How Virgo men break off relationships
All a Virgo man has to do is relentlessly criticize you and pick at your faults until you break down into tears. When you ask if he no longer wants to be with you, he will say, "Of course I do. You just need to x, y and z, and everything will be fine." But when x, y and z are insurmountable tasks -- when he is asking you to wipe yourself clean of all inadequacies -- you realize you have been set up. Or, he will say he's not good enough for you. He tries to improve himself for your benefit, but he always comes up short. "You're probably better off with someone else, someone who measures up." You insist that he's fine just the way he is, that you love him. "But there must be something wrong with you, if you can love such a loser. Really, I don't deserve you."
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 12/26/2006
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Yep this is how it happened in college.. wow.
Let's see...after 2 years he NEVER broke it off with me. But instead started screwing around with some young bimbo in the same apartment complex. What an ass!
I never acknowledged him/this as I don't have time for losers. I would never date another Virgo man as long as I live! Bastard!
i`M WiTH A ViRGO-GUY AND i`M A CANCER-GAL. WE GO THROUGH ALOT BUT, "i" HAVE TO HELP HiM REALiZE THAT WE NEED TO GO THROUGH THESE TiNGS TO ONLY MOLD AND STRENGHTEN OUR RELATiONSHiP. HE FEARS THAT SiNCE i`M GOOD-LOOKiNG, THAT i`LL WANDER OFF WiTH ANOTHER DUDE. BUT iN REALiTY HE`S THE ONE THAT HOLDS MY HEART AND ATTENTiON. SO HE GETS HiS LiTTLE MOODS AND SAYS THiNGS LiKE, "i'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH" AND ALL THAT OTHER SHiT. EVEN THOUGH i TELL HiM... "HE'S THE ONLY ONE FOR ME."
It's hard to combat Virgo's self-criticism.
I am with a virgo guy mostly i need to assure him that he is the only one because he thinks that he is not good looking and all that shit,which is not true at all.I have to tell him zillion times that he is the man i'm in love.
my virguy ditched me. no communication, no reason.
Hey, Anonymous, my Virgo ex ditched me for no reason, no explanation, too. And he did it by e-mail no less. The subject line in his e-mail read, "Bye," and the body of the e-mail was completely blank.
Before breaking up with me, though, he kept on doing really assholey things to make me believe that he didn't want to be with me anymore. Yet whenever I broke down and cried, and asked him if he wanted to be with me anymore, he *always* responded with, "I do! But we see too much of each other. I think talking to each other an hour or two a week is enough."
So, of course, I agreed to go along. But he kept on wanting to spend less and less time with me, and I started to feel that it was impossible to carry on a relationship with someone who purposely chose to spend as little time as possible with you. So, yes, what he asked me of me was impossible. When I couldn't handle being in a relationship that was more like a non-relationship any longer, that was when he broke up with me.
Oh, and he used the classic, "You're too good for me," line, too.
Oddly, I'm now with another Virgo, and so far things have been going fine, but my last experience was so traumatizing that I try not to expect much.
That's sad! Virgos (like their opposite sign, Pisces, along with fellow earth signs and water signs) can be very passive-aggressive in communicating what we want/need/feel. He was taking the "Maybe if I'm enough of an asshole, then she'll break up with me approach" so he could be the good guy (or the bad guy, if you think about it). But he didn't account for your Taurean tenacity. :) It probably hurt him to send that cryptic email as much as it hurt you to read it.
Congrats on your current relationship with a Virgo. When you fall off the bicycle, you get back on. :)
I'm a leo female and my boyfriend is a virgo. I love him very much and he treats me very good, but that wasn't always the case. About a couple of months ago are relationship was just going so bad that we broke up about 2 to 3 times before being happy now. I would always make it clear to him how deeply in love I was with him and how he was the only 1 for me and he would say the same in return all the time. But out of the blue he started to show less intrest in me. The phone calls stoped, seeing each other was 2 to 3 weeks apart, he wasn't affectionet like he used 2 b, and if he ever so called made time 2 call me he would be quiet on the phone. Now as me being a leo women I want and need 2 feel loved by my lover and wen I wasn't getting that from him out of nowhere it hurted me so much. I would always swallow my pride and hold on trying 2 make it work. Basically everything he wasn't doing I was trying 2 pull out of him and I would keep trying 2 get his attention and show him more and more love, I even tried new sexual things 2 keep him focused on us but it didn't work. It just pushed him further away. At that point I still tried because I really loved him and really wanted us 2 work but soon I realized that I couldn't do it on my own, WE needed 2 try and he made it very clear through actions that I there was no we anymore. So I told him how I felt and that if he couldn't love me the way I deserved 2 be loved then we were threw and he just acted like he didn't even care and that hurted me even more. Then he came back and fucked up again and I left him again, then he wanted 2 come back again and I told him no because I didn't want 2 repeat the same shit again, but then I gave in and said if he could do right then ok but he fucked that up before I completly took him back. After that a month went by and I was movin on (even tho it was hard for me 2 trust men again), he came back lol. Finally telling me why he acted the way he did and how sorry he was and that he truely loved me and needed me in his life. At first I didn't fall in 2 it because I thought that this was another trick or waste of time. But he proved me wrong, he started treating me like a queen, showing me instead of just telling me his feelings and I loved it. Lol and now we are living happily ever after lol.
So people I wanna say that if u think something is worth fighting for no matter what other people say, no matter the odds against u, in anything mainly love FIGHT and in the end u'll be happy and realize that everything happens for a reason and it was worth it.( ps. This message is only for those who still believe)
my ex which is a virgo man dumped me (scorpio girl) a month ago. he gave lotsa reasons for the break-up but i personally thinks that those are just some petite problems. i'd tried so hard to ask him to give us a last try but he insist to call it end. a day before the break-up we are still okay as in like lovey dovey. this is real hard for me! and now i found out that he's with another girl and they are moving in together! to the same place where i moved in with him! such a f****ng bastard! do you guys think i still can get him back? i love him alot.
I am a virgo girl having an affair with a virgo male for the past two three months. He put in on me! Their relationship has now ended. Only yesterday he started severely critisiing me, blaming totally irrevalent things onto me. I told him not to call and he hasnt. GET OVER YOURSELF VIRGO MAN - THERE ARE LOADS OF OTHER FISH IN THE SEA - ABSOLUTE LOADS.
"my ex which is a virgo man dumped me (scorpio girl) a month ago"
Okay, are you sure you are a Scorpio
you are the first Scorpio I ever heard lets herself get dumped, and that by a man who's sleeping with another chick at the same time as you, back and forth, and then you say you still love the ****ing bastard and can you get him back
LOVE IS BLIND
I am a virgo gal and I met a virgo guy last year and he tried to get some and I said no, but I told him I was interested in him. This was all in one day. He left and never called or anything. I called him and emailed him and he won't say he isn't interested but he won't pursue me either. When I first met him, I had feelings that at age 36 I have never felt before. This was all on the day I first met him. I have never had feelings for anybody the first day I met them. He said he felt something for me to, but he just hasn't crossed the threshhold of pursuit. I can't chase him, and I'm tired of waiting. Do you think he'll ever come around? I've never dated or been romantically attracted to another virgo before or after him. What should I do?
I dated a virgo (male) 5 years ago and I'm a scorpio (female). I got pregnant by him and then he started dating someone else,lol. I took him back when our daughter was two then he started acting like a douchebag and I let him go. But I really don't care he's broke, he's a negative person, and lives with his mom. I'm not mad at him anymore. I'm currently in the process stalking another scorpio. He's way hotter than that virgo.
Im a 36 yr old gemini woman who was recently dumped by a virgo man. We communicated very well, had so much in common, I met his kids, he was very considerate. And after having a wonderful weekend (so I thought). His excuse for breaking off the relationship (Im too bougie for him). My feelings are extremely hurt becuase he was too much of a coward to tell me it is someone else.
hey female leo anonymous.. how i wish my virgo ex would realized how much i love him and how much he meant to me.. we broke off twice.. kind of like the same situation as yours.. and i do hope he realized one day and we can be together again happily working out our differences... though i'm kinda sceptical on trying the 3rd time.. sigh.. good luck to you!
im a scorpio girl..im dating a virgo male..he would never use the excuse that he isnt gud enuf 4 me as he is very cocky, but in a charasmatic way, and also, he would never ask someone to change, but he has told me i talk 2 much in work..we work together, yes...in some ways he fits the virgo profile, but i think he has th attributes of an aries..could someone give me a hand?..well, he is competitive, stuborn and to the point, but he does it so it comes across as charming..is this actual charm, or does any one think he does this purposley? write bak asap..*third decan scorpio*
YOU KNOW I AM GOING TO POSST A COMMENT ABOUT THIS... MY VIRGO FRIEND WHO IS JUST WELL WE BEEN MADE LOVE SEVERAL TIMES. I ASKED HIM WHAT ARE WE.. JUST F--CK BUDDIES , THEN HE STOPPED ME IN MIDSTREAM AND SAID THERE IS NO WE.. I JUST GOT DIVORCED ITS BEEN TWO YEARS HES IS 57. BUT HIS ACTIONS SAYS SOMETHING ELSE. YES HES PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO ME AND i HIM . BUT I DON'T THINK ITS GOING TO LAST.
YOU KNOW WHAT ANONYMOUS YOU HAVE PATIENCE OF A SAINT. I DO NOT HAVE THE TOLERANCE FOR FOOLISHNESS. VIRGO MEN .. SOME ARE VERY IMMATURE AND CHILD LIKE.
I'm a Virgo girl...and I can add a little bit of insight for you. Virgo's men and women are very selective and sometime this is an unfortunate downfall for the ones we are attracted to and to ourselves as well. I can tell you that a potential mate can say or do just one thing that turns a Virgo off and once that switch is off it is off. Virgo's defiantly don't like games played with their feeling or their mind however, that doesn't mean they will not play them on you sadly enough. Virgo's are secretive and very good at juggling many relationships at once. If they can't find everything they are looking for in one person they will find it in another and another until they get that area satisfied. It is very hard for a Virgo to trust others let alone love others. Unfortunately, what most of you have noticed is how easily a Virgo can and will walk away…I know I can. If someone is negative, sloppy, foul mouth, poor hygiene, mean or curl to others…I will walk away without a word or a good-bye. Never seems worth it to bother. A lot of us feel we shouldn’t have tell others they should already know this and with that in mind a Virgo vanishes without a trace. I hope some of this helps.
thanks for your comment how can you tell if a virgo man is in love with you. mine keep coming back sex is awesome he seem more passionate than ever. dont know what came over him. but he is not looking for a serious relaionship yet. married 20 yrs. divoreced for 2. so what can i say. we are very attracted to each other.
If he keeps coming back you are doing something right. He may not want a relationship but that doesn't mean he doesn't want you. Trust, compatibility, warmth, easy going, kind, genuine people with clean bodies, teeth, hands, feet and cloths will attract and keep this Virgo. But one thing I can tell you is a Virgo man and woman can defiantly have sex without having feelings of love or loyalty to that person.
Do you think so, really? That a Virgo woman can have sex without having feelings for the man? I have to disagree. I maintain my firm stance that unless a woman is doing it for money or revenge, she doesn't go to bed with a man unless she has feelings for him.
With men, of course, it is a different story. I suspect, Anonymous, that you are a male.
Everything was going great, He seemed so happy, attentive, I met all of his friends and family so quickly and seemed to get on great with them. Suddenly I didn't hear from him, and when asked if anything was wrong, he said, don't be silly, I've just been busy, two days passed and then I got the call, telling me that his feelings were confused, pretty much making silly excuses, and leaving me wondering why the 360 turn around? when everything seemed great? It took me a couple of weeks to realise that it was his loss, and I didn't deserve to be treated like that? Does put me off Virgo's tho?
I am a virgo female, and I must say that Virgo's are VERY loyal people, and that unlike what many of you may believe it really was something that you said or did that turned your virgo partner off and that is why they have left you cold and in the dark, we are not usually mean or cruel people but people tend to see us as aloof, when in actuality we are VERY caring and emotional, however we learn early that it is better to sit back quietly and observe our partners, before we activate emotions. We give you enough rope to hang yourself. I have many exs that ask what happened with us, it suprises me how others can be clueless at times. As far as cheating goes.... We ARE notorious cheaters and are awesome at juggling lovers. And yes I am a virgo female and can say honestly that I can do the do w/o having any feelings for the person.....I am with a CRAZY scorpio and he has been able to tame me, although Im sure its b/c he is so unpredictable that it keeps me guessing. If you want to catch a Virgo's attention you must STAND OUT, we also like a person that is confident in themselves, clean,sociable, intelligent (read the news alot),and assertive. You should approach us, thats a HUGE turn on.
I am not quite sure what happened....he just shut down and that was it...no calls, no texts, nothing. I just let it go and suddenly he was back. Now he is trying to win me back in his own way. No grand gestures, just little things...I am scared that he will do this to me again with no warning. I told him that I need to take this slow
I like this virgo guy,very much.and he know it,coz i told him accidently.At first he act like a jerk,chasing my friend after we have a date and tell lie about us to my friend.im hurt and i decide to not continue with him.and after a month he txt me and we start in touch again and i told him that what he done be4 realy hurt me,he apologize and promise not goanna do that again(oh well...its nearly 1 month and i asked my friend if he txt her again,and he didnt txt her again)and i start meet him again,but mostly i txt him first.he never txt me first,and sometimes he didnt reply my txt at all.he didnt talk too much with me and i dun know much about him but he promise to take me out for dinner and said im pretty and call me babe,and he hug me alot.well i thought maybe theres improvement between us,maybe he start to like me..but im affraid its only a bullshit.
i read all the articles about virgo guy thing and i know they might just take their time and dun like to be rushed.and the girl that be patience and wait will get his heart,but how do i know he like me when i even dun understand him.i dun want waste my time and i dun want after i fallin in luv with him deeper and he dun want be in relationship with me.
at the moment..i realy realy like him and i already fallin for him.but i realy confused,should i keep trying and waiting and be patience with him,or just move on?
Im so jealous with Kia Mari...lucky u u got ur virgo guy.i wish i can have my virgo guy.
and after i read that virgo guy can have sex without have feeling or love...worries me.coz im worry if he only want have fun after all.
And what i want to know now...his act..is that meant he likes me or he just want have fun?and if virgo guy lies and be a jerk once...can he keep his promise after he said sorry??
I am a virgo female and I just wanted to say that Virgo's are NOT slow to make a decision as people think, we actually make a decision immediately. If the Virgo in your life is dragging his or her feet on issue with you, its probably that they have BEEN made a decision that YOU wont be to happy with. A virgo WIll allow you to string yourself along, you can cut the rope whenever you feel like it by asking a direct clear and cut question.
i am a libra woman who is seeing a virgo guy.we are not in a relation ship.we have been makeing love to each other for about three weeks now.but the catch is that he has just gotten out out of a nine year relation ship.of course he got busted cheating.i have a little fillings for him.he is just he nicest guy and im aslo a nice girl. ? do you guys think any thing serious can come from this please help with advice.i am thinking of cuting it of i am almost sure i will get hurt.
honestly you will. virgo men are indecsive to me.. and he just got caught cheating... i do not think he is ready for a serious relationship. thats the way virgo men floats. they are picky sometimes overtly.
thanks mecca for your advice.iam not looking for a relationship eather.but the sex is so wonderfull i dont want to get strung out.but for now he is inhouse dick because we live in the same complex.so i an going to injoy him while it last.do you think that will last for long?i work at night and sleep all day.so i am not exspecting to much.
I presume "inhouse dick" refers to a private investigator employed within your own firm?
im a pisces nd im datin a virgo man (opposite signs)
i hav noticed that virgo men cn b distance n cold wit u 4 sum tym den come bac a couple of wks later al lovey dovey!! i think d key 2 makin it lst is 2 av patience nd not do d chasin!! wen u chase afta virgo men dey seem 2 pull away even mre. we did break up n he gav no reason at al bu afta a month he did come bac! he does constantly put himself dwn n says i cud do much bttr bu i fink tats jus hes insercurities!!n it seems quite a common line frm virgo men!!!
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