How to know if an Aries man is rejecting you
If there is one sign that is straight and to-the-point, that cuts through the bullshit and tells you like-it-is, that sign is Aries. Aries doesn't care how you feel -- either you meet his needs, or you don't.You can understand Aries better by looking at Libra, his opposite. If a Libra man is rejecting you, he will do it in the nicest way possible. Libra will make sure to cushion the blows by mentioning all of your positive qualities. He can see all parts of you, good and bad, and he's graceful enough not to focus primarily on the negatives, although he won't neglect to mention those too. (How else would he be balanced?) He'll reject you in a manner that makes you feel like you received a compliment, but that there was something in there that felt like a little cut ... you just can't quite place it.
So be grateful you're being turned down by an Aries, instead. If he's not interested, he'll tell you so. No hedging, no cushions. The Aries package does not include empathy and sensitivity. If you're gonna get rejected, isn't it best to take all the ambiguity out of it?
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 2/12/2007
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How do you NOT know when an Aries is rejecting you?!!
Why, that's a good question! It deserves a topic of its own. Stay tuned...
Im a Scorpio
and i like an Aries.
We are really good friends.
He calls me everyday.
But he txt me asking if i liked him i txt back 'as a friend'.
I know i should of told the truth that i liked him more than a friend
but i didn't know if you felt the same way.He stopped callin n txting me
A couple of months after that We were sitting at a table. I said to him he should go out with 1 of our friends (i named her) He kept asking why?
i didn't have an ansewer. He looked at me and than said ' what dont you like me?' i smiled at him hopeing it would give it away but he looked blankly at me. I said 'never mind' and walked off.
What made it even worse was one of my friends he didn't know kept hugging me and i think i made him cry :( I asked him what was wrong but he wouldn't tell me. The only time hes called was to see if i was alight from the punch up he got into (different story)
Iam confused.
Critdal,
You need to be willing to take risks to get what you want, and even be willing to court rejection. It does not appear that being passive with this Aries is serving you.
i'm a libra and involved in a lesbian relationship with an aries.
i dated her like i've never dated anyone before, i did it totally traditional. i didn't sleep with her right away, it was lots of romance, conversation, pda's, etc. it was my perfect idea of a relationship.
she told me that she wondered if this was in fact, "too perfect." I said the same thing.
finally i was worried the relationship might turn platonic, so i slept with her before i wanted to. ugh. it was the roughest, rowdiest, sex of my life, and she could have kept going! it was nothing like what we had been doing before, it wasn't romantic at all. it was very harsh, and unfulfilling. although i learned some new things :) lol. libra always likes to learn.
anyway, we kind of faltered after that, like we suddenly had nothing to say to each other. we tried again on another occassion, and it was all hot and heavy and romantic again, but the sex this time was tooo languid, and we both just kind of gave up on it!
this has never ever ever happened to me!!! i have never had a crappy time in bed. omg. i'm still so horrified by it all.
here comes the rejection part, she left me for her ex-gf a taurus, who is butch, (i'm femme) and said she prefers butches. holy blow to the ego. she refuses to talk to me, it's like she turned off a water spigot. as a libra, i view this as a total failure on my part, and at least want to remain friends, but she barely gives me the time of day...and she had been soooooo affectionate and kind, and loving. so how we can't be friends is beyond my comprehension.
if i ever date another aries someone please slap me. they are evil.
Libra that dated an Aries woman.
I don't find Aries evil--headstrong, yes.Brash, yes.
But, I didn't want to cooment on that--what probably happened has more to do with her (lack of) finesse.
I'm a Libra.And I prefer to be on good terms with others, especially those with whom I had a good love affair with.
But Aries isn't necessarily going to do that..
I understand the feelings, as a Libra, of dismay that the sex wasn't really OK.
But think of it too--you slept with her before you were ready--that is something to take responsibility for too.
Whether you know it or not, you went into it, not wanting to do it, really.
This woman isn't really right for you, imo.You're hurt that she cut you right off--but I suspect she knows you were not thrilled with the love-making, and really, with her..
However, I have a feeling you haven't seen the last of her.
I won't smack you if you date another Aries, but do think twice next time.:-)
critdal--why one earth don't you tell him??
Libra,
Not all Aries are evil. Consider that this Aries woman has many other planets that figure into how she deals with relationships. Also, proserpine has a good point about taking responsibility for jumping into bed prematurely.
Sometimes they jump straight to ignoring.
Then when you ask for an explanation, they're perplexed and give you a brash answer.
Depends on the mood I guess.
Also maybe on if they have any respect or need to conquer you.
no i havent been rejected by an aries but ive kissed or had sex with and rejected 42 guys myself and im a aries woman!
but if i do reject sum1 ill do it in the nicest possible way
If you really counted... you are a true Aries...
I've rejected more... but I'm a Cancer, I don't give a damn...
LOL @ exclusion.blue "If you really counted... you are a true Aries..."
You know Aries has to keep score. Otherwise, how does she know who's winning/won? ;)
Ya, I know, lol.
But in love matters... what's the discipline they're winning in?
snow white says
I like an aries man, we are the same age we like the same music, although my sign is cancer I am more like a gemini, infact I would say I am a gemini, I told this man I liked him but no big deal because sex is sex, he was really nice about it, he cuddled me held my hand and waited for me, for some reason, I walked with him to the club where his new girlfriend works, we cuddled, I wish I had snogged him, but worried that he would get in trouble with his girlfriend, I like him alot, but its not love, does anyone think hes interested.
exblue, it doesn't matter WHAT they're winning, as long as they think/know they're winning. :)
ms. gemini-inside-a-cancer's-body,
yea, he probably likes you. aries guys don't bother with people they don't like (even if the liking is just temporary).
Im a Gem Female..My Aries comes and goes ....I guess the fact that I dont chase keeps him coming back all the time . He keeps me on my toes never know when hes coming or going....so I can never forget him...which is why He always gets a warm welcome form me...and the cycle continues! We can both run hot or cold at any given time so this arrangement works for us... Did I mention how exciting and great it is... We are in love strange as it may seem but free at the same time...mmmmmmm... We are also great friends....could it get any better. I think not! Happy happy joy joy.
I am a Libra woman and I was dating an Aries man. Until last week I didn't see the quick tempered hot headed stubborn egotistical side of him. We got into a little tiff. I said something that apparently hurt his feelings (ego) and now he wont speak to me. This has happened between us before and a week later when it passed we got back together. This time its been almost 2 weeks and he's still avoiding me. Time is of the essence. We live in the same neighbourhood. I know he cares about me alot but if i continue on with his lead and be as stubborn as he then I fear I'll never see or hear from him again. Does anyone have any suggestions of how I might go about initiating another chase, or how I can win him back subtly? I now realize that I might have to be the one doing the pride swallowing, and I'm ok with that as long as he doesn't know what I'm up to.
In stong like of an Aries man, I am a Sag women.We've known eachother for 8 months no sex, talk for hours, went on a road trip I know his mom was there, but we could have done it in the car. Slept in the bed together for 7 days I turned my back on him the first time we slept in the same bed he made small passes,he always gives me compliments and says I am his type why haven't we gone there to a more passionate place even relationship
I know that it has been months since this topic was originally discussed. I have a question tho about compatibility between pisces female and aries male. We have been friends for many years..I divorced first, he was my shoulder, and now him. There has always been alot of chemistry..and we are now going to go on our second "date". First one, we got physical but did not go all the way, Neither of us wanted that especially him. He is very emotional and sentimental for an Aries, his birthday is actually right on the cusp of Pisces. I am a TRUE Pisces woman, with sun, moon, and ascending in Pisces. I have not been able to find out his birth time to do his chart...is there a chance?? We seem to have a strong psychic connection as well. We talk every couple months, I let him contact me..we seem to keep connecting. PLEASE HELP anyone!!! :)
I am Gemini Women dating an Aries man. I have been seeing him for about ten months now. I still don't see any signs of him wanting something more exclusive. I met his family and he has met mine but still nothing. I like every thing about him from his cockyness to his big heart, but he can be sometimes cruel with words. One thing i hate is the he will get lost for a few days, especially after we had a great weekend together. It's like his world is all about him and he doesn't even consider my feelings. I want to tell him how I feel but I know how Aries men can be and I don't want to push him away with my mushy feelings. Any advice please?
"How do you NOT know...?" - 1st, I thought this was a double negative... then, I figured it was paradoxical... a young Aries woman would always say to me, "it's clear! it's simple!"
Critdal who "...smiled at him hoping it would give it away ...he looked blankly" - Aries assumes everyone likes them ...most won't pick up a queue if you poke 'em in between their horns ...let alone if you use subtlety... it's elementary
"he wouldn't tell you" - if you ask a child to explain why they behaved a certain way, they don't know why, or how to word it... for 30 years I've dealt with an Arien father, he couldn't articulate his vulnerabilities, his feelings, or that you punctured his bubble... he'd die rather than admit you hurt him... they're like dormant volcanoes... bottle it all up (even if they trust you)... it's to be expected...
the aforementioned Arien girl gave me one rule, "I will talk about anything, but me..."
To Anon. Libra Femme, "they're evil" - if an Arien lets you into their flock, they will lavish upon you, and dutifully focus their energy towards pleasing you... and they gladly do it... if they don't care about you, they won't care...
To Anon. Aries who "rejects sum1 in the nicest possible way" - does this situation count? By nice, do you mean you'd give me a tender steak to nurse my black eye? :-)
To blahblah - if Aries thinks they've WON, they'll lose interest...
To snow white - what is it with women who chase men who are spoken for?
To Anon. Libra woman - the silent treatment is one of their ploys... they know it generates friction...
it's in their nature to avert confrontation with a person they care about...
To Indi - you don't get Aries, they get you... if Aries doesn't want it, it won't happen...
To Anon. Pisces female - your story is eerily similar to mine... Pisces guy who'd shared time with Aries gal on the cusp... In chemistry, you're looking to mix perfume... Aries is looking for an explosive reaction... "there a chance?" Always... I hope you have shark's skin... and his planet's fall in your sign...
To Anon. Gem Woman - they forget their "cruel words" 5 min. later... sometimes they don't even realize those words rolled from their lips.... if "he get's lost", afford him that freedom... my mom, Libra/Moon Aries, learned an Aries man does not want mental exercise from a balanced mind... or a quick-witted one like yours... their stimulation comes from their own initiatives...
Chip you are ever a kaleidoscope of colorful random thoughts, settling like stardust in the windmills of your mind . . .
I'M DIZZY BABY!
I need answers
I recently met this Aries dude online, and he knows one of my friends. I actually wanted to meet him way before when she told me about him and I was gonna get his number and everything. Except being the demure little Cancer that I am, I said no. I moved away to the US and that's when I met him. We talked for a bit and he seemed really into me. I mean REALLY into me...
But now, it's been a few months and we barely talk anymore. Everytime I message him, he's always depressed and rarely has anything to say.
IDK what to do. I know for a fact that he had a girlfriend throughout the summer and then broke up with her. He told me. Then he hooked up with a friend. He didn't tell me about that. I figured it out. There was enough picture evidence. I know, this sounds so weird and I feel like such a tard for reading into it so much but he's just so cute and I thought there could be something. Plus, I was gonna make a visit back to my country and I thought maybe we could chill but it doesn't seem as if I'll ever get a chance now.
I am a cancerian woman dating an aries man. Need I say more? Basically, I have a headache and I'm really considering calling it off. I try not to over think things, but you know, that's what I do. The aries man does not have a difficult time saying what he wants (which I like that about him) he just hasn't told me what he wants from me. We see each other on a weekly basis and although he hasn't "rejected" me, I found today a myspace page of his in which he continues to market himself as single and has about 12 woman on his "friends" list ranging from trashy looking to classy looking. We've only been dating for about 6 weeks, but I'm thinking it has been 6 weeks too long. When I first met him, my first thought was, "Run! Run like hell and don't look back!" I should have listened to my gut. Now I find I really like to guy, but as I mentioned, I now have a big headache.
I am a Gem and I met an aries guy, about 7 months ago, I did not give him my number at first and he works away so when he got back 2 months later, he managed to get my number and randomly called me one morning out of the blue!
I did not really take him on and did not end up meeting up before he went away again.
2 months on and I get a message from his friend asking for my email address, whilst he was abroad. I did not give in until about 3 weeks ago. We sent a couple of emails, until he returned 2 weeks ago. I went to meet him last Tuesday, had a laugh and a really good time. One thing led to another, and I am kind of regretting it all now. Since that night I have heard nothing! I just don’t understand he persisted so long and now there is no communication. I know his leave is up next week, and he will be gone again. I cannot work out if he likes me or not? Its so strange, should I just face it he has lost interest or is this some game?
I am a Virgo female and have been seeing an Aries man for a little over 7 months. It has been very difficult to keep up with the relationship. At firs he was so adorable, sweet, caring and then I saw his bad temper and the the ability to say the most horrible things when he is angry. Which he will later apologize and say that he did not mean it, he tells me that he loves me and nevers misses a goodnight text or a goodmorning text, but sometimes he is so cold towards me. Can I take this as a rejection or am I just reading to much into things, when we are together he is sweet and gives me all attetion possible, although our signs say that we are bad for each other. Any comment will be helptful.
Thank you
@Anonymous Virgo female, some Aries are just so impulsive that their anger just comes out regardless of its impact on others. When someone says "I didn't mean it" it basically means, "That was a fleeting aggressive thought that we all have, it's just that most people are good at keeping them under wraps." Aries lets his aggression out, and then it's done and over with, and it doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
Thank for responding, but I still don't know if to continue this relationship or let it go. I am sweet and caring and his cold side gets to me. I have read so much on Aries and Virgo and I am starting to think its true, I just can't figure him out.
I won't tell you what to do. If he's cold and you need warmth, you have to factor that into your decision-making process. But I don't think consulting Sun sign astrology will help you out. I doubt you can associate his coldness with being an Aries, anyway. Maybe he has Venus in Aquarius or something.
If an Aries Man is going through a divorce and has a girlfriend, but flirts with you how do you know if he is just flirting and nothing else?
Hey. I'm a scorpio female and i met an aries several years back. There was a mutual attraction and a genuine affinity between us. The only thing was that he didn't tell me he had a girlfriend. When I found out, he was very casual about it and started ignoring me everytime she was around. Eventually we were both ignoring each other but we would always be looking at each other even when she was there. One time he saw me with a guy friend of mine and was very upset about it. I don't see him anymore but i contacted him online recently and he wasn't interested in talking but he did stage a whole fit about the situation although it was already 3 years later and I had not even mentioned it to him. He was upset that I never spoke to him. I kept writing him after but he wouldn't reply. This aries has a lot of pisces in his chart, as well as his venus while my venus is in scorpio and i have a lot of saggitarius I think that might be why we got along. I was wondering whether him being defensive was a sign that he still cares about me or whether it just meant he was aggressively brushing me off. I really couldn't tell and I feel like I still might like him.
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