How to keep the interest of a Leo man
If you keep paying attention to your Leo man, he ought to stay interested. He just wants an adoring audience. His ruling planet is the Sun, and imagine how our star would feel if no planets revolved around it? What's the point of all that gravitational pull if you can't draw anything into your field? Why emit all that warmth if there are no bodies to benefit from its fire?You see, the Sun wants to shine its light upon you, but only if you promise to keep orbiting. You should have enough momentum to not get sucked into its flames and burned alive, but not be so big and powerful that you're a competing star.
If you can master that, he'll love you even if you're demoted.
Comment below: How do you keep your Leo man interested?
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 1/23/2007
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I just realized, Jeffrey, that you always talk about how to keep a [insert Sun sign here] interested. I presume this is because more women than men write in with these types of questions. Don't men want to know how to attract a particular kind of woman? If so, that's kind of depressing. It seems like women are sure spending a whole lot of mental and emotional energy on attracting men... who don't seem to devote the same kind of emotional energy to us.
Marly,
From what I have witnessed, the majority of astrology search queries are about men, not women -- presumably because many more women are into astrology than men. I have noticed a few questions about attracting a [Sun sign] woman. Perhaps I have not answered those because I am writing to an imagined nearly 100% female demographic, with a few gay men thrown in? Perhaps I am wrong.
Speaking as a man, I think men are interested in attracting/pursuing a woman, but not as concerned about "making her fall in love with me" -- which quite alot of women ask google.
What if I lossed my leo man recently? I've always been his audience, and given his big ego the attention he thinks he deserves, but I think he got too used to it. Now, my plan is to ignore him altogether, so he relaized his audience is not paying attention. Is this the way to win a Leo man back???
Absolutely. Make yourself scarce for however long it takes and keep yourself busy exploring other options while you wait for Mr. Lion to reappear. He will be very puzzled as to why you suddenly fell out of orbit. Don't let on, just lay it on thick again (if you can stomach that) and you've got the tiger by the tail.
i have more than a fair share of male leos in my life - not sure why this is, i am a libra female with a pisces moon and virgo venus, libra ascending. to all girls out there across the astro spectrum trying to land a leo man i would say this:
they are great in committed relationships to their girlfriends and take it to the bitter end, even if it's not working out. at this point in time they are all platonic friends of mine. one of them is engaged and two others are in serious relationships. the two single ones are pining for love.
what are they looking for? a) someone to talk to and simultaneously be admired by. someone who "gets" them aka gets them enough to compliment them b) someone physically fit and attractive, and FUN. c)someone they respect and who has a strong personality (but not stronger than theirs, they can instinctively feel it and it makes them uneasy), they have to be your knight in shining armor once in a while. d) you can play hard to get, but they don't like mystery.
when they get intense about someone, it usually happens very quickly. but it has to be at the right time - for them - otherwise even if you are the perfect combo of all of the above, they will pass right by.
hi..
Help!
i really like this leo. and we use to see each other all the time.
we had a disscussion.. about our relationship! he said we should keep it how it was.. but i said i liked him and yeh id like aliitle more. though i didnt explain to him i felt like it was all my effort in callin and meeting up. made me feel like he was not intreastead.
he said he didnt want to end up hurting m. but maybe we should see how it goes know that we know how each other feel!
i took it to heart. and said that i didnt end up liking incase he just decides to break it up ..
he went quiet and said ok thats fine i see your point. !
we didnt talk for a month then i seen him the other week!
i rang him to catch up at first he said yes .. but then he cancelld and said its because he he had something on befor hand and didnt want to have to cancell last minute..
he ask if i was free the day after i said i might go away, the next day .. i did end up going away. because i feel that he doesnt care. i msgd him to organise something the week after if he wanted .. but he didnt!..
its obvious i messed up isnt it.. i just dont understand him!
and i just want him to care
Dearest Anonymous! You didn't mess up a single thing. Not a single thing. You are in love with a man who is not in love with you. It is his choice who he falls in love with, not yours. In the meantime he will continue to have sex with you if you make yourself available when he needs it. And he will continue to have sex with other women too, as he is now. If you wish to continue sharing him and wasting your affection, go ahead. Something tells me you can do better.
One thing i can tell u about leos is they only think about what's good for themselves and if you put too much effort into them, they will run far far away. Believe me, i've dated a few-1 was for 4 yrs and is now the father of my son. I chased him forever and then i finally got fed up with it and let him go. After a little while he realized what he had lost...typical leo trait...and came running back to me. I continued to casually date him but i was also seeing other men. Even though i didn't put it in his face, i also didn't hide it either. Another leo i dated wasn't ready for a commitment, and after a while, i ended up finding someone else. We still hooked up every so often and we are still very good friends. He still flirts with me all the time...another typical-noncommitment...leo trait and he has a girlfriend of 3 yrs. So the point is if you see him let him call you and you can touch base with him every so often but def don't put in all the effort to arrange any get together with him, he'll always go with whatever suits him best-as much as that hurts. When you do touch base with him just make it like your life is so exciting and you are doing oh so fine without his abnoxious leo @$$...and if he doesn't eventually come crawling back, well, his loss and you can do so much better without his games and heartache anyways girlie :o)
Interesting blog. I am in need of some advice. I was dating a leo for 1 year. We had some ups and downs and recently really broke up. During our previous downs he would write messages to me, saying he was still thinking of me, etc. but now that we've actually broken-up he sends very few if any at all of those types of messages anymore. I've now realize I really want him in my life but am afraid too much damage has been caused and he may not be able to look over look that to try to pursue a relationship with me again.
I emailed him because I just needed to say a few last things to him. He replied with a "what does love mean" to him type of email. Now I just dont know if I should continue to write him back and go on and on with philosphical questions about "love" or ask him out to discuss in person or not reply at all and hope he comes back to me anyway.
In a previous email he wrote me he did say "he had not given up on us yet" but I worry that he may change his mind. Is that typical of leos? Should I be doing what I can to prevent him from changing his mind? Should I just leave him alone? How do I win him back?!!
oops..In my haste of writing the above comment, I forgot to add that I am a gemini, in case that makes any difference.
Actually, that brings me to another question about the aforementioned relationship... should I even be pursuing this or will I find someone I am more compatible with in the near future anyway?
Thank you!
Aquarius here but with moon in Leo dating a leo.
I find Leo's very easy to understand. Mine has changed a lot of his ways to accommodate me. Very sweet.
Look, I told him up front firmly, "I'm looking for a partner to grow with, it does not have to be you! (leos hate hate! being told what to do) and I will not put anyone above me. Then I smile and be light and sweet. He loves it!
Never tell a leo to change! When he does something I don't like I say "Do what you want, for I will never tell you what to do, even if I don't like it." Then I get real busy. He is crawling in a sweet way back to me saying "Baby have patience with me." or Baby I want to do so and so, I was just playing with you." He knows very clearly I put up with not much and if he treats me good I shower him with affection and warmth if not I get a little playful bitchy. Works every time!
And Leos will test you to see what you are made of. They want freedom, adoration and a strong partner that is loving and playful. They want to be king or queen but they also want someone THEY can look up to. So be a good or a loving goddess.
Can't forget to be playful. It may seem confusing but it works for me just fine. He even vacuums for me and does my dishes!... because I bragged about someone else who was so wonderful to help out. Praise, be very playful but if they are bad a bit bitchy. Take no shit but be kind. He finds it all humorous and a challenge. Cute. :)
is it a good idea to send a leo man a love letter? I already did
:( but was it wrong?
I'd think a Leo guy would appreciate a gesture of love.
If he didn't reply to the letter, does that mean he is doesn't feel the same :( (I can't read this guy, so confusing).
Hi, I am a gay Arian male - I came out of a relationship last year after being together with a cancerian for 11 years...
I had a Leo friend who I just knew things could happen between us, but he is in a long term relationship with a tarian man.
Anyway, I hadn't seen him for a while because he moved away with his partner for what ever reasons, but suddenly out of the blue a month after my partner left for a younger fella, he contacted me out of th eblue and asked me to go visit, so I did - not expecting anything because I had known him a good few years and would have thought if anything was going to happen, it would have happened by now?
When I got there, we went out the next day to do some exploring, and he made moves on me, I didn't stop him (I know I should have)and things happened from there...
I wanted to be sure after that, that I wasn't starting to form feelings for him just on the rebound from my partner and I have to say that I didn't fall for him just because he paid attention to me sexually.
I told him a few months after how I felt but got the response that he didn't feel the same - even tho we had spent more time together doing what I would describe as dating without saying it was a date...then more things happened on a sexual level, and even this past weekend, I have been to visit some friends who live near to him and his partner, and we have been out alone together for a meal and other things - but I am not a toy, and don't want to be the MR'ess, so nothing happened sexually.
he says things like I know we have so much in common as we are both very spiritual and like lots of the same things, I.E travell, enjoying live and so on.
I am just very confused because we are almost a year on and he is still keeping contact with me, knowing how I feel and even tho he has bascially said the love is gone out of his other relationship, he still seems to stick at it, am I making a mistake? Usually I would be bored by now but something is keeping me holding on to this leo and I don't know what - it is weird cause I have a few other options with other leo's but this one does it for me - just wanted opinions please - should I move on - or is it a case of waiting for the lion and having a bit more patience (not something an arian is good at I know lol)...Any advice would be appreciated! thanks
I am a pisces female, involved with a leo guy , OH my god the games I have to play with this man... I have no idea if this is worth pursuing as he is a typical leo guy and I am very much the pisces female.. I have big chats with him and tell him right off when he is wrong. Our sex life is on fire, But It seems I am addicted to him for some reason and he hurts me all the time..But still cant bare not to have me around.. Im lost I want him but I dont know if he is worth the bloody effort. It doesnt help he is so great with my son either?? He says im too unpredicatable and moody, I say he lies too much but I can always tell when he does.. Any advice? We decided last night on an open relationship, but I still want to be his number one girl but he sure does so my head in???
Jeffrey,
I'm into this leo. I didn't plan on it or anything, it just happened. I have heard about their egos and flattery. A specific saying I heard " Stroke the back of their ear." Or something like that. But, I don't really know what that looks like. Advice please.
@kelly, traditionally, Leo rules "The heart, blood and cardiac system; the back, spinal cord, and sides of the body." (Skyscript). I dunno about the back of the ear. Maybe stroking his back or his chest would help.
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