I earned my license to practice psychotherapy a few years ago, but I’m not certain talk therapy works. Granted, I was a client for a good 15 years, and I know I changed quite a lot during that time. But I have also found that psychotherapists are imbued with so much power – if only by virtue of projection – that talk therapy can be quite harmful. With one therapist, I felt strongly that she had a specific agenda, and when I shared this belief, she denied it, and suggested that I was just projecting my disowned wishes onto her – that it was my agenda, in reality. I still don’t know if she was gaslighting me, but since that time I think that it’s somewhat dangerous to enter a long-term therapy-client relationship, because all humans – even analysts – are flawed human beings. Yes, they can seek out supervision to work out their own countertransference, but if they’re not virtually 100% “pure,” they may bring their own garbage into the relationship and have an adverse impact on the client. [Read more…]
Archives for January 2010
I’ve never really had a personal blog before – one in which I’m not opining about astrology – and I’ve been wondering how transparent I want to be.
It is a given that anything one publishes on the internet is nowadays more-or-less permanent. Therefore, one must think about one’s reputation. The thing is, whom do I want to feel positive regard towards me?
Of course, I want to be liked by everyone. But in reality, I need to care about two things: future employers, and future girlfriends. Right now, I’m married and am a struggling self-employed person – in which case, I don’t have to worry about a prospective boss or date googling me. However, anything can change at any time. I could divorce, or my blog could fail and I’d need to find a job, if only to pay my basic expenses.
Transiting Uranus is making its final conjunction to my natal Venus on February 9 of this year. My Venus is in my 7th house of partnership and rules my 10th house of career. So, basically just about anything could happen in my career and/or love life this winter.
But does a writer hold himself back out of fear of some future state of affairs?
I’m trying to find a piece of information I recorded over the summer, and I can’t find it. The problem is that I don’t have one system. I save some thoughts in Evernote, some in Google Docs, and some in OpenOffice documents or text files. Usually, I remember where I entered a piece of information, but right now I feel flummoxed.
Unfortunately, the “cloud” is not always reliable, and right now the search function in Google Docs is not working. I like Evernote because information is saved both on my hard drive and in the cloud, and I can easily access it on my iPhone. However, I don’t record my every thought there. (It would be nice if they had a spreadsheet function!)
What system(s) do you use to record your thoughts and save your ideas?