My Pisces man left me. Will he come back?
Mercury goes retrograde in Pisces the day before Valentine's. When Mercury apparently moves backwards in the sky, unfinished business comes back for resolution. We "re"-turn to old matters. Since it's happening in Pisces*, your ex may come back ... at the very least to rehash the reasons why he left you.Mercury retrograde has a bad rap for communications gone awry. However, it's good for revisiting the past. If your Pisces man returns to talk, clear up any confusion, shatter any delusions. His ruling planet, Neptune, is being challenged right now by Saturn, god of hard, cold reality. Illusions are being shattered until summer, and you have the opportunity to distinguish fantasy from fact.
*Mercury moves back into Aquarius on Feb. 26, and returns into Pisces on March 18.
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 1/19/2007
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Coming from a fish..he'll be back
August 18,2007
My Pisces man left me and after three weeks, he came back which confuses me because he has a new gf, why? That I don't know exactly...
HD
he never went away... he's swimming at a distance...
why did he come back?... like the ping from a submarine... the echo although faint... is always there...
your decision is whether to make yourself emotionally available to him...
My man says that it's over because I've lied to him (which is true, but I deeply regret it). He came back before 4 or 5 times we had a fight. But will he be back this time? I really love this man. /from virgo
...depends on the depth of the lie
...have you asked for forgiveness?
...does he know how you feel?
...ask if he's willing to work on what you share
waitin' for someone you love takes its toll... there are no guarantees... and if he knows your waiting... you may find yourself in what I call, "indefinite postponement"...
trust your senses... they'll tell you if he comes back...
The nice thing about Pisces men is they are the only sign who comes back "to talk." Really talk. They really do crave resolution and to end things with a good feeling. They have a natural sense of compassion and respect for a woman's emotion, and are more than willing to hear you out.
The rest come back to you-know-what and you're lucky if they hear a word you said prior to hitting the bed
My ex pisces man asked me to move on with my life after his ex gf of 2 yrs, decided to rock back into his life 6 months after she dumped him which was 2 months into our relationship.He is cute and caring but is confused as I realised when he couldnt make up his mind over me and his ex both whom he had asked to be his wife..He said he loved me and that he needed me and that he yearned for all the love I showered him with all his life and that he didnt want to lose me.But over a month he started getting quiet after his ex started contacting him and he started telling me he was being haunted by his past and that he was not over his ex gf. He started escaping..
I am Piscean, attractive and successful gal, who have many men around me but i am in search of a man who can truly love me and care for me.I thought when he made these promises that he was the one..but now that the trust is broken,after crying a lot,I have decided to move on. He is a lost soul who can't decide on the woman he loves and is easily swept by his emotions, in an unstable job and now is probably even deciding to go back to the woman who left him once.I was confused but I realise that it is not my fault and that I cant be kept hanging there while he sorts things out.He handles problems poorly and runs away from potential problems.He says he is always drowning in his troubles and he wished I could rescue him from everything.He has big dreams that he can probably never acheive because he is always dragged by his problems.
He contacted me recently after a month we broke up, but i have decided to stay out of touch of all contact.Our relationship was so passionate, that I felt we were made for each other but short lived because of his confusion. I have a feeling he will come back and explain himself to me...but that would only be a fairytale which means a miracle must come true this Christmas..
well let's just hope he doesn't get "emasculated" in the process ;) you need a fully-functioning man not a noodle
lmao@Anon... nice play on E's words...
"only sign who comes back to talk" - he's there to salvage unless he believes all is lost...
"craves resolution" - he won't find answers if that relationship had meaning... just more questions...
To All Women...
Why is it "he" who has to come back???... Why do I have to read it on a post that "he" is who you want???... Why not tell him???
To Em,
Several years ago, I ended it... couple of weeks after, I initiated the reunion with my Ex... why? out of regret... out of guilt... to realize a promise... to content my heart... a few years later, it predictably failed...
now, that being said, I have witnessed relationships where two people were separated... and consummated a second time... and they grew in appreciation of what they shared...
I would never tell anyone to wait... it may not be a profitable investment of time... in the end, it is a choice...
"I am in search" - I smirked... would you even uncover that treasure if you were given a map?
"lost soul" - point to someone who is not lost, or in need of some soul...
"unstable job" - do you ever ask, "why do people who are so well anchored seek radical experiences?"
"not my fault" - both need to accept responsibility... wounded pride... mutual apprehension... lack of communication... infringement on personal freedoms... whatever the crux... he "escaped" to another... you chose solice in tears... sounds fishy... each decide upon a less painful 'resolution' *mockingly*
"handles problems poorly" - you had a joint problem... your partnership... now, has a problem been identified?... sure, you can argue, "the other woman", "his confusion", "his overwhelming emotion"... affinity (if you adhere to Joseph Campbell's creed) is a new entity... if it is about the relationship, it is a distinct living, thriving organism (not about the individual)... you can only attempt the cure if you know the illness...
"runs away", "drowning in troubles", "he wished I could rescue him" - Saving? Safe? Who is the typical Piscean in your thread?
Em... you can only have a race if there are at least two runners...
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i was with a pisces man for about 6years and he made me the happiest woman alive .. we didnt fight argue.. he spoiled me and took care of me as much as i did him.. we were the perfect match ... until we started having financial problems and he refused to talk to me or communicate... he distanced himself from me totally.. no sex, he didnt want to look at me or let alone be in the same house with me.. we split up about 3 months later... i moved 2 hours away from him and now its been about a year and half and throughout this year and a half he has called me and i have called him and he states he loves me and wants to marry me and have a child and happy family but when i ask him when he plans on making this "dream" a reality he states he doesnt know... there are few times he calls me on his own... and few times he answers my calls or texts..... he can go weeks with out calling me.. whats going on and why does he tell me all the "beautiful" things but doesnt rush to return to me? anything you can tell me?
Sounds to me like he's playing the female, waiting for you to propose to him. Whoever has the money has the power, and he's hoping it's you. Is this the kind of man you really want?
remember, you need a fully-functioning man, not a noodle
To Anonymous,
You are looking for answers based on your vague accounts...
Did you pressure this Pisces man to produce financially?
Did you place certain expectations on him that he was not prepared to accept?
Were either of you prepared to cope with conflict when you were accustomed to a bed of roses?
I've been accused of withdrawing... sometimes it occurs when I focus on a new task... sometimes it happens when I lack confidence in my partner to help (esp. if she's failed me)... sometimes it happens when I seek emotional resolution to a situation... sometimes it happens when a comment, or action triggers past inequities...
after 6 years, I'd suspect you'd observed under which circumstances he sought solitude...
when you're accustomed to internalizing (like most Piscarians), there is a misconception that external counsel is erring...
Victoria is right when she says, "he's playing the female"... any woman who has genuine interest in a Pisces male, needs to welcome this... she needs to intuitively know when she can overstep her bounds, and take the reins...
We also learned in grade school that it takes two magnets with like polarity to repel... if he "distanced himself", so did you... by at least 2 hours...
BTW, Vicky - Money is not power; power cannot be wielded, you can only empower...
To Wok with Anonymous,
...did you ever notice that the Picean band looks like a noodle?
...one fish is a boy, and the other is woman ...so, why would you look for a man, here?
I dunno Chip, when you flash that cash you often get action
money makes the world go round, the world go round, the world go round, of that I am quite sure . . .)
else I wouldn't bother working so hard for it (ugh)
Badnoozbetty,
I'm glad that "flashing cash" has paid dividends for you...
:-)
BTW, I never said that money doesn't buy you certain luxuries in life... ;-)
when I saw the comment, I flashed back to Scarface...
"In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women."
...but, then, we all know what happened to Tony Montana... lol
at the risk of taking this blog in a different direction, I was intrigued because you can always count on a Scorpio to mention power...
...to turn the focus back on topic
most Pisces do not come back into a partnership because the are looking to relinquish power or control, or to exert it...
although having a sugar mamma can be beneficial, most fish won't re-enter a relationship under that guise...
(unless they are strongly aspected in a traditionally materialistic sign)...
in my limited opinion, confusion with Piscean conduct arises from the fact that we don't conform to what is considered a 'normal standard'
you got that right
only sign wierder than Pisces is Aquarius (or is it the other way around?)
I had a piscies man wipe me off my feet and came back to talk....Like someone else he had a girlfriend...But one thing about the piscies man is that he ginuinely wants to be friends and help you grow as a person .....friendship like his is hard to come across...he's loving sensitive and real. You wont be able to get over him. But the passion from the relationship is surreal
He left me after we had an awful summer.
Things were distant, and he was going away to school in a different province.
he promised he'd work through things with me after he left, but the phone calls and e-mails became less and less until he told me that it wasn't working and that he found somebody else.
Two agonizing months later he sends me a beautiful e-mail telling me that he was lying to himself, that she isn't me, nor will she ever be, and that he had to lie to himself the whole time to remain in a relationship with this girl.
I'm of course, really happy with this decision.
I was really hoping he'd come back, because we seem perfect for each other.
Having a Venus in Gemini myself, it's very odd for me to find myself so attached and never bored by someone.
And coming from a Venus in Aquarius guy to say "I want to marry you when I'm older" really means a lot too.
He also came back to talk periodically when he was dating her. He genuinely wanted to be my friend still.
we've arrived at a fork in the road...
"will he come back" to the relationship?
"will he come back" as a friend?
...these are two totally different aspects (pun intended)
If coming back in friendship means a selfless act, generosity, being equitable, and liberal without judging... then, you should gravitate towards an individual with Aquarian energies...
Anonymous,
"Pisces genuinely wants to help you grow as a person"... Did you deduce this?... *grinning ear to ear*
You also became his friend because he can "grow as a person" through your interaction... he consciously or unconsciously knows this...
I call this mutual reception ;-)(puns are killing me today)
My Soliloquy,
Here's a fallacy - Pisceans are light-hearted... I don't get why you would expect the friendship to be.
If you prune and graft a fruit tree, it branches out in a new direction... it will expand, shift its orientation, flourish, and ripen its yield...
Pisceans will clip a friend like a gardener would a tree...
Based on personal experience, if I were to "cut you off" (from a relationship, your goal, a tangible reality, etc.), it would be seen as fishy interference, imposing my will, and manipulating your feelings
So, if the road most travelled for you is easy, don't get involved with a Piscean... you won't have to pine about him coming back
Alice,
With Pisces, everyone fogets those bands, those knots, and tangles...
A fish's friendship require a 'net of some kind'... who holds that net is irrelevant... you need to determine what the "catch is", and who is catching
The Pleasure of My Company (a must read),
Does the tide roll in, or does it roll out?
Astronomy/Gravity says, "look to the moon"... I'm certain astrology would make a similar leap...
so, look at the moon if you want to know if he'll come crashing back into your life, or if he'll undulate along your shores...
Alice, the man feels an emotional and mental and intuitive connection with you. He feels like he can be himself with you, and this feels good.
Because you live far away from each other in the meantime he was being practical, and found himself a new girlfriend. Better to have a so-so car you can actually drive than a top-notch model that sits in your garage halfway across the country.
Of course he doesn't want to lose that nice car parked in that garage. So when he finally gets around to (1) living in the same neighborhood and (2) affording the license and (3) being able to put gas in the tank, he'll do just that. Drive the car.
In the meantime, he's making sure no one else is putting miles on the odometer.
My Pisces girl left me and i am a cancer male. we had a relation for about 4 years. it was a long distance relation like on net but we grew alot close to each other. we had many arguments and quarrels. i think i always felt insecure. i do regret that. its been like 2 weeks i have trying to contact her trying to be close to her back she is totally fed up of me. i dunno how can i get her back it feels life is impossible with out her. we had many fights before to but she was always back. mostly fights were because of her lies without reason and i was always trying to find out the truth. the other was to make her parents agreed for our marriage. she left me with the reason that her parents are not agreeing which isn't a fact and she said she has dreams like study and stuff that she has to fulfill. i tried to calm her down and we were so close to marriage that everything was pushed so much that she has changed her option of being with me. when ever i try talking about it she just says to stop it just be friends thats it even i cant live with out u we just have to be friends but no talk on such things. can anyone help me out in any kind of advise in this on how to get her back and and make things better. i tried every possible way but she keeps ion hurting me and hurting herself emotionally a lot.
Anon.,
I've experienced similar relationships...
It is most difficult when you know the place she has in your heart, but she may not be sure if she shares the same feelings...
you need to let her go...
if in her mind she doesn't observe the same intimacy that you do, you will not change her will...
you can walk away, and see if she comes back... you can accept her offer, and be friends... but, it's up to you...
she may not be ready for you, now...
in the end, you need to do what's best for you...
most people regardless of sign don't like to be pushed around... especially, when it comes to committment
it's your decision... at this time, she's putting herself 1st, her parents 2nd, and you out of the picture...
until she sees that you represent meaning to her, and that she's willing to rise above the obstacles you mention, there's little influence over her...
so, don't push unless you're looking to push her away...
even if you're intuitive or sensitive to her thoughts/emotions... and could be right about her... she may consciously defy you, or deny you because she's not ready...
I have been dating a Pisces, gemini rising , I am a capricorn, aries rising.
We have been having a loving relationship since November 2006. This relationship has been a committed loving relationship where he has included me with his friends and family, and last Christmas we spent the Christmas holiday together with his two sons.
He is very passionate about his work and has left very little time for our relationship, being happy to see me only once or twice a week From September to about Novemeber we faught a couple of times about the little time he was spending with me, but I finally gave up that battle and accepted him for who he was and the time he could give me. But I'm afraid I made an impression on him that I am unhappy, and that hasn't gone away.
On January 22nd, (I have read that the eclipse can be felt one month in advance...) I asked him what he felt about living together to open a discussion of our future together. He was quite brutal with me (defensive and not listenning) and said flat out no. I told him I felt frustrated in a relationship that did not evolve and as we were both getting angry, I left the conversation in hopes that we would calm down to talk about it when we were more reasonable.
I didn't hear from him for two weeks which is very unusual. When we finally did talk, on Feb 17th he was very cold with me saying he wanted to take a break from our realtionship. He felt he could not make me happy and things between us could only go bad as he is unable to give me what I want. He was convinced too that in our last conversation I had broken up with him, which I would never do! Even though I explained this to him and that I was okay with the idea of not living together, he would not hear of it.
I am confused and hurt. I thought we had a wonderful relationship. I was wondering if breakups that occured becasue of the Lunar Eclips of Feb 20th were as final as I seem to read they are or is there reconcilation in the air astrologically in the comming months?...thanks!
my pisces decided tonight that he only wanted to be my friend. we had a great sexual and emotional relationship but then again i am a scorpio so we are compatible but i hope and pray i get him back in the romantic way because i am so much in love with him.
Hi! I let go my boyfriend ( a pisces) as he lately was withrawing although he was claiming that all is well!
Is it so hard for pisces to make up their mind on what thay want and is a lot of space a characteristic?
Thanks Chip for your reply...So I now write again 5months after I had broken up with him and guess what...all that I predicted came true...He came crawling back after just a month claiming that I did not deserve what he put me through and that he still wanted to be my friend:> What's new ? We knew..that is what a Pisces man would do rite? I refused...
Told him that I didnt meet him as a friend. He then started saying that he missed me etc..and that he was really sorry...I refused to answer his smses over 5 months only if sporadically...We met once or twice and I told him that if we get back together then that we are planning to get married..*There I said it* and its not that he didnt know that already...He keeps saying this..Ur a Gem...Ur a good girl..I care about and only want ur happiness...but time and again his inability to work towards making our relationship is slow and directionless and he claims no responsibility for the way he does.
Soon after, a week agao, as I was getting a little agitated that this has been dragging for months and that he really was sorry and wanted me back..I decided to put him to the test subtly.* The only way I could find out his real intent*.
I gave him an ultimatum that i was going to move on with a guy my dad had introduced to me..which made him panic and he willingly volunteered to meet my dad and let him know of our secret draggy affair that had no direction nor conclusion. This amazed me as i though he would escape and call it quits. I kept my cool and was willing to observe what was in store..He started panicking thruout the week and was prob hoping that I rescue him frm the willing offer he made to speak to my dad, which he felt as a threat of commitment and true enough..He started freaking out.
After discussing with his GodBrother who overprotects him only for his best as he was the one who found him a career only when he was almost 30..was upset over the fact that his priorities in life was shaken again. Using this as an excuse, he said its best to perhaps move on with our lives...I was laughing to myself...as I only knew that this was what I totally expected. After months of genuine words of care n love and no sex and when he had to stand up for me..he could not do it..
He left me once...and now twice...though were technically not together anyway. He lost my trust when he left me for his ex...Acyually, he didnt even go back to her...She created havock for alil while and guess what she told him again that it was over btwn them! He got dumped twice over a women, he loved and she didnt care and kinda used him. I told him...." U didn't mean it when u said that it would be painful never to see me gain..." U lied..Pls never contact me again. Gdbye.Even then he claimed that he meant what he said..He knows I really care for him but I couldnt live my life...wondering if he would ever leave me again...And I think we all know the truth...He is a pisces man..He will..
I dont trust anyone now. No one more schemeing than a pisces man who steals your trust and walks away wanting you to feel that he did his best when he did nothing but run from corner to corner. Without a doubt he is a downstream fish while I am upstream.
For the genuine person that I am I know I deserve better and this time..there were no tears..But oh well I am only A Pisces woman...:)
EMASCULATA
I've traced through this blog... and much of my material personifies the typical Piscean... it is abstract, and obtuse... it embodies undigested simile, metaphor, open-end thoughts...
at the risk of contradicting myself... here goes...
To JRocco,
Astologists will uneqivocally tell you that planetary energies are a force to be conscious of... by no means are they definite... why point to the Lunar Eclipse as a "fated outcome"?...
if you are looking to reconcile a relationship, move in that direction... if it doesn't happen, it's likely that both of you did not want it to work...
To Anon.,
"Is it hard for Pisces to make up their mind"?
No.
"Is a lot of space a char"?
Yes.
Emasculata,
if you truly are Piscean, you knew that "he never went away"... you allowed yourself to be available to him... I'd go as far as saying that you wanted him to "crawl back"...
now, your post is eerily similar to my recent situation... timelines are haunting, too...
I went back after a 2 month intermission... and enquired about exlusively dating her...
she said she could only offer friendship... I showed reluctance to this, but accepted nonetheless even though I felt goaded by the tone of one of her comments, "OMG, you can't do friends with a young woman with whom you've been intimate!"
in the end, if you want to include a person in your life, you may need to concede...
in my rendition, I was aware that she was infatuated with another... so, I removed myself from the equation... rather than interjecting... when I returned, she was still in pursuit of him... she was also in denial of the eventual outcome...
part of me could say she's hedging a bet...
my point... all couples struggle with confusion, lack of direction, not being on the same page, and the possibility of indiscretion...
or the illusion of a better coupling...
in any respect, you cannot will the pace or focus of a romance...
finally, I do not see the purpose of a "subtle test", or uncovering "real intent" through leveraging another man...
how do you expect a commitment to mature based on games?...
is this Piscean going to have to deal with a spectre every time you're unhappy with your shared partnership?
Emasculata, you didn't describe your laugh...
"when he had to stand up... he could not do it..."
...sounds like you placed expectations and set yourself up for disappointment
my friend constantly says, she won't devote herself unless she is sure... I'd argue that if you set a man up to fail, he will...
...you can't trust unless you are willing to get hurt ...they are mutually inclusive
my pisces bf thought i lied to him when actually its someone out there who sabotage me and i know nuts about whats going on..he refuse to listen to my explaination..anything..and just asked for a break up..how to solve the problem between us? can someone help me
and then when i text him lots of msg to explain..he just msg me he will go think abt it and just left me like that..so what does he mean?will we be back tgt? or?
unless the break up wasnt nasty he will be back.
we are never nostalgic.
my pisces boyfriend breaking up with me because of he's going to college, he say he can't do long distance relationship. will he ever come back to me. (aquarius female) please say yes!!!!!!!!!1
Me (Sag girl) and my Pisces man were on and off for 4 years. At the beginning he was so into me. Would travel 3 hours by public transportation just to see me. Would surprise me with gifts. But typical Sag I was so insensitive and aggressive towards him. I would sometimes put him down. I was cruel to him. We were on and off because everytime I wanted to take the relationship to the next step he would shy away. When he wanted to talk about marriage. I would shy away. It seems like when were "high from love" its perfect. But when we fight its crazy. Anyways, he recently told me he liked my friend a Libra girl. I was sooooo hurt. I love the pisces guy. He said he loved me a week before he told me he liked my friend. I want my pisces man back. I love him. Please help. Will he come back. I'm praying for a miracle. I want to marry him and finally understand him and be happy. I'm giving him his space for now. But I want him back.
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