How to win back a Virgo
Have you lost a Virgo? Do you want to win him back? Then all you have to do is be perfect. Obviously, he left you because you were somehow inefficient.The first thing you need to do is take a fearless inventory of yourself, and identify all of your human flaws. Then eradicate them.
It could be that you did not improve in the face of his relentless criticism. Don't get me wrong, I know you tried, but surely you missed a spot [on the dishes/his favorite shirt]. You might not have seen it, but he did. You see, that's your problem -- you just don't see.
What? I'm sounding like the Virgo who dumped you? Stop being so sensitive! Here I am, telling you how to rid yourself of all your imperfections, and you complain! No wonder he left you!
Subscribe to this blog.
If you enjoyed this post, please subscribe to this blog.
posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 12/04/2006
24 Comments:
My husband has virgo moon and rising. Holy cow! This explains so much about him. He is nitpicky to the nth degree. The way to his heart is a clean house..lol. And man, did he marry the wrong girl. We finally comprimised and hired someone to clean the house.
Why would anyone want to win back a Virgo? They're such pains in the asses, you should breathe a sigh of relief and buy some party shoes instead.
Oh, Virgo can have some endearing qualities: They are modest and like to be of service. I'm sure that for a woman or man with the right horoscope, a Virgo would be just the right fit.
I was just kidding, Jeffrey. [winkie] My ex-husband and my last boyfriends were both Virgos and NEVER AGAIN!! They were both very controlling.
I'm a virgo... I do understand the critical nature of the virgo however. The key thing the virgo must realize is that he himself is not perfect, and that that is okay. Its easy for a virgo to look outside and see the faults of others, and yet more difficult to see the fault within. But I think its that way with everyone. And just to prove my point with my common Virgoean nature, what faults are yours? Why do you care so much about the critical and harsh nature of the virgo, and not your own wrongs? Yes I can be anal, but I am aware of it, and I try to correct it as much as possible. But Virgos are not entirely evil, many of us like to clean and cook; what better man can you ask for that, who likes to clean and cook? Many virgos are outgoing and like to hang with people (I like to hang with a few people, but other Virgos are more outgoing than I am.) Indeed many Virgos are controlling, but that is something that they must realize they have need to work with... yet, I have a vague suspicion that while you are being critical of the critical nature of the virgo, you have your own faults to work with (wink). The imperfection of the Virgo is to try and make things be perfect when it is perhaps better to not worry with such a device and just understand that everything isn't perfect and doesn't need to be. What is your imperfection?
Dear Anonymous Virgo Male,
It sounds like you are feeling defensive, which I can understand. The above post is harsh, but please believe that I was also trying to be humorous.
No. Virgo's suck.
='[
He only wants to be friends, but he broke my heart. He said "We argue too much, it's not the same anymore. I want to be friends with you...Don't you see! Why we cann't be together?
please give me some advice on how to get him back.
My uncle is a Virgo and I am a Virgo, and my uncle says that Virgo men hate women who want them. They love the challenge of the chase. It must be true. My cousin is a Virgo too and both he and my uncle are BIG dogs. If it moves, their on it. They don't understand why I'm not like that. Anyway, my uncle said to get a Virgo man you must ignore him after letting him know you want him, then he will chase you but you have to keep it fresh and make them feel like you don't want a commitment out of them. That way, they spend the whole time trying to get you to settle down with them and commit. When you look up you will have had a relationship with them for years all out them trying to get YOU to commit. A sidebar, Virgo man Jeffrey Kishner, I don't know if I speak for myself or not, but I hate a cooking and cleaning man. You know how a woman can emasculate a man? Well, you take something away from the women when you begin to cook and clean. The next thing you know, the man is telling you how he cooks and cleans better than you. I don't mind him cooking and cleaning sometimes, but that is my job by nature. I don't ask you to birth the babies. That's just me. I'm sure those same women who fought to fight on the frontlines during combat would totally disagree. Ain't nothin' like fightin' beside your man and both of you comin' how with war wounds. "Look Baby, I ain't got no legs either." As a Virgo woman, I believe men have their place and women theirs. Sorry!
Hey Jerri! I love you. And I second that emotion. But Jeffrey is a Pisces (Virgo ascendant, yeah)
Why is it that my Venus in Virgo finds the Virgo personality so abrasive? My best friends have been Virgos but we'd fight like mad dogs. I've dated Virgo men who annoyed me to no end. I love my Virgo son yet his habits drive me batty at times, especially the way he separates his food on the plate. He won't eat dinner if the sauce from the meat or vegetables touches his potatoes. I really don't like Virgos, sometimes. Never have a compliment or a kind word to share, always nitpicking criticism and fault-finding minutae. Very slim crumbs that fall from these master's tables. Makes me hungry for a generous Sagittarian with all his crude humour and lack of tact; at least you get a good belly laugh and a heaping serving of benevolence.
I must check the aspects again. Aha, there it is! Moon square everything in Virgo. Ha. A love/hate relationship with Pluto and Uranus in the mix.
I do appreciate purity of thought and action, however. As Jerri said, Let men be men, and women be women.
Let there be light.
Remember what she told the Master! Even a dog get's to eat the crumbs that fall from His Master's table. That said, it is what you make! By the way, as a Virgo gal, I eat all my foods separately. Like if I'm having a meal of chicken, potatoes, and green beans, I will eat all my potatoes first, then all my green beans, then my chicken. Not necessarily in that order, but I will do it just like that. I don't begin with one until I finish all of the other. So, your Virgo son's behavior is not so strange to me. Sorry.
WELL I'M A LIBRA-GAL AND ABOUT 5 YEARS AGO I MET A VIRGO-GUY,HE WAS SHY,NICE,THOUGHTFUL,SEXY..MAYBE 8 MONTHS IN THE RELATIONSHIP HE FOUND OUT I CHEATED ON HIM.SO HE BROKE IT OFF.ABOUT A MONTH LATER I WAS SUPRISED WHEN HE CALLED ME AND HE FORGAVE ME..A YEAR IN A HALF LATER EVERYTHING WAS WONDERFUL HE WANTED TO MOVE IN TOGETHER BUT HE CAUGHT ME CHEATING ON HIM AGAIN BUT THIS TIME HE DIDNT TAKE ME BACK.WHICH I UNDERSTAND.A YEAR AFTER THE 2ND BREAK UP WE RUN IN TO EACH OTHER WE STARTED SPENDING TIME WITH EACH OTHER AGAIN..THEN WE BEGAN SLEEPING WITH EACH OTHER..I REALLY LIKE HIM I ALWAYS HAVE BUT I WANST READY FOR A COMMITMENT WHEN HE WAS,BUT I'M READY NOW,I DONT KNOW IF HE WILL GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE..HE CONFUSES ME BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST A SEX THING,BUT THEN HE STARTS ASKING ME "IF I WANT HIM TO BE ONLY FOR ME?"OR KIDS? DURING SEX HE ASKS ME "WHAT DO I LOVE?"I'M LEFT CONFUSED..I'VE CAUGHT HIM LOOKING THRU MY CELL PHONE..IS IT POSSIBLE FOR HIM TO STILL LOVE ME, MAYBE HE NEVER STOPED..OR SHOULD I JUST LET HIM GO? OR HE'S JUST TRYING TO MESS WITH MY HEAD..
Lily86, in the future please turn off your CAPS LOCK.
My advice is to move on to someone who wants you after he has you. I recently had a run-in with a Virgo and it was awful. Here's the thing, as soon as I told him I didn't want to do anything with him, he couldn't keep his hands off me! And every time I told him no, he just worked harder. I wasn't trying to play hard to get, I just thought it would be better is we went slow. Of course, as soon as we did "it" he was gone and with someone else in a matter of 24 hours. Crazy right? But a bit indicative of Virgo's I think. I'm a Gemini and for as much crap as we get for being two-faced, I would never treat someone like that. Just goes to show, you can be an ass no matter what your sign is!
true nuff
Virgo's hate and despise cheating in any way, you must be faithful and announce that you are faithful in a non-mushy way or we will have nothing to do with you, also do NOT talk about your former flings, if you do make sure you say Bad things about them.
Virgo's are just as critical of themselves as they are of others, try being one ! you make yourself crazy trying to be perfect.
dudes why are you guys all trying to generalize virgo's when all virgos are different as all peeps are different. i know many virgos, and while all are sincere, my brother is a fairly slobbish git (he hates germs but he can live in a pig-sty), my bf also a virgo is anal about keeping tidy, he cooks all the time too, but he talks to me about his exes of whom he is still friends with, and i talk to him about my exes and he doesnt mind. we have an open, honest relationship, where whatever is bugging the other person, no matter how big or small gets vented. sure it takes prompting from the other to get it truely to the surface, but we talk about everything and anything under the sun cos we respect each other, and we've naturally progressed into being open about all the things most couples would shy away from. no topic is too taboo for us, and no matter how 'controversial' a topic may seem, we still manage to talk about it (albeit behind closed doors), but we talk about it. so as for people saying 'dont talk about exes with virgo, if you do only say bad things' this is entirely not true of every virgo. we talk about our wildest fantasies, cos we know the other wont find it offensive, we talk about religious view points, we have frank discussions on the state of the world and current news, nothing is too bold or too risque where we are concerned. and even tho we discuss such topics, we maintain an air of decorum whilst we do so, we usually discuss view points from a personal, humanitarian, intellectual or even philosophical point of view depending on the topic being discussed. why do people always assume some topics should never be discussed around certain 'star signs', what is with that? all people regardless of their star sign are different, in their own right. my other bro is pisces as am i, and if im honest logic seems to have by-passed him completely. my dad is also pisces and he is logical through and through, and so much more practically hands on then my virgo brother, and also more into keeping things in their place than my virgo brother. so star signs to some extent are pure bull. yes a lot of virgos i know have similar traits, a lot of pisces i know have similar traits, a lot of cancerians i know have similar traits, a lot of taureans i know have similar traits but if im honest, i could say they all have similar traits that spread across the board
Whoa!!! Where did all of these Virgo haters come from? I am a Virgo woman who has not had the displeasure of meeting so many horrible Virgos. tsk, tsk, tsk to all of you. There are plenty of great Virgos out there. Sure we can be nit-picky and fault finders to a fault but where would most of you other knuckleheads be without us? I wonder?
I found it so hard in the beginning to get a long with a virgo man, being as though Im a Aries woman. We all know how Aries woman can be very spontaneous, outspoken, and aggressive at times. When I met my virgo, he could not get into my aggressive take charge attitude. But once my virgo man and I got to know and understand each other a little better, and learned to compromise with each other, we get along very well. And when we go out together believe it or not the virgo man Im with can hang, he likes to shop and go out all the time. We always have fun together. Sometimes he can be a little judgemental, crude, and picky. And Im ok with that it doesn't bother me one bit.
Help!!
Ok Here it goes. I am a Sag cusp to scorp (24/11) with virgo moon and scorp venus. My partner Leo on cancer cusp (29/07)with pisces moon, virgo venus. Sounds good no? Well he's cold, distant and tends to lie when he thinks it might get him into trouble, which I can understand, b/c frankly I can be a bit crazy when my emotions take control, when I say crazy I mean relentless pestering for an answer, now, now now!!Which he avoids like the plague. I hate lies.....big time! But this lie was worse then most, as when I confronted, he not only continued to lie but tried to make ME look like I was being crazy to even think it!!! How angry/hurt I was when I found out I was right (I knew it I felt it) I cannot even express in words. I've ended it and not is a crazy way but a very calm and rational way. He asked if I wanted to see him a couple times, but so....meakly. I said no. I know this is'nt rational, but I want a gesture, a real one, I want to hear that he loves me and that he's sorry; not a muttered sorry, you don't want to see me? It reallyseems likehe doesn't care, but then I get texts with somewhat deep feelings ( deep for him). what to do? I love him more then I can admit at the moment, but am sooooo afraid to be let down again,not just by his lies but his fear of letting go, and telling me how he feels. Do I just burn myself to ash and rebuild? Or what?????
VICIOUS VIRGO'S.....
I AM A VIRGO WOMAN AND I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A VIRGO MAN. PASSION AND MENTAL ISSUES IS THE WORDS TO DEFINE OUR RELATIONSHIP. MY VIRGO MAN IS A BIGGER CRITIC, THAN ALMOST A LOVER. I TELL MYSELF AT TIMES THIS IS NOT HEALTHY. HE WILL DRIVE ME INSANE. I WANT TO CHEAT, MOST VIRGOS ARE VERY LOYAL!THEY SAY WHEN A VIRGO STOPS BEING A CRITIC. HE IS SEEKING ELSE WHERE TO FIND PERFECT PATTY,SO THAT HE CAN DO A MAKE OVER ON. ME BEING A VIRGO WOMAN I AM AMMUNED TO THIS SUCH PITTY BEHAVIOR. I TELL ANY VIRGO INSTEAD OF BEING A CRITIC IN A RELATIONSHIP, TRY USING THOSE ABILITIES TOWARDS SOMETHING MORE PRODUCTIVE. VIRGO'S LOVE TO FEEL AT SERVICE TO SOME ONE, SO AS SOON AS THAT VIRGO TRY TO BECOME A CRITIC PUT TO THEM TO WORK :) NO SERIOUSLY. THE ONLY WAY AND IT IS VERY SAD TO SAY... TO WIN AND KEEP A VIRGO IS TO STAND STRONG AND NOT WEAR YOUR HEART ON YOUR SLEEVE. A VIRGO WILL TEST YOU. WARNING DO NOT LET THE VIRGO SEE THAT YOU CAN NOT A+ THE TEST. IF YOU CAN DO THAT HE WILL SOON RESPECT YOU MORE AND SOON COME TO REALIZE THERES NO NEED TO BE A CRITIC. THAT IS ONLY BECAUSE HE KNOWS YOU CAN DO WHAT IS BEST EXSPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE DONE WHAT HE THINK IS BEST. YOU MAY NOT ALWAYS AGREE ON THE CRITIC. YOU MAY NEED TO PRODUCTIVLY PUT THAT VIRGO TO WORK. SHOW THAT VIRGO YOUR POINT OF VIEW AND HOW TO VIEW THINGS THROUGH OTHERS POINT OF VIEW.
REMEMBER VIRGO'S KNOWS WHAT'S BEST?? AT LEAST WE IN OUR MINDS "THINK" WE DO!
BENEFIT OF A VIRGO RELATIONSHIP:
Family
Sufficiency
Stabability
Refined
Sexy
Loyal
i have a lot of virgo friends but most of them don't even bother to pick their noses at least inside their house lol. they are not perfect and they dont act like they are perfect and my friends are not boring either. well anyway some people might have overlooked the deeper personality of a typical virgo...you know, the caring type, genuine and loyal. i don't know but maybe it has also something to do with their moon signs and ascendants, most of these are either water or fiery. sometimes, all you have to do to understand a virgo is to pretend as if nothing happened and also act like you're detached with them. see, they'll just approach you in a minute.
i'm a cancer btwnameismiguel
I am a Capricorn female who just so happened to meet a Virgo male at work last year in November. I remember the first time I met him, it was in a Super G grocery store, and I had just quit my job and was on my way back home down south. Funny, the first department I worked in that store was produce (where the Virgo worked) yet, for some odd reason, we never worked the same shifts so we didn't actually meet until I was getting ready to leave the state. At first, the instant connection did not dawn on me.. Until I came back to work for club G in January of this year. I found myself working as a cashier this time, yet for about a month I never saw the guy. One day, I ran into D. one of the produce guys that had trained me, and for some odd reason, R's face popped into my head. I found myself asking personal questions about him, like, does he have a gf, is he married, where's he from, and to my surprise, he also was in a dead-end relationship, and was also into web development, liked the same style of music, etc.. It blew my mind.
One day my boss comes up to me and asks if I would like to start working the weekends. I'm like sure. So, that following Saturday I was working from 4-10 pm.. Around the end of my shift, I was cleaning up the magazines, candies and such and here comes the Virgo over to my register.. picks up a People and.. "SOOoo.. ahem Heath Ledger died eh? You having fun over here?" This kind of play went on for about a month. I would look over my shoulder and catch him glaring at me from the produce aisle then he would quickly turn and try to act like he was working again.. By around the first week of February, strangely, my car acted up. A 2 year old Jeep in perfect condition, too and I had no way of getting home because the bus didn't run that late all the way to my house. Funny: He was the only one there on the way to my house, and we were both working the same shifts.. Something after that night he dropped me off changed between us. (He says now: "I'll never forget what you said before you got out of my truck.": "I WOULD like to hang some, BUT .. I have eggs". lol) He began hanging around at my register almost every day that we worked together. Every time he came near I would get the feeling like I was gonna pass out. I would ask our friends about him, and word got back to me he would do the same, but we both never acknowledged it.
I would go home and have this strong feeling inside my chest, butterflies, every love song made me cry, and soon, I began having fantasies about him.
So, one night after work I could not take it anymore. I needed to be alone with him. I asked would he like to hang out after work sometime. So we did,we took a long drive and talked, listened to music and laughed a little.
Eventually, the situation became so comfortable, we lost track of time AND where we were going. We ended up on a country road at a state park in the middle of nowhere.. I said, "how about we pull over and get our heads on straight." So, yeah, we sat and talked a little more and then when he touched my hand...we looked at each other, breathed, and got lost in a kiss.
It has been wonderful ever since. The most comfortable, drama free and loving relationship I have EVER been in... if you wanna hear more? I suggest you ask because there was a HUGE twist in the whole fairy tale story. ;)
I'm a young virgo woman that sometimes does not act like the typical virgo. I'm very free spirited, outgoing, and sometimes very silly, and I'm very unorganized. As opposed to the shy,and well organized virgo persona. But I do realize that in a relationship that I give 100 percent of myself to the other person so I do expect the same, and when I don't recieve it instead of up and leaving the person I try to make it work by pointing out their flaws in hopes that they'll give me what I give them. And yes I do sometimes try to be the perfect mate so I do expect the same.And sometimes we honestly do not realize it and we're just trying to help our mates reach their full potential.I think thats why virgos are just like that.
chances are if you lost a Virgo you either were way to into them and made it boring or you did something disgusting. I am a Virgo female and what I love is a challenge. You need to give us time to get over what just happened and I don't know for anyone else but for me if a guy can make me laugh and be absolutely insane, they can win me back but its not that easy. You need to earn the trust back that you probably spent a lot of time building. If you hurt a Virgo and now want them back, be prepared to kiss our feet because we are very careful about forgiving and forgetting.
Post a Comment
Get email updates when new comments are added to this post
(There must be at least one comment already posted for this to work.)
Links to this post:
Create a Link
<< Home