Scorpio and Gemini reasons for breakup
Take the deepest and most superficial signs of the zodiac, and you've got a Scorpio-Gemini relationship. Perhaps I am disparaging the sign of the Twins -- however, you're redeemed by Johnny Depp and Angelina Jolie.Scorpio searches the depths of experience, rooting out the darkness lurking beneath the surface. Gemini is content flittering about, lightly touching all that piques his curiosity. Scorpio is ruled by powerful and intense Pluto, the planet attracted to taboos and the death-rebirth mysteries. Gemini is ruled by Mercury, the god who invented lying.
Actually, Mercury is also the psychopomp, who transports the souls of the dead to Pluto's (Hades') realm. The messenger of the gods has access to and from the underworld. But he doesn't stay there. He's like a truck driver to hell. Once he drops off his goods, he's outta there.
Gemini thinks, Scorpio feels. Gemini gossips, Scorpio guards secrets.
Do you need more reasons to break up?
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posted by Jeffrey Kishner at 11/28/2006
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I am a Gemini sun and Scorpio moon, the hybrid of a Scorpio sun and a Taurus/Gemini (May 23 if that counts as a cusp) sun Mom. When they argue, I feel like throwing up but you can't see that most married couples argue from time to time. They had been married for twenty years and that's cool. I believe that Scorpios and Geminis can make it work.
Relationship compatibility has more to it than Sun signs -- your parents may have good connections between other planets in their charts.
My parents are Aries and Virgo -- also pretty incompatible in and of themselves -- but they've managed to stay together for nearly 40 years.
I am a Scorpio (Scorpio rising and Scorpio Sun, with a Gemini Moon). I was married 10 years to a man who is Virgo rising, Gemini Sun, Scorpio Moon, what a nightmare! I knew it was over when he yelled at me to come into the bedroom and look at his closet. He pointed to the closet and said "one of my shirts is facing the wrong way" to which I responded, geez Dick, what's the correct direction for a shirt to face? Of course his usual comment was yelled "what the hells the matter with you" to which I responded "YOU are what's the matter with me, I'm filing for divorce" and I did. Best thing I ever did and to this day (15 years later) he is still trying to get me back.
Michelle,
That's hilarious! You two did have two Sun-Moon conjunctions between your charts (at least by sign, if not degree) which would signify a good marriage connection, but I guess that Virgo Rising couldn't make up for it.
My daughter is gemini rising/ taurus sun and I'm a scorp with sag rising, fortunately I find her flightiness and chattiness charming..LOL. Her wit is amazingly quick and I find that completely fascinating, most of the time.
I am a Scorpio sun with a Gemini Moon and Libra Venus and my husband is a Gemini (sun), Pisces (moon) and Leo (venus)and I been a happy and healthy relationship with him for 10 years, yes we agure but I think that is in any union. reguardless of signs.
Congratulations! Your Gemini Moon hooks up well with his Gemini Sun, and your Scorpio Sun is trine (by sign) his Pisces Moon. Despite the incompatibility of your Sun signs, you've got a good connection, since you are both strong in Air and Water.
I am a Scorpio with a Scorpio moon and a Cancer Rising (aren't I a barrel of fun!). My SO of 10 years is a Gemini with a Pisces moon and a Leo Rising. We have experienced most of the Gemini/Scorpio issues, but still seem incredibly inseperable, and willing to deal with it. I'm thinking it may have something to do with the Scorpio/Pisces moon being extremely compatible. My extreme passion, emotion, and depth along with my tendency towards jealousy and possessiveness have certainly come up. So have his issues with emotional detachement and flightiness/flirtiness and the fact that he can come across as being too cold and "reasonable". While our initial arguments tend to be very heated and head-butting, by the next day, we've usually both settled into a calmer pattern where he's a little more tender and caring, and I'm a little less fired up and angry. Plus, we seem to use our opposite traits to fill in where the other person is weaker -- something that we both rather like.
Jennifer,
You describe your respective Sun sign attributes well. It does seem to help your relationship to both have your Moons in water signs.
Also, depending on the house system, he may have his Pisces Moon in his Scorpionic 8th house, and you may have your Sun and Moon in your Leonine 5th house, which helps you both to resonate with some of each others' energies.
I am a gemini sun sign with libra moon, sag rising. My man is a scorpio with cancer moon, pisces rising. Weve been together for 5 years and its been hard but the most rewarding relationship for us both. I keep learning, and the Love is very strong. Dispite the differences!
I've been in a relationship with a Scorpio before. And I seriously loved this guy with all my heart but he always kept acussing me of liking someone else. He even went around flirting with other girls as well. I was upset and hurt..so I broke up with him because I was mad XD; Though I did regret and still do but now he just plainly hates me. He even threatened to kill me. And hes always calling me names all the time. I talked to him once or twice on msn to actually admit (2 years after our breakup) that I still like him. And he didnt care all he did was swear at me and threaten to tell people something personal I told him. So, I just sent him a final goodbye email saying I'd never talk to him and that I was sorry for anything I did wrong or anything I did to hurt his feelings. But frankly, he didn't even care. All he did was reply back to me saying "later" Heh..
Well, I think the only reason I like this guy is because he used to be so nice and caring before and now hes mean and rude. Though, for some reason I just can't get over him >D And that sucks.
"I've been in a relationship with a Scorpio before. And I seriously loved this guy with all my heart "
umm ... he said he'd kill you and you still liked him?!?
that's why i dont like scorpios.they have this charm and draw people in but i find everything they do just mere talent and not honest raw emotion.
I am a gemini rising, scorpio sun and a taurus moon. My husband has a gemini sun, pisces moon and cancer rising. I love him to bits but our marriage is failing. He can't handle my jealousy and although I think we can work through it, he just shuts me out and refuses to seek any help. I'd love to know whether we're just doomed.
Gemini Rising Anonymous,
What triggers your jealousy, and how does he respond to it? Those are two questions worth exploring on your own or with someone you trust. If he's not willing to pursue couples counseling, then all you can really do is work on yourself.
im a gemini and my boyfriends a scorpio they say our starsigns dont match but i never been happier ive been with my fellow airsigns and they never worked out just pure arguments and deceat from them and ive been with an aries but there not there for u emotionaly im not the typicall gemini who gets bored with partners as ive always wanted the right one and have stuck with my partners untill it was time to go as they have cheated or they just not respecting me generally, i find librans are selfish and ive been out with 3 of them and they say we both go well or im supossed to be with aries and that was great till i seemed to always have to make an appointment to c my partner as he was a busy b but funny enough my scorpio man and i are so alike weve never argued and hes not possesive or jelouse which is what they say bout them so i think it depends realy where ur planets where when u were born but dont say no to gem and scorpio funy enough most airsigns end up with water signs and its a good balance as air are thinkers and water are more calm so it balances it all out
You're absolutely right -- compatibility depends on the combination of two whole charts, not just their Sun signs. I'm being simplistic.
I'm a Gemini Sun (1st house), Taurus Venus(1st), Taurus Rising, Capricorn Moon (10th), a lot of Libra, Sagittarius, and a Scorpio Saturn on my Descendant. My question: What can I do (or not do) to be compatible with a guy I'm completely blown away by: a Scorpio Sun, Gemini Moon? And is it worth even trying?
I'm a scorpio sun, Taurus moon, gemini rising. My husband is a Gemini sun, Pisces moon and cancer rising. We've been married nearly 5 years, but we're having major problems and are sleeping in separate rooms. I am heartbroken and want to work it out, but he says we're too different - I'm too controlling and possessive, and he needs his freedom. Is it doomed to failure because of our star signs? I thought we were happy and never thought he'd leave me. Turns out he felt caged.
Scorpio Sun Anonymous,
I'm sorry to hear your marriage is not working out. Both your Sun and Moon are in fixed, possessive signs, whereas your husband's are in mutable signs. He needs room for flexibility and imagination. Although people with mutable signs are adaptable, perhaps your husband feels constrained in his ability to move around (mentally, physically). You could look at your own controlling nature and see what fear lies beneath, see where that leads you.
I'm a Gemini Sun and Capricorn moon and my boyfriend is a Scorpio Sun with a Sagittarius moon. Although we occasionally have arguments (what couple doesn't?), we understand each other intuitively. We can sense each other's moods and give each other space when necessary, which prevents a lot of needless fights.
Geminis Geminis... tisk tisk... Never had a good experience with one (although I've only been with 2). I'm a scorpio with a moon in capricorn. I couldn't be any more intense,honest, and affected by everything I come in contact with. Those Geminis I was with only saw with their heads, if you know what I mean. I just had such a hard time with the way they looked at things. I saw their perspectives as shallow, unfeeling, far too analytical, and childish. Also, I'm just figuring out how deceptive they were. You know, one of those Geminis actually hid my Norah Jones cd under his passenger side car seat. I even exclaimed " hey someone stole my cd, it was right on the dash", I was joking of course, and what did he say "oh no one stole your cd"...later i find it stuffed under his seat and there's no way it slid under there!=)
ummm i'm bored so i wanna post something. i'm a scorpio and my man is a gemini. i love him to bits but he confuses me.. sometimes i feel like he isn't all that interested in keeping our relationship going... he's actually the one that's secretive, even though some say scorpios are... and i think we need more communication. we don't communicate because he's busy a lot, but when he has time he's pretty sweet to me and we have decent conversations... but i really think that he could do better at choosing whether he wants to spend time with me or he wants to be 'busy'. everytime i show that i'm frustrated with his actions, he does something to make me feel better... so he definitely wants me by his side... but he doesn't keep up the good work for too long... i'm pretty patient with him, so i stand it for a good while... days and days, sometimes weeks without a productive conversation. that's until he keeps doing the same shit and it makes me feel so miserable that all my emotions explode on him... then he definitely won't talk to me. then i end up appologizing.. and we start talking again.. then it's the same routine... i'm pretty used to it, actually.. it's just kinda old, and i don't know if he's good for me... or even if i'm good for him, because he has goals in life and i think someone like me would stand in his way... he means the world to me... and i wish things would be a little different because i don't want to lose him.
Anon 1:24. I'm a Cancer that used to be in a relationship with a Gemini and they like to play head games, especially the push-pull kind where sometimes they're here, and sometimes they're not (he also had a Scorpio moon. Scary manipulative combo!).
My mom, brother, and best friend are Geminis, too. What they all seem to have in common is that they fall for the person who is "difficult" and not always "available" to them. Also, they come around when they think you're interesting. If you have nothing to contribute in the way of conversation or experiences, then your man won't come around. He's out there getting convo. and experiences from other people.
And that's not to say he's cheating. I mean he's finding his cure for insatiable boredom somewhere else besides with you.
To keep him around, be interesting!
And if you get tired of the disappearing act, find yourself a loyal, steady partner like...Cancer or Taurus! ;) Maybe even a Leo. Although Leo and Scorpios are squared by sun, I've seen many of these relationships work. Both passionate signs who like a lot of attention.
I think that's good advice, Blah Blah. I've got a Venus in Gemini and, believe me, if you bore me, I'm gone. And I'm not talking entertainment by being dramatic but by being well-informed, well-read, a sparkling conversationalist, etc. I've never understood the appeal of a good-looking man who was dumb. On the other hand, I've met plenty of men who are considered ugly who were smart, witty and sophisticated and had me with my tongue hanging out. So to speak. Heh.
(Wow, Jeffrey, 23 comments!! You sure know how to get attention. [wink])
Kathy left the following comment, which I rejected because she included her and her boyfriend's birth data. It's also completely off topic from this post.
"I'm a Taurus sun with an Aquarius moon dating a Cancer sun with a Sagittarius moon. We seem almost magical together - something I never expected since I'm generally so practical - and so is he. He makes me feel so comfortable in his space that it's almost scary - I'm actually thinking permanent relationship here, but we are both very relationship phobic. Any advice?"
Thanks, Marly. You're not alone with the Venus in Gemini. ;) My venus, mars, and descendant are in Gemini as well. Most people don't believe me when I tell them I'd take a so-so looking guy who is witty and keeps me on my toes over a good-looking guy who's as boring or dumb as a pile of bricks.
I also like open-minded guys who have lots of ideas about things for us to explore, not just someone who tags along with what I want to do.
By the way, "Jara" = "Blah Blah"
Gemini and Scorpio - I am a Libra rising, Scorpio sun, Leo moon while my boyfriend is a Pisces rising, Gemini sun, and cancer moon. We appear pretty unremarkable to others, but we are finding, in each other, quite complex and fascinating layers. Although we haven't been together for very long and are currently operating a romantic relationship with 5,000 miles of ocean between us, it has been the most fulfilling and the most positive relationship I've been in for a long time. I am a bit affected by all the general Gemini-Scorpio compatibility readings...but I believe that beyond astrology, there's also just plain personal background compatibility. Although it has been said many times that Geminis are the hardest for Scorpios to understand, I feel that my Gemini boyfriend and I have most unspoken understanding out of any partnership or friendship I've had. I try to take to all information in moderation...and let my eyes, heart, and ears be the final judge.
Hi, im a Gemini sun, scorpio moon with libra rising. The problem I'm having is with all close relationships, as my mood swings are terrible and I say nasty things I don't mean, but can't seem to stop myself. Can this be explained by my sun/moon/rising signs? if so, is there any way to control it?! I'd quite like to get on in life without hurting people close to me. Any suggestions or explanations would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Clare.
Happy Daze, you could chalk it up to your Scorpio moon -- intensity, going to extremes, instinctually responding in a nasty manner. You could try spending more time alone to sort through your feelings before communicating them to others.
I am a Scorpio and my boyfriend is Gemini. Yes I am secretive, but his audacious openness and free-mindedness creates a comfort level in which my suspicion subsides. Yes I am emotional, but his childish spirit veers my mind from focusing too deeply on deteriorating thoughts.
Yes I am jealous and afraid to lose him. He is the best lover because he is free enough to explore, equipped enough to perform, and confident enough to claim. He is the best influence because his mind is always seeking and curious which gives him a diverse and modern point of view that is full of surprises. I am the backbone for his weaknesses, giving him encouragement, confidence, love, and truth. He gives me strength, humor, news, challenge. I can't expect anything else because that is who he is, and deep down, below the superficial facade his nature displays, his heart is craving for love, commitment, family, and purpose for life. I agree that if he were a different zodiac sign, we may be walking an easier path, but we shouldn't put the carriage in front of the horse by labeling attributes to personalities and setting a challenge factor to it. The base is what matters; if we are going to deal with the cosmic challenges that surround a person is our personal choice.
Hi i am gemini and my girl friend having scorpio sign.
i want to marry her.
but at the same time i thought.
diffrent article for gemini and scorpio.
so is there any solution for getting good marrige life.
Yup, I'm a Gemini woman and have had two long term relationships with Scorpio men (both born 14th November), it is a wonder that one if not all of us are not six foot under...armagedon on a regular basis!
Anon 5:07, what is it about Scorpios that you like? Especially that Nov. 14? :) Were your exes born during the same year, too? What do you think they like about you? And finally, why aren't ya'll getting along?
I am a virgo rising gemini sun and aquarius moon dating a capricorn rising scorpio sun and taurus moon. We have had 6 great months together learning from eachother and experiencing new things together. We argue but we are quick to communicate about our issue and get over it. I am leaving by the end of this month to college, and when I feel we should be getting closer we are actualyl getting further away. I need to know, is this destined to fail or do I have hope that we will survive?
Okay, not a break-up story but just my 2 cents.
Both me and my better half are Pisces suns with me having Gemini moon and he having his moon in Scorpio.
So while both of us give each other lots of tender loving care, he bites me sometimes with his Scorpio sting especially when my Gemini moon pokes holes in his theories. Also, my Gemini needs for communications is not always fulfilled and I'm sometimes detached and cool when at the same time he needs affection and attention.
However, our disagreements and any dissatisfaction haven't ruined our relationship, at least so far. We're very forgiving towards each other and try our best to make up for any shortcomings.
I, for example, always reassured him of my love for him through emails while he does the same by showering me with his attention whenever we are together.
Pisces Man Who Loves Another Pisces Man,
Thanks for all your comments! Would you care to pick a Commenting Name besides Anonymous?
My Dad is a Gemini and his ex-wife is a Scorpio.
I don't know what on Earth they were doing together.
The only reason it lasted so long is because they made superb business partners for some reason, perhaps because I have seen that both signs are very very hard workers.
I think she held on to a doomed relationship, not telling him all along how upset she was (secretive) and he fluttered around on affairs when she emotionally checked out. Eventually, she just went ahead and got pregnant by another guy and married him as soon as the courts would let her.
Now what on Earth kind of combo was that?
I will say....those two could hold the attention of an entire room when they walked in it together.
Also....in their 6 years they NEVER HAD A SINGLE ARGUMENT ABOUT ANYTHING, EVER!
My Dad is a Gemini and his ex-wife is a Scorpio.
I don't know what on Earth they were doing together.
The only reason it lasted so long is because they made superb business partners for some reason, perhaps because I have seen that both signs are very very hard workers.
I think she held on to a doomed relationship, not telling him all along how upset she was (secretive) and he fluttered around on affairs when she emotionally checked out. Eventually, she just went ahead and got pregnant by another guy and married him as soon as the courts would let her.
Now what on Earth kind of combo was that?
I will say....those two could hold the attention of an entire room when they walked in it together.
Also....in their 6 years they NEVER HAD A SINGLE ARGUMENT ABOUT ANYTHING, EVER!
Hello to all..I am a gemini female and my boyfriend is a scorpio.To be honest i had never been with a scorpio male before him...My ex were a gemini and we were suposto be combatiable..but our relationship were hell...Now i am very happy with my scorpio lover..its a say that tells:Oppisite attracts..I couldnt be with anybody that too much a like...of myself..My man and i had some ups and downs...but if you in love you would do anything to keep and make your partner happy...The only thing my man and i have problem with is that i can be too currious..and i would keep buggin him about the same thing over and over again..instread of letting things go...Thats a habbit ill have to break..since he had broke his jealousy..putting his attention onto trust tours me...I believe when a gemini loves..and ready to commit..he/she would not jepedize the realionship with being flirty or disrespectable tours their partner...its a tactic that i had been following since i became very close with my scoprio lover..so i wont wake up his jealousy or lost his respect and trust..so to all my fellow geminis out there...if you are in love and dont want to entertain your scorpio partner jealousy...well,before u do or say anything..think about it twice and say it to yourself;"would i like if my partner would do or say this to me?"Put him/her in the situation you are in at the time..and think what your you want him or her to do in that same position u are in...is that make sence?To all the scoprios...we geminis like to be free and like to get our space..that dont mean we will be unfaithfull we just need some time to think to be able to do things on our own sometimes..some time to be able to miss the other one..and when we get home..we will be as passionate and loveing..the scorpio loves..craves and looking for..Communicate when you or your lovers do something that u dont like..try to change it..so the relationship can grow...Gemini likes communications..but for a scorpio talk is cheap..and its better to show off front of the scorpio then to talk a good game...But a Gemini and Scorpio relationship..can work and will work if effort is putted in from both sides...
Please let's grow past all of this "STUFF"....
I'm a scorpio sun/capricorn moon and my recent "thing" was a gemini. Talk about confused. I think I've finally found someone who seems to like me for simply being me, found me interesting, we had a very similar sense of humor... so I'm thinking, "whoa, this could definitely go somewhere," and what does he do? Moves to Denver. Fucking flighty bastard. That's the last time I mess with a Gemini. Should've listened to the horoscopes...
jeff dont like it when people use the fuck word inthe blog so he told me not to so you cant either so there unless hes just pickin on me
and yah geminis cant keep their traps shut always stabbin around when they getpissed like vinegr serves em right when scorp dumps em good
@badnooz, I'm not picking on you. I don't nobody to say F$&# in the comments section. I want this blog to be all respectable an S&#$.
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In astrology, Gemini destroys Scorpio.Scorpio isn't deep.It is calculated and the sign of cults.It has obviously done its job.If you look around the web, you can tell with all these posts stating the same useless stereotypes.
But does this say anything to you? No wait, You guys are already tricked by the charm and casual chuckle of a scorpio.pulling tears out must mean you are deep and emotional.lets try again.
Here : Charles Manson.
lets use some words deep,passionate...extreme? not really.
How about obvious and predictable.
Jeff you should know about dwads.
Scorpio/pluto takes neptune/pisces hostage.now, why is that hmmm.what could the sign of destruction want with a sign that is constantly dieng.
i guess that would make the great loop of events to take the life out of something over and over.perfect trap, it all fits.
Come on, The sign is about destruction.Transformation only happens from killing you off, not itself.
The reason why it doesn't work with gem and scorp for the most part, is cause we can see through them and we don't like what we see.
but hey, if it does work, be happy that your a scorp with a decent but rare chart :).
otherwise, i avoid this sign like the plague....too many bad apples.ill leave em to the virgos and capricorns :)
heya nikkie I lose my socks all the time too I think the dryer eats em
Regardless of the reasoning behind the break-up (or get-together, for that matter), one fine Pisces by name of Yamazaru offered the following brilliant advice on how to deal with a Gemini who doesn't get it when the Scorp is making a valiant effort at performing the fated dump:
Getting back at a Gemini is like trying to take down a force of vikings. It cannot be tedious. In some ways, taking down a Gemini is the opposite of taking down a Scorpio. The Gemini will dance around and harass your flanks with talkings and doings. He will move to one flank and then withdraw and circle around to the other side and do some more harassing. He will have lightly clad reserve troops in the rear and sides, thinking you are no match in keeping up with his speed and tenacity. He is very confident in the beginning stages of a standoff for he will have mustered his troops in preparedness before you are able to.
When you first look upon his team, it gives the impression of size, ability, and unity. Closer look shows a montage of a loose gathering, a motley assembling of whoever is ready and able. There is no clear chain of command, only a common understanding of the goals and overall strategy.
With a Scorpio, one must take advantage of his weakness; against a Gemini one must attack his strength. Remember this about a Gemini, they will inevitably bite off more than they can chew in a conflict. Even if things are going their way, eventually they will pass the threshold of self-doubt. To destroy a Gemini is to destroy his morale. Once the momentum starts declining in his mind, then everything and I mean everything falls apart. Geminis hold a fine line between self-confidence and self-doubt. This can lead them to a strategy that at times seems aggressive enough, but then falls into complacency in other times. This is due to the dual nature of their sign, Air but Mutable.
Gemini is a smooth-talker but unfortunately his words do not match his deeds. Many will come at his calling, but cannot be truly relied on. His core force is not much different from yours. His mass gathering will give the illusion that his side is stronger. He will expose himself in a critical way. Then is your chance to act. Don't jab. Throw haymakers and uppercuts. Go for your best combo you've been practicing. Be daring in this moment and act as if there won't be another chance. Meanwhile the Gemini will be preplexed and bewildered. Suddenly, certain sections start to withdraw from the field. A couple of his friends will realize the moment and also withdraw. You break through the frontlines and are charging for the main camp. His forces are in a state of utter confusion and are completely routed. This is not enough. You must move on to his lands and destroy his capacity to do conflict with you. Romans on Carthage comes to mind.
The first step is to feign weakness. Flame his arrogance. Concede small ground in the beginning. Wait for the moment to deflate his arrogance. Watch for his change in disposition. Spread rumors and befriend some of his allies. Create doubt amongst his ranks. Wait for a move of desperation on his part. Than strike all-out. Spare none from his core but recruit his former allies. A Gemini isolated is a Gemini lost.
(END OF PART I)
6:01 AM
yamazaru said...
(Continued...)
Now to stop with the war analogies and give a concrete depiction:
Let's say you don't like a particular Gemini and he knows it. No element of surprise, but even if you do have it, it wouldn't matter much. He mobilizes very quickly anyways. Meaning, you start trouble with him and he's got his whole posse with him finding out how to deal with you. Don't just know him; know his peeps too. Have a decent understanding of who they are, what they are like, who is steadfast and who is harmony driven, and who you see as real close and who is involved begrudgingly. He will do most of the talking about you and even to you (phone, email, face to face). If anyone else is proactive in this way than you know they won't see your side of it so cross them out. Your response will vary depending on Sun-Ascendant-Moon etc., but hone it to something like you want to fight but not sure if you can win. A Gemini will preceive this readily and see it as a weakness. He must seize the moment on you. Don't worry about planning the actual fight, it will come to you. Remember, he will harass you and go here and there. Your friends will hear about it, maybe family, and you can pick up on what he is up to through gossip. A typical place for this is church and the workplace :/
Ok, so now you see those involved and have identified some of his to approach. You shouldn't do it yourself unless there's no choice. One of your good friends or sympathizers should intermingle in their circle. Not be friends with HIM but someone that is there. Throw some seed of doubt like your point of view or general disposition. Hopelessness and good intentions go a long way. That doubt will deteriorate the group's confidence and purpose. He will try hard to fight this. Even throw some doubt on folks in his inner circle. Then he starts to doubt the overall situation. Then he changes his course of action and disposition in the conflict. You're halfway home, babe.
Antagonize him a little. Dish out small victories on him. The attacks should be fought with the tongue and not the fist. For instance, know some gossip of your own? Don't make them large. Incite him to reaction. Things start to look grim and shown on the faces of those involved with him. The peacemakers start questioning the whole issue now. Keeping them together and on his side now encompasses all of his effort. He wonders how he can get out of this without showing contrition. Now act. Approach him and start to quarrel in front of everyone about his injustices and flagarant wrongdoing to you. Confirm some of the exchanges between your side and some of his people. That's right, Rachel agreed about this, and Steve wants all of this to stop as well..Janice thinks you are going to far according to my friend Jim. Isn't that true Janice and Jim? You say who really wants things to be like this. Suddenly there are open defections and departures. Things aren't looking good for Gemini. You then become peacemaker....with his friends! Ask if you guys all want to go out and figure this out. Why fight when we can be friends! Show how wonderful you are and blow away all the BS about you. Uhoh, was he exaggerating, gossiping, or lying too much about you? When all is said and done, you will be standing high and free from his menace. The likelihood for him to reload and come back is too hard and will likely have to go to a new community.
Sidenote to readers- I don't advocate underhanded attacks and victories on people. If you truly were victimized and want a little payback than I support your cause. But if you are the true instigator in this then you deserve everything thats happening to you!
6:02 AM
yamazaru said...
Mercury in Scorpio said...
You come up with that yourself? From years of experience or from watching the pros in action? From a book? Or maybe your very own brilliant mind?
Just my little ole Pisces' fingers typing away. From head to keyboard. I'm speaking from experience and what little I know of certain characteristics of the signs, etc. My Leo Acendant puts me in a place where I have to defend my self through schemes and intrigues :) I think back on situations and try to figure out a general formula on how that conflict was dealt.
6:16 AM
Yeah, that's good. Still chewing on that one. Yamazaru honey I like the way you think.
haha someone's not so fond of gemini.
idk about all this. i'm a gemini, moon and rising as well, and my love is a scorpio.
we always have to learn to see eye to eye, instead of eye for eye. but we do. and it works.
i think scorpio is just perfect for the sensuous gemini that likes to be controlled and pampered.
the end. :]]
mm, who has a myspace? haha
well come say hi!
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You just never quit do you.
Choke yourself, spank yourself, and pull your own hair freakness, you already do everything else yourself.
Blech.
Reminds me of a certain Scorpio.
hey dependstriss, you gotta stop using other people's sites like that
she might find out and cream you like the last one did
on said eclipse
haha someones not so fond of scopio!
hahahahahahaha
It was wise of you to change your weblink dependstriss. Very wise. Very cool and very calculated. Perhaps I should introduce you to Erica. It's a small world, after all.
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I am a gemini female 33 and my husband is a scorpio 31, I have so much trouble with him, he always accuses me of something or no matter what I achieve it's never good enough, he just complaines all the time. It has to be his way or no way, even if he is wrong. He is childish, mean, rude and thinks he knows everything. He has such a ego that every women wants him and he is just the best. Sexually he can go a long time for what he has, when I take him out and spend money he's the best, when he has to spend he counts each cent like an old scrouge. I am very detailed and listen to every word and action he does, I don't miss anything and he hates it. I catch his mistakes and screwups and remind him that no one is perfect. I do this because he always picks on me, calls me ugly words and foams at the mouth is this how a scorpio male really is?
@Anonymous Gemini 31: it seems odd that posters here so often speculate that the shortcomings of their mate are due (perhaps exclusively) to astrological placement of the Sun at moment of birth. Are we to assume, for example, that the mate's perceived shortcomings have nothing to do with say, birth order, economic background, professional failure or success, even undiagnosed health issue? It's wearisome, in other words, to read such entries; they're akin to Kipling's three blind men who claim to know the nature of the elephant based on their respective, limited perception.
End of rant.
Yes. Your Scorp guy sounds like a jerk. But, his jerkitude may have as much to do with what *you* bring to the equation as to any inclination conferred by sun sign. You present little in favor of yourself apart from a penchant to notice details--often so you can measure your partner's shortcomings. Attention to detail in the manner you describe isn't necessarily reflective of positive qualities one seeks in a mate. No disrespect intended, but you may have the attention span of a gnat, for all we know, and this habit of mentally drifting (i.e., getting distracted) drives your fixed-sign guy up the wall.
Your unhappiness is apparent, and you have my sympathies, as well as empathy, having personally experienced love on the rocks more than once.
And what you describe as his complaining is heart-breaking, no question. Love and criticism are ill-suited bed partners. But we lack enough information to offer the sort of help you seek; you simply don't provide enough, and what you do share seems geared toward eliciting clucks of sympathy, you-go-girl, dump-the-asshole, variety. I don't see that as helpful, unless your purpose is more to vent than seek impartial, dispassionate insight.
More often than not, I think, such insight is painful to hear, and more painful to act upon. It calls for merciless self-awareness, and the courage to act upon the shadows that you find.
For that, go to a professional.
Otherwise, there's always enough blame to go around.
Peace ~
Wow, that was good.
I rarely ask for advice, and never on Seduction Central, but after reading that I am humbled enough to request your opinion on this one:
I've heard it said in Christian circles that a man's wife is a reflection of himself. After all, he chose her, probably put quite a bit of thought into that choice, and he was likely a mature individual at the time and not under any sort of duress or undue deception.
Since I have Lilith's everpresent seductive darkness on my Descendant, the cusp of my 7th house, I have learned that the men I attract and who choose me as a partner are the manifestation of dark side of me - the Lilith energy - playing itself out. As in the Alannah Myles song, Dark Side of Me
My question is, if the man is reasonably physically and emotionally healthy on all counts, and has a reasonable family background, may such a man be trusted?
I'm a Gemini my boyfriend is a Scropio, as soon as we started seeing each other I read about our signs and if the relationship would work and I found out that Scorpios can be really jealous people. A Gemini is known to not be very faithful like a Scorpio might be. Scorpio may try to have you all to him/herself while all a Gemini wants is to be free. I don't believe my relationship will last as long as I would like it to because of his jealous ways. He is a really passionate man full of emotions, I love the way he makes me feel when we're together but I know that after a while I am at some point going to give him up for being too protective.
helllou :)
Im with a Geminis guy and im a Scorpio, sadly i dont know what my moon and all that :( so thats all ic an tell u, what makes a ginis guy very happy? Usually I try not to hog him and give him freedom and i trust him and never see him filting with anyone else, also i ahve access to all his personal belonigis and i ahve never founf anything wrong, is he a weird geminis? I never caught him lying or anythign ... and i should be good for tht since im a scorpio and i am but... is he really this honest as i think of it?
Also what makes a ginis guy happy?
thanks a lot on any advice
love
Kk
I am a Gemini sun with Scorpio rising and Pluto in Scorpio, and the guy I am with is a Scorpio. We have the most satisfying relationship on earth. In every way. :-)
I'm a scorpio and the man I love is a gemini. We started out very happy, he found me amazing and intelligent and I found him absolutely perfect and beautiful. We had so much passion in the beginning that it was easily turned into hate. We became quiet and never spoke about what we were feeling, and I'm someone that always needs to express what's going on in my heart. Even through his quiet reserve I know him and I will love him forever no matter who I'm with. But he would have to learn to let go of his past pain and let someone in to ever make a relationship, and I needed to learn the meaning of curiosity killed the cat, because I delve to deep and loved too much and too easily.
Im in a relatioship like that right now and we're planing on getting married...we dont have any really big problems...everything is goin real good !!!
I am Scorpio (sun) Gemini (moon) and Leo (rising) with a Libra (mars & venus) My Partner whom I have a child with is Gemini and our son is libra. it's odd they were both born on the 11th day. Anyways, We are opposites , I can be a hermit as he is a Social butterfly, he has a very young spirt. I am can be serious and dark and he has shown me lighten up.. One thing I can say oddly enough, I love his egimatic ways, it is what keeps me from getting bored in the relationship.
I am a Sun in Gemini and Moon in Scorpio who used to date a Sun in Gemini Moon in Leo. We both have venus in cancer. At first it was a very intense passion that we felt for each other. Things moved fast and very intensely. We were both mentally fast and very adaptive to our constantly changing styles of humor. We always had a blast and conquered every party we went to.
it was all beautiful and I thought she would be the one. That was when everything was love. Then the fear Then my jeleousy started to kick in and Ive always felt that she lacks emotional empathy. I can only do so much to accept it, ignore it, or repress it. Putting in like this, Gemini and LEo combination loooooves the attention. Maybe because im so perverted I believe that everything she says or does to another guy is sexual and flirtatious...but my senses are very accurate most the times....so she could definately do more to help. She lacks awareness so that might make it difficult in case she actually wants to attempt helping for the benefit of both us (Stubborn and never admits flaws) A lot of times I say really mean shit...really really mean shit when I am hurt. I feel really intense and its hard to control it. I worry a lot and she goes out a lot on girls night outs and never answered her phone...and did shit like walking back home with her drunk friends to their apts., and very irresponsible shit like that. Call me ridiculous but I worry and want to make sure she is ok....A simple phone call saying baby i made it home safe to give this control freak a peace of mind is not demanding at all. For some reason she felt it was unnecessary because in her mind full of pride that = me winning. WHen really its both of us loosing. Ive always been there for her even when she did not want to accept it...took great care of her and likewise. We broke up 5 months ago and we are still great friends. We still fight every now and then like we were dating but the fights are no near as bad...shit...no fucking way near. This time apart has been great for me to be reborn and spend time alone being creative and releasing many things and she got some time off from my intensity and enjoyed her social grazes. Deep inside I know she wants me and I do love her but...we will see what happens. Shes been really strong and forgiving.Shes got a huge heart. I just wish she could be more emotionally open cuz Its been a while since I saw her soul.
This is SO true. I tried to date a Gemini, and I just couldn't stand it. He was super flirty, and I'm really terrotorial. And he was so shallow. No depth what so ever. I keep reading that Geminis are intellectuals- but with him that couldn't be further from the truth. And his beliefs were disturbingly typical.
I am a Gemini Female(Sun Sign).My moon sign is a Taurus and my riseing is a Virgo..My husband is a Scorpio(Sun Sign).His moon sign Scorpio as well and his riseing sing is a Sagittarious..We used to have problems and arguments in the past..but with communications we made things work out for the better.He is not jealous,i think i am more jealous then he is.I am not flirty or at least try not to be.When he dont like something he lets me know and i am the same way with him ..and we will talk about it untill we come to an agreement.As long as i do what i say i am going to do he is happy.He helps me focus on one thing at the time and wont rush me to do anything.He is very patiante with me and when he gets mad or moody i am the one who calwm him down.We both love to travel and explore and also i love to just snuggle up with him and watch movies together.To me he is the man i always dreamed about.I am in love and i am happy and i know i had changed for the better but i am still that same free spirited peron.I try not to be too currious since my husband dont liek that too much.Instead i lead my curriousity tours other things...I noticed that when i am not as currious he opens up more to me and tell me things on his own.I dunno if i am an exceptional gemini or he is an Exceptional scorpio but our relationship works out fine.I love to challenge myself and with him i am honestly doing that.Maybe this works out so good because my moon sits in the Taurus his oppisite sign and his Rising is in Sagittarious my oppisite sign.I know one thing.Even if our sign not compertiable,i feel that we are match made in heaven.
I'm in one right now. Im a scorpio and Hes Gemini. were not doing so good at all right now. hes thinks we are but we're DEFFINITLY NOT!
He flirts alot and i hate it!
Hes in sensative too. and YES also lies and he knows i know he lies cuz i tell him i know.
why i stick around. I DONT KNOW!
-Katie T.
I'm a Scorpio, he's a Gemini. We've been together for 3 years and it looks like that's coming to an end. Everything started out beautifully, but eventually I found out that he'd lied to me a lot and cheated on me. We worked on it and I eventually forgave him. However, he tells me he's not in love and feels caged, but doesn't know why. He swears up and down he doesn't want to be with anyone else, even for a one night stand. I've offered him that kindof a relationship, but he doesn't want it. It's difficult to figure out what he wants because he'll say one thing and then contradict himself in the next sentence. He's aware of it and he knows it drives me crazy, but there's not much either of us can do.
He's social, flighty, chatty, flirtatious, childlike.
I'm less social, grounded, responsible, territorial, stubborn.
The death of this relationship will be my biggest romantic tragedy.
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