and deep romantic relationship will take a long time to develop. I'm highly possessive of my freedom, and so the Air and Fire signs are much better in understanding this than the feminine signs. My Libra is accepting of my need for solitude and awayness. When I come to her with musical and spiritual inspiration, and visions for the future of humanity she's all ears! And that's very seductive, a good listener! My Libra wants to be my partner in bringing the power of my imagination into reality, just as I want to help her grow in every way. Aquarians, though the time it takes to develop a relationship is longer than most anyone in the zodiac, are very loyal to that lady they can consider their best friend. Friendship, ideas, patience, and of course love are key. Libra offers very complimentary energy to Aquarius.
I've now known my Libran lady for over a year, and our relationship oscillates between friendship and a little something more quite often. Commitment isn't something I do, but I let her know how highly I regard her, and try to do everything I can to see she's supported and reassured. And I love to make her laugh with mimicry and zany antics...and to dream the biggest ideas :D
So, just in my own experience, I can probably say that Aquarius, if you aren't equipped for it, is definitely the enigma of the zodiac (along with scorpio, maybe). To a mind that can put itself on a similar wavelength (Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius), you have a devoted friend/lover for life.
i am a libra w... and my fiance is an aquarian... we have the best relationship ever! he does get distant at times, but for the most part he is always loving and always has to be touching me holding me or something. I think the main thing with them is they're not like that w/ people until they meet that ONE person!
Completely agree. My Aquarius has had many relationships, but none like the one he has with me. The last, most important relationship floundered because he couldn't say those three simple words: I love you.
When he met me he says he just knew. We were in love almost from the first minute. And he told me so from the first week.
I am a libra woman and have been blessed to be with two aquarians in my lifetime.. One during my 20's and just this past new years eve! Its like we just fit. Everything flowed between us. He was very affectionate towards me, he smoothered me in kisses and the *** was explosive. So why hasn't he called me back Can someone please provide some insight. I feel like I have lost my best friend Please help
Oh, he'll be back. He's just off doing his own thing as an Aquarian. Next time tag along. He might quite like that, and if he doesn't, well then find another Aquarian who does. Libra + Aquarius is generally very good.
The only time a true Aquarius says "I love you" is when he doesn't mean it.
Consider yourself blessed ;)
Why would an aquarian man immediatley be affectionate toward a libra woman. what does that mean? and why hasn't he called me back if everything was going well. can somone provide some insight
Why would an aquarian man immediatley be affectionate toward a libra woman. what does that mean? and why hasn't he called me back if everything was going well. can somone provide some insight
Depends how long it's been since you did the act. If it's been over a week and he still hasn't called then close the books. He was feeling horny and you were the nearest available gorgeous female.
Why did the chicken cross the road? To get to the other side.
Next time let's hope he doesn't get lucky and gets run over instead ;)
well..our story started about 2yrs ago. I'm the lovely libra and hes the odd aquarian..Its been heaven and hell up and down around and around, but I just can't seem to let go of this man. I love him dearly but he doesnt give me the attention that I need to be my libra self..I dont know what else to do..I am so deeply in love but not satisfied with this man. Any suggestions??
You have to turn up the heat. Make him uncomfortable. Right now you're doing things the way he likes and he's comfortable that way. You aren't (obviously).
So light a little fire under his kabooty. The best way to get an Aquarian to do anything is reverse psychology. It's magic. If you want good sex with him, tell him you hate sex and he'll never satisfy you. If you want him to ask you out more, turn off your phone and don't take his calls. If you want him to love you, make him hate you.
I don't know why this works so well with Aquarians, it just does. You tell them to zig and they will zag. And vice versa.
Strange wonderful creatures they are. (I don't particularly care for them myself)
I am an aquarius male and used to love a libra girl a lot when i was young, she used to be in my university and i left too many girls just because of my loyalty to her, it ended, i ended it because she was just too silent and not responsding, so maybe she ended it first, anyways, i still confident enough to accept that i really loved her, she taught me too much, i never believed in stars, but after things were not going well, i wanted answers and she was just silent, i started doing it, and to my amazement found most of the basic traits to be there in me, i wrote many mails to her, but not a single got an answer back, i dont know what i did so bad that she was just this silent with me, i was a bit arrogant, rude and ignorant with her for a few years, but that was all one of my self-defense games, which i think hurt her bad, when i was going abroad i wrote this email to her, which i am publishing here today, just to show how true and strong love a aquarius has for a libra girl:
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Ok i will tell you a few things that might have been confusing for you and places where you might have blamed me in life. this will be a long mail like always :), love talking to you, loved your mind and the intellect the most, loved the way you were sometimes so witty and str8 forward you just amazed me :)!, i am leaving this saturday, unless the canda job offer gets through, in tht case going to dubai and working for a month would be a waste, otherwise sat is confirmed. i tried calling you up, but you didnt even pick up, i msged, you never replied, donno why u hate me so much, i always did like you wanted, but your untold decisions are always hard for me to comprehend. Neways in short when i came to fast, i was young and a kid, i started liking u and told u abt it in my stupid ways, but they were innocent and pure, no games, when i mentioned other girls, it was true but frm me nothing, i only liked and loved one person my entire life to this day, u. But you made me v insecure with your strong tendency to go for looks and material aspects, so i kept a distance nd tried to prove my self to you always, always, everything i did, i did it for u. When you said u forgot me on ur bday and that i didnt matter that much, i got v hurt, because i loved u a lot and had gr8 expectations, thought of u as an angel, created my own ideal for u and thought u will never think of someone else after saying "accepted by me" to me. But guess life is not always that simple, and we are all human in the end. Now when i get hurt i learnt from my exp wid u that i tend to be alone and isolated from the whole situation, m not the type to hate or make trouble for the other, i just let them be. You in the mean while sticked wid B and became v close in the coming years, u knew him from family and so my chances were not good as i saw it. I had to move on oneway or the other so just to switch my mind i started talking to this girl sabata, and became frnds, now things were pretty good wid you and B as i used to think and as everybody else in the uni believed so thinking abt marrying u also died, since i told you i love endlessly but it has the only contraint of loyalty and acceptance without any force from the other end. Since i saw that i might not have been good looking or strong maybe in terms of career because of my gpa, you might have left me. So i started studying again and good good grades just in those 2 semesters, got As also. You know i could have graduated 3.5+ easily if i wanted to, not at all a deal for me if i had only taken all the classes, but i didnt mostly you were studying wid me, and so i used to not come, i stopped coming to the uni a lot, this is not all your fault, just my way which made me suffer so much later, but i was only a kid, now if dont tell you, who should i cry to?. Neways, later i stopped talking on msn, cuz i was not seeing things going newhere and was planning to move on and go for the masters i was planning str8 aways, regreted on the gpa i got and the years and my parents money i lost, i knew you never wanted this, but A i was v hurt and your coldness was always hurting, and plus my own attitude was stupid and so i had to pay. I loved just you but didnt show it much so tht someday if you leave me ill get hurt a lot, but that happened neways :). I was pretty simple so you see. the games and everything and the way i recently changed was all a created deception to hide the real me and my regret of loosing you. So you see how much you influenced my life. Neways later when you added me on orkut, i added you back, i wanted to say things but couldnt and so the next day after you said sorry you said that it was my imagination and how i think and that i was just a frnd and you were confused, very hurting again, i was so happy that you came and you really broke my heart that day, later i dont know frm where and why B just came in talked to me, told me things tht were supposed to me between you me and told me abt my mails told me how you used to say them bakwas infront of salma, and so i got v hurt, what would have u done if inplace of me? and if i would have treated you like tht, being beautiful doenst give you the right to play wid someone elses feeling and then letting them go since your every loving nature nd heart to give to neone who plays a good love drama is forcing you to go for another, does it? kher you will learn this with time to come, this will all be bakwas to you again i know. you will just read and probably move on not thinking abt it. I dont know what made you hate me so much, if it was my social status i , i never belonged to a poor family, Allah ka bara shukar hain, i never claimed or showed much, because i couldnt even when my nature is a bit showy and i know its not a good habbit, i m working on it, but i also believe in being something myself and living my dreams, which changed so much after meeting you, i could go abroad do my masters and be earning a lot today, but all of that meant nothing to me without you being there to appreciate. I just innocently loved you even if you were just passing time. You accused me of having gfs, but i never did, and you know ppl only doubt because of their own problems and they see them in others as well, since you might be thinking abt others sideways you might have thought of me like that as well. Neways cutting things short you also said i was just a frnd and B confirmed it, so wht was i supposed to think, he was ur family frnd, i didnt knew wht happened between you three but now i understand tht you probably tried to end it with me first and go ahead wid B, he liked someone else, now i understand maybe why, and then he thinks u came in btwn him and madeeha, which i honestly dont know is true or not. So i met this girl zunera nd started taking to her and got pretty close, i was not doing nething wrong now, i cannot wait as ur last option while the miss universe decides her first, i am a person who gets a lot of attention Allah ka shukar hain, so what i did was justified i think. Then i tried to talk to u and ur mom called and i had to end things str8 away, later even if u tried to contact me it was always so crookedly so that i just didnt want to trust such a person, who uses indirect ways so that she cannot be blamed later, playing games always and then escaping when finds a better looking one. Me explaining all of this shows that i actually loved u, you being just silent means yes you played a drama or maybe were not sure, so its ok and thanks for listening atleast. but just to stop you from this routine in the future i have to tell you how i suffered so that you just think, just think before doing the same with another, Later in the last years, just out regret, and my lost of trust and love in u, and not getting a good gpa, hearing so much frm my parents for thinking abt u, i changed myself a lot, became cold, didnt go newhere u were expected to arrive, and made an impresison that i am a just a big flirt and a very bad guy who smokes, and you know how i did that, B used to smoke from class 9th maybe, i saw him doing it infront of me all the time and asked him its not good hiding what you do, you should show what you are, well ppl are different and one day sad from you started along and now i smoke and daily hear a lot from my parents, my bro sees me and does it a few times and my dad blames me, but main kia keroon, i m trying to stop but cannot, maybe i will insAllah, just looking for a good girl desperately, and i even found her, and just because of that stupid promise i made out of God knows which nobility of mines with you, i could not commit and a few days ago like i told u in the msg she got engaged and now she also might be blaming me for the whole of it, and no i did not give her ny response but i have to live life too, may the way u used to think of me as a backup while going for B or maybe not, i dont know, tum batatee bhee to khuch nahi ho na. but wht he told me i tell you. i involved myself into cars and all and other activites some of them not so moral just to stop thinking of u and become so bad that i just think she doesnt deserve me any more and move on, that is the extent to which i loved you. Yet you never understood. I swear to God i could have been the most earning person in the batch, if you would just have stayed by myside, its not my fault, its the heart i have and that i was v immature and stuborn on wht i wanted. Neways God helped me a lot thanks to him for all eternity, i came back and now i m pretty decent, changed completely again, started working for a good job and got pretty good offers, and my parents now know everything and are helping me with it, thanks to them for that. And its my promise, i know its not your care, but if you ever do find out abt me, i will try me best to come back and you will see me amongst the most successful within a short period of time, i had a lot in me, was just resisting all of it waiting just for your acceptance, just to hear you loved only me, just that, but it was stupid and unrealistic urge, i realise now that i have grown up. I dont blame you things just turned out that way, but listen i might not be the best guy out there but i do know i loved you a lot and could have done nething for you, my destination was always one, even if the path was strange, all i wanted was you to accept me, but that never happened. Neways no worried, grown over it all now. But i wont lie, love was so intense, it stays and its there. But now i dont have the urge to be with you much, i just want you to be happy, i write so many mails tried so much that others made fun of me asking me to stop and that "main bhains ke agay been baja raha hoon" , she doenst have the heart you are thinking she does, so no blame, God made you the way you are. Everyday i in the last years ppl used to taunt me, my parents got mad at my behaviour all linked with a person who didnt even care to ask how i was, when i got that accident, which was pretty serious. But true time heals everything. Honestly i still dont have ny girl after mariams engagement to look to for marriage, and even if there was i will try not to break my promise and wait for yours first. But understand that if you were in my place and all of this happened would you have forgiven me? maybe i also did a lot to hurt you if you realy loved me, i must have hurt you bad and you cannot forgive me i understand, but under the above circumstances, both of us are not to blame i think. And even if i tried to contact you, you always replied back so indirectly and then tell me abt ke mujhay koi aur mil gaya hain, if that was you, which i seriously dont know agian, main ab kia keroon, after wasting so much time, so much imp things in my life waiting for your acceptance, and being a piece of joke between you waqas and your frnds, how much more do you want to hurt me, ya phir ya ke goli mar do if the hate is that strong and you think it can end like tht. Because it doesnt hurt me now that you mite be into someone else or nething what hurts is the fact that the one i loved and her frnd also understand me so wrong, think so wrong abt me, and hate me probably for things i really dont understand and were never intentional. I dont know may be it was God's way to teach me things, so why should i hate u, so now that i was going i wanted to talk to you, and u understand for somebody i loved and waited for so many years, how imp it was, yet you are so heartless now that you didnt even say a goodbye. Now my nos will be closed soon, orkut is banned in uae, i havent seen you for a year, and i have to leave like this, maybe part of it is my fault, and i really hate myself for even showing my ego and attitude to the person i loved so much, but honestly i just learned later, i was v stupid but time heals. My ways might have been stupid, but it was only because i loved you so much, thinking of your disloyalty and then your silence to hide it got me mad. I will be leaving but my heart stays with you, and a part of it always will. What God has instore for me for marriage or love, i dont know, and its upto him. But do know i just loved one person, and how that person was to me. Still only God knows why i ever loved her. I wanted to make things official, i wanted to come through the proper channel, but if you didnt even accept me, what was the use, even if parents agreed and you didnt, what was the point? and esp after learning abt your moving on ways and pyar wale pe dil mail ho jata nd all, i seriously dont know what i want now, thats my honest remark. You know i just will ask to God someday why what i did to pay like this? and sometimes i think it mite be the way i treated you in fast in the earlier days, i was v arrogant and self obssessed, i agree, but A then even i loved u even if i couldnt show it. Neways, i just hope you read all i wrote, thanks, and you know i think my mails to you can actually be published for millions of dollars with the feelings involved :) !! bechna maat magar :)... In the end, i was not a bad person A, try to tell that to your frnds also if they think like tht, just misunderstood and bit childish. Ask huma sometime, how i help her and all, and ask my frnds what a frnd i am, and think how knowing so much about ur doings mite have hurt me but still i kept on writing these mails, maybe you are getting engaged, maybe you are into someone else, maybe you never actually loved, maybe you really dont care now, but still I am confident enough to say as i think, because its my nature, am pretty bold and str8 forward with the ppl i like or once liked, even if in a deception. And A, things in this world and beauty is all but fake and ends, i say this yet i believe in it myself, its nature i know, but do try to be nice to others, and i am sorry for the times, i might not have been with you. I have now left everything on Gods decision in this case, and i paid the price for my doings. I guess you wont hate me and still wish to hurt me more after me telling you how i have been suffering until just a few months back when i changed again back to what i am. Its not ur fault tht i didnt not get engaged to the girls i told u abt, but just my love and hope when i c u single, nd so i probably wont before u. But your nature and wht you potrayed to me in the end will surely kill me if i try to be with you, which even mite not be possible now neways. But just know tht i really want u to be happy. Ill do nething for that if you ever need me for something write at this address and i will try to do it for u. I always only thought of u as the opposite partner, and thinkin abt another would be v hard, but understanding ur late choice and how u have been not responding to try to tell me to move on in a nice way, i understand and thanks for being such a good listner, now that my hearts empty and you know all, ill leave happy and start a good life, and i have to catchup on the two years i missed, you once said u wanted me to do gr8 things, if you meant that thanks and be assured i am on it now !! ill soon jump back to my ambition but wisely with time, i wish to direct movies now, i have understood tht ill be best there. And for that i have to check the international market make some exp for a good part time job, since ill try not to be a burden on dad much, and so a few months of job seems the rite choice now, and the future jump into a principal consultant in uk or us, next year when the h1bs will be out is a very good step quite faster than the microsoft chance i missed, and now i see that God had planned better for me. Please dont hate me ever it hurts, dont be so cold, i will always listen to you and trust. I always did, but ur ways would have surely killed me with the intensity that i loved you. You know when i die ill ask God abt you, do come to me if you are able to forgive and understand me by then. Do write to me whenever you feel like, the doors will always be open for you, and you taught me some good things abt me, i promise ill try to change, i m not into girls and showing off and all that nemore. I will try to tame down my cars passion also till i get enough money of my owns to buy a few for my garage :), ya camoon ab itna to keroon ga na.. do talk to me if you are ever alone on sad, ill try my best to make you feel home and happy, and i will never remind you of the past, since we are all human like i said, but understand my point of view and do forgive, i cannot write more mails then i already have, cannot try more than i already have, since now i feel you are simply maybe being annoyed. in the end i just loved you, no confusion there. And i always tried just to prove myself to you in which i failed and which hurts me to this day, but have to let go of it now, and learn to be a better man. Do pray for my success, i know there is still good left in you for me. It will be hard to leave without you, and hard to think about another for marriage, but since thats the way things are i will. Just understand me after all of my mails and this last one. My anger and attitude was all in selfdefence, nothing against you, never to offend you ever. Do take very good care of yourself, and you will surely be a wonderful person for anyone i know, i trust tht, so learn that, dont run after love, ppl will just use you mostly, you are pretty innocent yourself down there, let love find you, and if it has, do everything to keep it. And being muslims, always think about the afterlife aswell, this modern culture and the western style now matter how attractive, hurts in the end, its my exp. i wont say goodbye since i know i probably would want to talk to you sometime in the years ahead. and A, Do forgive me if i had ever insulted you, it was never intentional, i was just thinking abt me not knowing, that she might like another, not me. I would have never said all of this without being arrogant and showing that i dont care if you dont, but that would be lying and i have grown enough to say what the truth was. So take care, and plz apna kyal rakhna, i wont be around nemore, and i always want to see you around flowers and happy, thats my love, and that is what how i am. Do convey my sorry to neone i was bad because of my regret over loosing you, and plz try to be very wise when choosing your company, ppl are not as they always seem, only time tells and some of us are good at judging and some are not, i dont know abt urz judgement, so i always tend to be careful by telling you beforehand. Also another confession, B was a excellent person, and very good choice for any one, but because of some of his ways he turned out to be not a frnd like i had imagined, and infact his frndshp wid me was also based on the fact at first when he said ke yar larkian tumhare bari baat kertee hain, and used to copy my things, it was strange and i never thought he will turn out to be like this, but i understand now that he was just emotionaly hurt like me, and i also used to hang out wid him mostly cuz he knew you a lot, so i am also guilty there. I have tried to show him tht i am okay now and i understand. I hope now you know how casual flirtation and having a heart to give to more than a person, how things can turn out so bad. and remmember i payed a lot like i told you, God is always watching, keep it in mind for you future. Hope to see you happy. Take good care. tumhain bye khenay ka bhee dil nahi chatta :)... so no byes just a small bi for now :) !!!
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Some parts in the letter were writen in another languauge, so you might not understand! still dont know why i got that strong a silent treatment from her, she never ended it even on my sheer tries to hear a ok we r just frnds or ok it ends or i never loved you go , from her, and she never talked back either, but still hell i loved her and i love her to this day !!
i am a libra woman, head over hills about an aquarius man...he is the typical aquarius that everyone talks abt, sometimes cold and distant while other times very talkative...he's been quite rude,and ignorant... although my pride usually matters the most to me.. this guy i can not get over, though now i have decided to never initiate conversation with him anymore... i'm not going to go over what he has done last time, but i still care for him.. it's not his looks, or wits, or position, theres just something in him that reminds of home like where i belong... (weird),but i can live without him, i'm never going to depend on anyone in my life! so my question is , i see in a lot of places it says aquarius men don't commit even if they really like a girl and are having sexual relationships. does that mean they want to keep their options open in case someone better comes along? or have sex with multiple partners? somebody please explain that to me :( all i need is to know that he will be faithful even if he gets lost in his own world for weeks...
(for anyone answering my concerns you can address me as "S.C" if you like)
You guys are right about the aquarius male. This is terrible.I hought that I had met a great guy but sometimes I can't take it. Since he's nice I thought it would be easy but he has his ways. Not affectionate and he talks alot. I ove listening to him and I started off touching him so we communicate that way. I remember saying 'I'm fond of you' and only then does he return sentiments. I feel that he loves me but he hasn't told me. I was hoping it is because it is such a new relationship. I feel like I will never have access to some things about him because he really has to be on some drug to come close to even talking about himself. This is the same problem I had with another guy...no affection. They like us sexually but they don't know how to love us. Makes me feel empty because my love is complete and I don't ever want to talk about that because next to him I"d look very stupid
wildrose.. i totally hear u... whenever i ask that aquarius anything abt himself he says he doesnt know me well enough then i look dumb cause am so open with him... arrrghhhhhhhh
"SC"
To SC
I am a Libra woman in love with an Aquarian man. You could be describing our relationship its so alike! I have found that its easiest to think of it as "best friends" then there is nothing to lose. When he gets stressed then goes into his own world for a few days (I often find 2 weeks the optimum length of time) I fret and worry that he has found someone else, but each time, when he gets back in touch, he assures me how much he has missed me etc and I believe he has, and that there is no-one else. It does get a little easier with time and repetition of the same scenario, but is not at all good for the nerves, and I have so many times thought its time to call this a day, but somehow I cant, just for how good it is when its good.
So glad to read other people's stories, it all makes sense then, its not just me!
Good luck
V
To SC
I am a Libra woman in love with an Aquarian man. You could be describing our relationship its so alike! I have found that its easiest to think of it as "best friends" then there is nothing to lose. When he gets stressed then goes into his own world for a few days (I often find 2 weeks the optimum length of time) I fret and worry that he has found someone else, but each time, when he gets back in touch, he assures me how much he has missed me etc and I believe he has, and that there is no-one else. It does get a little easier with time and repetition of the same scenario, but is not at all good for the nerves, and I have so many times thought its time to call this a day, but somehow I cant, just for how good it is when its good.
So glad to read other people's stories, it all makes sense then, its not just me!
Good luck
V
@viv, as much as you can understand how your aqu works and that he's not off with someone else, it sounds difficult to be without him for that long, esp as a Libra. But if it's worth it, you stick around!
Hey Viv,
Thanks for sharing your experience, so it's pretty much normal I guess for them to act this way, it's in their nature what can they do!!! poor things...lol...
Atleast your in a relationship with him...good for you!!! We're not even in a relationship ,we hardly talk but there's like this bond ...totally unexplainable.. it's like when I realllllyyy miss him and I can't take it anymore I get some sort of sign from him and it keeps me happy for a few weeks , it's like an ongoing cycle...
SC
>If you want good sex with him, >tell him you hate sex and he'll >never satisfy you.
As much as men have made me suffer I could never hurt his ego like that.
But with enough pain and tears love turns into hate and when I cry out something awful ends up happening to them. So for me to even do that they must have hurt me ALOT.
>The best way to get an Aquarian >to do anything is reverse >psychology. It's magic... If you want him to love you,ake him hate you
You are right but I am a Sagittarius and I don't play games but at the same time I've learnt not to throw myself at anyone. I am an artist what I feel is intense I don't associate with frivilous matters.
I have just gotten indifferent. How can you not when you have had to cry. I don't love him like I did. I don't care how that affects his life. If I mean that much he will adjust just like I have to adjust.
I have no problem compromising myself for love. Love is the greatst state but I suspect he is playing games with me. That is horrible...I loved you I waited for you I quit smoking for you I was willing to change my life for you but NEVER when I find out that inside you are cold. I don't want my prize to be an icebox.
I know that he is in pain he told me that I was 'amazing incredible' and we didn't talk much really. He decides what he wants to talk about.
I know he loved me but his heart must break or there will be no future for us.
He must suffer just like I have or there will never be any hope. I am a person of depth and I know he likes that...he loves the passion and the devotion so if I am that incredible I should have only the best he can give...and he will give or die trying. IT COMES WITH THE TERRITORY Aquarius...I didn't become so vital and intense by hiding in a box.
It is your turn now to expose yourself to prove your love to be a fool for me. I deserve that and more.
I already know from what he's said and everything else that nobody has loved him like me. Nobody has appreciated his eccentricity..it is all about HIM. It was like he was the perfect match for me...not somebody I had to settle for..until he broke my heart with his distance and his coldness.
I notice on the post that Aquarians question your coldness but they don't care when they are that way to you. Oh are they cold and arrogant selfish and simply don't care about your needs. They want to give you what they think you should need not what you need..
It felt that he had stabbed me in the chest but I didn't escape from it and it didn't hurt as it should. I must be a masochist...it was like I embraced the pain.
I am the wrong person to try double standards with...I promise you every man I was involved with got a reflection of himself in me. You must grow up Aquarius and if that is not possible I can't be with someobody like you. Did I mention that he is 42...if not now when?
When will you understand that you caused your relationships to fail?
'Give me a chance to take you out treat you right'
I will my love.
He can lose me or give me what I want it is all the same to me. I have been fair I have treated him well. He is already having such awful luck. I know that happens to people who try to hurt me because I am pure of heart.
Never ever in my life did I play with someone's heart.I was so careful to treat them like I wanted to be treated.
Oh but they lied to me...air signs.. a libra cheated and all that. I believe in Karma. That guy got robbed by his roommate, got in a car accident, got bit by a poisonous spider. The energy that you put out comes back to you.
You know why I know Aquarius needs to grow up. He puts a smily face on his my space thing which he doesn't think I don't know about and he acts like his life is terrible and he is distressed.
This is not a dress rehearsal this is life.
I have known my aqua man for 9 years now, both as friends and with 3 goes at a relationship. The first time there were complications as neither of us were really free; the second time, I didnt understand him as I do now, and during one too many silences from him, I gave up and moved on. This time we have been together 18 months, though it has been touch and go at times. I've lost count of the number of times I have been ready to write him a letter saying it wasnt for me. But I have sat back and it has always been worth the wait. Its as if we are joined by an invisible string which keeps bringing us back together, whether after a week or 2 years!
We have very deep respect and understanding between us, its as if we are mirror images of each other. He has twice asked me to move in with him, but then when I try to discuss it he clams up. He has twice told me he loves me. When he has had a drink he seems to lose some of the aquarianism and be able to say things which he wouldnt dare when sober. At first I thought it was the drink talking and doubted he meant it, but the pattern has been going on for too long now and I really do believe he loves me loads, not enough to do as I ask and ring me every night, but enough to lay his life on the line for me if needed. Of this I am certain.
I have learned patience in abundance, not a normal quality of mine, and I have learned to trust him, that when he is silent it doesnt mean he has gone off me, just that he needs to be without any pressure. I am finally learning that he WILL come back to me no matter what.
By the way, he is 49 and I am 50 so we are not kids, and I can honestly say it doesnt get any easier the older you get!
The only way to handle an aqua man is to not rely on them, expect the unexpected and ENJOY the fact that, if you are giving them space, then you have space too.
Good luck all.
V
Perhaps I'm different because I'm a Libra/Scorpio cusp female. I met my first Aquarian man at 20 and he moved me in with him three weeks later. He told me he loved me 10 months after we met and pressured me to marry him the next month. I was the one who was aloof and non-commital. I'd been like that for years and since we knew the same people, he knew that about me. He was enthralled with me from the day we met. We were married 17 years and I only ended it when he fell apart after having almost every major life stressor in two years. He was definitely the more outwardly affectionate one and the nurturer. He coddled me. There's no doubt about that at all. He did from the start. We still love each other and will until we die, I'm sure.
I dated two other Aquarians after that, each for two years. They were the same (even very physically similar). They also were very affectionate and nurturing. They both said I love you, though I never did. In the end, they reminded me too much of my ex-husband and I left thinking it would all end the same way. I saw one years later and he still said he loved me and missed me.
Most recently I've taken up with one I've known for 12 years. We've always been extraordinarily close. He took care of me even when we were friends. He told me he loved me about a year after he met me, maybe less. I wouldn't go there at the time, so we just stayed friends. He's always made his wants in regard to me known. So last year I finally went there and now he's pushing me to get married.
Like I said, I don't know if it's because I'm on the cusp or what. They are all born in the same week of February as well. I just seem to bring something out in them. I am very odd, aloof and intellectual. I'm also very sexual and strong willed. Maybe it's the whole combination. I know the sex with them is mind blowing and nothing else compares.
I do think all of them wanted to commit to me precisely because I never really wanted to commit to them. It wasn't reverse psychology though, it's just the way I am. It makes me claustrophobic.
:( ..i'm sooooooooooooooo confused on how to react with this stubborn, playful, witty, *weird* aquarius, it's like i can't stand him yet i can't live without him.... i know this probably is just obsssession but what for, i dont even think he's that great looking!!! so the aquarius of my life finally made an effort to make contact, and i dont know how much i should response, i dont want to freak him out yet i don't want to be too distant... what do i do, about 3 months after a little argument, he made sent me a little message with a compliment. i don't know what to make of this, don't know whether i should msg him or not.
"SC" - by the way this SC is not for seduction central...
I am an aquarian male, I met this amazing libra female. We met eyes and immediatly hit it off, she was beautiful, we hung out the whole night, which ended with AMAZING ***. Right after we had *** she told me she has a boyfriend, but they are on the rocks and she wants out. Its been a few days and shes all i can think about, she lives around 5 hrs away. After all this information I planned on never seeing her again, but shes embedded into my mind. She has no cell phone, but I know a way to make contact. Should i go for it, this libra would be worth the try. How do i know if she was interested beyond that night. I dont know much about the libra females...
Thank you
Adam
Just be very careful with your Aquarian, SC. They are usually very involved or it's just sex to them and they are not. Ask him. Know where you stand. Do not think he's saying one thing and meaning another or that he'll change later. Neither of those is true. If it's just sex, he'll tell you even if it hurts your feelings. They can go years with the same person then just walk away.
Adam, true Libras (I'm a cusper so I'm not true) can be flighty sometimes, but if you are an Aquarian she'll probably be fascinated anyway (sounds like you are and Libras LOVE that!). You will have to give her time to end the other because it takes a Libra forever to make a decision (unless they are on the cusp of Scorpio and their Scorpio kicks in). If she says it's on the rocks, she's already realized it, but rationally she will have to play every scenario in her head to make sure she is making the right decision. We weigh everything very carefully before we act.
Hey,
I really was worrid about posting, but this bnlog has been really helpful. I am a true libra (mid october), who was approached by an aquarius one night (end of Jan, sun and moon in aquarius). I wasn't attracted to him at all really, but he asked for my number from a mutual friend, and I was a little flattered. I forgot all about it, adn the next night he texted me. I was nice, but I said I had plans. 2 days later, he texted me all day non stop. He asked to be my friend on myspace, and looked through all 942 of my pictures. we made plans on the following night. I had fun. I think he did too, since when we were saying bye he kept lingering. It might also be important to note that he told me a few personal things about his family. the next day he didnt call. I called him that night and he didnt respond. he texted me the next day to make plans for the weekend. He brought a friend as did I. We didnt have as much fun this time. It was ok, but he was being distant, then perverted. he didnt call me after that, but I texted him 2 days later. he responded, but not very conversational. I gave up and stopped trying. the following weekend he texted me and wanted to hang out. we ended up in bed.. and I have barely spoke to him since. (2 weeks ago)Should I bother? I wouldn't ordinarily care, because to be honest, I think I can do better, but something about him is magnetic to me.. I also do not want a commitment from him, just a friend with benefits.
Help please =o)
If all you want is FWB with this Aquarius, is there any reason NOT to bother? As long as you don't get caught up emotionally -- and that depends on your constitution.
To Help Please
Being an aquarian male, and going through alot of the same problems. I took a taurus out on a date the other day and it was great, the next day she seemed distant. I texted her as he did you, We talked but it was all short talk. You said he acted perverted, I did it too, it makes me comfortable to make jokes which are innapropriate. Sounds like same for him. In my position it seems like shes too busy for me, and doesnt have time for me. So ive stopped texting her, stopped calling. But I am still very much interested. Im kind of looking for a sign from her to continue to attempt to date. And if it doesnt come im likely going to give up. I say, Call him, say you'd like to hang out again... "Itll show him that, Hey maybe she is interested, maybe i shouldnt give this up just yet." But if your only interested in friends with benefits, tell him that, tell him you dont want a relationship but you like the time you spend with him. (If i were him thats what i would like to hear). I know our stories arent the same, but they are similar and possibly being in his position thats how i would feel...
Let me know if this helps :-)
For my own issues, Ive decided to give up on the Libra female. Im going to give her the space she may need to break up with her boyfriend, and im still going to date around and find someone who is right for me.
Adam
Hi Adam,
I'm a libra woman, and I was in a similar situation as the girl you mentioned, it took me over 1 year to break up with my ex bf,even though i knew for years that he wasn't right for me. Your idea of moving on sounds great, but think what could you lose by just being friends with hr, and let things work out for themself, i mean ofcourse you don't want to be the rebound but maybe you could make it clear to her that you just want to be friends. That's just my thought on your situation... :)
SC
p.s Thanks for your feedback annonymous at 8:47pm
thank you guys for your help.
The only reason I am hesitant to bother is #1, i feel rejected and #2 our mutual friend. I don't want him thinking I'm a stalker or something.
Aquarius male, what do you think I should do? text him?
as far as your libra goes, I was with someone for 3 years. the last year was spent trying to get out of the relationship the best way possible (with the least conflict). I am actually still friends with him, and he is still interested in me, but I have no feelings. So, if she i stelling you that she has no feelings for him, she is telling the truth. Also, it has been 3 years since we broke up, and even though we still talk (Libras will try to stay amicable with everyone) I have never thought of going back so if she does eventually leaave him for you, you dont have to worry about her going back.
Sorry, hope it helps.
TEXT HIM! I would love if a girl... just texted me...
Im so ready to find the girl its sick...
But im almost positive i will never find the right girl... becuase us aquarians over think everything... and im probably the worst kind... i want things to be perfect.. and life isnt perfect...
Struggling male
Adam
Adam - please may I pick your brains as an Aquarian?
I am Libra female in relationship with Aqua male. My question is - why does he not call me for days, but then when we are together tells me he is lonely and doesnt like being on his own. I feel the same way and just want him to ring and ask me to come over. He obviously thinks about it but doesnt do anything!
If I push everything I feel like if I didnt then nothing would happen, so I back right off, then we dont communicate for a while. I usually, (but not always) crack first, and when I contact him he replies immediately as if he was waiting for my call/text. Why are aquarians like this?
Any help gratefully received.
Viv
Viv...
Heres what i think...
I have alot of pride, if i feel a girl isnt interested... i wont call... I feel like im chasing, and it really makes me mad when a girl doesnt put the effort in that she needs to (or i feel she needs to). I immediatly give up, lonely or not i have to much pride to feel like im bothering her when she doesnt call me back... or doesnt text me back in like an hr. But i always have my phone and the second she calls im happy to hear from her...
I wish my new girl would call me more often or text me more often, so i felt like she was interested...
Im kinda curious... now you tell me
why dont girls call more, or text more. Sometimes ill text her and she text me back sometimes she'll call but other times its like im wasting my breath and energy to try to talk to her...
Why do girls love these games... or is she jsut not interested, she texted me and said she wants another date too
Adam
I'm an Aquarian man who is married to a Libra women :) 19 years, four kids later we are still fire and ice lol
Im a classic Aquarian born Jan 31
she a classic Libran born Sep 30
our kids birthdays are 5 10 15 20
one miscarry which would make five total (see the five) lol
our S.S. last four numbers are the same just switched up. If your run these last four numbers through Pythagorean Numerology, you guessed it, the number five!
Yet, neither of us think we are soulmates.hehe
oh yea and there is LOL five years age difference (she is older)
she is a catholic and Im spiritual
ya gettin the picture ?
what is the secret? ...hell...every comment left here so far are like little jewels wrapped in stone (ya just godda chip them out ;).
ok Im done ...cause.. well, my fingers hurt and said enough;)
regards, gulfott'r
Adam--
As a libra, I'm a little bit freedom loving too, but since I have a tendency to not say no to people, and I have alot of friends, I'm usually very busy, so my calls and texts are not frequent. Even when I like a guy, I am still traditional. I like you to text/ call first. I will alwyas reply back, usually immediately. If I feel rebuffed (like you aren't being as talkative) I feel like you're brushing me off, so I play a little game where I ignore you for a few days. I know its petty but I need the balance of calls- i dont always want to be the one to call first.
Always be nice, but dont be too nice. I know its weird advice, but I'm turned off by rudeness/ meanness, but I don't like a whipping post either. Say no sometimes to hanging out, but call me the next day. We like this balance- nice, but not too nice.
P.S. I did text him, we were talking nicely for a few minutes. However, he withdrew.
I know Aquarius doesnt like to feel controlled, so I dont like to ask too many questions about him, and they like mysteries, so I dont like to talk about me.. what else is there to talk about??
-M
Does anyone have any experience of Aquarians suffering from depression? My Aqua is very down at the moment, and not good company at all. He does have reasons for this, but I want to shake him out of it. He invited me round for tea the other night, then when I was there it was as if he was so lost in his thoughts that he had forgotton I was there at all! I got up to go home saying "I'm going as I dont think you really want me here" and his reply was "I invited you didnt I?"
I also dont want to be the one doing all the running, and feel that if I dont call or text him for a week, then we dont speak for that week at all. Then if, after a week, I text him, he will ring me immediately like he has been waiting for that go-ahead.
I feel sometimes like I am banging my head against a brick wall!
Being a Libran, I just want it all to be nice, equal and pleasant.
V
I'm a true-blue libra, he's a typical Aqua. We met through work and have known each other just less than two months and have spent three different days talking for hours, just the two of us. The mental connection is incredible and he even told me that there are things he can tell me that he can't tell other friends. He also said he likes the way my mind keeps him on his toes. Like i said, a great mental connection but i feel like this is someone i could spend a very long time with (we have similar values and goals in life as well). My problem is that I can't figure out if i'm just a mental stimulus for him and a friend and that's all or if it's true that his kindnesses, his concessions to my points when we debate, his thoughtfulness and compliments are all indications that i could be the libra woman that gives him the space to be himself enough to commit. I know i'm as close to 100% me when i'm with him as I can be with anyone. he did just break up with someone right before i met him b/c he said she was "too needy".
what should i do? wait it out and enjoy it or press my luck a little? and if i don't just sit back, how do i go about working this one out?
thanks
-A
A - If you can be patient enough to "wait it out" then this is def the way to go. You have to balance it out with not letting him think you aren't interested and thats the difficult bit. You'll probably find that it becomes a bit of a cat and mouse situation, and you have to learn to keep your distance and not push for answers when he needs his space.
Trust me its not easy!! I have been in this situation for 18 months, but the patience is starting to pay off and he is finally starting to rely on me and we are def getting much closer now.
Good luck!!
hey! I need some help understanding this aquarius guy. I work at a small grocery store and this guy I met last year came in again. Well we've talked a little bit but not much because I'm at work and he comes in when I'm busy but even when I'm overrun with people he'll come through my line to make me laugh (i'm a cashier.) And what's weird is that it's like an electric charge anytime I'm near him. I really started to like him and he seemed really nice, he told me he was going to travel some more for the next couple of weeks and he gave me his email address. But my problem is that he won't contact me he was on myspace but he didn't write to me. And it's been about 2 or 3 weeks. Is this just an aquarian thing or did he just give me that address so he didn't feel bad about leaving? oh yeah by the way I'm a libra :)
The whole thing with Aquarians is "who knows?" He is probably off doing lots of exciting things, and wont have forgotten you but other things will be uppermost in his mind at the moment. This is where the patience comes in. Try to make contact with him and leave him to it. If he eventually gets in touch, great, and if not, well thats the way it is!
The thing with Aquas is that you cant make him contact you, no matter how much you'd like to.
And if you push too much you will send him further away.
Its all down to whether you are prepared to wait.
Trust me, I've been at this game for the last 18 months!!
(The patience is finally paying off by the way and we are getting closer now)
Adam, I am on the cusp, Libra-Scorpio, I can tell you that I am a very passionate person and I enjoy for a man to be passionate with me. I am dating an Aquarian man, he lives two thousand miles away so it gets rough. I didn't realize not calling was a big deal. I don't call, because the same reason you don't. I don't want to be chasing, I want to be chased. I am also a bit traditional and believe in letting the man call first or open doors and such. A woman typically has that type of pride as well, she needs to know she isn't fooling herself, or looking too desperate. If you ask me, it seems that you and your girlfriend are feeling the same about calling. My advice is to just call. Your are the man, be her guide and leader. We librans often want to call, but then are always pulled back. I know that I don't know you are interested unless you call, and if you don't call I am more reluctant to pick up the phone. Just call, you both miss each other if you are a a lib/aqu match.
Now maybe you can help me out....sometimes I get mixed signals from my bf, he at times seems distant and different, almost as if his love changes. He wont call or text for a while. I don't want to smother him or make demands, but I don't know what to think at times. Then, after an argument, out of the blue he will call and sing along to a song that he says reminds me of me. I can't help but ove this Aqua but at times is hard allowing myself to do so. What goes on in his mind? He always says he is so busy, I am too, but always make time when he calls me. Why can he make the time for me? Maybe you can shed light into this for me....
thank you
I know how he feels... sometimes it just we need time for us... i dont give myself enough time to relax most the time... i usually push it onto other people too... all i can say... is dont push him away but make him realise ur thinking about him... every once in a while. He will realise what is going on and he will step his s*** up and make the time for u...
thanks for the advice
(tell me if this helps)
Adam
This is for the lady on the cusp - my relationship with my Aquarian man (I am a full blown Libra)is exactly like you describe. When we are together everything is wonderful, then I dont hear from him for a couple of days and the positive feeling starts to turn to negative. All I can say is that after 18 months, all is ok and you do learn to trust your inner instincts rather than length of time between contact.
If you really want to be with this man longterm then my advice is to stick it out, be patient, if you dont hear from him for a few days then maybe send a text so there is no pressure, but keep it light and friendly. That way he knows that his abscence hasnt driven you away. You will most likely find that the closeness will come with time, once he trusts you to stick around and realises that you are always there for him when he needs you.
Viv
AQUARIUS MALE IN DEPRESSION
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You need to be very patient with an aquarius male in depression. if he called you and didnt talk about it doesnt mean you had to reply that you were not needed.
You need to give him time and love. Not just sex. love. like holding his head in you lap. caressing him and reassuring every now and then that even the earth breaks into pieces you are there for him.
And even after that he does not speak about his problem, just dont get turned off. be patient. He might just get well without telling anything.
Aquarius is very secretive, he might need time to tell it. or even wont tell it at all. it doent mean his feelings wont be true.
Aquarius in depression needs a lot of love and affection just like a baby needs from a mother.
I am an Aquarius male and I know I've been in depresseion :-(
You have to do it before he starts loving his depression.
-W
As an aquarian male I would like to confirm that yes, we do need to get alone for a day or two. It's nothing, just discovering self.
We are like researchers. When we cling on to something we need to give it some time. And that something can be anything except for one thing common for all aqua. It will be one's own self.
For Ex - I am an amateur astrologe myself. So when I am reading about it, i get completely lost inside the material. It may take 2-3 days when finally I exhaust myself and then put it down. So during that time I forget to see my mobile.
But when I take my mobile and start to reply text msg, I do it extensively.
We are just like that. It may be the exact reason why we seem so lost sometimes. always thinking. but not telling everything (secretiveness).
But I tell you, all this has nothing to do with my feelings. It is as pure and devoted to the woman I love. I even dont let other women come close to me even though they're goodlooking. Thats the extreme nature of my devotion.
So, girls, plz if your silly aqua male is lost bear with him. he's saying truth when he says he loves you (and even if he doesn't just look in his eyes. make him look in your eyes. you will see that true love for you)
W - Thank you so much for your comments they are a great help. My aqua does admit depression, he even told me last week that if I dont hear from him for a few days its because he is so upset and crying and down. I constantly reassure him that I am always going to be there for him, but since that conversation I have heard nothing for 5 days. I know he has explained why, but it is killing me that I cant get near him to help or comfort him.
There does seem to be a pattern that he only contacts me when he is feeling more positive for some reason, even if it is because he has had a few beers and his spirits have been lifted.
I know he loves me, I just wish he would let me in more.
I can be and have been eternally patiens (not easy for me being a Libra, and a very positive person too!)
I so appreciate your help, W.
Viv
Viv,
Thanks for the appreciation. And thanks for telling him you are there. He will tell you someday he was so glad to hear that.
Well, you are absolutely right about him calling you only when his somewhat positive. I did the same and I think I would do the same again.
As someone pointed out, an aquarian has and loves his pride. Its not ego, its pride. When he's depressed, he might be feeling that he needs to get strong somehow before facing you. He might think that he's not man enough if he would not solve the problem himself. I know its foolish and childish. But it works that way.
When I was in depression, I didnt talk to anybody - except some few, and that too once a week - This kept on going for atleast 3 months I think. What I was doing during that time was simply gathering enough strength to get up again.
But I desperately needed someone to call ME instead of I calling someone. The reason was neither ego, nor pride. It was a dumb feeling that nobody in the world loves me and I needed to be reassured that someone comes along like an angel, and gives me love without my asking. Something divine (may sound stupid but thats why we call it depression)
This might be the exact thing your man is looking for. Even after your reassurance he didnt call, simply because he might be waiting for your call again and again.
Believe me, for aqua, love is never tit for tat. If you count that I called you now you call me. Then I will call you again. (balance). It may work when he is normal. He would do it that way just to please you in spite of not liking the calculation (which seems to decreases love - math and love are opposite) but when he's depressed and if you really care for him (which i am sure you do, otherwise you wont be asking the question), dont count how many times you called first. Just do it until he gets out of it.
If he is like me (sounds like me), he will always do anything for you. If a person takes care for me unconditionally when I am in need, I would sacrifice anything to make her happy. And I have done that.
Its just that silly feeling of nobody loves me (even right now I am completely ok I still have hatred for those - friends, colleagues no just a love - who made all promises but never stood by when I was in need.)
hope this helps.
take care
-W
I have seen many discussing aquarians being completely cold.
I dont know why aquarius is taken for granted for being cold. Majority of times it may be because they are distant and aloof. But behind this aloofness there is deep sensitivity which an aquarius fears of being exposed and manipulated if given its key to someone.
"The whole thing with Aquarians is "who knows?" He is probably off doing lots of exciting things, and wont have forgotten you but other things will be uppermost in his mind at the moment. This is where the patience comes in. Try to make contact with him and leave him to it. If he eventually gets in touch, great, and if not, well thats the way it is!
The thing with Aquas is that you cant make him contact you, no matter how much you'd like to.
And if you push too much you will send him further away. "
...
[giggles]
i wish my woman has this kind of understanding. its unbelievable someone can know Aquarius upto this degree.
W - I cant tell you how much it is helping me getting your perspective on the situation. These last 5 days I have sent 3 text messages and called him once with no reply to any. No word at all. I am prepared to do whatever it takes to help him, but sometimes it makes me feel unwanted not getting any response. I feel as if I am pushing myself on him and maybe he doesnt want that at all - maybe he would rather I left him in peace. I also have my pride and dont want to feel as if I am making a fool of myself.
He is very proud, I know that and understand that he has to be the "man" of the relationship. The problem is that I am very independent, (own house, good job etc) and I think maybe he feels he has nothing to offer at the moment, especially as his depression has been caused by an accident at work 2 years ago, causing a shoulder injury which he is in the middle of an industrial claim for. He is physically able to work again now, but cant do anything until the claim comes through.
He has always been a hard worker, and likes to work to keep his woman in a good lifestyle, so its no wonder that his self esteem is so low just now.
The stupid thing is, none of this matters to me, as I just want to be with him, whether he has nothing at all or not.
I reckon that patience will just have to be kept up for a while longer yet!!
Viv
I am a libra woman I met this aqua man in Nov. 07. He is like the best thing that has ever happen to me. When we began talking he told me he wasn't looking for no commitment and that he had other women friends. I was cool with that I wasn't ready for a commitment myself. This man bring me dozen of roses once a week or once every two weeks on my job, buy me expensive jewelry and surprise me with a card just because. We take trips on weekends we will be going on plenty of trips when summer come. He told me he loves me back here in Feb. I couldn't say it, but he said you can love a person and not be in love we are just friends. He constantly telling me he loves me or texting he loves me. Fast forward to now I began class this spring to get my degree in criminal justice he said let's begin saving money so when you finish school we can get married. I know he has other women friends which is hard to tell because we spend so much time together. I'm kind of confused, is this game or what?
@ Tracy:
I'm an aquarian woman. From what I read, I think he is truly in love with you. Trust me an aquarian wouldn't go so out of his way to do all of that, especially an aquarian man lol. Even though he said he wasn't looking for a relationship in the beginning, I sometimes say that so the other person can know I am not putting my heart on the line and getting hurt. I think he truly did like you from the beginning and still does. This is not a game. If you continue in showing him that you like him, he will stick around. The question is do you want a commitment with him because it sounds like you don't but I might be wrong. If you are not interested in anything long term, you should tell him and be honest and risk he might leave or like you more (aquarians are weird like that lol). If you are interested in him, then be ready for all the aquarian to pour down on you.
I'm not an expert and this is just my advice.
Hope this makes sense and it helps.
Thanks Happygolucky...I really like him and I see myself settling down with him. My kids adore him, you can tell he's not fronting he is a genuine person. I'm loving everything about him and he knows it.
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