How do you win a Scorpio male's affections for good?
A reader asks: I recently had my heart broken by a Scorpio male who claimed he is better "on his own" yet ended it with "I may come back around."You're being led on. Are you going to wait around while your Scorpio ex plays his power trip? If he claimed he was better on his own, why would you want him back? I know you love him, but you also have to (1) respect yourself and (2) be realistic.
How do you win a Scorpio male's affections for good?
Scorpios don't turn around when they've left. This fixed sign sticks around and doesn't budge, but once a relationship has died, he moves on. If you're a snake who has just shed, are you going to try to fit back in to your old skin?
Which leads to the question, "How do you win his affections for good?" I hate to bust your delusions, but nothing is permanent. You cannot make anyone love you forever. If you initially win a Scorpio's affections, probably the best way to maximize the chances he'll stick around is if you keep changing. Scorpios undergo major transformations at the frequency that the rest of us tie our shoelaces, and if you remain static, he's going to get bored by you. Regardless of your sign, you ought to occasionally dig up your skeletons to see if anything is ready to be exhumed. Your psychological growth should at least keep him interested.
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 1/29/2007
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I just got into a relationship with a Scorpio not too long ago... Capricorn Rising, Pisces Moon.
Im a Cancer Sun, Virgo Moon and Rise.
It seems the best way is if you feel as though you are enchanting?
I don't think Scorpio respects too much on not fighting back...
They do come back... LOL.
Just-A-Phase....When they need reasurance... they come back to the people that best pet them...
Who in the wrong? Who knows! lol
Allan
"Regardless of your sign, you ought to occasionally dig up your skeletons to see if anything is ready to be exhumed. Your psychological growth should at least keep him interested."
...Excellent Work!....Totally! Totally! I wouldn't want to have a lost Scorpio back I'd be afraid of their guard being up all the time and the distrust.....to me it wouldn't be worth it. I keep my Scorpio happy with adventures, doing new things together, we love trips and learning new things and "creating" together.
Bless you Angelineelise! From your various posts you have certainly found that special elusive brand of bliss with your Scorpio prince. I know it hasn't been easy for you but he's obviously worth it. So nice to hear a success story and positive feedback on a difficult issue!
scorpio males are passionate yes ,but can't take a woman who challenges them ,the passion goes limp
pop a viagra in his morning coffee then meet him for an early lunch
this works good when you work in his office
even if your a gemini :-D
I am a Virgo Libra Cusp (the best ever if I may say so myself haha, 9/23), Aries Moon Taurus Rising and I recently got back in contact with an old high school crush who is a Scorpio and has a Aries Moon too. Ok heres the deal he has a baby coming and I'm in a miserable relationship, I wanna be with him and always wanted to be with him and I'm pretty sure he wants to be with me too. I came to visit him and yes.....I did it.....I was a bad girl, we hooked up. I know he really likes me because when I came to visit him he was talking about him taking my pets and all this other stuff so I can stay in my hometown, he even said he wanted me to live across the street from him (I thought that was cute). Well here's the problem he doesn't call me as much as I would like and I don't bother him about it cause I know he works over night and I feel the need to be considerate of his feelings and the situation he's in with the baby mama and all that. We get along great and I was always feeling like he was lying to me about stuff in his personal life but everything turned out to be true so that made me like him more. Well why does he seem to distant himself from me when he knows it's all good? Is he sizing me up to make sure I don't give him drama like the past lovers he's been involved with? Is he just using me for sex? What do you think? Is this the typical thing that a Scorpio man does when he strts to really like someone? Or does he not like me as much? I'm so confused anything will help in my final decision.
I'm a Sag woman (12/16) dating a Scorp man (11/07). I met her 3 years prior to connecting in a relationship. We saw each other twice and then just kept in touch by email and messenger. I have no patience and hearing his stories of promises I was not concern. I use to chase him away and that actually made him chase harder. I told him don't contact me again until he is ready because I have a great life and don't need him. Well we didn't talke for about 1 1/2 years then he found me and asked me out on a date. I accepted his offer to go out.
I think Scorp men are crazy. They love the challenge and chase. He is great to me. I didn't tell him I loved him first he told me and it wasnt during sex. After 2 months into dating he set me up without my knowledge to meet his family but that was cool because they love me to death. He started telling me he love me, told me he been chasing me for 3 years and he is tired he feels like he was running a marathon. Well I finally gave in after about 6 months and it has been a ROLLERCOASTER RIDE, BUT I LOVE IT.
Astrology says Sag and Scorp are not a match I totally disagree. You must go into a relationship expecting nothing but accepting everything (as long as it is not hurt and pain). My scorp boyfriend is secretive, manipulative, controlling, cunning but his is also loyal, a great provider, great in bed, and although he doesn't say much he does listen. I find that I will tell him something, he doesnt respond but days or weeks later I will see the actions that shows he listen. Yes they are homebodies and like to sit privately in their own space. I say let them be. As a Sag we are very outgoing and sociable so I have learned to not entertain those times he wants to be alone. I let him sit in the den play his games, online, etc for hours and then I use this time to go out and be the social butterfly I am and go hang with friends, go get my nails done, etc. I believe Sag and Scorp are perfect if the Sag learns not to take things personal. When my boyfriend makes a statement about control, Ill play into his lil game I be like Yes Master, believe me its more fun than serious. He laughs or smiles when I do that and in return he comes back giving me what I need. Relationship is about give or take. As a woman I have no problem letting my man be a man. I am frivilous, spend my money on silly things, dont like responsibility and this is where my Scorp boyfriend comes in and teaches me to have a little discipline and patience. In return I don't give him the option to always sit home alone Ill go buy the movie tickets, concerts tickets..etc then tell him what I done then he gets excited and we have a great time. I don't know about cheating but I will say Scorp men attract women with their eyes and their personalities. I know I am a successful, beautiful woman because most Sags have high self esteem with our no care attitudes so I don't get jealous when other women try him or even his flirting. Will or has he cheated as most will say Scorpios will do, he may but I don't sit around looking for things. I enjoy the happy times in our relationship and don't dwell on our differences. I take advantage of his neggative traits to win in the end because when he comes out of his private time believe me thats when he will shower you with everything your heart desires. He always tells me how pretty I am and boast my self-esteem which is what I like. So I say the heck with astrology we been together 2 years now and Im loving this relationship and have never met a man quite like this Scorp. For the record all men can cheat regardless of his sign so just learn to have fun with your mate as long as there isnt abuse physical, mental, emotional and he supports you then ride on the coaster until it stops
wow sag woman..u seem to know so much about a scorpio guy! wow wow wow! i am amazed that u understood this much about a scorpio guy! ...i am a scorpio male also!
I am a cancer female and I have been seeing a scorpio male for a couple months, and it was love at first sight! He is my sisters' husbands brother and we have known each other for many years. Once we got in contact again, he drove here every week to see me ( I live in N. FL and he lives in S. FL) about a 4.5 hr drive one way.
We got along sooo great, sooo much in common. With in the first month, we realized we were falling in love and he was the first to say the words. We were like school kids. Its hard to describe in words just how well we were together and the sex was if we were one. It was too good to be true! It was amazing!
Christmas last year he bought me an expensive pair of diamond earrings for me and after the first of the year I lost one of them. He said accidents happen, but it seems that since then, is when he has been distant.
We both had trust issues soon after I lost that earring. Most times we wouldn't talk long on the phone like we used to, as he had his work to do on his pc. Well, this happened alot so I went online to several personals to see if he was online. I couldnt find him. Then one day I get a view from someone, with same first name (my scorpio uses his middle name) so I check it out. Everything in the profile was him. I even talked to this person in online chat once and found out more familiarites. From the physical description, to goals, to material items, to future trips. Then one day while I was talking to my scorpio over the phone, he mentioned something else that the 'other' guy had said which was the same. I have always known it was him, and have brought it to his attention but he denies it. After I viewed this profile, he asked me if I was looking? Thats also how I knew it was him. What is he doing and why?
Then all of a sudden he was giving many reasons for not driving here to see me. First it was his work (he is a contractor), then the cost of driving,(he has money) its too far (I dont live in CA). We do talk and I have asked him if he still loves me and he tells me he does and he also tells me he misses me when I tell him I miss him first. I have never been with anyone else, or wanted to, since the first day I saw him.
I know that some dont believe in love at first sight, but I'm here to say, it does exist. I love him so much and he knows it. I know I should leave him alone, stop calling, give him space. I'm afraid that if I leave for too long, he will go away. He is THE ONE! So I call 2-3 times a week to let him be aware i am still here. We laugh and talk, but I am the one that initiates the calls now. He hasnt called first in about 3 weeks. This hurts and I miss him. Do I need to just let go completely or be patient? I feel as though I am on a rollarcoaster with no way off. I dont get him. His actions are so different from his words. If he doesnt want me anymore, why can't he verbally tell me ? Is he just playing me or what? I want to know what I can do to get back the way we once were. In about 3 months he is moving to north florida, which were his plans before we got together. Is there still something there and how can I keep it? How can I let him know without seeming pushy?
Heartbroken in FL
I'm starting a relationship with a Scorpio (11/2) and I"m a Sag (12/13) and so far things are going great!
Very passionate guy, and he expected a one on one right off the bat, which I don't mind at all...
This morning before he left, he gave me the sweetest gift....a picture of him and his four sons...I had asked to see a picture of them and be brought me one to keep, which was very touching to me....(I had baked his sons a couple batches of cookies last week...apparantly the ate them all)....but he hasn't introdcuted me to the, which is "ok"...I am all for the kids not meeting until something serious...but he seems to be teriffic father so far....
Whew whew...and who was it that said sagies and scorpio's don't get along....and oh yes...he is defiantely passionate :).
babyblues
How do I get a scorpio man understand me? I am an Aquarius, he thinks i am cold and misunderstand me all the time.
Cancer W + Scorpio M = LOVE
I have been with my H for 14 years now. He is a Scorpio and I am a Cancer. Beleive me it has been Very hard to get where we are. He is the controlling type. He is a perfectionist. He is a hardworker and only wants the finest things. We had been thru a lot... but in the end, I have everything and get everything I want from him... my house, my car, a pool, a dog, etc.. u get the point. One thing about a scorpio Man is that, when u earn his complete trust, he is the most amazing lover, very emotional, but he needs to be babied as well. I cook for him, clean, errands... everything a wife should do, but u give a little u get a lot from a scorpio man. I have been with him since i was 16 and now I am 30 and we still have sex every day and gets better and better. Cuz we both like to expiriment ;oP
Yes my Scorpio has left me two months ago after a relationship of two years,i didn't know that Scorpio want changes in the girl.And now when i broke up and i am reading about a scorpio,I regret that i probably i didn't do what he wanted.but i seriously,truly,madly love him.I am a Aries 20 april born.Can i by any chance get him back.I know what ever the astrologer wrote about him is absolutely true.I am ready to change myself now.should i try getting him back,i am already trying from last 2 months,i am pampering him,respect him,what else should i do,pls give me some tips,should i change my looks?
First ask yourself, Do you really want their affections for good. Be careful what you ask for. These men are some DIE HARD @#$&$#. I'm like.....leave me alone already....he's like...over my dead body. Like I said, be careful what you ask for.
hi
i'm a virgo and so very in love with a much older scorpio man. he's just wonderful and though he doesn't talk much he really loves to listen, i'm not much of a talkative myself but we do get along so well.i'm a rather private person and i find him intriguing...his secretiveness always makes me wonder about him and i find it rather amusing cos i've a rather analytical mind that makes me always be a step ahead of him.
i seem to always know what's going on with him eventhough he wont talk about it and in my own rather quiet way i draw him out and he finds himself sharing, sometimes not totally but at least he gives me a fair idea as to what's up with him.
i often times wonder whether we'll be together forever, that's the way i want it and we do have a happy relationship, in fact he's the best man i've ever been with. my ex was also a scorpio and we did have some great times but this one makes me feel so very special and i know that he genuinely loves me, i'm confident of that.
try not to be too nosy about the scorpio's activities, i believe they have a rather suspicious nmind and they dont trust easily, give him his space and dont always let him have his way...believe me they love a challenge and so do i.they really know how to make a woman feel loved and he'll make you feel great about yourself but just remember not to ever cross him, once you do and he recoils that's it, no matter how forgiving you think they are cos really they are a very compassionate bunch who can be very generous too.
hii..virgo...i jst wanna say beware of scorpio.....scorpio r so passionate lovers tht thy wll mke u fall in love by pampering u..giving u th best..u hv ever expected...by emotional blackmail,thy wll do nything wat u wnt but after sumtime thy get bored...thy vry quick in chnging mind..and whn all of th sudden thy leave u u woul nvr b able to gt him bk....so if u wnt to stick to a relationship with a scorpio...b really happning...dress th best always...b smart..b knowledgeable...thy lik ..these kind of people
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