What does a Scorpio man want in a woman?
Scorpio man seeks woman who can keep a secret, stay faithful. Must have high sex drive, and must never ever look at another man (or woman, for that matter). Extra points if you have a healthy respect for privacy. Willingness to merge assets a plus -- bringing along debts may be a dealbreaker. You should have completed a full round of psychoanalysis first, and know your dark side well -- I don't want to be your therapist, and I'd rather you have thoroughly examined yourself before I dig up all your skeletons. Tolerance for witnessing emotional extremes and black moods is a necessity. If you want to be possessed, I'm your man.Labels: scorpio
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 2/27/2007
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I dont know any scorpio that portrays himself moody on any level. All the scorpio men I know keep their emotions in check at all times, even with their mates.
I am guessing the scorps I know have some moon or rising that prevents them from being moody.
How painfully true is this! As a Scorpio woman who once fell madly for a Scorpio man, your description hit the nail...right between the eyes. Luckily I got away (in spite of my determination to make it work) and have found true love with an Aries guy. All the passion with half the strain.
Anonymous,
Have you ever lived with a Scorpio?
I'd be interested to hear how other readers experience Scorpios.
Yes, I have lived with a few scorpio (dont know why, Im a scorp myself). Maybe being a scorpio I dont see them as moody.
My hub can tell you I am not moody at all.. just dont piss me off. :-) Then I do get moody...er rather a bit loud with my issue. But for the most part I am pretty even tempered.
My male scorp friends are some of the most tolerant folks I know. They can take some stuff with ease without the brooding and moodiness. They have all been very calm beings.
I dated one. With Mercury in scorpio too, which was just mean mean sometimes. Had other stuff going on too though, sex drive oscillating from cold as six weeks dead to "I need you right now this very instant." And nothing was my fault except the world was against him and why wouldn't everybody just do what he wanted them to do.
Sorry, still somewhat bitter. Being completely amputated from your boyfriend's life on very short notice can have that effect.
i dont think tat scorpio man need a woman who had a high sex drive..actually its depend on the individual..if moody..i totally agreed.if the scorpio already moody..its very hard to cheer them up.
sorry you don't feel WE need the high sex drive persona - in short "He's fulfilling his needs elsewhere"
scorp7
"What does a Scorpio man want in a woman?"
Same thing a Scorpio woman wants in a man. The utmost in devotion, Truly Madly Deeply . . . the ability to be "possessed" (not in the Taurus material sense, but in the Plutonian psychological sense).
This can be a bit much for most to handle, but water signs seem well-suited for the task (Cancer very devoted, Pisces very deep).
With all that water sensitivity going on, the relationship can be rich in mutual understanding but lack stability and direction. Thus earth signs (Virgo, Taurus, Capricorn) often make for a better match in the long haul. Scorpio keeps earth moist and fertile, while earth gives water something to do to-- the opportunity to be useful and productive.
As long as water doesn't drown it in a downpour and make mud. That's just messy. Mud + f*** = MUCK.
Scorp on sabbatical, can I quote you on that? (Mud + f*** = Muck)
"Is Mr. Big going to be in this Sex and the City movie?" And the answer to that is . . .
(think pink)
I'm dating a Scorpio man and wow, is he complicated. He does get into these crazy moods, like one of those "I don't give a damn" moods, and it sucks because I like him so much but I feel like I should give up on this "relationship." However, I can't let go yet... The thing is, he would sweep me off my feet for a whole week and then not bother to call or text (as much) the next. This has developed into a pattern for the past couple of months, yet he wants to spend my upcoming b-day with me and he wants to take me home to meet his folks soon. But does this really show potential for a healthy relationship? I need some advice... Thanks.
Im a cancer woman dating a scorpio man. I find him wise beyond his years, passionate, loving and says what's on his mind. I find myself though struggling between feelings of complete passion to feelings of "what am I doing?" mostly because our relationship is so hot and cold. Either way it's passion filled and yes I find he is moody but only shows it to those he trusts.
you guys love these guys cause you can't figure them out
but they've got you figured out which is why you work for them
get used to it, the sex is obviously worth the anxiety
@ whatever, maybe sex is not worth the anxiety for all people.
yeah, people like me
I am a Gemini, my Scorpio man and I have been dating for 1 year and 2 months and living together 4 months. Sadly now I think its over. I know what your thinking....a Gemini with a Scorp...I must be crazy. But really I fell for this guy deeply. Now coming to the surface is his posessivness...strong jealosy and what I call "anal" tenancies. He has these major issues with the Kitchen and in fact one of our last fights was over a pop corn kernal he found on the floor. Leading after that I was pressuring him the resolve the issue with me and he said he had an emotional black eye and fat lip from my badgering him....wow, i just dont get it. we went to a councler the other day to try and work things out and she basically told him to loosen up! Next think I know he says he hates her and he cant take the "abuse" so I should move out. I AM SO CONFUSED. If anyone wants to comment on this PLEASE, I am lost at this point.
Your love covers a multitude of his sins. He is mad because he feels invaded-- both his personal physical space (obligated to live with someone in close quarters) and his psychological space (obligated to go to a counselor to expose his thoughts).
Gemini likes wide-open communication and bouncing thoughts and ideas back and forth. Scorpio prefers the safety of seclusion where he can mull over his thoughts with himself and arrive at his own conclusions.
Your sensitive Scorpio is feeling CORNERED and CONTROLLED. He is the one who wants to feel in control so the roles are reversed and this makes him angry.
The root of his misery is more than the surface symptoms or sum of your parts. He's pissed about his current situation and will continue to make things very uncomfortable for you, until he runs out of patience one day (or night) and his stinger comes out full force.
If you can't give him space and back off a little, you'd best move out (before he kills you). And don't even try to suggest a compromise, because even if you get one he will be resentful. Remember his Sun is fixed in place and not mutable like yours. It's black or white and shades of grey give him indigestion.
Scorpio's patience can and will wear thin like the ozone layer. If you force an issue that's not on his agenda you've nothing to protect yourself from those invisible UV rays when they start penetrating your soul. The kind that can burn you bad on a cloudy day when you're not wearing protection.
If you feel he really loves you and that this will pass, find someone else to talk to and keep yourself occupied for those times when he wants to be alone. And give him his own personal corner of the house, complete privacy, where he can do what he wants when he wants without being questioned why.
A shelter, a muse, a mirror, an equal. Fiercely independent yet still needy of me. Ideally a tall, slender, intelligent, long-haired brunnette with a well-developed sense of style -- tending towards the classics, a British accent, and some tasteful lingerie hidden away just for me... Sexy glasses are a turn-on. And pumps, nothing too strappy, well cared for hands and feet, good oral hygiene (um, ok, good hygiene all 'round), emotional depth, curiosity, a good memory... A sybarite and an ascetic. In possession of considerable strength, courage and patience for coping with my dark & stormy side. Most of all someone who understands me intuitively without the need to verbalize everything...
Married to a Scorpio, and it may be surprising but he actually managed to exorcise demons in me that I didn't even know were there. I once read about the fixed water sign that it can be "refreshing like a dip in a lake, or stagnant and poisonous like a well..." and I felt like the first couple years together there were major personal truths I had to face and in the end it was like a baptism in the aformentioned lake. It was scary when I was being held down, but cleansing and forgiving coming back up. He get really emotional sometimes, and I work hard not to be the cause of it (he works very hard for me as well), because once that lake runs dry, it's dry for good.
Leo bartentder w/ Scorpio man, can we please find a way to contact each other. Leo here as well w/ Scorpio man, met while bartending just like you, going thru hell, need advice!? Not a member of sight, unsure how to connect w/ you.
i have been in a relationship w/a scorpio man for 5 yrs. I believe they want someone who is devoted to them and always there for them even though they are not! They want someone like them with a high sex drive, which is ok for me!
I was with a scorpio for 2 yrs and i find that they are all pretty much the same-controlling, possessive, spiteful, sex driven bastards. They don't want you to do something and then they turn around and do the exact same thing! But don't ever cross a scorpio-oh no no. If you do something wrong to him he'll pretend that everything's all right-and then he'll go and sleep with your best friend 2 yrs later just to get you back. I find that if you just act like whatever he tries to pull doesn't faze you at all and that you're not gonna let him control you, then he'll be kneeling at your feet. Believe me i know this from personal experience. If he's making you miserable with all his demands-leave and go find a taurus-like me :o)
Abso*uckinglutely.
I am a scorpio woman dating a scorpio man and let me tell you its so hot and cold all the time. When its good its the Best ever, and when its cold its the worst. Being a scorpio I can be pretty stubborn. I am not one to try to control others, however he wants to be in control of everything and most of the time he comes off very selfish and stubborn. We live in two different cities about 2 hours from each other and we both hate long distance. So he is pushing the isswue of me moving in with him. He wants to settle down and get married, but sometimes it gets a little scary, because I fear that he will be too controlling. Do you think these are red flags or just cold feet? Overall he is by far the most stable man I have dated in my life and that compensates for so much. However, I find myself without much emotional support if that makes sense. What should I do?
When with a Scorpio, its better that you belong to such a zodiac sign that harbors patience. Or at least you know you can. Its because, Scorpios see things with 100 percent or don't see at all. If you can bear their sudden silences, or erupting passion, you're definitely 'The One' for the scorpio. You really need to give them devotion and bubbling love. They might not say anything about it, but they crave for such kind of admiration.
Im really interested in a Scorpio male and I am a cancer female. The only thing is because I am so shy, I dont think he knows. We work together and I want him to make the furst move without me saying anything... Is that possible. I think he is interested because everytime I pass his office he stairs at me through his window as I pass. We lock eyes and smile. He is very professional and sexy. What should I do??? His moon is isn Cancer, Rising in Cap, & Merc in Scorp.
Please give me your advice.....
Im really interested in a Scorpio male and I am a cancer female. The only thing is because I am so shy, I dont think he knows. We work together and I want him to make the furst move without me saying anything... Is that possible. I think he is interested because everytime I pass his office he stairs at me through his window as I pass. We lock eyes and smile. He is very professional and sexy. What should I do??? His moon is isn Cancer, Rising in Cap, & Merc in Scorp.
Please give me your advice.....
@L. Jeanine "Jenavieve" Smith, this link may appeal to his Cancer Moon.
Going back to Carrie's comment did anyone respond to her? I am on the same boat with my Scorpio mate.. I would like to read the response please!!! msg from JENNI
Scorpio make the first move? HA! Wishful thinking. They spin the web then wait for you to get stuck in it. Since when does the spider make the first move?
I am a capricorn women dating a scorpio man..My man lives in buffalo wyoming.. and come out to visit family.. each time..we get together.. for the last five months he has been out here and we've been dating.. he is to be returning in May.. which I am dreading.. any suggestions?
I must say that your description is right on, I am a scorpio, with my sun, moon,mercury and uranus in Scorpio. My husband is a Libra and prior to getting married I made sure to let him know that my privacy, moods, and space need to be respected. I also, told him not to ever disrespect me by looking at other women (don't care what you do away from me, but don't get caught doing it infront of me.) I am huge when it comes to sex!! I always joke around with my husband and tell him, "I only married you for the sex"!
From all of the comments one reads, it seems that everyone involved with or interested in a Scorpio man seems to be salivatingly desperate to please, waiting ever-hopfully in the wings for a scrap of attention or commitment from these gods. Well, so was I - same dynamics; hot and cold... I'm a Cancer woman; and I know all about the charms of my Scorpio man, playing his games while he slowly reels me in. How much time and patience does he think I have?? Who does he think he is?? I am gripped by rebellion, a Shirley Valentine turnaround, and a white-hot desire to piss him off! Let him find some other willing plaything to wait about in the wings, salivating for crumbs! I would really like to give him back some of this before I disappear into the sunset - what is an effective way to piss him off? (No, I wouldn't hurt him - but it would be gratifying just to piss him off. And hey, he can deal with it, just like the rest of us!).
Conventional wisdom suggests that it is dangerous to piss off a Scorpio. Perhaps someone would like to guest blog about this?
I'm a virgo and I have pissed off my scorpio to the point that he grabbed my by the arm pulled me aside and told me that I was his and I better knock my s@#! off. I can tell you this he asked me to marry him and I told him no and I stood my ground. I loved this man and I wanted to marry him, but he liked playing games with me and I was tired of it. When I told him I wouldn't marry him it was in public at a football game and I made hime cry. He was mad at me for a while matter of fact the next time he saw me he picked me up and squeezed me so hard that I couldn't breathe then he set me down and shoved me. We made up and starting talking again in the mean time I got married so he came to me and told me that he was getting married and he did 4 years later I had gotten a divorce and I ran into him we ended up sleeping together he was still married but was separated in the middle of our sexcapade he looks at me and says I'm sorry I can't do this to my wife and stops right in the middle of everything. I guess he got even.
MY scorpio is constantly angry... but then again it seems like he can have his good momnet too! He seems to be into me one minute, and completley enthralled with my friend the next! He's gone out with my friend but has never gone out with me! We both say though that he is bi-polar or PMSing! HELP ME
~signed
~LOST!!
I'm a cancer female and i like a scorpio male. I'm really good friends with him...I met him through my ex which is a pisces. I'll walk past him and he'll just stare like he likes me but I don't know if he does. He kind of acts like he likes me to. Do scorpios just hide their feelings?
Anonymous, I am going through the exact same thing! I am a cancer girl and I'm falling for a scorpio guy, and What I'm starting to see is that yes, scorpios do hide their emotions, its just part of their scorpionic nature. but let me tell you...sometimes they are better off hidden. Scorpios conciously tone down their emotions so that they dont scare people, so chances are this boy could be intensely falling for you, and at the same time show no signs of doing so. have patience, gain his trust, and eventually when the two of you are alone he will tell you how he really feels.
I am a Cancer woman married to a Scorpio man. He is moody and controlling and has a horrible temper. But the Cancer in me knows that all these things stem from fundamental insecurity. So I can forgive him.
That said, I have Saturn in Scorpio in the fourth, and recently it occurred to me that I married my Saturn. Must be a karma thing. I hope after 30 years, I have paid my dues!
It's interesting to note that many Cancer women have posted to this blog asking how to get a Scorpio man they are attracted to to make a move. That was my issue, 30 years ago. I invited him to dinner at my place, and the rest is history.
I read somewhere that the only sign that can possibly put up with Scorpio for any length of time is Cancer. So, ladies, be careful what you wish for.
Im a cancer woman with a huge crush on a scorpio man. He doesnt have the "scorpio stare" i keep hearing about but i feel obsessed!I wake up thinking about him and go to bed doing the same. The first time we hungout he was very charming,nice and gentlemanly. He opened doors,paid the tab and told me i was gorgeous. We hungout again the other day with his friend and the friends girlfriend. While he was still really sweet he was alot more brash (not towards me) but just in general. At some point we all went back to his place and watched a movie. His friend (also scorpio)was cuddling with his girl. I was sitting on the other side of the couch and in front of me on the floor was my scorpion crush. I ended up falling asleep on the couch and found myself covered with a blanket by morning. I showered and talked to him then he took me home giving me a kiss on the cheek and telling me how beautiful i looked that morning. Hes very nonchalant, i dont feel that crazy magnetism but i feel like he holds back with me. I am a highly playful and sexual cancer girl who is a little confused as to why my scorpio man hasnt tried to jump my bones if hes attracted to me like he insinuates. Can anyone explain? hes also a bit of a mans man which is annoying at times. Im normally such a confident,sexy person...i feel brainwashed or something.
Im a November Scorpio woman and was dating a November Scorpio man for a little over a year. He moved in with me for about 3 months, and then we broke up. His babymomma tried to charm him back into her arms and his dumb @ss let her throw a wrench into our relationship. I read a text in his phone telling her that he could make her happy this time. he claimed that he wasn't serious, yet tyring to investigate and play with her head as revenge. I only saw it as him trying to play me, and all that extra sh!t he was saying didn't make sense to me, so I threw him out the house. He claims that I am emotionally driven to decisions, and I need to be more logical and investigate more before I assume. But I din't have to assume, I read the text plain as day. Whatever the "real" motive was, I didn't like it. Now he is turning it all around trying to make it seem like Im the crazy one, and I need couseling and mental help with my issues! Scorpio men are controlling, and he understood that i would only let him control and be the leader if I was sure he know what he was doing. In his frustrations, he started thinking about his ex and running back to the dumb sh!t cause the change was too much for him. Now he regrets the whole situation, and I regret my emotional rambo reaction. Two Scorpios in love is hard work....
I am a Cancer, with a Picses Moon and Uranus in Scorpio, Mercury, Mars and Ascendant in Gemini, dating the most beautiful Scorpio on the planet, he has a Scorpio rising, Venus and Pluto in Scorpio, my Venus in Cancer.
And my biggest issue is the f&^%$ Gemini. I might lose this guy as he is extremely jealous, and I am extremely flirty, chatty and friendly, very social and I wander off in social situations and leave him alone and he hates that.
Now, on a good day, there is very little balance in me, because to the core I am obviously water, but I continually want to show him that he does not control me, he has me right where he wants me. He is so intense I have to keep looking at him, for if he stares at me I feel like I might die at any moment, sex is extremely intense, either very emotional with a lot of crying, or super animalistic, which leaves me feeling hollow and empty sometimes.
He has an Aquarius moon, so talk about independance. He continually tells me he doesn't need anything from anyone, but he will take if they give.
He is so sweet- to animals, his mother, kids, a true gentlemen, although I have seen his dark side as well, and that is jealousy- good lord.
I am a well spoken attractive Cancer, with so much emotional baggage it will make your hair stand on end, whilst he has a had a very calm and peaceful life. So the needy Cancer, needing attention and the escaping from the damn Pisces Moon.
Yes thats true what he has written.I am an Aries and Love a Scorpio Man,Had an affair of 2 yrs,but he ditched me after loving so much.I still love him like crazy but i don't understand where i lacked that suddenly everything changed,its true that he is too much attached to his family,he was so deeply in love with me,but i still don't understand why he left me.I want o know a Scorpio secret through which i can get him back.pls help!!!
November Scorpio woman: Honey, I am an Aquarius with Scorp rising, Libra moon, my Scorp is Leo Rising *or cancer?) with an Aquarius moon. Scorpio women I think are so much better at understanding the dynamics of psychology -- even better than the Scorpio male.
Here's the deal. Your scorp used you to get back at his ex, or get her back by reverse psychology, now he is doing it to you. Nov Scorp girl... he is doing the same thing to you.. All ends to the middle sweetie. I am sorry to say.
Obviously he is what I consider an Scorpio that is not evolved... you still have the upper hand...walk away... no thought, no explanation...nada... ever. This sort of disrespect deserves no further acknowledgement. I would also assess your own issues with worth because you allowed yourself to get involved with this situation. (been there, done that!) Shut it down; now! Or YOU will be the one to hurt, he obviously does not care to act in the proper manner, you seem to indicate you know there is a difference!
Move on from this dysfunctional Scorp. [[hugs]]]
In fact, most of what I am reading here involves highly dysfunctional Scorps. It is not because they are Scorpio, it is because they are displaying the negative qualities of the sign based on their immaturity.
There is NO excuse for disrespect or refusing to act in a mature fashion. We all make mistakes, but please, do not use the astro sign to foster some co-dependency in an obviously unhealthy relationship (or psychologically unhealthy person)
IMHO. :)
Crystal reports ....
I met 2 Scorpios in my life and they were really nerds! Their behavior is so different from the other guys I know. They are so conservative in their actions, speech and just name it. They can be so passionate, loving and caring and out of a sudden, they just turn their backs to you. Oh, they have their reasons for doing that …..You are not up to their standard and expectations. They expect you to be as old fashion as they are. U said the wrong words and that’s it – they judged you by your actions, words etc. etc. Then, they feel stressed up and finds you a burden rather than a galfriend or lover and decide to be just friends. They can hold your hands, kiss and hug you and then tells you they just want to be your friend and nothing else….reason being you just worn a very transparent piece of dress as if you are going to the night club and then dump u aside as just an acquaintance. They made themselves judges over others and they never look at themselves and feel lucky that a nice gal likes them. They will never ever forget and forgive you for the wrong you have done to them! Yes, they do have one good point though; they will never forget to open the door for you to enter their cars. I hope I will never meet another Scorpio again. Gee, what an experience!!
I have read all the comments and the best one I've seen about dating a Scorpio Man was to just simply walk away.
Currently I have deep feelings for a Scorpio (im Gemini girl by the way and I'm older)
Often my Scorpio blows up for nothing, he's impatient, rude, moody and immature. I know bad combination right. We started talking because I like that he made the first move. he said likes older women and the sex got better and better. But he doesn't have a job now, eats my food, wants me to chauffer him and talks to me like I don't matter.
does not sound like a good situation.
I am in love with a Scorpio man and can not tell him because I am afraid it would ruin everything we have together as a special relationship. He has never told me and weird, but I guess at his point I am ok with it.I am a Leo (cusp though with Cancer) but with a Cancer rising and feel that I am WAY more of a Cancer than a Leo. Maybe that is why it works? Help!
i AM a scorpio man and my emotions arent in cheak quite all the time, sure im not opening up to every average sally on the street but if i get close to someone they can read me like a book, scorpios are very deep and emotional you just have to open our chest
This comment is for "Scorpio on Sabbatical." I take it that you are a scorpio, so I really dont want to offend. But I am a little perplexed by your response to a blogger named "Brandy" (gemini) about her relationship and short period of cohabitation with a scorpio. My contention is not necesarily with you personally, but with the collective, recurring yet seemingly inaccurate themes that I hear being promoted consistantly about certain signs (scopio in particular).
The scorpio male that Brandy was with demonstrated what I believe to be some accutely disturbing behaviors which conveyed a tendency toward abusiveness, grandios egotism, utter lack of concern for her feelings and traits reminiscent of borderline personality disorder patients, i.e. a complete inability to see the aire in ones own ways. This person conveyed nothing at all which warrented the description as "sensitive." Yet you described him as such. What's more, by repeatedly referring to his sense of feeling "violated." It is as though you were making him out to be the victim. Moreover you suggested that instead of trying to communicate with her partner, she should talk to someone else.
Now dont get me wrong. I think get the feeling that this scopio just did not have a high regard for his mate and didn't really value the relationship. And, in as much, the relationship should have ended. After all, insisting on couples counseling for someone who simply doesnt want to be with you just isn't going to lead to a resolution for that relationship. But it just seems that you defended all of his disfunctional tendencies and denounced all of her efforts to establish healthy resolutions to the problems they were facing. He sounded extremely insensitive. He seemed like the one prone to being "abusive" and to "badgering" his mate. Yet he projected those tendencies onto other people as though he was the victim these behaviors. But in your comments you seemed to be coddling the scopio male. I dont know. It just seems that his disfunction should have been pointed out on some level instead of excusing excusing it under the guise of "sensitivity."
Again, it's not just you. I commonly hear people definding or protecting the supposed "honor" of members of certain zodiac signs (water signs) by putting a positive spin on what is in essence very negative and anti-social behavior. You see it a lot on sites where astrology and relationships are being discussed. To be honest with you, it makes me wonder if members of certain zodiac signs (water signs, esp. scorpio) tend to be more heavily drawn to astrology and therefore, have somehow come to have a stronger voice through higher representation in the field of astrology, thus a greater ability to assert their perspectives on the traits they possess--infecting others with that pespective.
Again, I don't mean to sound like I'm attacking you. But I just had to get that off my chest. CAN ANYONE RELATE TO WHAT I AM SAYING?!
im a pisces dating a scorpio for 7 months.he just broke up with his ex. the fisrt 3 months he was so sweet, nice, passionate and tolerant, tottaly interested and caring. i actually fell in love with him from the very beginning. after 5th month he said he just wanna have sex with me because he didn't want to have any relationship and never imagine having one with me. it makes me really sad but i go along since i would do anything for him. but then he grew on and off. right now he feels so distant he doesn't even interested whenever i ask him to go out for a cup of coffee or to see a movie. he rather does that alone. he sees me only in bed. if he doesn't like me anymore at least i want him to be a friend. as a pisces i can take his on and off and coldness and the only sex relation to any extend if i know he will come home again. I read that scorpios dont take sex lightly. or they do? if he want to leave I will move on. but i just don't know what to do. should i be patient or just move on? he's so hard to read right now.
fellow pisces first of all it's sad to know that you've met a out of wack scorpio. may be i have spelt wrong. but wtv, who cares. you just need to love yourself more, wake up from your dreams and get out of this so called relationship. I am a pisces myself but honey, you are too deep in your own illusions. This is not even a relationship. Wtv the sun sign is, he already said he just needs the SEX from you. So why do you stay, ponder and scratch your brain out trying to pin him down?? yes, scorpios like sex. but sex can be just sex without emotions for men/women/Scorpios. He does not deserve you.
Respect and love yourself first and then you'll find the man who respects and loves you truly.
Dear Airy, Firey Kellie,
I agree. There is definitely hype about Scorpios. I'm not too sure about the number of water signs being attracted to astrology being the largest among fire earth water air. Cuz each person isn't only his Sun Sign. In my experience it is true that Scorpios get defensive and biting the most when receiving criticism etc.
I'm well deluded with water myself haha.
-A quadPisces
Hello -A quadPisces (please forgive me if I'm getting your name wrong). Thanks for your response to my blog. I appreciated your input. Going back to my ascertion that water signs, especially scorpio may be more highly represented in astrology. That's just a sense of mine...don't really have a concrete basis for it except that scorpios are said to be the sign most attracted to/ preoccupied with the underworld. Now, I don't personally believe astrology to be part of the "dark underworld." If I did believe that I would drop it like a hot potato and never read another word about it (as a gemini I have a positive orientation). I elude to the underworld because one would have to admit that there is centuries old worldwide mainstream notion that astrology is something that competes with religion...therefore threatens religion...therefore is"evil." So for that reason I loosely liken astrology to the underworld because that's how it's perceived by so many people. And if scorpios are proported to be drawn to or preoccupied with the underworld, then it would stand to reason that they might have a more numerous presence in this field and a louder voice which, in turn shapes the perceptions of those impressionable individuals who visit astology sites and gather information. By he way, they do seem to be depicted in astrology in a grandios mannor (which I am just not certain is warrented). PLEASE DON'T GET ME WRONG EVERYONE...I DON'T DISLIKE SCORPIOS. IM QUITE FOND OF SCORPIO MEN. I DONT KNOW ENOUGH SCORPIO WOMEN TO MAKE AN ASSESSMENT. Just something to think about. Cheers!
Airy, Firey Kellie,
I think when it comes to astrology it is a general misconception on both positive or negative traits that are attributed to the “sun sign personality”. Lets not forget how other planets temper or magnify those traits. I have found that in the years of “personality” research that the best way to describe this is for instance, say you’re a Scorpio. There are many positive attributes to this sign, yet many tendencies to the negative traits too. Each sign has these traits - for positive or negative. That being said, when reading about your personality, or traits these are only “potentials“.
We each mature with age and experience and “Clingy Crabs”. “Secretive and Suspicious Scorpios”, “Peter Pan Complex Dreaming for the Pisces“, “Dogmatic Cappy’s”, “Big Mouth Sadg-a-crabby-asses”, “Indecisive Libras”, “Stubborn Taurus”, “Angry Aries”, “Nit-picking, Hair Splitting Virgos”, “Bossy Leos”, “flaky Gemini’s” etc… learn to move beyond and overcome those potential traits and tendencies… one way or another.
A general sun sign description (or planetary description) just points to areas that MAY need some work. I tell my friends in my novice experience -- it is better to look at these traits as a potential problem that needs balance, more so than an absolute part of your personality. Other planets may offset or intensify some of these traits. If this makes any sense…But you are absolutely correct, in no way does this excuse someone for displaying those tendencies, worse yet release them from acting in a mature fashion. The point of astrology for me is to work on areas of myself that may be exposed by my chart, and become a better person. Instead of being a “eccentric, obsessive, head in the clouds-- Aquarius” and have no idea that I am potentially doing this!♥
Well me and my scorpio male companion have severed ties. A couple of weeks ago I posted some things. Well shortly after he disappeared. We didn't have an argument or anything just disappeared out of thin air. Then he sens me a text message from a different phone saying "hi hope you didn't throw my stuff away". After a day of dumb text messages ( im sure it was to see if i was pissed) he calls and acted cool. When i asked why he disappeared and what was the reason he says "i had to get away from you to handle some busines, for some reason I can't anything done around you". I knew it was a dumb lie because I'm the only person that lifts him up and encourages him to be all he can. This male scorp is surrounded by family that use him. Some of the comments I read are true, he's secretive, bossy, immature, mean and thinks nothing of snapping at me. Then I'll get calls from him out of nowhere about how much he loves and misses me.
What makes this even worse I found out he's in substance abuse counseling, the man has been lying the whole time he's been with me. When he disappeared i didn't bother to call. When he called me I made it a point not to answer his first few calls. I really think he felt he was playing his cards right but it actually pissed me off. For someone to disappear just to see how much I care is stupid. Now that I'm not chasing him he sends me dumb text messages to pick a fight. This is one scorpio i don't understand.
I’m an Aries woman and had a romance with an Scorpio guy for over a year. We don’t see each other anymore but here and there he sends me an e-mail telling me that I’m never gonna get out of his mind and to ask me not to have sex with anybody. This was a guy who would want me to do whatever he wanted “now” “right away” if not he would ask “why”…It was crazy…so I started demanding the same so…“now” “right away” was my new rule. He got into trying to cope with my demands although it was hard because scorpions want to dominate you not to be dominated. Anyway…I sex was great…all the time now! and right away! He is probably the only man on earth that I would do anything for and I would let him lead our relationship and in way be a little controlled by him…I would have do anything for him….if he would have waited a little longer for me to trust his supposedly love for me. Sadly he left with out me telling him that my heart only belongs to him for the rest of my life. “Life can be better lived and felt in company of an Scorpio man” They are the hottest of the zodiac!
you know what, I've been reading the post because I too was involved with a scorpio man (boy) and he's very much like most of the bad things I've read hear. I read the last post and I want to say this aries and the other women and men that date scorpios...all of us need to love ourselves more. Its seems to me the bad scorpios (all aren't bad) we find so appealing because its like that forbidden cookie so its sweet when we get it...this is borderline sick on our part. Again I'm referring to myself and the people that are with the bad scorpios.
If your scorpio lover is manipulative (ie, i need you know, secretive, possesive in a bad way, disappears and so forth) you have a bad scorpio.
Mine was all that and immature. Women you deserve better. When my scorpio disappeared i didn't cry like i normally would, i felt better and didn't realize his non existence for awhile was healthy. No fights nothing...it was great to be free of that dysfunctional crap i endured with him.
We would fight over nothing, then he would ask me why am i with him that i could be with someone better. Ladies the bad scorpios are insecure. Mine was one of them and to top it off after fighting and making me cry he would apologize and get horny. My tears turned him own...now how sick is that!
Well he resurfaced and guess what while he disappeared I made no attempts to contact him, when he popped up I didn't answer his calls and texts. Then finally i did respond to some texts just to find out he was trying to say mean things to hurt me. This was all about getting my attention ( the wrong kind) he was trying to pull me in. Well I knew that my week of him being gone was a peaceful week. I'm glad i was strong and made the right choice to not chase after him (thats what he wanted because he's the insecure scorpio, again all scorps arent this way but many are).
I believe he wanted me to chase him so he could feel like he has me and that failed.
There's much more to this story and maybe i'll go into great detail on this. Unfortunately what im reading on this blog disturbs me. What's disturbing is how many women on here find this mystery man so fascinating. If a scorpio man wants you (any man for that matter)he'll pursue you and will not put you through this nonsense.
When my scorp disappeared i assumed the worse and you should too. If he's into you he will be there.
I've also read on here that some of the women enjoy being used by a scorpio man for sex yet he won't make you his one and only...grow up please and love yourself...
My situation wasn't that extreme but it was bad enough with the fights...who knows he probably cheated too. My point is this if it feels bad then it is...move on ladies
Sometimes doing the opposite like:
being interested/ take him at a play mate
being honest/ tell him view lies and let him figure out on his own
being intimidated in bed/ fall in sleep
being the little lady/ take a beer and try to challange him with drinking beers
and more...
hi!
i am a cancer female with my moon in aquarius, my rising in pisces, nd my pluto in scorpio. (i as well as the ppl in this story are "mid teens", not teeny but on the brink of being adults). Recently, i had been pursued by a november scorpio guy, and we had dated for about five months...
In the beginning, he was sweet, open and honest, leaving me those "just to say hi" calls and going out frequently to the park, the store...cute little dates. He would confide in me secrets i had never seen him admit to anyone else. He would hold me tenderly, kiss me passionately,(my first kiss actually, i am new to the dating game) nd be the charming, passionate, and romantic man his sign can be.
Our attraction was strong and mutual, and coyly, little by little, i began to hint that i would like to take my sexual interests somewhat further...but he didnt seem interested. In fact, though he wasnt a virgin, he actually wanted to keep it light...REALLY light.
Soon however, after our second date, our relationship soured so hard and fast. He never called me, i was always making plans(which he couldnt be there for, ever) and i began to feel generally miserable. He disregarded me, dismissing my comments and refusing to do as i asked, though hed leap to attention at the EXACT same request from someone else. I was confused, and wondering why this was happening... until one day i met the girl who had been flirting with him for quite some time under y nose.
Shed shake her(ahem, assets) in front of his face and discuss sex so frequently. She was a pisces, a vamp and a whore. I tried to console myself in so many ways. I tried to talk but he was so distant, i found a group of peers who hated her as much as i did, i even spoke to a teen therapist about his behavior, and got an answer which i can only describe as "helpfully unclear".
a few weeks later, i was gently let down by my scorp, because he was leaving or military camp soon and maybe we could work it out when he returned. I took it nicely, and so i imagine it would be no surprise when i called myself single the next day...
but, no no no...this was not the case. He sent me an email on myspace which called me, in so many words, a b!tch, a whore, someone he could never like and in fact, never went out with; it seemed he was just taking me out like he did "for so many of the youth mic girls"(youth mic is a teen radio prgm we both go 2). Immediately after, he deleted me fom his list. He didnt even want me as a friend.
i was SHOCKED, and cried for a half hour...speechless. Nonetheless, i packed my clothes(as i was getting ready for a trip to a camp) and went on. During my three weeks there, i met my current guy, an Aries who couldnt be more perfect for me...
Ready to move on, i went back to the prgm and to my surprise, ran into the scorp almost immediately, noticing his glances. i tried with passion to ignore it. I actually realized my feelings werent so strong, and i was actually the one trying to be more social and friendly than he was. We even hugged goodnight.
Over the next week, i noticed this more and more, and we even had a brief and friendly chat. Now, i am sure he still has feelings for me...and whats more, i still have feelings for him too!!!!(i hate myself for it). Though we are both in relationships (i strongly believe he is now dating the pisces who stole him away), we cant ignore these feelings. Recenty, i spoke to my aries guy, who said "i dnt care as long as u dont have feelings for him." i LOVE my aries man so much but hes far away, and the scorp has me bewildered...can someone please help me???!?!?!?
to the last poster. Your way too young to even be dealing with someone that's so manipulative.
He lost interest in you because you brought sex up first...he's a kid like you, but men mature later then women do. That has a lot to do with his reaction to you.
Most men (especially scorpios) like to pursue and ask for sex first. So that's why he's turned off by you. Any interest he's showing you is because your not pursuing him. He likes to chase not be chased. Many people disregard the rules book but I think it helps a woman (especially young women) how to exercise self control. Its not about playing games, although your gonna learn that men play the rules with women all the time without knowing they are.
Rule of thumb:
1. let them call you
2. Get off the phone first
3. don't seem too interested
4. take care of yourself
5. Stop all this crying over someone that doesn't respect you.
and the list could go on but you get my point. Just take it from an older lady that has seen more then you have for the time being.
I am a pisces married to a scorpio man...we dated for 6 years before getting married. We went through a whole lotta drama before we got here. Like others say, he was a sex maniac and does what he wants to do. Also, I don't know if this is true to most scorpio men, but he was such a flirt! He loved attention from other women. I was sooo inlove with him at first because of his sweet side so I would fight with him after seeing his text messages to other women (flirting) but I could never find the strength to actually leave him or not take his calls. He was hot and cold...we would be happy inlove one day, then the next, he would never call unless you call him. We actually moved in together and tried having a family since I was pregnant. He was in his mid-20's but very young at heart that some nights he would not come home and not pick up his cell phone when I call him. I can only imagine where he was. A month after I had the baby, he left because we were arguing a lot.
Although we weren't together, we tried to work it out by dating again. I shed so many tears for that man before I realized I deserved so much better. I havent heard from him for a while and I got so tired of our relationship that when he finally called, I told him I found someone else (but I really didnt). He cried like a baby and wouldn't stop calling me all night. The next morning I found all 4 of my tires slashed. I guess it finally dawned on him that I was gone...I've moved on, and he was mad. He continued to call me numerous times a day leaving messages where he was crying...but I ignored them all. After a couple of weeks, he didn't call as much anymore and he seemed to have accepted that we were done as well. We stayed friendly for the sake of our child. One day he mentioned he has found a new girlfriend as well. It hurt me because I thought he finally realized he loved me...and specially when I wasn't with anyone else. But I swallowed my feelings and wished him the best with this relationship and told him to treat her better. After a week of them dating, he sent me a text message saying "I still love you". I told him that he's doing it again, can't be satisfied with one woman. Then he later showed up in my apartment begging me to take him back, that he's nothing without me. Ever since then he has been devoted. I guess I just had to be more elusive, show him I can be on my own, and show him that I'm not weak.
Now he is a loving, caring and devoted husband (although still a sex maniac). He likes videogames, I guess that's his "space", but he likes sex more so if you want him to spend more time with you, walk around in a sexy lingerie. Once a scorpio falls inlove, he falls in love deeply.
hi,I am a Pisces woman living with a Scorpio man.I think I love him and hate him in the same time,it is like a sado-masochist relationship.I could be calm,gentle, this is me inside but he won't let me.So I thought instead of crying my soul out, let him do that.I decided to learn from him and to win over him with his own weapons.I care a lot about him but he will never know that.I do not want to please him anymore, it is him who has to do that.
So I am a very passionate Virgo who caught the attention of a explosive Scorpio I mean this guy was just insane and I loved that he was so different. I chased me for a while where he would text me non stop and flat out told me he liked me and wanted to be with me. Me being a Virgo and loving all the attention kept playing the game where I wanted to see how far he would go and I finally gave him because I feel for him. The sex was amazing! After we had sex I felt like he was not into me anymore because he began to keep his distance and has insane mood swings when one day he would talk to me and flirt with me non stop and another day he woulnt even say hello. This went on for about 3 months and within the 3 months we slept together 2 more times which again was amazing. I just not ever figure out if he liked me still because whenever he felt like talking to me he did and when he didnt want to he wouldnt. Now I am a Virgo and I don't take a guy that I am interested in ignoring me for no reason very well . It had been 3 weeks that we didnt talk but he just again began to talk to me and flirting with me but in a very safe way. We spent some time together but both times he didnt not really try anything with me and me being stubborn didnt try either. he made plans with me but canceled once and that drives me crazy because as we all know Virgos are very scheduled and like to have things in order. He is completely insane and drives me insane but I don't know what to do to get him to be the guy where I first met where he was insanely running after me and wouldn't stop showing me affection. I talk to him now but I still can't tell if he is into me or if hes playing games or what. Please someone help because I'm going crazy.
Hi Virg00,
Leave him alone, he has someone else. This is what's happening while the other woman knows how to manage him, he's managing you on a leash. You have a leash relationship and anytime he wants to jerk the chain here you come. What makes you crazy in this situation is how he gives you enough to pull you in and then backs off completely from you.
Its a game that "some" men play well. Your not the one he wants your someone convenient. He has someone else. Love yourself and walk away.
so true
I met a scorpio male on dating site, at first i wasn't that interested because we live about ten hours apart, I told him i was just interested in being friends, well he pursued me and i was like wow ok he's very persistent, So after exchanging numbers he called when he said he would i wasn't too optomistic, but we arranged a weekend to meet and he would be coming down to stay the weekend at my place, which i was very open as i hadn't dated in some time, We'll we hit it off, he was exactly as i've read here 'too good to be true'
He even met my friends and family, Which they thought he was nice not like the men i usually date, I couldn't believe my luck he was what i was looking for, at least that's what i thought at time.. So after he left that same night he called when he got home, and the calls just kept coming, this guy could talk for hours nonstop, talking bout how great everything was, how we had same things in common, after a few weeks of talking and planning the next weekend together, which would be that very week, and how he was looking forward to that date, poof the very next day, He sends me an email appologizing that it would not work out between us, for this and that reason no explanation just the long distance thing, which i told him at first wouldn't work remember he pursued me...As an aries woman I'm not one to take rejection, I dont seek revenge, Of course i was shocked and didn't get mad just asked him for further explanation on how do you go from hot hot hot to deep freeze with not going into any details or explanation, I decided to remain friends with him for my own reasons thought he might iopen up a little more, but he's very aloof to this day, I know he;s the loner type doesn't have many friends, and has been cheated on in past, Not sure if he's just not interested or is he into playing games.
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